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By The Time You Read This

3.51  ·  Rating details ·  1,815 Ratings  ·  249 Reviews
This is a manual for my daughter Lois. Here are the rules:
1. You must only read each new entry on your birthday, there is one for every year until you are thirty.
2. This is a private manual between you and me.
3. No peeping at the next entry unless it's your birthday!

When Lois Bates is handed the manual, she can barely bring herself to read it as the pain of losing her
321 pages
Published 2008 by Harper
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Melissa Lee-Tammeus
Jan 24, 2012 rated it did not like it
Shelves: borrowed
I really wanted to like this book. The truth of the matter is I attempted to read it 3 nights in a row and got through half of it. And then I decided I was wasting my time as I was not vested at all. It is supposed to be about a father who dies of cancer and writes a manual to his growing daughter that she is to read sections of every year on her birthday. Sounds fantastic, right? The problem is how do you write a fast paced chick lit book about every year from elementary school to being thirty ...more
Apr 16, 2011 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: fiction
When I started reading this, I thought it would really touch me. And when I read the first journal entries from Lois' dad, I had to fight some tears. But that's it. No more feelings from there on. I dunno what really happened but when I reached page 100 or so I became seriously bored. This book is predictable and nothing really happens. It's like your reading the story of any girl you could know or something like that. Nothing special. Not even the journal entries from her dad. Which, let's be h ...more
Feb 11, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: tear_jerker, vulkan
Only those who lose a loved one knows how difficult it is and almost unbearable.
Little girl of 5 years remained without a father, but fortunately, he leaves her, 'manual' with the stories that accompany it during her growing up, which it partly alleviates the fact that he is not next to it.
This is a touching love story of father and daughter even though they are not physically together.
Lola Jaye
Sep 12, 2008 rated it it was amazing  ·  (Review from the author)
It's a great read! How do I know...? Okay, I wrote it! Hope you enjoy too... LJ
Jan 11, 2011 rated it liked it
This novel brought tears to my eyes on many occassions. Character development is very well done and the book overall is very well written. This novel forces you to reconsider the relationships you have, not only with your father but with all your family and friends. A thought provoking read making the reader think of the bigger picture, trying to make the right decisions and choices in life. This is a realistic representation of any young woman facing challenges throught her life, whether that b ...more
Claire Tregilgas
Nov 14, 2009 rated it it was ok
I did not like the character of Lois at all. She was very cold and impersonal. She was so wrapped up in herself she didnt see the family she had left, only the one who had died.
Jun 11, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Von der Idee her eine sehr schöne Geschichte! Man begleitet die Protagonistin durch gute und schlechte Zeiten und bekommt Einblicke in verschiedene Lebensbereiche.
Leider ist die Geschichte, trotz der Kürze, stellenweise etwas langatmig. Für zwischendurch aber eine sehr nette Lektüre.
Oct 06, 2009 rated it liked it
Lola Jaye's by the time you read this, is about Lois Bates, a girl of 12 at the beginning who receives a manual for life written by her dead father on her birthday. She greatly misses her father, and reads The Manual on each subsequent birthday until she reaches 30. Lois becomes successful at her chosen career while navigating a friendship/love affair with her best friend's brother. I could relate a lot to Lois, as I am also very success-oriented, and found her refreshing among so many books wri ...more
Jan 04, 2010 rated it liked it
When Lois is 12, she is given a manual that was written for her by her dead father. Inside the manual, her father guides her through life by the way of letters written for her to read on every birthday until she's 30. But while she is clinging to her father and his manual so hard, how will Lois ever learn the lessons he writes about?

This was a comfortable read, something you can just sit back and relax with because it's not very taxing. The story itself is interesting enough, there are a few twi
Feb 05, 2010 rated it did not like it
I saw this book and just had to have it! I even carried it around with me like a blanket, because I didn't want to leave it. I just wanted to open it up and start reading, but I was reading another book at the time. When that book was finished, I quickly grabbed this book and started reading what I for sure thought would be a tear-jerker, wantint to call me dad every minute, and learn life lessons for where I am in life......NOTHING happened. I cannot even finish reading it because I am so disap ...more
Oct 26, 2009 rated it liked it
Lois lost her father when she was only five years old. When her mom remarries when she is 13 her father's sister shows up and gives her "The Manual" which her father wrote in the months before he died. In it he includes general information and a special note to her for each birthday until she reaches the age of 30. As the years pass by Lois learns a lot about herself and her friends. When she turns 30 she learns some things that really surprise her. The book was interesting and was worth reading ...more
Feb 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Lois's father, Kevin, died when she was five. Seven years later, she receives a book from Auntie Philomena on the day her mother remarries. The book, The Manual , is by her father and is chock-full of his advice for Lois, to be read one chapter per year, on her birthday. A list of seven rules includes a warning for Lois to not skip ahead, and she takes her dad's advice to heart, savoring the entries, the vast majority of which consist largely of standard self-help fare. I cried when i read this ...more
Abi Lowe
A really nice and easy read, nice for the transition phase between big books that take weeks. A good book, made me laugh and also made me cry.. It's really good to see the change in Lois that happens over the space of about 15 years. All of her father's advice really helps and every time she picks up the manual it seems there is always a piece of advice there for her to use. I really liked the relationships and friendships through the book and in the end it really felt like you personally knew L ...more
Claire Bateman
Oct 03, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition

