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Intimate Communion

4.05  ·  Rating details ·  238 Ratings  ·  23 Reviews
To truly understand your intimate relationships, you must read this book! David Deida, internationally known for his work in personal growth and intimate relationships, shares the deep understandings and effective techniques that he has refined through his 20 years of consultation, research and spiritual practice. Learn how to keep your relationships growing--beyond the se ...more
Paperback, 270 pages
Published November 1st 1995 by Health Communications
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Aug 30, 2007 rated it liked it
Deida's book is an interesting read, but his repetition of the same concepts over and over can be a bit difficult to read. Ultimately, I gleaned a lot from the book, especially in the earlier chapters. Many examples are given that allow the reader to recognize patterns in themselves and their relationships. It is fascinating to apply this education to your own life. The later chapters a bit more "wooly", for lack of a better term. I found it harder to finish the book and really absorb what I was ...more
James Jesso
Feb 20, 2015 rated it really liked it
This book is an amazing and inspiring read for me. I have connected with Deida's other work for a while but hadn't read this one till now. And I would recommend it to others, with some hard-earned advice: let it go shortly after.

I don't think most of us will ever fully live up to the characters he paints, and unless we 'let it go' in the sense that we don't try to live up to those characters, the inspiring aspects of this book can live in us with ease. To hold onto it too much, will likely mess
Marta Peneva
Feb 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Love... hmm
Six months ago I questioned whether love is inseparable from success - one of my inner beliefs. And in none of the "Deeps" (books on Deep Thinking, Deep Focus, Deep Work, Deep Flow, Deep This and Deep That) was it mentioned that its absence is a necessary condition to achieve them.

David Deida helped me clear up my doubts and... no, it is not. Deceivingly simple as it may seem, it is not - love Deeply! Play with #gender and use your masculine and feminine energies in both public and pr
Pavel Kaplin
Feb 15, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Truly inspiring work about modern relationships. Author does not limit himself by the convenient toolset of modern psychology, but rather connects them to fascinating and mysterious world of energies and feelings. The model offered greatly explains current state of modern western society, its problems, hopes and forces involved. Highly recommended to all who is trying to work their relationships and explore our endless inner world.
Sep 27, 2011 rated it it was amazing
David Deida's whole outlook is that our ultimate goal in our relationships is to get past the 50/50 or dependence to what he calls intimate communion which is more or less embodying love on all levels. I like his idea that we all have sexual essences or energies and that in order for us to be in a healthy and working relationship there needs to be polarization. Feminine to masculine and vice versa as well as netural to neutral because you can also have a more neutral sexual essence.

I thoroughly
Jun 05, 2007 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: people who want a hot relationship
this book is a bit controversial. he talks about the dynamic between men and women in a way that goes beyond man-woman roles and goes into masculine feminine as a polarity and a way to relate. i have had a ton of a ha moments while reading this and am learning a lot about getting clear about what is desirable in relationship for me.

as i am currently enjoying nunnery status, i decided it was best to be prepared to have a more solid connection when next i date someone...i think this is great read
Apr 03, 2014 rated it really liked it
If you're a fan of sex, and are ready to sink into the power of sexual polarity (the dominant male/female energy within you and your partner regardless of what kind of body you're in) as a means to personal, relational and spiritual growth then this books is for you. If you're easily triggered by gender categories, or sex, then probably not so much. (If you found my first sentence triggering, then probably not so much.) I love David Deida's teaching, but he's definitely not everyone's cup of tea ...more
Martin Hassman
Jul 01, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: love-and-sex, tantra
Osud tomu dal, že jsem tuhle první Deidovu knihu přečetl až jako poslední. Jsou v ní otevřena všechna témata, kterým se Deida věnuje ve svých pozdějších knihách. Stejně jako u dalších Deidových knih platí, že by mohly být kratší, výrazně kratší, klidně poloviční nebo třetinové, téma je takhle roztahané a čtení po čase unavuje. I přesto se ale jedná o skvělou knihu o mužství, ženství a jejich vzájemných vztazích, kterou ovšem zdaleka ne každý přijme a vstřebá.
Aug 27, 2012 rated it really liked it
David Deida is one of the most exciting authors in the self-help genre. His ideas are challenging and serious so there's no airy fairy-ness about what he's saying. With regards to relationships he offers some beautiful and insightful ways of approaching the issues. This book gives you some ideas and direction on how to make your relationships more compelling.
Roy Harris
Nov 27, 2015 rated it really liked it
Perhaps the best concepts I've ever read about how to maintain and enhance a romantic relationship. However, the book is hindered by the author's repetitiveness. I think that the repetitiveness is intended to help readers slowly gain a grasp on the abstract concepts underlying the book. In reality, the repetitiveness just makes the book about 100 pages longer than it ought to be.
Renee M
Dec 26, 2015 rated it really liked it
This book is helpful to understand sexual polarity and how to enhance it and how it effects how we relate to one another. I refer back to it every now and then because it really spoke to me.
Ellie Lum
Apr 30, 2010 rated it it was amazing
this book is the missing piece to the puzzle. it's a must read for anyone in a long term relationship.
Sep 19, 2013 rated it really liked it
Good for understanding David's Three Stages of Relationship and it includes a quiz!
Sharon Hwang
Great book on the masculine and feminine. I am very aware that at this point in my life I love being in my feminine.
Mar 27, 2009 rated it really liked it
Very enlightening look at the three stages of Relationships and how to move from one to the next.
Jan 26, 2011 rated it really liked it
A great book on how to cultivate the masculine/feminine polarity within a relationship and how to deal with common problems.
Jos-Madelaine Standing
Jun 17, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Brave man to tackle the topics he does...

Julie Bennett
Oct 16, 2007 rated it it was amazing
An interesting take on masculinity and femininity.
Kellee Duff
Dec 05, 2014 rated it it was amazing
another great book, full filling,
Rose Willis
Jan 19, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Answered alot of questions for me and helped me to clarify my goals for a relationship.
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Aug 04, 2012 rated it really liked it
Good and insightful information. A bit repetitive.
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David Deida is an American author who writes about the sexual and spiritual relationship between men and women.[1] His ten books have been published in 25 languages. He conducts spiritual growth and intimacy workshops and is one of the many founding associates at the Integral Institute. He has conducted research and taught classes at the University of California at Santa Cruz, Lexington Institute ...more
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“But if we are truly happy inside, then age brings with it a maturity, a depth, and a power that only magnifies our radiance.” 36 likes
“Ongoing passion and growth in intimacy requires us to let go of our ideas of what we
"should" be doing and instead trust the wisdom inherent in our unguarded heart and uninhibited body.”
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