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Things I Want My Daughters to Know

3.66  ·  Rating details ·  5,918 Ratings  ·  774 Reviews
The heartbreaking classic from the Number One bestselling author.

How would you say goodbye to those you love most in the world?

Barbara must say a final farewell to her four daughters. But how can she find the words? And how can she leave them when they each have so much growing up to do? There's commitment-phobic Lisa. Brittle, unhappily married Jennifer. Free-spirited tra
Paperback, 437 pages
Published September 4th 2008 by Penguin (first published 2007)
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Aug 29, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Given the topic--a mother of 4 daughters in her early 60's who dies of cancer--this book was too simple and too neatly packaged. With one minor exception, the mother is portrayed as perfect. Also, the book unrealistically ends a year after the mother's death with the suggestion that the four daughters and the widower get past their grief and live happily ever after. Good fiction certainly does not have to be realistic, but some topics do better when they are treated more realistically--with emph ...more
Kathy McC
I would like to have given this 3.5 stars. The premise of the book, "How do you cope in a world without your mother"? I truly enjoyed 3/4 of the book and found it to be wonderfully written. The characters came alive for me and the true-to-life problems were realistic. But at the end- everything was wrapped up with a big, "happily-ever-after" bow. I am all for happy endings, but in this case too many issues were simply erased or glossed over to make everyone's lives sunshine and blue sky.
The pr
Dec 04, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Barbara has been diagnosed with cancer, and realises she isn’t going to be around for her family much longer. So she decides to write her four daughters a series of letters, each personal and individual for them, so that they have a little bit of their mother left after she has gone.

Her daughters are devastated at their loss, but will they manage to draw any comfort from their mothers letters?? Will they be able to come together as a family to miss their mother properly, and will the letters set
This is something I walked by in the library and though "why the hell not." I could have saved a day or two of my life.

Normally I run away at the sight of first abrupt point of view change between first and third person story telling. Here, I knew it was going to happen and I still read it. The letters and diary entries made it okay somehow. Unfortunately that's about it.

It took me longer than it should have to remember all the names of the girls and how to tell them apart. That's a sure sign
Jan 19, 2009 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction
I had trouble getting into this story. It had so many different "main" characters that I didn't feel a real connection with any of them. The book switches point of view among the 4 daughters and the husband. (Unless you count all the letters and diary entries from the mom
Mar 02, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Odlična, dirljiva ali bez patetike, optimistična i pored naizgled "teške" teme, lako se čita ali nije "lagana" jer te natjera da se malo podsjetiš pravih životnih vrijednosti, od mene preporuka.
Aug 07, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Already loving this book. I knew I was in big trouble when I was crying at only page 2.
Feb 15, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: tear_jerker, vulkan
Topla, ljupka ali i potresna prica o cetiri sestre koje prozivljavaju prvu godinu posle smrti njihove majke.
Mar 29, 2010 is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
Loving it - made me laugh and cry!
Πάνος Τουρλής
Η Μπάρμπαρα πεθαίνει από καρκίνο νεότατη, γύρω στα εξήντα, αφήνοντας πίσω της τον δεύτερο σύζυγό της, Μαρκ, και τις τέσσερις κόρες της Αμάντα, Λίζα, Χάνα και Τζένιφερ. Έχει ετοιμάσει τέσσερα γράμματα για να παραδοθούν στα παιδιά της και ένα ημερολόγιο, στο οποίο τους περιγράφει διάφορα περιστατικά και τους δείχνει πολλά χαρακτηριστικά της. Θα βρουν τα κορίτσια τον δρόμο τους και θα ζήσουν καλά και σωστά μόνες τους; Η μάνα είναι πανταχού παρούσα αλλά χωρίς τη φυσική της παρουσία τα πράγματα θα γί ...more
I gave Things I Want My Daughters to Know a zero not because of of its stylistic choices -- only a smattering of fragments and run on sentences, and a few problems with identifying who's speaking; I gave it a zero was because I just could not for the life of me get into this story. With each turn of the page I kept asking myself when this would get interesting, when was the story going to pick up the pace.

There are just too many main characters for me to feel any connection with them, and the da
Didn't love it but didn't hate it.

Taken place somewhere in the UK, it's a story about a mother name Barbara who passed away due to cancer and the life lessons she left behind in letters and journals to her 4 daughters, Lisa, Jennifer, Amanda, and Hannah. Mark, the man that she loved and married (2nd marriage)has to deal with all the drama the daughters go thru and unfotunately without his wife he struggles to juggle all the emotions and being a great father figure.

Throughout the book, you will u
Aug 07, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Bleugh! If I was in a less cynical mood this might just about scrape 3 stars, but that is not the case. This is one for my book club and not something I would ever choose to read normally. It's just so over-written, totally predictable and overly sentimental. No thank you!
Sep 08, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Non è male! L'avrei apprezzato di più sotto un'ombrellone, ma tant'è...
Solo che... non c'è un solo cattivo, ma manco un cattivello. Le persone vagamente antipatiche stridono da matti, in un contesto così caramelloso.
Jennifer Waugh
Typical chic lit... it was alright but I felt it was pushing the idea that women can only be happy if they find a man and have children..

was okay... not great.
Aug 30, 2009 rated it really liked it
Shelves: books-read-2009
Things I Want My Daughters To Know is Elizabeth Noble’s fourth novel. It tells the story of a mother (Barbara) who has to say goodbye to those she loves most in the world. She does this via letters expressing her hopes and fears for each daughters as well as a journal. Things I Want My Daughters To Know is quite like Cecelia Ahern’s PS I Love You and Lola Jaye’s By The Time You Read This in the way that we never get to meet the people writing the letters. I enjoyed the previous two I read and al ...more
Feb 23, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
şu sıralar tam da böyle bir kitaba ihtiyacım vardı çok iyi geldi. mutlu sonlar, çözülen dertler, fazla bir şey vaat etmeyen ama bir şekilde kendini okutan bir kitap.
Vicky Wilkinson
This book was not what I expected at all! I expected the story to be dominated by the advise which a mother has left for the children she knows she will be forced to leave but the diary entries are few and far between and the letters are very short. The story is more about four daughters moving through lives which were already pretty messed up before their mum died.

