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It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy

4.01  ·  Rating details ·  10,085 ratings  ·  768 reviews
A must-have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you. Greg and his wife, Amiira, share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game.

From Greg Behrendt, the co-author of the smash two-million copy bestseller He's Just Not That Into You, comes It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken.

There's no doubt about it
Paperback, 276 pages
Published September 5th 2006 by Harmony (first published January 1st 2005)
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Jul 21, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I'm 32 years old, and although I've had breakups before, this is the first one that has torn me apart. My friends recommended this book for me and I was skeptical. I couldn't be happier to have been proven wrong.

Sure the "questions" that the women ask are fake, and sometimes it's cheesy, but not to the point where it bothered me, and I'm pretty picky about those things. The book manages to cover almost EVERY SINGLE thing that I have been feeling, action that I have contemplated, etc., and it ha
Feb 03, 2009 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Sally
Recommended to Deanna by: Found at the airport bookstore
I found this book in the bookstore right after I got dumped, and was still licking my wounds. It didn't make it better, but it helped me take the personal sting out of being the dumpee and get moving on. I would tell anyone to read it who has been there. There is nothing new, but it helps put things into perspective when your judgement is cloudy, which seems to happen whenever I get dumped.

This for those, male and female, who've been blindsided by a breakup after thinking Everything Is Fine. Sp
Mar 30, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am a good catch goddammit

Yes, I did just read this book from the same authors of "He's Just Not That Into You." As a recent singleton, I found this book at the library and couldn't resist the urge given its cutsie cover of a pint of ice cream. This book is a definite must for anyone who is heartbroken and confused about the sudden ending of a relationship. It offers sound advice that can be painful but necessary to know.
Guess what? It's over and there is nothing else you can do about it. Tim
Katie (Kitkatscanread)
Apr 05, 2015 rated it it was amazing
This book has really helped me today.
Definitely the right book you need to read as soon as you've broken up.
It tells you all the things you shouldn't do and raises your confidence.
Wish I read this yesterday... -_-
Jan 08, 2013 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: people in a break-up
Recommended to Juno by: Julie Sunday
This book is clearly written for women, but I wish it had been done in a gender-neutral way -- my reason for withholding a five-star rating.

I'm extremely skeptical of motivational texts. This isn't a motivational text. It's a layman's guide to the application of psychology. It applies to you whether you're breaking up with someone, being broken up with, or involved in a mutual breakup. More importantly, it helps you to understand why your ex maybe isn't friends with you anymore, even though it w
Mari Carrara
Jan 03, 2013 rated it it was amazing
This book is helping me through a very sad period and when i say sad i mean the most critic recent part of breaking up. Crying every night , missing someone so bad you literally feel pain and can't sleep, your mind goes crazy thinking "where did i go wrong, why doesn't he love me?" and all that. And sometimes we do stupid things because of that. Greg does know how to pick you up and set you straight back on your feet no matter how many times you fall. I really have never read any book that appro ...more
Dec 08, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I have to wonder how a comedian like Greg Behrendt can also have such a clear view on relationships. Maybe that's a good quality to have in a comedian -- someone who can be honest about relationships. Or maybe he's the first man to publish what men really are thinking. In any case, I think this book is a great one to read if you are trying to get over someone or even if you are trying to feel better about not being with someone. Or about any problem you may have. The book encourages you to be co ...more
Melody Rowell
Oct 09, 2012 rated it it was amazing
After getting my heart shoved into a blender, a coworker bought me this book and said it's a life-changer. She's right. Once I started it, I couldn't stop, and I underlined and wrote in it all the way through. It feels like a conversation with your smartest, wisest, tough-loviest friend. It can be a little cheesy at times, but by the time I finished reading it, my big, bad, single Superfox self was ready to take on the world.
One of the best parts: "That person that you loved looked at you in all
Chelsea Martinez
Aug 26, 2007 rated it really liked it
This book is intensely cute, which I don't mean in a bad way. It manages to be a friendly book without being disgusting (honestly, I'm not usually a person who takes to being addressed as "Superfox," but I let it slide because of the authors' enthusiasm).

