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On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss

4.30  ·  Rating details ·  1,595 ratings  ·  156 reviews
Ten years after the death of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, this commemorative edition of her final book combines practical wisdom, case studies, and the authors’ own experiences and spiritual insight to explain how the process of grieving helps us live with loss. Includes a new introduction and resources section.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's On Death and Dying changed the way we talk a
Paperback, 256 pages
Published June 5th 2007 by Scribner (first published January 1st 2005)
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Dec 25, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: psychology
A powerful guide to grieviElizabeth Kubler-Ross applies the Five Stages model from her book On Death and Dying to grieving. Those who grieve while a loved one is dying or afterwards also struggle with denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. While she confronts her own death, Ms. Kubler-Ross, together with co-author David Kessler, shares the inner and outer worlds of grief. For those who have grieved, some and perhaps many of the issues are familiar. We may be emotionally drained; w ...more
Jan 06, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This book served to be my guide to surviving my mother's death without feeling alone, misunderstood, helpless, or -worse- hopeless. This book has validated all the emotions I've felt in my devastating loss by seeing life and death, love and grief through almost every perspective.

"On Grief and Grieving" defines all five stages of loss (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance), while also addressing and defining grief from a variety of perspectives (when a person dies from suicide, a
Sep 02, 2010 rated it liked it
Here's what my three stars mean for this book:

I found this book helpful and problematic. It was mostly helpful in presenting a sort of map of grief, a list of possible ways that grief will manifest itself in the life of the griever and some nuggets of wisdom for living through that process. It also contained helpful affirmations - you're going to feel isolated from other people in the grieving process, that's okay, people experience loss differently, etc. I found it most helpful to read this boo
Jan 08, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I "really liked" this book as much as you can about a book on loss and grief. I highly recommend it for anyone who is going through grief because of losing a loved one.

I was really reading this to familiarize myself with what a close friend is going through at the moment, but found that it was quite insightful for me, as someone who has also experienced the loss of loved ones. It made me see myself as someone who wasn't totally crazy at the time of my grief. I also realized that someone could b
Feb 07, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Still processing and reflecting about this one. Such an insightful, thought-provoking, and heart-rending discourse on an event/events everyone will undergo eventually.
Mark Cape
May 12, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A powerful important book - I read it after my best friend - soul companion - child - animal friend got bitten by a cobra here in Cape Town. I burned so deep - the book put a new ground under me. Grief is such a little word for such and immense thing. I am still amazed at what it really is - a given and absolute - so weird that out of the blue there is such a thing as venom and other things custom designed by nature to shut a whole world down - sometimes within minutes. This is the world were in ...more
Aoife Lennon
"Grief is the intense emotional response to the pain of a loss. It is the reflection of a connection that has been broken. The reality is you will grieve forever." By coincidence, I have finished this book on the months mind of someone very dear to me and is also my first significant loss. In short I needed this book at this time - I will probably buy my own copy as I found it very comforting and very powerful.
Jana Collins
Dec 28, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I read this book twice this year, a year that has been very difficult with the loss of my mother in law, dad, and beloved 16 yo pet. I like the main message of the book which is that everyone’s grief experience is their own and people grieve differently. Grief has no timeline and it can hit you when you least expect it-a song, a memory, an experience. I highly recommend this book.
Leila Summers
May 24, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-help
Of all the books I devoured after my husband passed away, this one was most helpful to me. While many of Kübler-Ross' books focus on the dying, this book is for those of us who are left behind to grieve and find our way through an unimaginable and indescribable loss.

On Grief and Grieving begins by describing the five stages of grief which include denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These can last for different periods of time, or we can go through all of them in one day. This b
Helpful, but did not need the part about the afterlife. That could have been in another book, one I could have avoided.
Sindy Castellanos
'On Grief and Grieving' is a worthwhile book and I wish that all people have the opportunity to read it ... It speaks in a very human and sensible way about the process of mourning for losses that we all experience in the course of our lives. To loosse someone or something we love is painful and understanding the process helps to have guidelines to overcome it in a constructive way.

'Sobre el Duelo y el Dolor' es un libro que vale la pena y mi deseo es que todas las personas tengan oportunidad de
Mar 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Once again Elisabeth Kubler-Ross has touched my life and my reading list. Years ago, when I was a new nurse, I read On Death and Dying and learned so much about how to care for those in their last weeks, days, hours. Elisabeth's life work regarding the process of death was a remarkable study for me and I have never forgotten it and how it helped me learn compassion and caring.
And now I reach out to her work again, because it is familiar and I know it will help. This book has been a constant comp
Tu Nguyen
The book has abundant sound advices for grieving. The problem is one of its main premises is the afterlife. Such premise may help comfort the religious ones, but to atheists it only renders them more unsettled.
Mar 03, 2008 rated it it was ok
Recommends it for: People wanting a Cliff's Notes, abridged version of grief
Recommended to Candice by: Ann Garrett
A good friend from my young widowed support group strongly recommended this book to us, and knowing the god-like stature Elisabeth Kubler-Ross has in the field of death and dying, I had very high expectations of this book. I have to say, though, it didn't live up to my hopes.

