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I Feel Bad: All Day. Every Day. About Everything.

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Roz Chast meets Allie Brosh in this hilarious, unfiltered, and beautifully illustrated look at the infinite number of reasons the author experiences guilt, shame, regret and self-reproach in her daily life, and that maybe—just maybe—some of us can relate to as well.

In a series of 100 illustrations with accompanying text, Orli Auslander has captured a mood and emotional ambivalence that will be all too familiar for readers: trying to be the best wife, mother, and friend she can be, while simultaneously feeling shitty about virtually everything she does. Confronting her daily experience with dark humor and brilliant and brutal honesty, she shows us how being an overindulgent mother makes her feel as terrible as the times when she can't stand the sight of her kids; how saying yes to the wrong experiences and no to the right requests is equally bad; how her Jewish heritage complicates her relationships with her overly religious family and irreligious children; and how having a vagina is the ultimate inescapable struggle. With a distinctive, textured ink drawing style which brings to mind a female Robert Crumb and a neurotic Edward Gorey, I Feel Bad is a book that readers will buy for themselves and for a best friend, and where every reader will find the precise moment that Auslander voiced their own deepest anxiety in her poignant and hilarious illustrations.

208 pages, Hardcover

First published April 7, 2017

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Orli Auslander

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Orli Auslander grew up in London and worked as a milliner and radio DJ in New York City before devoting herself full-time to creating art. Her work has been shown in the US, England and Spain, and was recently featured on the Showtime series Happyish. She is married to the author Shalom Auslander and lives with her family in upstate New York.

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Profile Image for Dave Schaafsma.
Author 6 books31.3k followers
November 1, 2018
I feel bad I can't give this five stars, Orli Auslander, though I did smile throughout and laugh a few times. The book features 100 reasons she feels bad such as "I curse too f...ing much," but she's a New Yorker so all through the book I don't (offing) believe she feels all that bad! She feels bad for using paper plates and destroying the environment, she feels guilty that she won't wear the lingerie her husband buys her, she feels bad she wears semi-expensive clothes and gives almost nothing to the poor. She feels bad she doesn't let her kids buy food that is crap, and she feels bad she lets her kids eat food that is crap. In other words, she is pretty normal human being.

It's a pretty funny book. It kind of reminded me of 100 Demons by Lynda Barry, where she list 100 things that daily daunt her, yet they are things--as with Auslander--that drive her art. This is a good idea, to make lists of our demons and the basis for our guilt, and then make art out of them. Hey, it worked for Dostoevsky, too.
Profile Image for ♥ Sandi ❣	.
1,271 reviews8 followers
July 15, 2017
4 stars

Crazy little graphic of a woman who finds reasons to feel bad. You will find yourself somewhere in the 100 itemized reasons for feeling bad. Humorous, honest, and matter of fact. Great pictures.

No situation is barred ~ no words are barred. If you are offended by 4 letter words, this is not the book for you.
Profile Image for Sarah Joint.
445 reviews984 followers
April 3, 2017
This is a short book comprised of illustrations. They're all what makes the author "feel bad". It includes a bit of everything... frustration with herself, her kids, her husband, her family, and a bunch of random things. Some of them made me laugh. I'm sure it was cathartic for her to sketch them all out, and many are relatable. It's definitely honest and unfiltered! I would have preferred the drawings be larger in the kindle book and the captions easier to read. I ended up having to hold it close to my face or tilt my kindle to read them. It's a very interesting idea for a book.

I received an ARC of this book from Net Galley and Penguin Group Blue Rider Press & Plume, thank you! My review is honest and unbiased.
Profile Image for Santy.
1,173 reviews64 followers
February 11, 2017
I loved this book.

It was basically about all the things that made the author feel bad in her day to day life. All of them were numbered and had accompanying illustrations which added to the overall feel of the book. The drawings were of a unique style quite representative of the author.

Some were relatable "I pay someone to clean up my shit" and "Everyone's a suspect"

Some outrageous : "I make him wash the dildos" and all were funny as hell.lol..

There were one or two sad ones but overall the book was funny funny funny. At least to me.

