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For The Living

3.66  ·  Rating details ·  991 ratings  ·  150 reviews
Alternate cover edition of ASIN B00JHQCDUI.

For the last year, Jay Warren has struggled to find the nerve to tell his wife he’s gay. He’s ashamed of hiding it all this time and he doesn’t want to hurt her, so every time he gets the chance to tell her, he freezes up. The guilt has been almost unbearable, but when his wife dies suddenly, Jay’s conscience threatens to eat him
Kindle Edition, 279 pages
Published November 3rd 2016 (first published April 1st 2012)
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Aug 04, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: dnf
DNF at 28%.

I didn't like it. I dislike the MC, Jay. And Scott was just perfect and therefore unrealistic and boring.

I was not interested in the least in what happens to either of them. I didn't like the whole setting with the dead wife and the "You did nothing wrong" spiel. Lying to your wife about your sexuality is wrong in my book, but ok.

I am disappointed because I liked many of the author's other books a lot.
And I regret the money I spent on this one. And then I decided not to waste more
Jan 19, 2018 rated it liked it
I liked this retro re-release of one of L. A. Witt's earlier romances. It's an unusual meet/cute and it works really well.

Scott is a bit of a saint for a lot of the book, perhaps a tad unrealistic, but it works within the context of the narrative and his job as a funeral director would have given him all the empathy and understanding he gives Jay, so that felt real.

Jay, on the other hand, came across as very believable, it took me a while to warm to him as he had a bit of a guilt ridden martyr
Aug 03, 2014 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: m-m, hurt-comfort
3.5 stars

Overall an enjoyable story, but I found it to be a bit slow and repetitive in parts. Both MC's came off as realistic and the love scenes were both steamy and sweet. Scott has an almost endless supply of patience for the floundering Jay and there is quite a bit of angst and emotional upheaval. Not my favorite L.A. Witt story, but good nonetheless.
Ed Davis
L. A. Witt has written some really wonderful books. Unfortunately, this one is a C- for me. It’s just a little sappy with a weak, melodramatic, and not very likable main character.

I get it, his wife died before he could tell her he was gay. So instead of divorcing her, she dies. Then he tells his in-laws right after the funeral. That just didn’t make any sense at all. Next he starts a relationship with the funeral director less than a month after she died. This entire scenario just didn’t work
Feb 27, 2017 rated it it was ok
Actual rating 2.5 stars.

Fun story: Woke up this morning and found myself literally stuck in bed. I had been sleeping on one end of the blanket and the dog was sleeping on the other end of the blanket in a way that I was almost in a cocoon. Somehow managed to get my hands out and since it was rather difficult (and I didn't particularly want to) to move, I decided to read a bit. This book was just lying there on my Kindle, waiting to be read... and here I am, several hours later with a book that
Barb ~rede-2-read~
As the story opens, Jay is struggling with how to tell his wife that he’s gay and he wants a divorce. This is nothing new—he’s been struggling to find a way to tell her for over a year. When he answers the doorbell to find cops on his doorstep, his world falls apart as he’s notified of her tragic death in a car accident. Because he never got to tell her, he’s torn up even more and riddled with guilt.

Scott, the young funeral director, is the only one who seems to be able to get through to him,
Kaje Harper
Nov 11, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: m-m, intense
This is a sweet, sometimes angsty story about a man who loses his wife in an accident before he gets up the nerve to tell her he's gay and wants a divorce. Dealing with the guilt of not being the grieving widower everyone thinks he is, while at the same time grieving in truth for his best friend, and discovering what it means to be gay, all at once, is a tremendous weight to carry. I enjoyed the journey Jay takes throughout this story, and was glad of his good fortune in meeting a man as special ...more
Like many other reviewers, L.A. Witt is an auto-buy for me - her Rules of Engagement has a permanent spot on my DIK list.

