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My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness

(My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness #1)

4.09  ·  Rating details ·  13,890 ratings  ·  1,640 reviews
The heart-rending autobiographical manga that’s taken the internet by storm!

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is an honest and heartfelt look at one young woman’s exploration of her sexuality, mental well-being, and growing up in our modern age. Told using expressive artwork that invokes both laughter and tears, this moving and highly entertaining single volume depicts
Paperback, 143 pages
Published June 6th 2017 by Seven Seas (first published June 17th 2016)
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Keeley In this book, there are discussions about sex and there is nudity. There are also discussions about mental health. I'd recommend high school and up, b…moreIn this book, there are discussions about sex and there is nudity. There are also discussions about mental health. I'd recommend high school and up, but other people may have different recommendations. I read this book in college and it felt like the right time to read it for me (:(less)

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Jul 14, 2017 rated it really liked it
I love the vulnerability of this graphic novel. It strikes me as a more self-reflective and self-focused version of Alison Bechdel's Fun Home; whereas Bechdel pulls apart the underlying mechanisms of her family, Nagata Kabi shines a light on the inner-workings of her own mind. Kabi addresses a wide range of important topics, including her sexuality, depression, eating disorders, family strife, and her feeling of not belonging anywhere. The combination of words and images draws you into the momen ...more
Nov 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This was...a very hard book for me to read. I’ve never felt this understood, this vulnerable, this exposed, this embarrassed before. Some of the things (not all of them, mind you, this wasn’t exactly the story of my life) about mental illness and sexuality were described in such a way that I would never think of myself but that was so honest, so accurate and relatable it made me shake and cry. To be frank, I’m in a state of shock right now.
A truly eye-opening experience.
Jul 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: graphic-novel
"Maybe the reason I'd been so bad at dealing with people in person, had been how hard I was always trying to make them like me."

I wasn't expecting to be blown away by this - but I was. Damn. Don't been fooled by the comical artwork. This book delves deep into the psyche of a woman struggling with an inner battle with depression, self-depreciation, and her sexuality.

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is an autobiographic comic about a woman who was struggling with a lot of thin
Jun 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone
At last. I'm going to be saved. I'm so, so ready for someone to comfort me. To melt away my years of loneliness. I want her to hold me... and not just for a few seconds. I was really, really lonely. I didn't know why I was hurting. I just had this longing, and it was finally going to be fulfilled. But I felt like I had to open my heart, or my loneliness would never go away. pg. 74

TRIGGER WARNINGS: Self-harm: cutting. Depression. Suicidal thoughts. Anorexia Nervosa. Binge-Eating-Disorder.

Dave Schaafsma
A memoir by Kabi of her writing a story of herself at 28, having no friends, no real direction, living at home, at going to an escort service. The memoir retells that experience of going to the escort service in (her words) embarrassing detail, but this is more about what the publishing of this story on the internet does to catapult her to adulthood. This is not erotica, as the experience at the escort service is mainly about her acknowledgment of her failure to connect to other people. She's ba ...more
This is more a tale of the author's personal and ongoing experience with mental illness rather than what it's like to be lesbian drawn out in a manga comic book form. It touches on depression, eating disorders, cutting, and more. Erotic it is not. For me, the book has more of a feeling of commiseration and is an intimate confession where epiphanies are had once the author's first sexual experience occurs....and this is unique in that sex is not glamorized at all.

The naked scenes are illustrated
Although at times this comic felt a bit disjointed and without a narrative structure to hold it up, I also really enjoyed and felt moved by it. It's autobiographical manga detailing one woman's struggles with depression and queer sexuality. It's very frank and vulnerable. Some of her statements about depression are so spot-on and sad ("I'm so bad at being alive." 😭). I was also interested to learn about lesbian sex work in Japan. This is the very first manga I've ever read! Reading right to left ...more
Danika at The Lesbrary
Sep 25, 2017 rated it really liked it
This was a different reading experience than I was expecting. The cover and blurb makes it seem a little goofy, but it's actually quite introspective and is mostly her processing her mental health issues. ...more
Krista Regester
Jan 18, 2019 rated it really liked it
Shelves: favorites
Before reading this my thought process was: “Oh the title should probably be My Lonely Experience With Lesbianism"… because that seems to be how it goes. But I was very wrong. I appreciate the honesty and bluntness of this story and I love how the author describes her relationship with said loneliness. ...more
Ashley Reid
Lesbian experience with loneliness

This book was way too relatable for me, it also triggered some emotions and revelations about myself that I was not expecting based on the title and description.

