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3.92  ·  Rating details ·  33,452 ratings  ·  4,034 reviews
Sometimes you just have to laugh, even when life is a dumpster fire. With We Are Never Meeting in Real Life., "bitches gotta eat" blogger and comedian Samantha Irby turns the serio-comic essay into an art form. Whether talking about how her difficult childhood has led to a problem in making "adult" budgets, explaining why she should be the new Bachelorette--she's "35-ish, ...more
Paperback, 288 pages
Published May 30th 2017 by Vintage
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KATHLEEN Yes, but the essays on Helen also made me laugh the most. We give our pets all kinds of imaginary personality traits, and I think that worked here. Th…moreYes, but the essays on Helen also made me laugh the most. We give our pets all kinds of imaginary personality traits, and I think that worked here. The rest of the essays, for the most part, made me very sad despite the jokes.(less)
Sharmyn (Lumsden) Lilly Check your local public library. I check out Kindle versions of books from mine, sometimes ahead of the release date. And the loans are always free fr…moreCheck your local public library. I check out Kindle versions of books from mine, sometimes ahead of the release date. And the loans are always free from your local public library. All of the libraries I've checked have e-books. Just look at their web pages where you can place books or e-books on hold and then check them out after you receive an email telling you they are available for checkout. First get a library card.(less)

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Jan 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Reading Samantha Irby’s We Are Never Meeting In Real Life cracked my heart all the way open. The essays in this outstanding collection are full of her signature humor, wit, and charming self-deprecation but there is so much more to her writing. For every laugh, there is a bittersweet moment that could make you cry. From black women and mental health to the legacies created by poverty to dating while living in an all too human body, Irby lays bare the beautiful, uncompromising truths of her life. ...more
Mar 06, 2020 rated it liked it
this wasn’t life changing or anything, but super vulgar & bitterly funny. each essay read like a blogpost too which was fun and fast.

samantha irby could tear me apart with the written word and i’d say thanks.
Jun 17, 2017 rated it liked it
oooh, goodreads choice awards semifinalist for best humor book! what will happen?

i read this book because it was free, blurbed by jenny lawson, and it had a cat on the cover, thus combining three of my favorite things.

i am not blog-savvy, so i’d never heard of the author before, but i needed a nonfiction title to read for this month, and i really really needed something funny, so this seemed to be the perfect choice, and finding another funny lady-writer for the future would just be icing on the
Andy Marr
Jan 14, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book broke my heart into a thousand fucking pieces, but I'm not sorry I read it. That's a pretty huge compliment, when you think about it... ...more
4.7 stars, all a-laugh while rounding up

Wow! If I weren’t reviewing this sort of officially, I would be shouting out happy expletives! But I feel like I must not go all R-rated.

Speaking of cuss words—a warning to all those who don’t appreciate them: there are A LOT of 4-letter words here. In fact, there is A LOT of raunch. I’m all for raunch, but this is uber-raunch. There is one sort of long graphic sex scene that almost ruined the book for me. I don’t know why she had to go there; it seemed t
jv poore
Jul 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
After reading this, I would very much like to meet Ms. Irby in real life.
May 25, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir, non-fiction, arc
Wonderful, honest, hilarious, brilliant, raw, and did I mention hilarious?

I am a big fan of memoirs, especially those written by women funnier than me, and this is one of the best I have read so far. I adore the way Samantha Irby's language flows, with her perfectly placed expletives; there is just a poetry to it that I can't quite describe (the best kinds of voices are like that, I find). More than that, her essays are perfectly structured in a way that isn't obvious from the beginning and once
Kelly (and the Book Boar)
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Let’s just get things out of the way and address the pink elephant in the room. The title of this one alone almost gave me an out of body experience and most definitely had me saying . . . .

Then she added in a homeless-as-fuck looking kitten for the cover art as a bonus and I was sold.

(Have no fear, Samantha Irby, I am far too lazy to actually leave the comfort of my couch in order to stalk you properly. It shall strictly be via t
Jasmine Guillory
Feb 23, 2020 rated it it was amazing
This book made me laugh so hard I almost passed out, not even kidding.
Jan 16, 2021 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2021, from-library
I picked up this book on a lark. I’d heard good things, and it sounded like a cross between Jenny Lawson’s Let’s Pretend This Never Happened and Roxane Gay’s Hunger, both of which I really enjoyed.

