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My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness (My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness #1)

4.07  ·  Rating details ·  5,291 Ratings  ·  582 Reviews
The heart-rending autobiographical manga that’s taken the internet by storm!

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is an honest and heartfelt look at one young woman’s exploration of her sexuality, mental well-being, and growing up in our modern age. Told using expressive artwork that invokes both laughter and tears, this moving and highly entertaining single volume depicts
Paperback, 143 pages
Published June 6th 2017 by Seven Seas
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Jul 14, 2017 rated it really liked it
I love the vulnerability of this graphic novel. It strikes me as a more self-reflective and self-focused version of Alison Bechdel's Fun Home; whereas Bechdel pulls apart the underlying mechanisms of her family, Nagata Kabi shines a light on the inner-workings of her own mind. Kabi addresses a wide range of important topics, including her sexuality, depression, eating disorders, family strife, and her feeling of not belonging anywhere. The combination of words and images draws you into the momen ...more
Raeleen Lemay
Feb 23, 2018 rated it liked it
I really enjoyed the focus on mental health in this manga, and the color scheme was very visually pleasing, even if I didn’t ~love~ the art style. However, story-wise, this was pretty repetitive, especially for such a short book. I enjoyed it, but definitely didn’t love it.
Sep 15, 2017 rated it liked it
This was so different from any other non fiction manga I’ve read before, mainly due to the author’s openness about her vulnerability, inability to connect to others, questioning sexuality and intimacy problems. This book isn’t about being lesbian—that happens to be the author’s sexual orientation and of course it affects her life, but not everything in it. Loved the depth and metaphors. Am I the only one thinking it would have been much better with prose however, as opposed to the manga format?
aria [dear darling reader]
Jul 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: graphic-novel
"Maybe the reason I'd been so bad at dealing with people in person, had been how hard I was always trying to make them like me."

I wasn't expecting to be blown away by this - but I was. Damn. Don't been fooled by the comical artwork. This book delves deep into the psyche of a woman struggling with an inner battle with depression, self-depreciation, and her sexuality.

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is an autobiographic comic about a woman who was struggling with a lot of things in her
This is more a tale of the author's personal and ongoing experience with mental illness rather than what it's like to be lesbian drawn out in a manga comic book form. It touches on depression, eating disorders, cutting, and more. Erotic it is not. For me, the book has more of a feeling of commiseration and is an intimate confession where epiphanies are had once the author's first sexual experience occurs....and this is unique in that sex is not glamorized at all.

The naked scenes are illustrated
David Schaafsma
A memoir by Kabi of her writing a story of herself at 28, having no friends, no real direction, living at home, at going to an escort service. The memoir retells that experience of going to the escort service in (her words) embarrassing detail, but this is more about what the publishing of this story on the internet does to catapult her to adulthood. This is not erotica, as the experience at the escort service is mainly about her acknowledgment of her failure to connect to other people. She's ba ...more
Jhosy Lephor
*Forgive me the mistakes of English, this is not my native language*

I loved it, I loved every second of it.
This manga made me cry and stop to think of some things.
This is not an easy read, the subject is heavy and real, since it's like an auto bio but if the reader gives a chance ... Gosh, this will open your eyes!
Some moments in the story made me stop and think about my own life, my own feelings.
I found myself rooting for the author (character) all the time. I worried about her and I felt sad a
Danika at The Lesbrary
Sep 25, 2017 rated it really liked it
This was a different reading experience than I was expecting. The cover and blurb makes it seem a little goofy, but it's actually quite introspective and is mostly her processing her mental health issues.
Ashley Reid
Lesbian experience with loneliness

This book was way too relatable for me, it also triggered some emotions and revelations about myself that I was not expecting based on the title and description.

But I still I absolutely loved it did would recommend it to anyone with any kind of mental health issues, because this really helped me with expressing myself more easily.

I’ve suffered from depression for years now and my family don’t accept that it is a genuine medical illness. Reading has always been
Jack Stark
I enjoy a good non-fiction biographical manga, and this fits that bill.

This is the story of a woman struggling with mental health disorders and learning to love herself. It also, as I'm sure you expect from the cover/title, covers her experiences with sex, sexuality and her desire to become an adult and do adult things. This manga is very candid and explicit, but it maintains an intimate and heartwarming feel to it.

My aro ace mind struggled to empathise with aspects of this. Throughout, Nagata
Apr 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: comics, online
so many little things in this manga hit way close to home. read if you're up for being in the headspace of confronting uncomfortable, not-commonly-voiced truths about yourself.
What a great reading/viewing experience. The subject matter is fun, dark, and thought-provoking, wrapped up in a loose, skillful style. Nagata Kabi has a flair for illustrating and explaining debilitating depression and discomfort in ways I've never seen. And the bit about the mother clinginess really got me. I don't think I've ever heard anyone admit to such a thing, yet I found it so relatable by how she portrayed it all. Worth every penny.
Apr 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: komiksy, najlepsze, queer
Nie wiem, czego się spodziewałam, sięgając po ten tytuł, ale na pewno nie tego.