But I still I absolutely loved it did would recommend it to anyone with any kind of mental health issues, because this really helped me with expressing myself more easily.

I’ve suffered from depression for years now and my family don’t accept that it is a genuine medical illness. Reading has always been
*Forgive me the mistakes of English, this is not my native language*

I loved it, I loved every second of it.
This manga made me cry and stop to think of some things.
This is not an easy read, the subject is heavy and real, since it's like an auto bio but if the reader gives a chance ... Gosh, this will open your eyes!
Some moments in the story made me stop and think about my own life, my own feelings.
I found myself rooting for the author (character) all the time. I worried about her and I felt sad a
May 11, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, lbgtq, manga
If you've ever wondered if you were the only one who felt like a child watching all the adults succeed at life, read this book. Kabi Nagata's ongoing journey as she copes with anxiety, depression, cutting, and being LBGTQ is honest in way that we don't always see, particularly in manga, and that helps her deal with the subject matter in a way that really reaches the reader. Nagata's attempts to understand her sexuality, why she can't live for herself and not her parents (and her work to be able ...more
What a great reading/viewing experience. The subject matter is fun, dark, and thought-provoking, wrapped up in a loose, skillful style. Nagata Kabi has a flair for illustrating and explaining debilitating depression and discomfort in ways I've never seen. And the bit about the mother clinginess really got me. I don't think I've ever heard anyone admit to such a thing, yet I found it so relatable by how she portrayed it all. Worth every penny. ...more
Stewart Tame
Sep 03, 2019 rated it really liked it
Yes, that scene from the cover actually appears in the story, a rarity by manga standards. You can be pardoned for thinking you're in for a sexy good time, but look closer. See the expression on her face? That's more the kind of story you're in for. I’m reminded of a line from a story by Andrew J. Offutt that's stuck with me for decades--I’m blanking on the title, but it's in Harlan Ellison's famous anthology, Again, Dangerous Visions--”... If you think this is a story off over which to get your ...more
Oct 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
“But it's easy to understand the pain when it's my body that's being hurt. It calms me down. I don't really understand the pain in my heart. It doesn't have any real form.”

sad, sweet, amazing, relatable.
...anyways i'll be back in like a month when the next 2volumes i just ordered finally arrive.

Pam's Shenanigans
“I want to love myself. I want to be able to understand my own feelings!”

This book is a raw and honest look into Kabi Nagata’s life journey: battling depression, dealing with eating disorders, exploring her sexuality, and her path to forgiveness, self-love, acceptance and finally having sound relationships with other people.

Trigger/Content warnings: depression, self-harm, eating disorders, hair-pulling disorder, self-deprecating tendencies, mentions of domestic violence

BLOG: Pam Who Cried Books
Apr 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: comics, online
so many little things in this manga hit way close to home. read if you're up for being in the headspace of confronting uncomfortable, not-commonly-voiced truths about yourself. ...more
Feb 10, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: manga
3.5 stars

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness surprised me; it was a starkly honest, and, at times, harrowing account of what the author went through between the ages of 18-28. I will say that right from the start there are serious trigger warnings for self-harm, eating disorders and depression.
What made me originally pick up this book came down to two things – the title and the artwork. I’m also a huge fan of the colour scheme which is mostly pink and white, which brings to mind sugar-coated
kav (xreadingsolacex)
Aug 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
“But it's easy to understand the pain when it's my body that's being hurt. It calms me down. I don't really understand the pain in my heart. It doesn't have any real form.”

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness by Kabi Nagata is a non-fiction manga about her experience with mental health/mental illness in relation to her sexuality.