***eARC Graciously Provided By Publisher In Exchange For An Honest, Unbiased Review***
Profile Image for Cat.
232 reviews1 follower
December 9, 2016
Format: ebook and protected PDF
Tissue warning: No, unless you already are suffering a cold
HEA: I'm sure Ms. Auslander will be doing spectacularly after this publishes :)
Triggers: everything is relatable
My reviewer rating: 5 out of 5
Recommend to others: Yes, absolutely to everyone, and mostly to those with a sense of humor. Those with a stick up their you-know-what's may not appreciate this. Oh, and you must be a grownup. There are adult images, language, and situational mentions.

I feel equal parts ashamed, guilty, and relieved after reading this.

Sometimes, we just "feel bad" for things.
Profile Image for MsChris.
413 reviews29 followers
March 22, 2017
A fun look at what makes us all feel bad. As a counselor I definitely see myself using this with clients in the future.

I wish I could have given it a higher rating but eventually the humor sort of wore off and wasn't quite so funny anymore. Still a decent book that I will pass on to others whom I think will enjoy it.

I received this book for free from the publisher through a Goodreads Giveaway. This is a fair, honest review reflecting only my own opinion.
Profile Image for Rod Brown.
5,288 reviews173 followers
October 17, 2018
I was a bit turned off by the unrelenting negativity, but I found some points with which I could identify and others which were humorous, and I certainly recognize the book as one giant cathartic scream. I'm a bit curious to see how this was possibly adapted into a TV sitcom. I'll have to try an episode or two.
Profile Image for Nancy.
1,404 reviews34 followers
November 16, 2018
This review can also be found on my blog: https://graphicnovelty2.com/2018/11/1...

As a mother, I feel bad and doubt myself every flippin’ day. Not a day goes by that I at least once (and up to 100+ times) ponder how I am messing up. So when this book popped up on my Goodreads suggestions list, I tracked it down.

Orli Auslander is a mum who shares her worries and regrets in 100 sketches of how exactly she feels bad. She opens the book with an introduction of how after she had her first child she began to journal and draw how she felt guilty in her daily life. In this collection she shares her worries on her parenting, sexuality, religious beliefs, work, extended family and the greater world around her.

At times she seems to over share, but the point of the book is for her to be brutally honest, and for readers to find situations in which they can relate to. I actually applaud her for showcasing her anxieties for it takes courage to admit in our social media obsessed world that we are not perfect. There are only a few people in my life I will share the REAL me with.

Auslander’s illustrations have been compared to Roz Chast’s, and I can see why. She captures the essence of the moment in a seemingly simple sketch, while letting her neurosis shine through. Her ink drawings have a distinctive feel, for she depicts expressive large eyes, and gives her pictures a swirling layered look.

As I do not watch a lot of television, I did not realize a new NBC comedy is based off this book, when I first picked it up. I watched the pilot this morning and thought the diverse cast did a nice job with the source material. So, for anyone looking for a book on the realities of parenthood and adult life, give this collection of strips a read, and realize you are not alone!
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194 reviews
April 17, 2018
An ugly rant accompanied by even uglier art.

As unamused and sick of the book as I was when I finished it, I was curious about the author. Not once in this laundry list of things she hates about herself did Auslander mention how she feels about her artwork. So I visited her website.

"My work is a subtly transfigured contemplation of the reclaimed metaphorical embodiment observed in the marriage between felching and the principles of comparative reunification as well the nullification of contrasting didacticisms within the immensely constricted extensions of preternatural conflicting societal boundaries indicative of vaginas submerging into the habitually mirky waters of modernity."

Excuse me, where was this comedic gold in "I Feel Bad"?
Profile Image for Orsayor.
531 reviews3 followers
December 23, 2016
I love the concept of this book but after a few pages in - it became redundant.

2.5 Stars
Profile Image for GONZA.
6,361 reviews108 followers
July 10, 2017
The moment I started to write this review I was writing something about how much Orli Auslander reminded me of Shalom Auslander (author of "Foreskin's lament") and the I checked on the internet and I realized that Orli is his wife, so as long as I'm concerned they are the funniest Jews I read. This book resonates not only in me because of my catholic education, but because I'm a mother too, mostly like her. So I really had so much fun because I realized I'm not the only one feeling bad for all that reasons!

