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4.59  ·  Rating details ·  73 ratings  ·  36 reviews
Motherhood: Lost and Found takes the reader on a journey where Alzheimer’s disease and infertility intersect. At age 33, award-winning author and poet Ann Campanella returns to her home state of North Carolina ready to build a horse farm and start a family. Ann’s foundation is shaken when she experiences multiple miscarriages at the same time her mother spirals into Alzhei ...more
Kindle Edition, 302 pages
Published September 22nd 2016 by Divine Phoenix with Pegasus Books in conjunction with The Bridge
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Cynthia Hamilton
Nov 15, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Author/poet Ann Campanella shares her journey through heartache and loss with such beautiful, insightful prose, I often had to pause to let the significance of her observations linger. It is easy to see why she was drawn to poetry: she has the gift of being able to see what is right before us but is often overlooked, summing up almost any experience with graceful perception.

The author tells the story of a two-headed dragon that threatens to rob her of her beloved mother and the chance of someday
Vanessa Luther
Nov 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Motherhood: Lost and Found is a beautiful, yet heartbreaking memoir. Having two parents with Alzheimer’s, I could relate to so much of Ann’s journey. Struggling with caring for a mother with Alzheimer’s and a father with his own health concerns, the pain of multiple miscarriages and a molar pregnancy, all while managing her own home and caring for her beloved horse oftentimes alone was a weight no one should have to bear. I was touched by her story and the familiarity of it. I was also overcome ...more
Literary Soirée
I am in awe of Ann Campanella and her poetic “Motherhood: Lost and Found,” named one of the Best Alzheimer's Books of All Time by BookAuthority. Her eloquent memoir had me laughing and crying and just feeling privileged to know a person like her through her intimately shared journey.

Ann’s story finds her returning to North Carolina to start a family and be closer to her family after several years away. But she is shaken to the core after going through multiple heartbreaking miscarriages ... whil
Gina McKnight
True to the title "Motherhood: Lost and Found" is a bittersweet journey through complicated life scenarios that end in simple miracles. After years of collective challenges, while embracing joy in hopeful moments, Author Campanella writes, “I feel like the walking dead.” Campanella’s memoir reveals the compassion and wisdom needed to care for aging parents, while she struggles to find her own happiness. Campanella doesn’t hold back; she describes every smile, unending love, certain heartbreak, t ...more
Lisa Kline
Mar 04, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was so deeply touched by this memoir. Anyone with children or aging parents will be moved by this searingly honest story. Ann struggled with infertility at the same time she was trying to care for her mother with Alzheimer's. In a clear-eyed way, she explores how her family navigated the suffering caused by her mother's illness, and her own heartbreak of multiple miscarriages. Every sentence is beautifully crafted, with a poet's attention to detail. The images are indelible, and in the end, th ...more
Karen Stewart
Oct 17, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir, motherhood
I loved this book! It was a beautiful and moving read. The author shares the journey of her mother’s illness and her own quest to become a mother with honesty and grace. Her writing style kept me reading ‘just one more page’ for hours. Grab a cup of tea and enjoy!
Jul 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
First of all I would like to thank Ann for gifting me a copy of her ebook .... Motherhood: Lost and Found, in a return for a honest review.

This book is a memoir.

When Ann approached me with her book I grabbed it with loving arms.

I, myself have been a night nurse in a rest home and although we only had one dementia lady in my care, I was extremly curious to see what it was like for a family on the other side.

As I read the first few chapters Ann introduces us to her love of horses, family backgrou
Frank Morelli
Sep 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ann Campanella's memoir on the ever-changing relationship between a loved one suffering from Alzheimer's and her caregiver is heartwarming at times, devastating at others, but it never ceases to ring emotionally true. If you've ever had the misfortune of having to suddenly make room in your life for the ravages of Alzheimer's disease there's no better place to go for comfort and expertise, or simply to be reminded of the beauty and strength within each of our souls than to dive into the pages of ...more
Irene Frances Olson
Oct 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Although a memoir, and therefore non-fiction, Ms. Campanella’s book reads like a novel. This book needs to be read by everyone, not just those who have a close family member with dementia. This memoir is a story of life-obstacles and how one runs into, climbs over, or destroys those with which one is confronted. There are times in our lives when we sense no victories are forthcoming, and times when we can boast that we created our own victories because of the way in which we chose to not be affe ...more
Traci Hooks
May 10, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As I've contemplated my review of Motherhood: Lost and Found, a quote keeps coming to mind. Although I am not exactly sure who said this, the quote says, "we read to know we are not alone", and that is exactly how you'll feel when you finish this book - "I'm not alone."