For the Living, however, can't really compare to her previous books. Witt is great at making rebound relationships realistic and emotionally engaging, but this one just didn't work for me.

While the heroes were likeable and the angsty premise was appropriately heart-wrenching, I found it to be surprisingly preachy. It made me feel she was trying much too hard to convince the
I was really enjoying this, but life happened, and wen I came back to it I found that it was hard to get back into it. Jay's repetitious "is it too soon" got to be annoying and self-pitying. My loan was about to run out so I quickly skimmed through to read the important bits like Jay coming out to his parents etc. I was happy with the way those were done, and honestly I was fine skipping all the in between without feeling like I missed anything. I think this was good and just a matter of wrong ...more
Finally finished it
Yes It took me a long while to be able to finish this book
honestly I dont know why I put it down at some point?
Maybe because it wasn't the right time for me to read this I wasn't in the right mood I don't remember.
now that I read it I'm thinking is it because of endless guilt the MC was feeling
I actually, personally, I never felt that kind of guilt where you cannot beg for forgiveness, or cannot make it up for the other person. so I kind of felt helpless for Jay and maybe
Mar 31, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This author is an autobuy for me. I liked everything I read by her so far - I still have to try the fantasy/sci-fi stuff, but nevertheless, overall everything was wonderful. This book now was the one I liked least. I really liked both MCs, there was the chemistry between them, but I have to say, I couldn't follow the base of the conflict. The whole thing was rather far-fetched for me, so I couldn't really get into the unravelling in the end. The epilogue was nice, but for me it couldn't save the ...more
Mandy*reads obsessively*
The author did a great job tackling some really tough subjects in this book.
I admit to being a bit hesitant, a closeted grieving widower and the funeral director, that has a chance of going really really wrong!
I found it well done, Jay's guilt, grief, drinking, his relationship with his family and his in-laws, and Scott had his own issues to deal with.
And thank goodness the wife wasn't made out to be horrible, as they often are in these kind of book!
This started so beautifully - real angst, real emotions, real tension, beautiful writing and then.... at the 35% mark it petered out into little more than a sex-fest. I could have believed in the situation up to that point, but I totally lost interest after that. I didn't hate the book, I just didn't like it, or care about the characters any more.
Jun 12, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Super-sizzling hot first-time-the-two-hot-men-have-sex-with-each-other-loving: 5 stars.

Everything else: two stars. Not for bad writing style, just kind of annoyed me (deep thoughts today, folks).
Valerie ❈M/M Romance Junkie❈
Though I enjoy Charlie David quite a bit, the funeral procession music at the beginning of each chapter really ruined this audio for me. It tossed me completely out of the story.
Apr 20, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: m-m, favorites
Originally posted at Rarely Dusty Books

Genre & Keywords:
M/M Romance, Contemporary, Coming Out of the Closet, Grief, Angst, Guilt

Rating: 4.25 out of 5 stars
Heat level: 2.5 out of 3 flames

When Jay’s wife dies in a car crash he has quite a burden to carry. He not only has to deal with his grief but also struggles very hard with his guilt over not telling her that he’s gay when she was still alive. He finds understanding for his feelings and much-needed compassion in Scott, the
May 25, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: finished
So this is exactly the kind of book that precipitated my 2015 Resolution, forcing myself to truly question the decision behind the ratings I give, to explain why my neurons fired and dendrites were tickled happy with something as subjective as creative story-telling... or not. Reflecting on the gaps and misses here, I came away with three ingredients. First, the level of personal angst over coming out seemed disproportionate to the age and social status of the MC; this was further reinforced by ...more
Apr 12, 2012 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Vfields Don't touch my happy!
Going to rant! Man, I wanted to slap Jay Warren repeatedly throughout this book. Every time I felt sympathy for him he'd wallow and make me want to pack Scott up and take him away. Oh and how is it unprofessional to date the embalmer? I like angst but this one really started to tick me off. I heard myself mumble put on your 'big boy panties on and grow a pair' over and over.Rant is over!
All good and well, except it felt a bit trite. Scott is perfect, Jay is flawed but has a good heart, they meet at an inauspicious time, but work through the issues to their HEA.