The story was really difficult to get into, this may have been because I didn't particularly like any of the main characters. That
Sep 20, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2010-reads
After learning she has cancer, Barbara starts writing letters to each of her four girls. Letters to be opened following her death. She also begins a journal that she fills with her favorite stories, confessions, and important things she wants her daughters to know. Things that she couldn't seem to articulate or voice while alive...for some reason or another.

Told from five different points-of-view: each of the four daughters and her second husband, the book is hard to follow and slightly choppy a
Mar 09, 2009 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: light-reading
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Kristi Sawyer
Aug 08, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: romance, fiction
Aw what a gorgeous story! It broke my heart, it made me laugh, it made me smile, it was just great.

Barbara knew she was dying, way too young. She wanted to see her four daughters get married, see her grand-children, and help to guide their decisions and direction in life. So, she decides to write them letters. They are warm, emotional and full of love and hope.

I think this book was especially well-written. Written from the perspective of all four daughters, as well as Barbara's ex-husband, Mar
Dale Harcombe
Dec 15, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is another book about letters and relationships. Barbara, aware she is dying on cancer, writes to her four daughters. If it sounds morbid, it isn’t. It is beautifully done and told with humour as well as being one that made me shed a few tears. I have read a couple of Elizabeth Noble’s other books, The Alphabet Weekends and The Reading Group and enjoyed them, but this is my favourite. It’s a beautiful and realistic picture of the differences that exist in families and the way sisters can vi ...more
Rosabelle Purnama
Jun 14, 2010 rated it it was ok
Shelves: drama, books-i-borrow
Reading this book to me feels like watching one of those made for TV movie that are aired on Hallmark channel. The beginning was really sad. This book is about a mother, who's dying from cancer and decided to write a diary of the last days of her life to her 4 daughters. She also left each of the daughters a letter for them to read after she died. The story unfolds the life of the 4 sisters, their interaction with each other, their life after their mother died and their interaction with Mark, th ...more
Maria Carmo
Nov 21, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Everyone
This book was an absolute surpreise and I LOVED it! Call corny if you will, but the fact is that I found it absolutely honest and authentic in the way it told a story of love, deception, desillusionment turned into new hope and the everlasting ties that true love weaves into our lives... I absolutely "tuned" into the atmosphere until the characters become part of a sort of "family" that I could relate to very easily.
Even if it is a romantic story, it leaves out no expletives whenever it seems ap
Aug 30, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: book-club, chick-read
This was this months book club selection. I got through 100 pages, hoping things would improve before I couldn't handle it any longer and skim-read through to the end.

I liked the idea of it: mother who dies of cancer leaves each of her 4 daughters a letter with advice/ last words as well as selections from her journal. The book switches perspective between all the daughters, their spouses/boyfriends, the gets kind of confusing. Everyone has something in their life that needs fixing a
Aug 18, 2010 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
To me this book was light reading. You can pick it up or put it down any time. You see a family of grown daughters that lost their mother, fall apart, then patch it up. It is very british in language, and refers to namebrands and stores and slang that I am unfamiliar with. Didnt fall in love with any of the characters and got tired of reading about all the men they slept with over the years. There are a few very descriptive sexual encounters that were completely unnecessary, and took away from w ...more
Juinita Senduk
Jan 20, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I bought this book when I was in Bali. It was rainy day and I need a book to accompany my 'me time' in Bali. I remember, there is another book that I want to buy, but somehow, I chose to buy Elizabeth Noble's book.

When my friend asked me what is the reason I bought this book, I told him that maybe because I'm a mother :-)

But when I read it during my way to the office every morning, or before my bedtime, I found that the book taught me about life itself, about love, about being a mother, about
Nov 20, 2009 rated it really liked it
Here as a ring. Wow! Already a tear-jerker and I'm only about twenty pages into the book. Bring on the kleenex!
The good news is that I didn't have to weep throughout the book, although it was a moving story with the complicated relationships in a family and in couples well-portrayed. As a daughter and a mother, I wondered what I would write to my children - and wished my mother had been able to do something like that before she died.
Box of tissue needed. Takes place in London, England early 90s where you meet lady with four daughters who are all different, but connected to a mother who loves them dearly. She has passed on and left them each a letter, plus a copy of her journal of her thoughts and stories of her past. Life unravels for them all, in one way or another, but them come together to keep the family unit as one regardless of the circumstances of each of their lives. Enjoyed.
Jul 25, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
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Elizabeth Noble was born in High Wycombe, Bucks, and now lives in New York with her husband and two daughters. She studied English at Oxford University and after graduating embarked on a career in publishing before taking up writing full time. She is the author of seven novels, The Rea
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“could i have loved you better? maybe. if that's true, then i'm sorry. could i have loved you more? i don't think it's possible. ” 52 likes
“you're my first born child, and the person who first showed me the miracle of this love a mother has for her child. ” 34 likes
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