Ann's memoir is about her struggle to become a mom while simultaneously dealing with her mom's debilitating descent into Alzheimer's disease. If you can identify with either of Ann's struggles, or God forbid both, you will feel t
Sandra Smith
Nov 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Love has a weight. It can crush you at the same time it uplifts you. Ann Campanella, as she takes you through her journey of caring for her parents while she dealt with infertility issues, shares the weight and power of love in her book, Motherhood: Lost and Found.

Campanella lays bare the heartwrenching progression of her mother’s dementia, as well as her father’s physical decline. She transparently and courageously shares her grief for the loss of her parents as “parents”, and her exhilaration
Feb 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: aging, memoir, dementia
With great attention to detail and careful language, Campanella shares about a decade of her life that is filled with tension as she strives to fulfill her roles as daughter, wife and mother.

As a daughter, she watches her mother's behavior grow more and more unstable without a clear cause. Her mother loses track of time and objects, she thinks people are stealing from her, she fails to recognize family members, she grows more angry, hurt and fearful, and she struggles to dress, feed and toilet
Tony Page
Mar 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Winter gives way to Spring... pushing along something new

The award-winning author and poet, Ann Campanella, offers a case study of the trials and circles of life, with her characters beautifully captured in a loving memoir.

Here the past is woven into the present and the future, as it truly is for many of us. The slow hollowing out of a mother with Alzheimer’s brings recollections of earlier warmth, adolescent growth pains, the arrival of barriers and the perpetual repetition with each new genera
Carol Bursack
Dec 09, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Motherhood: Lost and Found Is An Intimate View of Author’s Struggle to Create Life while Witnessing Death

In her wonderful memoir, Motherhood: Lost and Found, Ann Campanella interweaves her anchoring love of horses throughout her tale of a tragic string of miscarriages that coincide with the deterioration of both of her parents’ health. As Campanella begins to notice her mother acting strangely, increasingly depending on her husband just to get by, she also notices the deterioration of her father
Gilda Syverson
Aug 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I was so touched by this memoir and the play of poetic words that even months after reading it, I cannot get the experience of the author out of my mind. Sitting between the loving loss of a parent and the eventual birth of her own daughter (that took her years to conceive and give birth), I found myself in tears over the journey and love that exudes though out the pages of this finely crafted memoir. For those of us losing parents or have lost parents and hanging onto the love for as long as we ...more
Patricia Conley
Feb 05, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Doubtful that I could identify with a book about motherhood, I was pleasantly surprised by and completely drawn into this lovely memoir. Take away the specific circumstances, and at the heart of Ann Campanella's book lies the universal heartbeat of the human experience: love, dreams, suffering, hope, and tragedy. What Ann offers through the artistry of her words is a model of faithful perseverance.

This is a beautifully written story that inspires me on my own journey--precisely what I need.
Connie Fisher
Oct 28, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ann Campanella's moving story unravels the delicate balance of life at the dawn of motherhood while another slowly dwindles away. The reader becomes absorbed in Campanella's dignified account of her struggle to conceive amid the turbulent agony of conditions beyond her reach.
"Motherhood:" Lost and Found" is a source of encouragement for anyone facing their own unsurmountable odds that are part of life.
Linda Marie Marsh
Jan 09, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
We are each of us, in varying degrees, in this exact spot in life. Where we watch our parents decline in health while we are cautiously hopeful and optimistic about our own. Where we have our own dreams, desires, anxieties and outright fears while worrying about those of our folks. Where we are are torn...and filled with love at the same time.

Campanella has written her story and graciously shared it with us. A soft beauty of a read.
Nov 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I found this touching memoir a spellbinding read. The challenges faced by the author, as well as her strength and ability to endure and persevere, truly awed me. Her descriptions and analogies reflect her gift as a poet. I also enjoyed learning about horses and more about Alzheimers, and I gained a better understanding of the heartbreak of losing babies from miscarriage.
Oct 27, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Loved this book! Beautiful special lady! A family Tragedy in the circle of life!
Story Circle Book Reviews
Mar 16, 2017 rated it really liked it
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This is a poignant, beautiful memoir about the seemingly insurmountable challenges that life throws at some of us. For the author, we wonder how she can go on, how she can rise to the testing of her patience and fortitude. Can she continue to put one foot in front of the other, day after day? Can she continue caretaking everyone around her, many times putting her own life on hold?

