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Dare to Be Kind: How Extraordinary Compassion Can Transform Our World

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Born with a rare genetic condition, Lizzie Velasquez always knew she was different, but it wasn't until she was older that she understood what that meant to herself and others.

In this daring, inspirational book, Lizzie reveals the hidden forces that give rise to self-doubt and empowers us to unlock empathy and kindness for ourselves and others. Through her own battles with
ebook, 224 pages
Published June 6th 2017 by Hachette Books
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Apr 03, 2017 rated it really liked it
The latest installment in "One librarian's struggle to read all the books she brought home from ALA Midwinter 2017." Hatchette was actually kind enough to send this one to me special delivery when they didn't have it at their booth and I knew I HAD to read it immediately. Dare to Be Kind is the deeply personal and inspirational look at Lizzie Velasquez's work as a motivational speaker and anti-bullying advocate. I would never have guessed just how grueling her schedule can be from the upbeat pos ...more
Sharyn Berg
Sep 13, 2017 rated it it was ok
I really wanted to like this book, I mean, how can you not like Lizzie? However I felt that the writing was rather weak and repetitive and that it did not address, or live up to, the title of the book. I was looking for an entirely different book, one that would inspire kindness from me and maybe give me some ideas, instead of a study of Lizzie and her motivational speaking career. (She did address this at the end, though it appeared to be an afterthought to justify the title.) I wish her all th ...more
Oct 14, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
Let me clarify something. I never read nonfiction. I know some people love it and prefer it over any type of novel, short story, or whatever writing form you can think of, but I’m not one of them. I just need a good plot to keep me engaged and passing one page after another wanting to find the answers to an amazingly concocted story. Or at least, that’s what I expect every time I pick a new book. However, I had to make an exception with this one.

I’m a big fan of Lizzie Velasquez and I consider
Feb 02, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
We just got the ARC for this in yesterday and I immediately started reading it - and since I worked last night and this morning and I still finished it today, that says something. Lizzie's story is powerful and she writes beautifully about the power of compassion. Lovely book!
May 31, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: amazon-reviewed
Dare to Be Kind by Lizzie Velasquez is a free NetGalley ebook that I read in late May.

Velasquez encourages bravery, hope, kindness, personal resilience, faith in a higher power, and a healthy self-image when confronting one's bullies. She also highlights the need to serve as a good example for one's family, understand a bully's desire to cover their own pain with more pain, finding love and support, and addresses the cruelty of human nature when it encounters situations that it doesn't understan
Kristin Marie
Feb 09, 2018 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2018
I am quite conflicted on what I want to write about "Dare to Be Kind" by Lizzie Velasquez. I suppose I need to break this into two parts. Lizzie as a human, her story--from troubles to triumph--and her crusade to rid the world of bullies is a wonderful concept. Because of who she is, I gave her a few stars.

Why I couldn't give this book more than two:

The writing is atrocious. It is concerning when not just the author, but the coauthor/consultant/writing coach Catherine Avril Morris allowed this
Aug 29, 2017 rated it liked it
I must admit I am struggling to write a review.

On the one hand you have to admire her courage to show the world she is more than her condition. She does work very hard to try to eliminate bullying behaviour, and for that she has to be admired. I can only imagine one of her talks would be very inspiring.

Having said that, I have identified three things that I believe make this book a little harder to read:

1. The complete overuse of the exclamation point. Seems a trivial thing, I know, but wait unt
Jun 28, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There is no doubt that Ms. Velasquez knows more than her fair share about bullying, and dealing with chronic and serious illnesses, yet she finds a way to rise above her "issues" and become a beacon of kindness and positivity. What an inspiration she is!! And what a great reminder that we are all, in our imperfections, perfect, and can be of great use to this world, just as, or because of, how we are! Every life has value and Ms. Velasquez has done us all a favor by sharing hers with us.

