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You Will Not Have My Hate

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What matters most in life? How do you build a happy life when terrible things happen? What is left behind when you lose the person you love the most?

One night last winter, Antoine Leiris was at home looking after his son while his wife, Hélène, was at a concert with friends. Suddenly he started receiving text messages asking if he was ok. Turni
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Kindle Edition, 99 pages
Published October 20th 2016 by Vintage Digital (first published March 3rd 2016)
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Larry H
Nov 28, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
"So, no, I will not give you the satisfaction of hating you. That is what you want, but to respond to your hate with anger would be to yield to the same ignorance that made you what you are. You want me to be scared, to see my fellow citizens through suspicious eyes, to sacrifice my freedom for security. You have failed. I will not change."

I, like so many people across the world, was riveted to my television the night of November 13, 2015, as we learned of the coordinated terrorist attacks in Pa
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James Tivendale
Nov 15, 2016 rated it liked it
I received this book from Antoine Leiris and Harvill Secker via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review and would like to thank them for giving me this opportunity.

"I thought that if the moon ever disappeared, the sea would retreat so that no one would see it crying."

I wish this book had never needed to have been written. It is a memoir following on from one of the most cold-hearted and insensitive random "religiously" influenced attacks on innocents in known recent history. The all too mem
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Cheri
Mar 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction, 2017, memoir
On the 13th of November, 2015, a black car with three heavily armed gunmen pulled up outside the Bataclan Theatre in Paris, France. In less than three hours, those gunmen would die, but first they took the lives of 90 innocent people, people they most likely never knew or ever met, attending the concert inside.

With a burst of machine gun fire, they shattered our puzzle. And after we have put it back together, piece by piece, it will no longer be the same. There will be someone missing in the p
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Jaline
Aug 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: xx2018-completed
This thin volume changed my life.

I chose this book in response to this category from the Traveling Sisters Challenge that I participated in during January this year:

A book about a subject you are afraid of.

I spent a lot of time searching through my books to come up with something because I’m really not afraid of very many things. Lots of other emotions, indeed, but fear and I have come to terms in most areas of life. Then when I saw this book and realized it was about terrorism, I thought, “Her
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Diane S ☔
Jun 18, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The deadliest attack in France since WWII, the author's wife is killed in a terrorist shooting at a rock concert at the Bataclan Theater in Paris. His letter posted on Facebook declares the title of this short book, decrying the loss of his wife and the determination to not let hate define the future of his life nor his sons.

Heartbreaking, admirable so many thoughts running through my mind. The grief at times fairly leaps off the page but so does his love, determination and courage. Can't help a
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Steven Godin
Jan 28, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction, paris, france
"On friday evening you stole the life of an exceptional person, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you will not have my hatred".

These are the heart-rending words of Antoine Leiris, who after loosing his wife Helene in the Bataclan terrorist attack, wrote an open letter to the killers explaining why he would not be struck down with anger and fear. The letter itself is so calmly written with total meaning behind each and every sentence, there is no sign of hate or revenge fuelled anger
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Amanda
Antoine Leiris began writing this book after composing a post on Facebook shortly after the murder of his wife, Hélène. Hélène was one of the concert-goers in attendance at the Bataclan in Paris on the evening of November 13, 2015. While Antoine was home caring for their seventeen-month-old son, he learns of the terror attack at the concert.

Leiris, in his online post, concedes that the love of his life was stolen but states that he won't give the terrorists "the satisfaction of hating you." He
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Carol
I don't quite know what to say after reading a gut-wrenching memoir of love such as this except that my heart goes out to Antoine Leiris and his young son Melvil as well as all the other families who lost loved ones in this horrific display of cowardice.

So tragic.

This is the second book I've read recently where I've ended with these words, only this is not Edgar Allan Poe fiction, it is real life horror at its worst!

leynes
Feb 26, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
On November 13, 2015, Antoine Leiris's wife, Hélène Muyal-Leiris, was killed by terrorists while attending a rock concert at the Bataclan Theater in Paris. Three days later, Antoine wrote an open letter to his wife’s killers on Facebook. He refused to be cowed or to let his baby son’s life be defined by their acts.