Wanting desperately to have a child, the author suffers miscarriage after miscarriage and questions if her body is me
Susan Soesbe
Jun 18, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
On the surface, Ann Campanella’s Motherhood: Lost and Found is a story about how the author took care of her elderly parents, Wint and Betty, while wondering if she herself would ever become a mother.

The book focuses on an eight-year period during which the author, an avid horsewoman, is simultaneously trying to start a family and come to grips with her parents’ ever-increasing needs. While Campanella keeps the narrative moving, she’s also at work revealing to readers what’s happening under th
Aurelia McNeil
May 01, 2017 rated it liked it
Motherhood: Lost and Found by Ann Campanella is about her pursuit to be a mother. She takes the reader through her emotions as she suffers several miscarriages. She is incredibly open and honest in sharing her thoughts and feelings. For instance, she writes: "That evening, when I meet with a poetry group, the writers pick apart my poem. Usually I welcome any and all feedback, but tonight my emotional state is too fragile to accept it. I drive home feeling angry and hurt. " Added emotional stress ...more
Peggy Bushy
Dec 01, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Oh my, what a wonderful memoir.
I could totally relate to Ann when she talked about her first glimpse of her Mom's dementia.... wanting it to be forgetfulness. It's a denial that comes from the heart and one that I myself tried to justify when my mom first started showing signs. I was always trying to find the one thing that would snap her out of it.
Ann speaks honestly about the deep love for her husband, parents, and family, as well as the frustrations that come with trying to balance life as a
Joy Johnston
Nov 29, 2017 rated it it was amazing
In Motherhood: Lost and Found, Ann Campanella recounts a challenging period in her life in which she was caring for her mother with Alzheimer's while attempting to become a mother herself. With refreshing honesty, Campanella shares her mixed emotions of becoming a caregiver and the fear that the stress and uncertainty of the situation could thwart her goal of motherhood. While Campanella doesn't shy away from the struggles of caregiving and infertility, she also shares important life lessons tha ...more
Emily Page
Jul 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Ann Campanella’s book about her broken journey toward motherhood, while losing her mother in pieces to dementia, is heartfelt and touching. She conveys the ache of multiple miscarriages, deaths of animals, and finally, the deaths of her parents in a way that makes you feel it in your core. But she also brings warmth and love that make you feel like the struggle is worth it. Anyone who has struggled with infertility or the pain of caring for aging parents will find this book familiar, and hopeful ...more
Christine Meunier
Jul 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018, horse
I was recently asked if I would be interested in reading a non fiction book to review on Equus Education. A memoir, Ann Campanella’s Motherhood: Lost and Found focuses on fertility struggles, writing as an outlet, dealing with a parent battling Alzheimer’s and how horses can be a constant through all of life’s changes.

Kathleen Wheeler
Jun 28, 2017 rated it really liked it
A good memoir about the sandwich generation trying to do the right thing for their parents, their children, and themselves. Campanella writes beautifully and truthfully about the difficulties of undertaking and balancing these tasks. Thank goodness it's all worth it in the end. Job well done!
Ben Jr.
Nov 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Ann Campanella's Motherhood: Lost and Found is a moving read. Her honest telling of her struggle with infertility while caring for her mother with Alzheimer's disease was beautifully written and moving! Great Job. I highly recommend this story!
Jean Lee
Sep 25, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I will feel forever connected to Ann Campanella after reading Motherhood: Lost and Found. She so thoroughly describes the feelings of losing a parent, little piece by little piece. Thank you, Ann.
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Formerly a magazine and newspaper journalist, Ann Campanella has been writing nonfiction, memoir and poetry for over 30 years. Before her mother became ill with Alzheimer’s, Ann and her husband lived in Houston, TX, where she rode horses and worked first as the executive editor of editions of a community newspaper, and later as the managing editor of a daily newspaper.

While Ann enjoyed many aspec
“I am thirty-three years old and have been riding horses since I was nine. From the beginning, I was entranced with their power, their muscled fluidity. I was a typical young girl in love with horses. But there was more -- a nuance I couldn't articulate and still struggle to name. Call it a connection, an invisible fiber that runs between me and these four-legged creatures, as if we are one and the same.” 0 likes
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