Nel momento in cui ho iniziato a scrivere questa recensione ho ripensato a quanto questo libro mi ricordasse "Il lamento del prepuzio" di Shalom Auslander e in preda ad un'illuminazione ho guardato su internet e ho scoperto che lui é sui marito, dell'autrice intendo. A questo punto entrambi si posizionano al primo posto nella mia personale classifica degli ebrei simpatici tra gli scrittori (non é poi cosí difficile se escludiamo Moni Ovadia). Questo libro inoltre ha trovato terreno fertile in me, non solo per via della mia educazione cattolica, ma anche perché ho un figlio e compio con lui gli stessi (piú altri) errori di Orli. Per questo oltre a divertirmi, questa specie di graphic novel mi ha dato anche parecchio conforto.

Profile Image for Kirra.
514 reviews18 followers
December 28, 2016
At first, this book seemed like it would be a hilarious and unfiltered look on a woman's daily suffering of things to feel guilty about. The author shows us with illustrations and quick sentences about 100 things she feels bad about relating to herself as a mother, friend and wife.

I feel like it could have been something people would enjoy to read (although probably not more than once) if the points had some more detail to them. It was good that it was quick and to the point but there wasn't much to relate to as most of the reasons seemed to overlap and it was feeling drawn out like she had to meet a quota of reasons she feels shitty about her day.

There were a handful of reasons I really loved like feeling bad about turning down an older man hitchhiking or saying no to people trying to make conversation or immediately thinking the worst of people because of their look but I didn't relate much further than that. I'm sure if I was a mother of an older child I would enjoy this book more but I think it could be improved upon before the release in April next year with some more variety.
Profile Image for Monita Mohan.
729 reviews13 followers
March 16, 2017
Got this off Netgalley and thought... well, I'm not sure what I was thinking when I requested this, honestly, because this is not what I expected. It's a book of illustrations, pithy and humorous, but not as wide ranging as I had expected it to be. Given that it's full of illustrations, it should have been longer and covered topics not only to do with the writer and her life. It feels too individual to have any impact on the reader. I was disappointed. The sketches are sparse and to the point - most do not expand on the chapter headline at all. I understand this is a proof copy, but I doubt much will change in the final version. What this book needs is more substance; more universality in its message. Right now, it's like an art essay by the writer on the writer - even memoirs (or at least the good ones) have a universal message that will reach all its readers. I wouldn't recommend this to anyone, it seems far too pointless.
Profile Image for Ilse.
336 reviews21 followers
March 11, 2017
*3.5 stars

This was a lot of things.
It was a fun read but also a bit painful sometimes.
Sometimes I recognised myself in it, sometimes other people.
If you feel bad about a lot of things in life then you should read this and probably recognise a lot.
I feel bad about a lot of things but it was interesting to see that after reading this book I realised there are different levels and lots of different things to feel bad about. This is ofcourse something I already knew but it in some way became clearer to me by reading this.

It's a book with lot's of drawings, all the drawings are things that the author feels bad about and it's portrait really well. It's a very quick read too.

Netgally provided me this book to give an honest review.
Profile Image for Tara.
1,220 reviews
March 5, 2017
I received this ARC from Netgalley for an honest review.

A book about all of the things that the author feels about. Each things she feels bad about is accompanied by a number and an illustration. It's things we all feel bad about at one point or another. Lying to the kids, when they ask if they are good enough for the NBA. Not picking up the one legged hitch hiker and neutering her dog are all examples of the things that she feels bad about. All real life things that we have felt bad about in our lives too, but will funny illustrations.
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37 reviews25 followers
May 29, 2018
Rarely do I read a book and hate the author for who they are as a human being, but I guess there's a first for everything. I genuinely hope the comics about how she interacts with other people are an extreme exaggeration because oh boy do I feel bad for everyone that comes in contact with her.
Profile Image for Nikki Yager.
Author 6 books40 followers
February 15, 2017
Some of these hit home. Some of them didn't make sense, but a lot of it was just the truth of why we feel bad on a daily basis, even if it's not logical.
Profile Image for Emily.
243 reviews15 followers
June 15, 2017
The review said it was a cross between Roz Chast and Allie Brosh (both authors I love). This didn't really live up to that for me.