Many tha
Jul 30, 2018 rated it liked it
I remember that video in Youtube but I didn't expect it that the writer of this book is her. Although I've learned some few things from Lizzie's story, I'm just a tiny bit disappointed, I thought it's motivational book.
Olivia Wildenstein
Dec 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A book that will make you tear up more than once. 💕
Susan (aka Just My Op)
I'm giving this book three stars but that does not mean I didn't like it. I first became aware of the author when most people did, after a very mean social media post about her went viral and acquired nasty, mean, and cruel remarks. This could have made the author bitter, but it didn't. She has decided to fight fire with water, to treat people with kindness. Since that first post, she has become well known for her fight against bullyism and for kindness.

That makes this book worth listening to. H
Jan 02, 2018 rated it really liked it
Lizzie is for sure an inspirational person. I just found the book to be repetitive and lackluster at times and this wasn't the style she was going for but I have a personal preference for more humorous memoirs.
Feb 29, 2020 added it
I thought it was an interesting read, but I thought it would be more of a biography and less self-help. I also didn't enjoy the religious chapters. She's an inspiring person and has a good message, but the execution wasn't the greatest.
Cherie Quirante
May 03, 2020 rated it it was ok
I read a few pages years ago, and restarted recently. Now, I know why I paused back then. The way the story was told did not resound to me at all. I believed in the message, but it really felt flat. It lacked connection. I kept thinking how a different (first) autobiography I read made me feel, this book was nowhere near that. It was an easy read, but it has to be more than that given the message it wants to deliver.
Jun 24, 2017 rated it really liked it
I enjoyed this book so much more than I thought I would. It's not a genre I usually go for, but I was intrigued by Lizzie's story, and wanted to hear what she had to say.

Essentially: Love, compassion, and kindness -- to everyone, not only the people who we tend to think "deserve it," and to ourselves as much as anyone -- will change the world. I agree.
Jan 16, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Firstly, I admire Lizzie Velásquez and her career choice. What she does, and how she chooses to live her life, is truly inspiring (as she would like it to be!).

With that said... this book did not seem well put together, and I'm left wondering what the editor was thinking when they helped produce the end result. Furthermore, this is more of an autobiography of sorts, which is fine, but it does make the title more than a /little/ misleading.

While I disagree with Lizzie on how to treat bullies (h
Jul 10, 2018 rated it liked it
I'm sorry I'm only giving your book 3 stars, Lizzie! I usually have more issues with nonfiction than fiction. I really think you are an amazing and genuine person and I'm certainly a fan now. I'll try reading more of your books later.

Like some other people, I thought there was going to be a more mind-blowing "How to be truly kind" guide. Honestly, I watched "How Do YOU Define Yourself" right before I read this book, and if I watched a few more of your videos I'd probably get the whole gist of th
Alisa Bates
Jun 30, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book is very inspirational! Until I received this book I had not heard of Lizzie Velasquez, and now I am a fan. Not only have I read this book, but I have also searched her online and watched some of her youtube videos. I found the book to have a lot of well-thought out advice. It was also filled with hope.I like the writing style found in this well-written book. I recommend this book to everyone.
Feb 02, 2018 rated it liked it
In all honesty I am still a little undecided about this book. I mean I sort of enjoyed it and it had some really good points/advice however I found some of it very basic and brief/just wanting to write something. Overall it was an okay read I can really see the benefits for those who can relate to the situation.
Maria (Ian) Bautista
***Coming Soon***

P.S. I know that I have some coming soon reviews, but life is busy.
Mar 09, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Very Inspirational, Very Wise young woman. Full of great ideas on how to stop the cycle of bullying..
Jul 30, 2017 rated it really liked it
Lovely book! I received this book through a Goodreads First Reads giveaway.

Lizzie Velasquez was born with a rare syndrome that has caused her to experience much bullying. I despise the phrasing of the video's title, but she came to fame when someone took a brief video of her without her permission, then uploaded it to Youtube, titled "The World's Ugliest Woman." She has seen the worst of humanity, and some of the best.