Po pierwsze, nie jest to typowa manga, ani w sensie tematu, ani stylu. Na pewno to nie jest yuri. "My lesbian experience with loneliness" jest czymś tak oryginalnym i ciekawym w kontekście mangi, że brakuje mi porównania. Bardziej przypomina mi komiksy zachodnie, zwłaszcza te autorstwa Alison Bachdel, "Fun home" czy "Czy jesteś moją matką?", ze względu na osadzenie w autobiografii i autoanalizie i to w tym psychoanal
Jun 05, 2017 rated it really liked it
This isn't exactly the kind of thing I'd normally read. I mean, where's the paranormal? What about the fantasy or sci fi? And I'll admit when my friend Toby handed it to me with a glowing recommendation I asked when I'd ever been the kind of person to read a book about self-discovery that touches on mental health (in case you missed the memo, I don't do real, I read to escape reality!) but I'm really glad I took a chance.

This was awkward and funny and just so brutally honest that is was wonderfu
This was honestly a little hard to read because of the content. There's quite a bit of mention of self harm, eating disorders and mental illness, so that really hit home for me. It was quite interesting to read about her life though and I hope she's doing a lot better.
Jul 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
I reviewed this book for Bibbliosapphic! It's much more detailed and in-depth over there.

This book needs major trigger warnings for: self-harm, eating disorders, binge-eating, trichotillomania, suicidal ideation, depression... For some reason I expected this book to be much more lesbian and much less mental health? I was pleasantly surprised, though.

This is a very honest portrayal of falling down the well of depression and being at your lowest point, then fighting your way back out. I loved t
Café de Tinta
Feb 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ha sido empezarlo y no poder parar. Muy, muy, muy recomendable.
May 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Oh boy...
Mar 25, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Creo que pocas veces en mi vida habré leído algo tan único, íntimo y personal en lo referente a la sexualidad, a los trastornos alimenticios y al hecho de no encajar, sea cual sea la edad que tengas y sean cuales sean las experiencias que hayas tenido. Debería ser lectura obligatoria a cualquier edad y para cualquier persona. No eres la misma una vez lo has acabado.
Jul 18, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: gn, recommend, wishlist
The cover is a bit misleading. This book is more about depression and learning how to find your place in the world of adulthood than it is about anything else. It's beautiful, honest, and brutal. I really want to own it.
Jun 24, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: graphic-novels
This is an autobiographical manga about 28 year old woman, her life after high school and what events led her to go to a love hotel with a woman who's sex worker.

The illustrations were touching, I loved the pink color palette. The simplistic art style was endearing and fit the story perfectly.

I found the story to be very relatable and a very unusual. I have never read about a protagonist with so many similar feelings and experiences that I have. (and many rather surprising and unfamiliar as well
Apr 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I have seen it on the best seller list at where i usually get my manga for a while now and finally got it out of curiosity.

It was about an unfulfilled life after highschool to 28 years old. When the mangaka turned 28 she realised that she avoided sex till now cause she was conserned about what her parents would think about her... She over came that and hired an escord and had her first lesbian experiance. It is a true story about the mangaka. A really human story, she told about her bleak life,
May 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, lbgtq, manga
If you've ever wondered if you were the only one who felt like a child watching all the adults succeed at life, read this book. Kabi Nagata's ongoing journey as she copes with anxiety, depression, cutting, and being LBGTQ is honest in way that we don't always see, particularly in manga, and that helps her deal with the subject matter in a way that really reaches the reader. Nagata's attempts to understand her sexuality, why she can't live for herself and not her parents (and her work to be able ...more
Clara Cortés
Apr 01, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Me ha gustado, durillo sobre todo al principio. El dibujo <3

Laura D
Jun 20, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: manga
Open and honest autobiographical manga about a woman not only exploring her sexuality but understanding her mental illnesses and trying to find love and acceptance by whatever means necessary.
Sylwia (Wish Fulfillment)
Apr 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
Content warnings: cutting, trichotillomania, eating disorders, and possibly more?

Why You Might Bump This Up On Your TBR:
I enjoyed learning about this author's experiences. She experiences mental health symptoms, learning about what to do with her life, and using sex work services. This is the kind of memoir that you observe and the observing is entertaining. I will be reading the next manga memoir that she writes.

Why You Might Bump This Down On Your TBR:
It took me two attempts to read this, like
James DeSantis
Jul 30, 2017 rated it liked it
It's hard to rate this because Kabi, the author, is just expressing what she went through. The story really focuses on her from 18 years old to 28 and how she lived her life. You get some past too, when she's a child, and how it created her lifestyle. It's funny sometimes, sad others, but it gives you her life in a open book format. It's sometimes hard to read, but then the next page you laugh, and it keeps mixing things up to keep it entertaining.
What I liked: The art style was super cute and
Sian Lile-Pastore
This is great - a story about sex and mental health and having a bald spot (I have a bald spot!). It's wonderfully frank and open about personal stuff and I really loved that about it but am not sure it will hugely stick with me.
This spoke to me on a deep, spiritual level. Full review forthcoming.
Jun 12, 2017 rated it liked it
I love how blunt, honest, and real Nagata Kabi had the bravery to be in this book. It feels wrong to give a Review to someone's real life experiences, so it's hard to put my thoughts into appropriate words. I loved how she spoke about her experiences with depression and other mental illness, and I wish that had been fleshed out more. With regards to the depiction of sex and her own idea of sex, it felt like Kabi set up the character of herself to make some self-discoveries that weren't really se ...more
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“I had money...But for some reason, I couldn't go anywhere.
Apparently, finding a warm place to belong...Takes something other than money.
Several years later, I realized that this "something" other than money...Was also required to enjoy food, to keep yourself neat and tidy, and to mutually respect people.
But at the time, I dind't know that.”
“Did you forget our twenty-eight years together, hymen?” 3 likes
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