I would say more but I don't want the author to feel worse.
Profile Image for Kitty.
204 reviews7 followers
March 25, 2018
I loved this. So funny, too relatable.
Profile Image for Shazia.
236 reviews13 followers
July 1, 2020
I picked up this book because the title describes my default setting: I Feel Bad: All Day. Every Day. About Everything.

But one thing I don’t really feel bad about is not liking this book - sorry Orli. I was definitely thinking because this book seems relatable I would like it but maybe that’s why I didn’t like it - because it’s just too relatable? (Does that make sense?) This book contains 100 things that make Orli Auslander feel bad, which honestly, was a lot of very human things. So nothing really stuck out. I almost wish she focused on some of the more specific-to-her scenarios and based her drawings/writing on that instead of an illustrated list of reasons why she feels bad.

Overall a very meh book, but I would be interested to read an actual memoir of hers, if she goes that route one day.
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1,559 reviews766 followers
September 11, 2021
This is a relatable collection of 100 confessions about things that we tend to feel bad about. I find it brutally honest and undeserving of some of the hate comments here. The author talks about struggling with mum guilt, envying others, raging and losing our temper at loved ones, and a lot more things that I'm sure we all experience at some time.

The only issue I have is with I Feel Bad #53: I Am Irresponsible, which features the author texting and driving. That shit is more than just feeling bad and being irresponsible. That shit is downright dangerous and not at all okay.
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896 reviews36 followers
March 17, 2022
This was a fun and relatable little book. I kept sharing parts with my boyfriend and now he wants to read it!

Pick it up, give it a go and enjoy! >(^_^)<
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180 reviews70 followers
February 4, 2017
Let me preface this review by saying the layout of the e-ARC that I received was poorly done and confusing at best. I'm sure (I hope) that when this book is released to the public in April (2017) that these issues will be rectified; however, a shoddy review copy is very off putting.

Let me get to the nitty gritty of the book, the tale itself. I didn't like it. It felt like a someone's poorly done self-hatred diary doodles. While maybe the intent of the book was to show that others are not alone in their struggle, this just held very bad vibes. It made me feel like the artist/author was trying to one up others with her amount of self-hatred. I felt personally attacked on some levels, as though if you do these things then you should hate yourself too. It felt problematic. It was incredibly triggering for me.

The publisher is marketing this book as "humor" and...no? This book isn't funny in the very least.

Overall, this was nothing like I imagined or hoped for the book to be. I do not recommend it.

I received my copy of I Feel Bad by Orli Auslander from Blue Rider Press (Penguin Group) through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Profile Image for Steph.
543 reviews269 followers
March 21, 2017
In her introduction to this book of drawings, Auslander talks about its origins. She says that as a Jewish (Gemini) woman with Middle Eastern parents, she has been conditioned to feel guilty about everything. While working through this in therapy, Auslander began drawing one of these pictures each time she felt bad over the course of her days. It helped her to rationalize her feelings and gave her relief. Which is great for her! I'm glad that art helps her cope, and it's great for those who relate to be able to enjoy her work.

But something about her attitude just rubbed me the wrong way. I also struggle with excessive guilt, and I can relate to some of the things that she feels bad about. But I didn't get any solace from this. Whether or not each item that Auslander draws about is valid, it always feels hugely overdramatic. In most cases I found myself wishing she would either adjust her behavior or be kinder to herself. Easier said than done, I know. But ultimately this is great as an exercise; not so great as a graphic novel.

Thank you to Netgalley and Blue Rider Press for providing me with a copy of this book in return for an honest review.
Profile Image for Kate.
2,051 reviews78 followers
February 25, 2017
***Received copy of eArc thru Edelweiss***

Perhaps eArc was not the best format to review this in. I usually read most eArcs on my cell phone, but the graphics were so tiny that I had to use my ereader (no big deal, and honestly, graphic novels/mangas/comics are better in physical form anyway). The point is, that I may have missed some of the content because of the weird format.