It was good, and I know most romances tend to be this way, but I guess I wanted something deeper.
To much angst, not enough schmoopy romance for me right now.

Just could not be interested enough to even want to skim and find out how it ended.
Lisa The Novel Approach
Audiobook Review

Story Rating: 3 Stars
Narration Rating: 3 Stars

Jay Warren has been struggling for a year with how to tell his wife that he is gay and that he wants a divorce. He has been drinking to fight his guilt, and he has been distant because the truth could destroy them both emotionally. Then one night comes word that the unthinkable has happened—Jay’s wife has been killed in an accident.

Scott Lawson is a funeral director at the home where Jay’s wife, Misty, will afterwards be laid to rest.
Joyfully Jay
Jan 29, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: michelle
A Joyfully Jay review.

3.75 stars

This book deals mostly with Jay and his conflicted feelings after his wife, Misty, dies in a car accident. He had wanted to tell her that he was gay, but could not find the words. He spent many nights pacing and drinking and being scared of what he had to do. He never wanted to hurt Misty, but he knew that he couldn’t give her what either of them needed, and he was so afraid to tell her or to tell anyone.

The first man Jay allows himself to be interested in is a
Apr 25, 2017 rated it it was ok
This one was tough. On one hand I liked it. It had many things going for it. The theme was good and the buildup was ok but I just couldn't love either MC.
Jay's is married and is gay and is struggling to tell his wife those facts. Unexpectedly she dies and he is left with the guilt that he never told her.
He meets Scott, the mortician, at his wife's funeral and they strike up an unconventional friendship based on Jay's grief and discover they have way more than that in common. Jay's character was
Morgan  Skye
If you are a fan of angst, this is for you.

Jay is SO burdened by guilt, that even as the reader, I was feeling bad about him getting involved with someone else.

I think, had I been reading this, I’d have given up, but since Charlie David does such a nice job of narrating this and he’s got SUCH a great voice, it was easy for me to stay involved and to keep listening.

I felt like poor Scott really got the raw end of the deal. Jay is in NO WAY ready for this relationship and I feel certain it wouldn’
Chris, the Dalek King
This is the second time I have read this story, though since I never bothered to write a review for it the first time around, I can only vaguely remember my thoughts on this novel the first time around.

Jay thought he had all the time in the world to confess the truth to his wife. The truth that he was gay. Problem is, he has been trying to spit out that confession for over a year, and tonight the time is up, whether he wants it to be, or not. His wife Missy is dead, and he never got to utter
Oct 06, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: dnf
I was listening to the audio book and to be fair, the narrator wasn't that great. There was no voice change between characters and he had this annoying cadence at times. PLUS and this was a serious pain, between each chapter there was this instrumental music that was meant to set the tone I suppose but it was just bizarre for me. It broke up any sort of flow or rhythm that might have been established by the narrator. He ended up boring me or maybe it was the story because I really did not like ...more
Tracy~Bayou Book Junkie
While waiting for his wife to get home, so he can try again to work up the nerve to finally tell her he is gay, Jay's wife is killed in a car accident. The pain and guilt is eating him up. The night before the funeral he meets the funeral directors son, Scott. He and Scott talk and he admits to Scott he is gay and the guilt he feels for never telling Misty.

Jay and Scott start talking and discover they have a lot in common. They become friends and eventually lovers, but will Jay's guilt tear
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“And then, aware that I was gay, aware that I had been about to divorce my late wife, aware that I now had a boyfriend, my father hugged me.” 0 likes
“When I could finally speak, I whispered, “I’m sorry I never told you.” “Son…” He hugged me tighter. “I’m sorry you had to carry this by yourself for so long.” 0 likes
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