Obviously a book you can read in a day is not the ideal format for a break-up tool since getting over that can take f---ing forever, but I think it does a pretty good job of boosting confidence, anticipating paranoid and/or hopelessly hopeful t
Feb 26, 2011 rated it really liked it
Yeah. I admit it. I read it, okay!

That's really nothing to be ashamed of because, honestly, who HASN'T gone through a breakup that rocked their world and shaken one's values & belief in the goodness and decentness of other people? (If you haven't, I envy you so, so, so very much.)

That said, sometimes you need something in addition to your sassy gay friend and your core group of best friends to help you get through a breakup and force some self-esteem and confidence back into your brain, life, an
Oct 04, 2009 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Townes V. Z.
Recommended to Fox by: Townes v. Z.
What a delightful book.

Although the advice this book gives primarily consists of the obvious (don't talk to your ex, take control of your life, keep moving, etc.) it is presented in a fun and amusing way that makes this book an entertaining read.

The book is formatted into two sections (1: The Break Up, 2: The Breakover) and these two sections are split into chapters that tend to consist of advice, testimonials, and then projects (journal, cooking, etc.). This is very helpful and makes for a conc
Feb 04, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt manage to make a very emotional and tough topic humorous despite still taking their readers seriously and offering comfort, solid advice and perspective. There were a few times when the humor seemed to border on snarky but reading on they managed to turn it around again or explain why they had phrased something in that particular way.

The author duo starts off by telling their own worst breakup stories and let us into how pathetic they felt, and at times
Jun 01, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
You gotta read at your own pace.
Sep 05, 2017 rated it really liked it
I decided to read this book because I really liked He's Just Not That Into You and also because I thought I needed closure from a previous relationship - I use the past tense here because, after reading this book, I don't think I need closure anymore. I really liked this book.. I mean, I did give it 4 starts, right?! But, I didn't agree with everything the authors said.

This book is structured like a Q&A - women from different backgrounds sent questions and they answered. I don't know if the que
Sabrina Rutter
I didn't even know this book existed until I found it at my local Goodwill, and I'm really glad I found it! Although I was in a relationship when I bought this book I knew in my heart that the end was near so I stuck it on my bookshelf, and when the time arrived I dove into this book and and hated to see the end of it!
Although I was the dumper in my situation the pain is still there. I mean after all I spent five and a half years with the jerk, so this book is great for those who just dumped the
Oct 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fic
I actually read this about 13 years ago after a different breakup, but I didn't relate as acutely. This breakup is about 15 sextillion times worse, so I am nodding my head all the way along as I sniffle and moan softly to myself. The way this book is organized makes it so easy to the grieving brain to follow, and the generously shared stories of extreme post-breakup behaviour genuinely helps the walking wounded to say to herself, "well at least I'm not that bad."

Lots of good, easy-to-digest advi
Erin Nudi
Jan 06, 2011 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
It's over, man. Move on with your life. Whether you're the dumper or the dumpee this book can help you do it. I first read this book around when I was just getting over a breakup that had happened quite awhile before I found this book and I was like, damn, why didn't I have this book before?? The time I could have saved myself. Also, even though this book is geared towards women ("the smart girl's break-up buddy"), I recently gave this book to a good guy friend of mine who was just getting out o ...more
Jul 04, 2007 rated it it was ok
Nothing groundbreaking. The cover's adorable though and the rationale (as to why it's graced by a tub of icecream) is given by the authors in the later chapters of the book, though I think you can easily guess it.

The contexts are very American but the principles of moving-on-with-your-life-after-a-traumatic-experience-like-a-breakup are still universal as ever.

Like all self-help books, I recommend it's best to just help yourself. It's witty at certain points, but the cleverness falls flat pretty
Feb 29, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: health, non-fiction
I got this because I thought it was going be a humorous look at breakups, but as it started, I realized it was a serious self-help book on breakups. I groaned a little, but once the intro was over, it was really funny. And, on the plus side, it had some great and practical advice for those caught up in the tangles of a messy breakup. I was wondering where this book was 30 years ago when I could have used it.