‘For as long as he lives, this little boy will insult you with his happiness and freedom,’ he wrote. Instantly, that short post caught fire and was shared thousands of times around th
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Erin
Apr 26, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Those with no one to blame are alone with their grief. I am one of them. Alone with my son.
It could have been a reckless driver who forgot to brake, a tumor that was slightly more malignant than the others, or a nuclear bomb. The only thing that matters is that she’s no longer here. Guns, bullets, violence – all of this is just background noise to the real tragedy now taking place: absence



Audio book narrated by Gildart Jackson ( 1h 43m)

Heartbreaking, yet, uplifting You Will Not Have My Hate i
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Phyllis
May 22, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
On November 13, 2015 terrorists opened fire on a crowd of people at a concert in Paris killing 89.This is a memoir by Antoine Leiris whose wife was killed. It is his thoughts, his grief, and his love for his 17 month old son and his wife. He wrote a letter on Facebook and was shared all over the world. It started... "On Friday night, you stole the life of an exceptional being, the love of my life, the mother of my son, but you will not have my hate."
This is a very powerful, heartbreaking and up
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☮Karen
This will be a difficult book to rate, and maybe I shouldn't even try. Who can judge the personal inner thoughts of a man who has just lost his beloved wife in a terrorist attack? I could say that I normally don't care for short staccato sentences such as I found here, but how is that relevant when the man is grieving and trying to hold it together for his toddler son?
It's always remarkable to me when victims of violence have no interest in lashing out or hating the perpetrators. They have my re
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Richard
Nov 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Few books move me; this one is both heartbreaking and heartwarming and it shows the power of words.
In the week when Sting gave a concert in Paris to mark the first anniversary of the attacks on Paris and the terrible loss of life at the Bataclan Theatre in Paris. On 13 November 2015, Antoine Leiris’s wife, Hélène, was killed, along with 88 other people. Here is his account in the hours and days after his personal loss up to the day after her funeral.
Today's media means we have insights into such
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Dean
Nov 19, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Well I haven't been given a free copy of this book in exchange of an honest review, I have bought it myself.
But nonetheless here comes my honest review.....
First of all, I've been literally crying throughout the entire book. And I'm not ashamed to confess it.
Have you noticed how often I use "I" and "I'm" in this review?
It's because for me I take this book very personal. Which means, this book will get you too, it will get under your skin too and it will sink its teeth deep into your soul too and
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Truman32
Nov 23, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
On November 13, 2015, Antoine Leiris’s wife was murdered by terrorists at a rock and roll show in the Bataclan Theater in Paris. Helene Muyal-Leiris was one of 89 people killed at this Eagles of Death Metal concert, another 41 were killed in other areas of the city. 130 total deaths. You Will Not Have My Hate, written by Leiris, humanizes this tragedy. It brings the injury to a level that is easily understood.

You Will Not Have My Hate documents the days immediately following Leiris’s loss. It’s
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Pavellit
I have remembered 'You will not have my hate’ Antoine Leiris' words wrote-an open letter to his wife’s killers on Facebook- when his wife, Hélène, was killed at the Bataclan theatre in Paris during a concert by the American band Eagles of Death Meta. And this is the title of his memoir, recounting how he and his son are coping with aching loss of his wife. This little book is heartbreaking and full of a beautiful sadness. It's a love poem to Hélène and a determination to do his best for his son, ...more
Beth
Mar 29, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2017
My rating could be attributed to the fact that I'm coming to terms with the loss of family and found it to be a cathartic experience; however, the words come across as authentic and powerful, and think it's something everyone can appreciate. I feel for the author, the life his wife had taken from her, their son, and the weight of that grief. The native French is probably more moving but this was pretty damn raw. His reflections on the everyday and the immensity of love and intimacy really blew m ...more
Stephen
Dec 07, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was heartbreakingly sad.
I'm only not giving it 5 stars because it feels so personal that I shouldn't be reading it.
If ever you feel down or sorry for yourself, this book will make you realise that you should enjoy life while you can and count every blessing.
Melissa Rochelle
Sep 12, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc, read-2016
This is a book for everyone. It is short so no excuse about the length, it is moving, it is real, it is raw. Leiris' loss is felt through his words. This goes further than his open letter on Facebook and gives us a glimpse into his and his son's lives in the immediate days after Helene is murdered. Leiris has the horrible task of having to continue to parent while grieving. He beautifully shares his story here.
Roman Clodia
Nov 16, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
"You want me to be scared, to see my fellow citizens through suspicious eyes, to sacrifice my freedom for security. You have failed. I will not change"