The book is a memoir that describes Lizzie's life with her syndrome, her anti-
Sophie-Leigh Thompson-Green
Aug 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Wow where do I even begin with this book? I'd heard of Lizzy before but never really engaged with her,until the last 24 ( more like 10) hours after a stressful 8 hour shift at work with horrible co workers who treat me like I'm weird because they are very cliquey horrible people. Seeing this book while looking for another book shined at me like a beacon and I knew I just had to get it, the first 40 pages had me tearing up while on a train going home for I identified with Lizzy so much with her e ...more
Nov 06, 2017 rated it it was ok
I picked this blind for our MDIHS Readers & Writers Blind Date Reading challenge at school. I can see some students/readers finding it valuable, but it was too shallow and poorly written to grab me. "I was so excited. . . . I was so depressed. . . . That made such a big difference in my life. . . " only gets a book so far (!!) before I get hungry for strong writing or vivid description. It was interesting to see the impact of social media on one woman's life, and I respect her for her use of the ...more
Apr 19, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really enjoyed reading this book. Life has been busy so it's a great book that you can read a chapter or two at a time and come back to it without forgetting important plot points. Every single chapter included an eye opening perspective on how we can all be kinder towards one another and/or ourselves in our every day lives. I've already found myself using some of her pointers and suggestions. A little kindness really does go a long way, not just towards other, but helps us feel good about our ...more
Apr 15, 2019 rated it it was amazing
In the book, Dare To Be Kind, it gave a first hand account of the lessons Lizzie Velasquez learned growing up with a rare disease. Growing up with this disease, people who she didn't even know bullied her over the internet and in real life. In this book, Lizzie shared real life experiences of how she learned how to become resilient. By sharing her own experiences, it really connected to me as a reader. It helped me have a background knowledge of who she was before reading more of the advice she ...more
Apr 30, 2020 rated it did not like it
This book was an impulse purchase made after hearing Lizzie speak. I was expecting a book that was just as moving, motivational, and dynamic as she was on stage. And, well, this book did not deliver that for me. Instead, I felt like I just suffered through a book that did not know its purpose. All too often, the personal stories inserted into the chapters seemed to veer far off course from the topic of the chapters and served only to provides stories of Lizzie’s personal experiences. At other ti ...more
Mary Turner
Feb 21, 2020 rated it did not like it
I read about a third of the book and skimmed some more. I had a difficult time engaging with it as an adult woman, and feel that it is suited for teenagers. It's not just the casual and simplistic tone of voice, it's the delivery and lack of depth behind most of the words. I respect this woman and her experience. I just feel that the over simplification and "daisies" tone of her voice is grating at this point in my life. The title and synopsis of the book made me feel that this was going to be a ...more
I found the parts of this book that were more of a memoir to be somewhat enjoyable. But then there were parts of the book that seemed as though Lizzie was trying to write a self-help/educational book. Those parts I didn't enjoy as much. It just seemed as though she was out of her element or in over her head and it came across in the writing. By the last quarter of the book, I was skimming. I appreciate and respect what she was trying to do and the fact that she was so positive, honest, and vulne ...more
Wiebke Kuhn
Apr 21, 2018 rated it liked it
While there is no question that Velasquez' message is powerful and is echoed in other books that focus on resilience, being your own super hero, fighting bullying, I think the book could have benefited from some more careful editing. Maybe this is just a collection of edited blog posts, but even that is not an excuse.
BUT: the message is nevertheless powerful, especially when you can vividly imagine what kind of viciousness she must have overcome dealing with others. If you want to see more about
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The eldest of three children born to Rita and Guadalupe Velásquez.
Lizzie was born four weeks prematurely, her birth weight was only 2 pounds 11 ounces (1,219 grams).
Her age was reported as 23 in September 2012, a time when she was nearing graduation from Texas State University majoring in communication studies.
She is a Roman Catholic and she has spoken out in terms of her belief in God who has "

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