So 4 stars, because it was funny, sweet, and useful. It also had some tough love which s
Mugren Ohaly
Feb 20, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018
The book is co-written by a couple who apparently each went through one bad breakup and then miraculously found each other, fell in love, and decided to write this book. It’s part personal experience, part letters from people asking for their advice, part anonymous admissions from psychos. The humor is bad and forced, and most of the book can be skipped.

The gist of it all is: no matter why your relationship ended or how shocked you are by it ending, it’s a good thing it ended. So, you know, like
Mary Clare McFadden
I struggle to give this 5 stars due to the shifts in styles of writing and exorbitant "Dear Abby" posts. I've slowly read this book, almost savoring it, for when I need it most. Even reading a mere few pages, it gave me the instant confidence boost I needed. It's everything I know but tend to forget when I let idiots take control over my emotions and make me feel like I was never good enough or they realized that their actions/words were hurtful. Later fuck boys.
Marie Bergman
Nov 01, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I just did not like this book. At all. I just found it a bit too much, they way it is written is annoying, and not as funny as the authors probably think it is. Honestly, didnt even finish it. I just figure that life is too short and even though I have been heartbroken, I have never turned as batcrap crazy as the examples mentioned in this book. Well, lucky me.
Dec 30, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
This was humourous enough and some of the points brought up are great for people going through a hard time after a break up or who's been through a break up to relate to. Part one goes through what not to do and part two focuses on how to be a "superfox" and have dignity. It suggests how to get through it by yourself, without that loser.
Nov 10, 2018 rated it really liked it
Loved this book! It gives great advice and I’m glad I decided to pick it up because it has definitely helped give me some advice, clarity, and reality checks about not only the break up I’m going through now but even my past break ups.
Kimberly Erskine
I, like any other girl who has read Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt’s novel, It’s Called A Breakup Because It’s Broken chose to read this book for one reason and one reason only: I just got out of a relationship and it kind of sucks.

The funny part of the story is this: I had no intention to read this book. I had no intention to read any breakup books or self-help books or anything of that sort. Okay, that’s a little bit of a lie. I really want to read Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtsh
Feb 19, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I feel like I'd have liked this book more if I'd have read it just after my break-up. Reading it while not going through it, made some things seem weird and unreasonable. So I would recommend this book if you're currently going through break-up (and are little bit crazy), it would definitely help understand some things better.
And I also liked this book because reading other people's break up stories and the way they acted made me feel completely normal, even more than normal. Some people are def
amanda mello
Feb 19, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: ladies in deadend relationships
Ok. I don't typically classify myself as the self-help book type. I'm normally standing around Making Fun Of self-help books. But last week I realized that I've been obsessing for over a year about a certain someone and that our "relationship" wasn't headed anywhere I wanted to, that I was acting like a fool gathering little scraps of affection and piecing them together into some shitty quilt and well, I bought this book.

It's corny and the writing is questionable, but there's sound advice in it
Feb 10, 2012 rated it it was amazing
A slightly embarrasing book to buy at the bookstore (which is why I got it on my kindle, woot) but definitely worth it. It was cheesy, admittedly, but after a while, I actually kind of liked being referred to as a "Super Fox" was funny, insightful, and filled with stories of break-ups worse than my own. It was also brutally honest where my friends and family aren't because they don't want to hurt me with the truth. Honestly, it was the first thing I picked up in the mornings (when I would ...more
Manik Sukoco
Dec 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing
It's a fantastic book but I would consider it a "supplement" post break up book, not your main "break up" book. It's a great book if you have realistic expectations. It's not written by professional therapists so sometimes their answers to certain issues aren't that "deep" or powerful. Its more like a casual best friend trying comfort you with slight tough love. Basically this reads like a gossip magazine and generalizes the men who do the breaking up. But I know to take it with a grain of salt, ...more
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Gregory Behrendt is an American stand-up comedian and author. His work as a script consultant to the HBO sitcom Sex and the City, starring Sarah Jessica Parker, paved the way for co-authoring of the New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That into You (2004), later adapted into a film by the same name. Apart from that he also hosted two short-lived talk shows, The Greg Behrendt Show (2006) and Gr ...more

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