Ms. Irby has certainly overcome a lot of adversity in her life, and that’s to be applauded. Unfortunately, We Are Never Meeting in Real Life didn’t work for me. It’s in a kind of no-man’s-land. It’s too glib, raunchy, and irreverent for the serious parts to have the insightfulness or emotional punch
Carol (Bookaria)
Mar 21, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2018, non-fiction
A humorous and poignant collection of essays.

Samantha Irby writes about events in her life from an honest and sharp angle. You will be introduced to her "judgmental" cat, former bad dates, sex toys how-to, and her take on the absurd situations she's been in.

I struggle to write a coherent, short book review so I appreciate the brilliant effort that takes to write an interesting, engaging, and raw collection of stories as the ones in this book.

Overall, it was ok. I am not a fan of non-fiction book
Jenny (Reading Envy)
I loved these essays. They were reminiscent to me of a combination of Roxane Gay and Jenny Lawson, in their ability to confront tough issues and situations head-on (in this case - poverty, disability, weight, race, sex, among many other things) with a dark humor and open honesty that most of us can never dare get to. I laughed out loud at several points and I felt furtive reading them on vacation with my very conservative mother in the same room, in the very best way.

Now I really want to check
Mar 15, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2017, non-fiction
So I don't know if Irby and I just have totally different senses of humor, or if it's just that she thinks she's about 500x funnier than she actually is. At least in MY reading of her book of collected essays, she came across less as self-deprecating and way more as an anxious, washed-up character stepped in bathos, who simply makes me relish my inconsequential, NORMAL life. I'm not wondering what people think of me when I take a bathroom key, so apparently I'm more of a functional human being t ...more
Kelly (and the Book Boar)
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Sick of me yet? If so, I don’t blame you. The BLOCK button has been conveniently moved right up to the top of the page if you need it.

Anywho, I read this one awhile back but am always looking for something entertaining to listen to during my commute so I downloaded the audio version when I saw it at the ol' liburrrrrrry. Samantha Irby’s delivery might not be for everyone, but that’s perfect because I already declared dibs on her quite
4.5 Stars

Retrospectively speaking, just thinking about my experience reading this one makes me smile – there is so much about this, especially on the surface, that is laugh-out-loud funny, and that is a rare treat for me. Irby makes me wish I knew her, could hang out with her, meet up at a Starbucks for a cup of coffee now and then and hear her share her stories. She’s got this zing to the way she delivers some of these things that she says, but with an honesty that is sometimes acerbic, but als
Nat K

"Age: 35ish (but I could pass for forty-seven to fifty-two easily; sixtysomething if I stay up all night)."

You know that person spilling their guts on their mobile phone on the bus? Where you hear EVERYTHING. Yup, this book is like that. But it's oh-so-good. Just the tonic I needed.

It's fun, funky & full bodied. Utterly irreverent. Bits are crass, others vulgar. But never boring. I liked it. I really liked it. Sam Irby's humour is both subtle and in your face. She holds nothing back. Completely
Elyse  Walters
Nov 19, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audiobook
Library overdrive...Audiobook, read by the author Samantha Irby

I don’t read blogs or write them, so had never heard of her blog called “bitches gotta eat”.
I’m guessing it’s popular.

Samantha likes tons of trashy TV and trashy snacks.
(cold cheese fries anyone?

I laughed.
I cringed.

Overall - while my mind wrestled with some of Samantha’s choices, ....
I applaud her for putting other people at ease....(even with that mouth of hers), as she is completely unguarded. Not a topic she won’t touch.

Mariah Roze
Nov 20, 2017 rated it liked it
Blah... I have read so many books like this and yet I seem to keep picking them up and not being impressed. The author shared random moments and stories from her life and she was funny enough to entertain me, but not good enough for me to recommend her book...

