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Motherhood – Is It For Me?: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity

Denise L. Carlini,

Ann Davidman (Goodreads Author)

4.23 · Rating details · 31 ratings · 6 reviews

Many women question whether they want a baby or a childfree life. Motherhood – Is It For Me? is the perfect resource for addressing this crucial life choice. Find out what family planning might really mean for you with this insightful book, which offers every woman a clear path to understanding her ambivalence, moving through it, and making an informed decision about becom Many women question whether they want a baby or a childfree life. Motherhood – Is It For Me? is the perfect resource for addressing this crucial life choice. Find out what family planning might really mean for you with this insightful book, which offers every woman a clear path to understanding her ambivalence, moving through it, and making an informed decision about becoming a mother or remaining childfree.

For partnered and single women alike, this self-help guide will lead you to your truth, gently and nonjudgmentally. A series of exercises - done at your own pace or over the book's recommended 12 weeks - will enable you to navigate through your immobilization. You’ll learn how to let go of external circumstances that cloud the motherhood decision. No one can make the motherhood decision for you, but this self-help guide for women will help you to say hello to a new future—one of clarity and brightness.

Motherhood – Is It For Me? can be read and used individually or in a women’s group. Many women feel that there’s nowhere to turn when they can’t decide whether to become mothers; they’re unsure how to think about family planning. Some think they don’t want to be a mother at all, or they might be deciding whether to become pregnant after 35 and have a baby. In all of these circumstances, women can feel lonely, isolated and debilitated. If you have these feelings, you’re not alone; so, whether you read Motherhood – Is It For Me? as an individual or in a women’s group, doing the exercises will lead you to clarity.

This self-help guide includes 20 stories from women of diverse backgrounds who share their decision-making journeys; half of these women chose motherhood while half decided on a childfree life. These women’s stories create a valuable, supportive community by breaking the isolation that women often feel when they don’t know their own truths about motherhood.

The authors of this book, who are both licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, created the Motherhood-Is it for me?™ program in 1991—it has had more than 25 years of proven success. Motherhood – Is It For Me? brings the methods used in that innovative, insightful program to paperback or e-book. Motherhood – Is It For Me? provides the path to a woman’s deepest desire so that she can make the motherhood decision that feels right for her. It’s a must-read if you’re undecided.

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Published December 1st 2016 by Transformation Books

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Jul 19, 2017 Jane Doucet rated it it was amazing · review of another edition

Rose Ainsworth, the protagonist in my novel, The Pregnant Pause, would have benefited greatly from reading Motherhood: Is It For Me? Like many women, Rose is making herself miserable trying to decide whether or not to become a mother. This ‘Step-by-Step Guide to Clarity' coauthored by Ann Davidman and Denise Carlini recognizes that not every woman knows for certain whether she wants to have children and sends the message that having mixed feelings is okay — a message that women who are strugglin ...more

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Sep 11, 2020 Chelsea Mastrapa rated it really liked it

I really enjoyed this. Beyond it helping readers question whether motherhood is right for them, it provides so many insights and strategies for decision making in general. I now question why I say yes or no, I think about what I actually want before making a decision, I focus on my desires instead of all the "externals" that typically influence my decisions. It reinforced the knowledge that my desires matter and no one knows them better than me. When it comes to motherhood, this book didn't have ...more

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Nov 09, 2020 Rutherling rated it really liked it

I got what I wanted, which was to make a decision, and feel confident about it.
I got more than I expected, which is an awareness of how I make decisions.
The value is in the writing and reflection that you put into Davidman's questions. ...more

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Sep 10, 2020 Hannah rated it really liked it

it was enlightening.

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Jan 01, 2021 Carolina rated it it was amazing

Wow. What a book. I, like other women I imagine am in my 30s and fed up with the yoyo decision making on whether I should have children or not...I started this book this year in early spring as covid took hold in UK and at same time decided to take up 1:1 online therapy..I have to say this was the best choice I've ever made...doing the book alongside therapy or a professional to talk to if you can is super helpful but also the book is so profound , offer so many options on activities it can be v ...more

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Aug 11, 2017 Sarah Carr rated it really liked it

This was a fascinating 12-week program designed for women trying to decide if they want to become mothers or not, and as someone who is in that position I was hoping that it might help me get some clarity.

Each week follows a similar pattern -- some sort of guided reflection, some framing information, prompts and reflections for you, and then some stories from other women who have been through the program. I found the guided reflections to be not at useful -- I've done them in similar programs a ...more

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