This is one of the most honest pieces of literature I have ever read. Nagata's journey is heartbreaking and inspiring in one, and I do not say this to roman
Jack Stark
I enjoy a good non-fiction biographical manga, and this fits that bill.

This is the story of a woman struggling with mental health disorders and learning to love herself. It also, as I'm sure you expect from the cover/title, covers her experiences with sex, sexuality and her desire to become an adult and do adult things. This manga is very candid and explicit, but it maintains an intimate and heartwarming feel to it.

My aro ace mind struggled to empathise with aspects of this. Throughout, Nagata
ατζινάβωτο φέγι.
May 09, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: queer
Oh boy...
James DeSantis
Jul 30, 2017 rated it liked it
It's hard to rate this because Kabi, the author, is just expressing what she went through. The story really focuses on her from 18 years old to 28 and how she lived her life. You get some past too, when she's a child, and how it created her lifestyle. It's funny sometimes, sad others, but it gives you her life in a open book format. It's sometimes hard to read, but then the next page you laugh, and it keeps mixing things up to keep it entertaining.
What I liked: The art style was super cute and
Jun 05, 2017 rated it really liked it
This isn't exactly the kind of thing I'd normally read. I mean, where's the paranormal? What about the fantasy or sci fi? And I'll admit when my friend Toby handed it to me with a glowing recommendation I asked when I'd ever been the kind of person to read a book about self-discovery that touches on mental health (in case you missed the memo, I don't do real, I read to escape reality!) but I'm really glad I took a chance.

This was awkward and funny and just so brutally honest that is was wonderfu
Apr 02, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I had seen it on the best seller list at where i usually get my manga for a while now and finally got it out of curiosity.

It was about an unfulfilled life after highschool to 28 years old. When the mangaka turned 28 she realised that she avoided sex till now cause she was conserned about what her parents would think about her... She over came that and hired an escord and had her first lesbian experiance. It is a true story about the mangaka. A really human story, she told about her bleak life, h
Nov 30, 2019 rated it it was ok
Shelves: comics
Such an honest autobiography yet annoyingly heartbreaking
This was an odd read, and my reaction was at least partly connected to the fact that I found this book as a recommended read in a material for LGBT teens, and yet it came with an "18+" caveat on the cover. (Which was a bummer, as I ordered it looking for  a suitable gay nonfiction for my 11th graders. Two naked women on the cover were not enough to make me think this might be a tad much.)

And it was a tad much, because... well, because this book is not just about being young and gay in Japan. Thi
This is an autobiographical manga about 28 year old woman, her life after high school and what events led her to go to a love hotel with a woman who's sex worker.

The illustrations were touching, I loved the pink color palette. The simplistic art style was endearing and fit the story perfectly.

I found the story to be very relatable and a very unusual. I have never read about a protagonist with so many similar feelings and experiences that I have. (and many rather surprising and unfamiliar as well
Jun 05, 2021 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2021
The best thing I can say about this book is the author is very brave. She puts all her inner thoughts on the page and they are not pretty. The author is filled with self-loathing and suffers from depression and eating disorders. That being said, there's only so much of that I can read before I want to go crawl into a hole myself. This is not the kind of thing I normally read and if it hadn't been picked as the monthly read for a book club I'm in, I would have stayed far away. If reading about an ...more
Jun 12, 2017 rated it it was ok
Kabi had the bravery to be very blunt, honest, and real in this book. It feels wrong to give a Review to someone's real life experiences, so it's hard to put my thoughts into appropriate words. I loved how she spoke about her experiences with depression and other mental illness, and I wish that had been fleshed out more. With regards to the depiction of sex and her own idea of sex, it felt like she set up the character of herself to make some self-discoveries that weren't really seen through.

Jul 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
I reviewed this book for Bibbliosapphic! It's much more detailed and in-depth over there.

This book needs major trigger warnings for: self-harm, eating disorders, binge-eating, trichotillomania, suicidal ideation, depression... For some reason I expected this book to be much more lesbian and much less mental health? I was pleasantly surprised, though.

This is a very honest portrayal of falling down the well of depression and being at your lowest point, then fighting your way back out. I loved t
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