"Sometimes you just have to laugh, even when life is a dumpster fire. With We Are Never Meeting in Real Life., "bitches gotta eat" blogger and comedian Samantha Irby turns the serio-comic essay into an art form. Whether talking about how he
Nov 17, 2017 rated it liked it
Vulnerable and real, this book made other people laugh but had me amused at best. I just do not know if I have the capacity to find books funny? Like, I do not think I have ever given a "humor" book five stars. Still, I appreciate what Samantha Irby does with We Are Never Meeting in Real Life: she uses her unique voice to talk about issues like fatphobia, mental health among black women, messy relationships, and more. Overall, recommended to people who want a humorous read that may prioritize po ...more
Sep 13, 2017 rated it did not like it
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Whilst browsing Jenny Lawson’s blog one day, I saw a mention of the author ‘Samantha Irby’. I am always intrigued by authors that my ‘faves’ recommend or who are friends with each other and so I immediately popped on to my Goodreads and hunted for Irby’s book. The cover immediately struck me. It has a bedraggled, grumpy kitten on it, who wouldn’t be intrigued by that?! I immediately got the e-book and started reading. 3
Sep 06, 2017 rated it liked it
So yeah, Samantha Irby is hella funny and her latest book has some legit bona fides with blurbs from Roxanne Gay and the New York Times Book Review. And I get how this could be the perfect literary diversion, but it reads like the Platonic ideal of a hilarious blogger who writes a book. Each chapter is like a long form blogpost, perfect in it’s ability to invoke a wry chuckle, reading it over your morning coffee while avoiding work in the early hours of the day. I can imagine the appropriate gif ...more
May 22, 2018 rated it liked it
She's funny, there's no doubt about it. know how some comedians have no 'off' button, or in some cases, no understanding of 'too much'? Yeah. This book makes you ask yourself if Irby is just too much. Open to ANY page and begin reading. You're absorbed immediately. It's a book with only dirty bits left in, none of the boring or predictable bits. Who can live like this?

It's exhausting. But in small doses, it can be just the ticket.

To say Irby has a potty mouth is understating, but h
Julie Ehlers
Apr 11, 2018 rated it really liked it
A lot of essay collections by young/youngish women have been published in the past few years—it seems to be an unprecedented golden age for these books. I have wanted nothing more than to love all of them, but have been disappointed by many of them for various reasons. By the time I got around to We Are Never Meeting in Real Life, I was pretty much resigned to thinking that these collections were never going to live up to their potential and I should just stop trying. Then, hallelujah! The cloud ...more
Allison Hurd
I'm not sure I'm great at reviewing nonfiction, since my basis of comparison and criticism is small for works like this one.

I was expecting silly, perhaps igry. But this is...just so relatable. I got it for my sister during a "keep money in Black communities" push because it promised to be about cats, inappropriate times to poop and funny social interactions and I thought she'd like it. But there was SO MUCH MORE POOP, a lot more sex, and way more serious conversation about mental health than I
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It is a truth universally acknowledged that a cat lady in want of cat pictures is going to buy your goddamn book if you slap a cat on it. Also, Yaa Gyasi's HOMEGOING was kicking my butt all over the place emotionally (yes, butts can be emotional, thanks), so I decided that my ARC of WE ARE NEVER MEETING IN REAL LIFE would be just the thing to revitalize my drained repository of feels.


Don't get me wrong. WE ARE NEVER MEETING
Aug 31, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audio
August has been a rough reading month for me. Out of twelve books, I rated six of them 2 stars or less. Then along comes this gem to remind me of why I read and why I sometimes listen to audiobooks.

Samantha Irby has a rare gift. She knows who she is, she knows what she likes, and she makes no apologies for it. I love that in a person. Through this essay collection, she cracked me up, while also saying so much about so many issues: crippling anxiety, racism, body shaming, same sex relationships,
Theresa Alan
Apr 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I smiled and chuckled my way through this collection of essays. I love humorous essays, but this is the first time I’ve read a collection by a black author. There were differences, but I identified with a lot of what she talked about. We’re both from the north shore suburbs of Chicago, I’ve also battled the depression she describes, and while my health issues are different than hers, I understand.

Parts of this collection are very funny; others poignant and sad. There are so many lines I’d like t
I LOVED THIS. Its hilarity was matched only by its unwavering frankness while Irby tackles topics as diverse as growing up poor, awkward strap-on sex, depression, reality TV, dating, race, her bitchy cat, being fat, her parents' deaths, changing relationships in your 30s (ie, your drinking pals become suburban moms), etc. I found myself laughing out loud a lot but also wowed by how she gets to the heart of things and voices emotional truths. Also, how did it take me this long to discover Irby, s ...more
Taylor Reid
Aug 21, 2017 added it
Shelves: 2017
Samantha Irby is so insanely funny. Her voice is so real and so comfortable and lovely to have in your head.
Krista Regester
Feb 10, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites first call would most certainly not be to a dude who says LIE-BARRY and is afraid to try artichokes.

Does Samantha Irby understand that she is a goddess? Does she know that she may be the funniest person to bless this goddamned earth? Her life seems to be a series of crazy situations that - yes she may have gotten herself into - but doesn't know exactly how. I love love love this book and I want to pay Sam to be my friend. Which seems like something she would be into. ;)
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