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Hourglass: Time, Memory, Marriage

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The best-selling novelist and memoirist delivers her most intimate and powerful work: a piercing, life-affirming memoir about marriage and memory, about the frailty and elasticity of our most essential bonds, and about the accretion, over time, of both sorrow and love.

Hourglass is an inquiry into how marriage is transformed by time--abraded, strengthened, shaped in miracul
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Hardcover, 160 pages
Published April 11th 2017 by Knopf Publishing Group
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Elyse  Walters
Dec 08, 2018 rated it it was amazing
I absolutely love Dani Shapiro more & more!!!

The AUDIOBOOK- read by Dani was great company while packing for Canada - cleaning my home-
walking - biking - packing again for Cancun - for this next get-a- way ... more cleaning- washing our sheets to come home to them....

This was the perfect book at the perfect time....
Many of the things Dani shared I’ve heard before - knew from other sources - but I could listen to her speak about her life - marriage - and family forever!!!

I sooooo highly recomme
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Chris
Apr 17, 2017 rated it really liked it
You know how they say books come into your life at the right time? This is one of those books. Read over my 50th birthday weekend, Shapiro delivers an sharp, honest, and powerful memoir that I didn't want to put it down. I recognized myself so many times in the pages. With this momentous (to me) birthday, time (and its passages), memory (so many of them), and marriage (well, a 20+ year relationship) were all present as I read. Lots and lots of quotes were written down. "The decades between fifty ...more
Julie Christine
Once begun, impossible to set aside. This delicate, graceful meditation on marriage is slim enough to read in one sitting, but it is Dani Shapiro's words and music that held me fast.

She writes of the small cracks that appear with time in even the strongest of relationships; the inevitability of disappointment, even as you can't imagine your life without the other. This memoir is an ode to the glory and madness of joining your life to another's. It is raw and sweet, tender, and rich with truth.
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Lisa
Dec 21, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audiobook
A reflective memoir about "time, memory, marriage." Shapiro's writing is a marvel.
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Jana
May 07, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
I know this couldn't have been easy to write, but she makes it seem as if we're just listening to her think. And I mean this as high praise. The story flows back and forth in time and place. And she seems oh so honest. How does she open up like that to share her soul? What does her husband think of this? Regardless, I am impressed and A) will look for her when she visits Seattle (soon I think?) and B) will find more to read from her.

Highly recommend.


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I just heard her interviewed on t
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Julie Ehlers
Our recollections alter as we attempt to gather them.... If retrospect is an illusion, then why not attempt to tell the story as I'm inside of it? Which is to say: before the story has become a story?

I was a rather unlikely reader for Hourglass. I wasn't particularly enthused by the other Dani Shapiro book I'd read, and I'm a bit maxed out on books about marriage. Still, for some reason this called out to me in the bookstore and then again at home, where I picked it up and read it quite quickly,
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Elizabeth A
Nov 23, 2018 rated it really liked it
My second book for Non-fiction November 2018.

"Years vanish. Months collapse. Time is like a tall building made of playing cards. It seems orderly until a strong gust of wind comes along and blows the whole thing skyward. Imagine it: an entire deck of cards soaring like a flock of birds."

This slim memoir is a lovely and poetical mediation of time, memory, and marriage.

For some reason I thought the husband dies so I kept waiting for that to happen. Maybe it's because so many memoirs I've looked a
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Gerald Heath
A memoir, meandering, self-indulgent, and not very interesting. It does have the virtue of being short, which was the only reason I finished it. She occasionally turns a good phrase, which lifts it from 1 star to two.
Sian Lile-Pastore
Jul 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I loved this so much! It's so beautiful.
It's a memoir about marriage, about starting out and feeling you're at the beginning and then being married for twenty years and realising you are in the middle somewhere - how all those years change things, change you, how you go through things as a couple and how that makes you change too.
It is tender and real and honest. It really is wonderful.
Thanks to my husband Bert for buying me this - if made me think of our marriage and the years we've had toge
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Jennifer
Jun 11, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2017, memoir
There was a lot of food for thought in this slim narrative. What makes a marriage work? Who are we in relation to our past? I really enjoyed reading this even though it meanders and jumps around and basically has no plot. I read this expecting there to be some sort of revelation or change at the end (divorce? death? why does it have to be something bad?) but it's more like a slice of life and the end hasn't happened yet. ...more
Sue Dix
Mar 04, 2017 rated it liked it
This was an ARC. It was a difficult book for me to warm up to. It is well written but just didn't grab me. ...more
Bree Hill
May 18, 2017 rated it really liked it
Ladies and Gentlemen I finally listened to an audiobook from start to finish! I loved this. I need to get my hands on the physical copy because I want it on my shelf to revisit again.
Patricia Geller
May 22, 2017 rated it liked it
Such mixed feelings about this book. She captures the push and pull of marriage and its complications. She writes well and weaves in the views of other writers and yet, even as a memoir, it was so self-referential. Shapiro didn't let you forget her fame, her opportunities and her enormous privilege without showing much awareness of it. She has a life of opportunity and writes breezily of trips afar and of her losses, that we all have, as if they are different. Not universal. It is funny that she ...more
Riva Sciuto
May 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Shelves: bios-memoirs
"Change even one moment, the whole thing unravels. There is no other life than this. You would not have stumbled into the vastly imperfect, beautiful, impossible present."