While what it says is accurate, the book felt too glib to me, like an inspirational Cliff's Notes version of grief. I expected more. Perhaps it's just that I've read other grief books that have done the topics more justice,
María José
Sep 08, 2009 rated it really liked it
Este libro es bastante simple y accesible. A algunos les puede parecer un poco sensiblero y con alguna falta de rigor científico. Sin embargo, es una obra imprescindible para acercar los diferentes aspectos del duelo a la población en general. Ésto es algo que es muy difícil de hacer, ya que nadie quiere saber nada de esto hasta que le toca, y cuando le toca a alguien cercano, es difícil saber lo que hacer precisamente porque uno no ha querido detenerse mucho en pensar en ello. No es muy infrecu ...more
Jan 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This was not a book I originally had on my meticulously planned and highly anticipated reading challenge list for 2019. Unfortunately, life had other plans. It became a book I added out of necessity due to a tragedy in which a long-time colleague and friend took his own life in our workplace one week ago today. We buried him today, and we are all grieving. The suicide itself has traumatized each of our employees, and as a management team we brought in a grief counselor to meet with the workforce ...more
I have experienced grief and grieving many times during my career in health care and in my own personal life with the losses of my two remaining grandparents and my mother in just a little over a year. While it's been tough times somehow I've survived. This book which I stumbled on while reading another book was a wonderful guide to grief. If grief can be called wonderful. It sure doesn't feel wonderful. I decided to read this for many reasons. To help me at work with grieving families and resid ...more
Dec 13, 2016 rated it it was ok
I couldn't be more disappointed in this book. After losing my 33 year old best friend to cancer, I looked to this book as an ultimate source to help me learn about my grief, given Kübler-Ross' reputation. 'On Grief and Grieving' was dubbed "the definitive account of how we grieve" by The New Yorker, as per the cover, so I was excited for what it might offer me. What I found was a poorly written, God-heavy piece, with entire chapters on angels and the afterlife that don't even make reference to t ...more
Michelle Mailloux
Oct 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book is titled On Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler. This book weaves the theories of death into the 5 stages of grief, along with sharing of the authors’ insight and experiences on life and death. Characters are nonexistent, as the book is more of a reference; reaching an academic publication. Likewise, there is also no setting provided for the reader. The authors expand on the inner and outer worlds of grief, specific circumstances, and the common misconception ...more
Apr 26, 2008 rated it really liked it
Shelves: counseling, self-help
Kubler-Ross, a psychiatrist, was the leading expert on death and grief in the field of psychology. This was her last book, co-written with Kessler, a counselor with many years of experience working with the terminally ill and grieving.

The book is written in short vignettes that are accessible and easy to read, and the first half of it is excellent. The authors describe the well-known five stages of grief and explain how they are often misunderstood. Kubler-Ross describes our society as death-de
Apr 24, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I would highly recommend this book to everyone! It offers a lot of insight into the grieving process, and explains the stages that people often experience. It is addressed to individuals who have suffered the loss of a loved one, but it will help everyone who reads it to understand their own losses and to be able to help others who are grieving as well. I read it from a counseling perspective because a lot of my clients have experienced significant losses. I would highly recommend it to all coun ...more
Mona AlMuaigel
Aug 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: everyone
Shelves: english-books
Its an amazing book that tells you all the things that you need to know when you loose a loved one.
it gave me a huge insight about what I'm going through. Made me feel peace, acceptence and love for myself witout judgments. unfortunately, in our societies we are used to push everthing in and act as if its normal and we ar OK!. come on we are humen beings we have all that feelings for a reeason, we should aknowledge and appriciate those feelings. in my opinion some of the psycological problems th
Bob Grommes
Feb 05, 2010 rated it really liked it
Kubler-Ross' comprehensive final book, completed shortly before her own death, is about the process of grieving the loss of a loved one -- what to expect, how to cope emotionally. It covers more complicated forms of grief such as the grief surrounding murder and natural disaster. It covers grief and children, grief and sex, grief and pretty much anything remotely related to or impacted by grief.

Although the author clearly believes in an afterlife, she writes in a non-sectarian fashion. The book
 Gloria Maria  Vazquez
Feb 05, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This was such an insightful book for me. I highly recommend it to anyone who has gone thru or is presently going thru some sort of loss. Although the authors focused on loss thru death -- those who expierence loss in other ways, such as thru divorce, loss of job, loss of health, can also benefit from the wisdom presented in this book.
Jun 20, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I know I will read this book again, as I have already, to remind myself that my grief is normal, irrational, explainable and unavoidable. Well provided you aren't a sociopath.
Dec 30, 2008 rated it it was amazing
This book is hard to read. And yet I feel compelled to keep reading even through the tears. There are times I feel I will need to start reading it again as soon as I finish it.
The Badger
Jul 04, 2016 rated it really liked it
The absolute best information regarding grief. A must-have for any counselor or psychologist.

Kubler-Ross is outstanding--although you think she'd be over it by now (jk--dark counselor humor)!
Sep 14, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 5-star
I truly believe this book may have saved my life
Jun 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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Aug 13, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Een  boek dat ik al heel snel nadat ik het begon te lezen besloot om zélf te kopen, het was té herkenbaar, en daardoor troostend.

Knap en duidelijk boek over rouw, over de vijf stadia (die niet zozeer 'stadia' zijn, omdat ze niet afgebakend zijn en door elkaar lopen), en over zowat elk mogelijk aspect dat met rouwen te maken heeft.
Absolute aanrader voor iemand die zelf in een rouwproces zit, of voor wie iemand die rouw beter wil begrijpen, en/of een ander daarin wil ondersteunen.

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Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D. was a Swiss-born psychiatrist, a pioneer in Near-death studies and the author of the groundbreaking book On Death and Dying (1969), where she first discussed what is now known as the Kübler-Ross model. In this work she proposed the now famous Five Stages of Grief as a pattern of adjustment. These five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and accept ...more
“Today, in our “shut up, get over it, and move on” mentality, our society misses so much, it’s no wonder we are a generation that longs to tell our stories.” 11 likes
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