At the Broken Places: A Mother and Trans Son Pick Up the Pieces
In At the Broken Places, a parent and transgender son recount wrestling with their differences as Donald Collins undertook medical treatment options to better align his body with his gender identity. As a parent, Mary Collin ...more
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All of this being said: this book was a difficult read for me, especially the essays written by Mary, and much of my difficulty is informe ...more
I would first and foremost like to point out that Mary Collins has a way of writing that makes some if her prose give information quickly, and with a professional candor, and other times can put forward a phrase that hits me like a ton of bricks.
I found the willingness of both parties to come out honestly with their struggles and ...more
For all that its not a warm fuzzy book, it is a new kind of example of reconciliation.
First, let me preface this review by saying that I am not transgender, nor am I a parent of a transgender person. So, take my op ...more
I want to first and foremost praise this book for being modern and knowledgeable, acknowledging (whether or not directly) that intersex and nonbinary trans people have a very real existence. This acknowledgment is despite the fact that the transgender person in question here, Donald, is a 'perisex' binary transman.
But perhaps more ...more
What I most appreciated about this book was the honesty in it. Mary (the mother) is incredibly honest about her struggles in accepting Donald's transition and how left out she felt as a struggling parent of a trans teen. Donald was very open about his struggles with having little parental support and his own complex feelings towards his mother. I feel like reading this book gave me a more nuan ...more
My thoughts on this book are the same as many other reviewers, in that while it's 100% valid to struggle and mourn with a family member transitioning, the majority of Mary's essays are all very woe-is-me, I'm the only victim, I'm so disrespected, etc. to the point of it being borderline insufferable.
I feel that Mary really needs to move on. It has been 6-7 years since her son, who cowrote the book, has transitioned. He did everything in a reasonable time frame and was very considerate of her fee...more
While making some interesting points, I don't think this book should be used as a resource for parents who are navigating their child coming out as trans, and may have some transphobia to unlearn and work through; the reason being that Mary doesn't seem to think she did anything wro ...more
For those of us who accept trans-people for who they are - who they know themselves to be, it may seem lack and white: what they say goes. Parents who do not respect the transitions these youths go through tend to be seen as unsupportive, maybe even homophobic (trans-phobic).
By sharing a dialogue between parent and child, the Coillinses have provided insight into both sides of the story, and there are two s ...more
I received a copy of this book through Goodreads in exchange for an honest review.Overall, I liked the book. It is composed of essays from Mary Collins and Donald Collins and interviews with other people who are trans and families of people who are trans.The book details what Mary and Donald both went through in various stages of Donald's transition (Donald coming out as trans, starting hormones, perusing various surgeries). They discuss how their relationship changed and places they did and d ...more
Mary Collins doesn‘t seem to reflect on her initial negative feelings when her son first came out to her and states things like feeling discriminated against when her son‘s school (rightfully so) allowed him to use his chosen name and pronouns without „consulting“ her when she was not yet ready to accept his wish to transition. She repeatedly stat ...more