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If you're looking for an action-packed memoir, this isn't the one for you. But if you have a penchant for memoirs that are mostly reflective in nature, then grab a copy of Dani Shapiro's 'Hourglass' immediately. Unlike other contemporary memoirs I've read recently, the impetus for writing this book doesn't seem to have been
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Carla (happiestwhenreading)
May 06, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2017
Fortunately, this book had parts that made it worthwhile. Unfortunately, it felt clunky and disconnected for me. There were no chapter breaks - just 150 looonngg pages of rambling. It was not cohesive or engaging. I found several snippets that were very beautiful writing and it just made me wish there were more. It was more like a scavenger hunt to find the parts that spoke to me. I know I'm in the minority here - many of my friends have read and loved this book - but it just never got off the g ...more
Holly
Apr 20, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: audio, 2017-reads
I recently listened to one of Dani Shapiro's earlier memoirs, Devotion, in which she chronicles her early life, relationships with her parents, her marriage, experience of motherhood, writing life and the freelance career, yoga and meditation practice, but above all (or underneath all) her Jewishness and relationship to the tradition of Judaism. This new memoir seemed like a supplementary chapter to that earlier book, but without the religious theme. Hourglass is quite short, which contributed t ...more
Rima
Some beautiful sentences (Shapiro's skill with language is evident here), but not very satisfying. It feels too short, lazily written from her notes, without a serious attempt at developing a coherent narrative like she did in "devotion" or "still writing." ...more
Annette
Apr 17, 2017 rated it really liked it
Insightful writing by one of my favorite writers- Dani Shapiro.
Marriage, middle age, unfulfilled dreams, plans gone astray.
How do we hold on to the one we love, when time begins to rub us until there is bare soul?
How do we stay true to ourselves, our art and each other when life doesn't go as planned?
Shapiro offers deep reflections on these themes and the words are worth savoring.

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Elizabeth☮
Oct 11, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shapiro gives a look into her marriage of eighteen years. This is written in vignettes, so it isn't a linear narrative highlighting each milestone.

I liked the jagged snapshots. We get snippets of life in the present and then the past and back again.

A quick, but thoughtful read.
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Jaclyn
Jul 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
The word beautiful suddenly seems completely inadequate and approximate.
Kate Savage
Jul 08, 2019 rated it it was ok
This book opens with a tale about trying to kill a woodpecker. Then it moves to fear of bees. Many scary bees. Then scary wolves, scary crime, scary diseases, scary storms, scary accidents. And above all, scary poverty. While friends are winning pulitzers and macarthur grants, her little family is "on the edge," "just getting by," "barely paying the bills." In between the trips to Europe, of course.

And more scary bees. She knows she's not allergic, but can't help herself. Like, once she's a writ
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Sonya
Jul 20, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2017
This is a memoir about time and marriage. About how people at the beginnings of their union hope and dream, and how realities of life sink in as time is distorted and compressed. If you're in the mood for moody and melancholy and truth, this might be for you. I don't know that I'd relate to it as I have if I hadn't myself been in a marriage that's lasted my entire adult life. What that 20-year-old woman (girl?) couldn't foresee upon getting married is everything that has shaped me since, all the ...more
Hannah Reeves
I enjoyed this short, non-linear snapshot feel into someone older writing about time and their remembrances. Not what I was expecting, but a lovely winter complete-a-book-in-a-day read.
Antonia
Sep 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: kindle, read-in-2017
A wonderful book that I read much too fast. I couldn’t stop myself. But I will read it again. And I highlighted liberally. There’s so much to savor and think about. I especially enjoyed the musings on marriage over the long term, and the parts about the many selves within us, how they all contribute to the present moment. I love to think about the tricks that time and memory play, how memories evolve, how a life is shaped and lived and relived. A glorious read. Below are just a few of my many hi ...more
Claire
Mar 23, 2019 rated it liked it
Shelves: memoir, nonfiction
I've not read any of her previous works, this was a book passed to me by a friend, so not a book I deliberately chose. I enjoyed reading it, though I couldn't say I related to it in any way. As the title shows, it's a reflection on time passing, on memory and on marriage.

It's full of nostalgia for moments passed, brought back to life as she picks up journals from girlhood and her earlier life and quotes from them, in particular, from her honeymoon spent in France. She wonders about the woman sh
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Kate
Oct 30, 2017 added it
Shelves: 2017-books
Dani Shapiro is a gifted writer who has written several memoirs. I was going to attend a pop-up book group with her in NYC so I picked up a copy of her latest. Work intervened and I was unable to attend which is really okay. She writes honestly and intimately, but her anxieties and irritations are different from my own. Despite being born in the same year and loving The Bridge on Sirius XM, I was unable to connect with her. This, of course says more about me than her and my lack of affection for ...more
Nic
Apr 28, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Sigh...that this beautiful whisper of memoir had to end.

I learned of the passing of a young woman - whom I once shared time with - on the morning I started this book. A most fitting read, as I worked through the emotions that her death stirred in me.

An honest and thoughtful meditation on the nuances of life.

"Time is like a tall building made of playing cards. ... Pick a card. Any card." (p144)
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Neal
Mar 16, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2017
A lovely, intimate look at a couple sustaining a life together. Blasted through the first 100 pps, and then had to force myself to take it slow, to read a few pages at a time, like poems. Inspired me to dig back a read Dani's first memoir, SLOW MOTION. Such a beautiful, honest writer. ...more
Kim
Jun 27, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is written as a collection of moments and thoughts, stream of consciousness style. Shapiro's excellent writing makes the book. ...more
Emily
Feb 08, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This completes my readings of Dani Shapiro's various memoirs. I started with the most recent (Inheritance), which I adored, so I then had to go back and read the others in order. This author can do no wrong with me; I simply love her writing. So many beautiful words, sentences, and thoughts that made me look inward and consider my own life. My only complaint is that it was too short. ...more
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Dani Shapiro is the bestselling author of the memoirs Hourglass, Still Writing, Devotion, and Slow Motion, and five novels including Black & White and Family History. She lives with her family in LItchfield County, Connecticut. Her latest memoir, Inheritance, will be published by Knopf in January, 2019.

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