I enjoyed this book. I bought it for a £1 years ago at Asda. Who knew it would be a diamond in the rough. It's premise is unique, as will its style. And it hits home with many situations. If only every person could have a manual growing up (excluding the tragic circumstances) This book has given me a new style of books I'd like to start reading more of.
Although the idea of this book is intriguing--a father writing advice to his then 5-year-old daughter to be read on various birthdays after his death. His entries are touching and often humorous, but the book's story feels contrived and a little too pat with some surprising twists that don't quite ring true to the story or its characters.
Jul 24, 2010 rated it liked it
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Lydia Presley
Sep 04, 2009 rated it it was ok
I WANTED to like this book. The concept really had potential, but instead of touching me, it ended up being completely annoying and I was tempted to skip the latter half of the book - especially the letters from Kevin to Lois.
Mina Van der Woodsen
Mar 19, 2011 rated it really liked it
it was a good book,i took one star only because it made me sad.Anyway i love it.:)
Mar 02, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It took a while for this book to grow on me....but when it did my heart swelled and my eyes were shiny at certain parts.
It showed me that if a person passes on....there are still ways for your relationship to grow and matter what
This book focuses on the Life of Lois Bates from a little girl to the age of 30.
She loses her father at age 5...but he leaves a life manual filled with fatherly advice...encouragement and love....
A very well written book in my opinion!
Jun 09, 2017 rated it did not like it
I really wanted to like this book, but if I'm being completely honest it was boring. I read about 70 pages, and stopped because I felt it was extremely predictable. ( Something happens in her life, and then a specific entry correlates with the event right after). I find this to be a bit unrealistic. I guess that's why I wasn't too much into this book
Rachel pearson
May 11, 2017 rated it really liked it
It's more a 3.5 star book. My first book by this author , love the concept on the book. Loved the twist of the " the manual " being between father & daughter as in many cases stories regarding this subject matter ate always mother & daughter.

It was a fast read loved the characters overall a good book .
Carine Rose
May 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This book was really good and touching. It was definitely a page turner. It may leave you emotional. I think this is also a good idea for parents to do towards their kids. I was happy in the end although I did cry a bit.
May 05, 2017 rated it liked it
I haven't lost a parent, so I don't know what that's like, but this book was just okay for me. A lot of what the main character says and feels felt overly dramatic to me, but maybe it was all normal for her situation?!?

Loved the idea and glad it had a happy ending, just didn't love the book.
Sarah Kirkpatrick
Jun 12, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really like this story…kind of like what happened next after the movie My Life (but way better)
Feb 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
This book evoked some emotions in me that I that I wasn’t expecting.
May 31, 2018 rated it liked it
Interesting......I could definitely relate to her in ways -
May 16, 2018 rated it liked it
cute story that was engaging and made you think about your life at each age
Jul 20, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Lois Vater stirbt, als sie gerade mal 5 Jahre alt ist und am Höhepunkt ihrer Verzweiflung - der Hochzeit ihrer Mutter - erreicht sie ein Notizbuch ihres Vaters: Der Leitfaden; extra für seine Tochter. Von ihrem 12ten Geburtstag an, bis zu ihrem 30ten Lebensjahr soll das Buch sie begleiten, ihr Ratschläge und Tipps geben und ihr eine Stütze sein... und so erkennt Lois, dass das ganz große Glück manchmal nur einen Schritt weit entfernt sein kann...
"Das ist mein (Kevin Bates') Leitfaden
Lorraine Sears
Feb 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Before I start this review I need to make clear that I found this book in a second-hand shop and that it was the 'Uncorrected proof' and 'Not for resale or quotation'. So things I would normally pull up such as typos, missing words and inconsistencies have not been included in my review. It is purely for the story.

At around 30 pages I made the mistake of reading someone else's review who said they felt the story went nowhere and stopped reading at page 100. Because I hadn't been particularly gr
When 30 year old Kevin Bates is diagnosed with a terminal illness he decides to write some advice for his then 5 year old daughter, Lola, to be given to her when she turns 12 covering the years until the year she turns 30, coined The Manual. The Manual is given to Lola when she is 12 and she couldn't be more excited to have something from her dad. The Manual comes with rules: Lola is to only read one chapter a year on her birthday; she cannot read ahead. She can refer back to previously read cha ...more
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Lola Jaye

Lola Jaye is a Penguin/Random House author who has penned four novels and a self-help book.

She was born and raised in London, England and has lived in Nigeria and the United States. She has a Degree in Psychology and a Masters in Psychotherapy and Counseling.

Lola's novels have also been translated into several languages including Korean, German and Serbian. She contributed to the sequel
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