As somebody that has a lot of anxiety, and is an extreme people pleaser, I could relate to this book. I feel bad for a lot of my thoughts and actions, and sometimes I feel bad that I feel bad... it's a vicious cycle.

Auslander really lays it all out there for the reader- showing the worst of herself (and of all of us) with frazzled graphics and snarky comments.

The downsides is that it's pretty negative, which for is both validating (I think that too!) and depressing (because, really, I do that too). But sometimes it's nice to know that there's other people that are just as messed up as you out there.
Profile Image for Amanda.
1,469 reviews65 followers
February 17, 2017
Thank you to Netgally, PENGUIN GROUP Blue Rider Press & Plume, Blue Rider Press, and Orli Auslander for this advanced copy for an honest review.

I'm definitely feeling like I can waffle on this edition. I wasn't entirely in love with the art and a good portion of the topics or the graphics that were done with it, but then there were sudden ones that my heart swelled and felt smashed because of the familiarity. I think everyone can recognize the one about baggage, about how we feel family has failed us/we have failed family (both hitting at once).

Several of the issues get deeper as we get past the halfway point, touching on the internalized guilt of our society over recycling/world health, parenting, protesting/self-defense, having a period, motherhood, politeness, and marriage. There are definitely familiar and even schadenfreude moments you'll find yourself associating with your life as you go through this one.
Profile Image for Lillia (pages-and-petals).
36 reviews8 followers
February 11, 2017
First of all, keeping an "I Feel Bad" notebook is absolutely genius. I wish they sold them in stores so that the first page could be about how I felt bad about being too lazy to make my own.

Now, I can't fully relate to everything in this book, but I sure as hell carry my own fair share of foul moods and passed blames. I totally judged a book by its cover, somewhere alond the lines of "Wow, this person feels bad? I feel bad, too. I can't wait to feel emotionally connected to this author I will never meet." And through the majority, it was a funny and light read. Don't go into this book expecting a narrative story, but instead something you can thumb through to make your PTA meeting go a little bit faster.

NOTE: I received an ARC copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Profile Image for Eve.
168 reviews6 followers
February 20, 2017
3.5 stars
This was hilarious and what many women think even if we won't admit it out loud. I enjoyed the down and dirty drawing style - quick but still expressive. Some of the thoughts and ideas do become repetitive, so it's best to not read it in one sitting. There are many "feel bads" that are exact opposites of each other, and it feels like some ideas were presented simply to get up to the nice round number of 100. Hence the down grading of stars to 3.5 out of 5. It also deals A LOT with family, which is great for many women, since they have kids, are married, etc. but half the book is far less relevant to single gals. Still funny and recommended, and I give her credit for portraying and talking about things many women still shy away from discussing so frankly.
Profile Image for Shruti Ramanujam.
227 reviews70 followers
September 4, 2020
I'm giving this book 4 beautiful stars! If I didn't, I'd feel bad. :P

It's a small book, with several illustrations. I was able to finish it within a train ride, on the way to work. The illustrations are about all the things that make Orli feel bad. Some of them were extremely relatable, such as her being suspicious of everyone.

I would like to recommend this book to all women, particularly mothers, for there are some illustrations that mothers would be able to relate to more than us.

My only problem with the book was that it ended too soon. I would love to see more of this author's works!

I received a free copy of this book through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
Profile Image for Amanda.
26 reviews7 followers
March 16, 2017
Thanks to Netgalley.com for providing me with an advanced reader copy in exchange for an honest review

This was okay! Each page or example of why the author "feels bad" is very personal and oriented around her life and her experiences, which is fine! I couldn't personally associate the emotions with too many of my own life experiences, but I can empathize. I did enjoy her crude illustrations, though. I felt like they accurately portrayed what she listed as each I Feel Bad #_ header.
Overall, this very personal journey was a fun one to take with the author, albeit a bit dark! Her images were thick with sarcasm, though, so it was easy to laugh along with her!
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