This short memoir/essay is a fine and dignified response to the loss of a beloved wife in the Paris attacks last year. What makes it so powerful is the simplicity and directness of the writing, and the quiet defiance that makes Leiris refuse to sacrifice his own humanity in the face of his grief.

His love for his wife ("I am the one who loves Helen
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Monique
"I would have liked for my first book to be a story, not mine. I would have liked to love the words without fearing them."

Antoine's wife, Hélène, had her life tragically taken from her at the Bataclan in Paris. It is hard to give this a "star rating" because I truly don't know how you rate a book like this. To read this book is to look into someone's grief that is raw and fresh just days after the attacks--as the author puts words to the pain he feels and the new reality that he and his 17 month
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Amy
Apr 09, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was written by a journalist whose wife was killed in the Terrorist attack at the Bataclan in Paris. Shortly after, he wrote a Facebook post that went viral stating that terrorists would not have his hate.

Leiris describes the period of time after his wife's death and how helping his 17-month-old son come to terms with the loss of his mother helped him through his grief. It's a moving story, one that has given a lot of people hope and courage. Just as we are drawn to those who are suffe
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Joanne  Clarke Gunter
An unbelievably sad book, but a necessary one. Rarely have I read raw emotion rendered so precisely. This is one of those extraordinary books that a reader never forgets.
Jenna
You Will Not Have My Hate is a memoir by Antoine Leiris. Antoine's wife, Helene, was killed in the 2015 terrorist attack at Bataclan theatre in Paris. Antoine and Helene had a 17 month old son at the time. Antoine wrote the book about a year after the attack.

This book is short but his grief is so open and honest, it packs a big punch. He doesn't dwell on the attack or go into detail about what happened that night - his focus is on how life goes on afterwards. His words are devastating at times,
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Jeanne
Luna-Héléne Muyal was killed in an attack on the Bataclan Theatre in Paris, on November 13, 2015, with 136 others, including the seven terrorists. Three days later, her husband, Antoine Leiris, posted a status on Facebook that was shared and reshared many times. He wrote of the terrorists,
So, no, I will not give you the satisfaction of hating you. That is what you want, but to respond to your hate with anger would be to yield to the same ignorance that made you what you are. You want me to be s
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Sarah
Nov 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
You Will Not Have My Hate is the authors memoirs of an unimaginable time in his life. At only ninety nine pages for the kindle edition, it is a short read but my goodness it is a heart breaking and powerful one.
Antoine doesn't go into any detail of the actual events from that day apart from how he finds out the news of what had gone on. The strength that Antoine shows at times is just over whelming. In one night he has become mama and papa to his seventeen month old son, Melvil. It just broke m
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Inky
Nov 04, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
But people do not count their tears, and they certainly don’t dry them on the sleeves of their anger

Powerful, intimate insight into the grief and impact of such devastating destruction on a young man and his son
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I read this in one sitting, and I wanted to cry the whole time. This is just a very beautiful book and such a moving subject, I can't put my admiration for the author's way of dealing with this into words.
Jennifer
May 31, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
What a heart breaking book. Antoine's memoir of the night his wife was killed in a terrorist attack in Paris.
Archana
Feb 18, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There is no good way of reviewing this kind of a book. The author's Facebook post and the book that followed details how he dealt with his wife's death at the hands of terrorists.
It's not so much about the philosophical journey of his mind but rather the difficulty of dealing with the mundane routine without her. His resolution to raise his son without feeding him retribution as a daily dose is laudable and brave.
I hope they found their way back to being happy!
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