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To Have and to Hold

3.63  ·  Rating details ·  25,001 ratings  ·  607 reviews
What happens when your Prince Charming turns out not to be so charming after all? In To Have and To Hold, bestselling author Jane Green offers a sizzling, highly entertaining look at romantic relationships after we say “I do.”

Alice knows she should be happy. A charming twenty-eight-year-old with a successful catering business, she’s always dreamed of a rose-covered cottag
Paperback, 352 pages
Published March 1st 2005 by Broadway Books (first published December 31st 2002)
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Jan 31, 2010 rated it it was ok
Alice has married her high school crush and lives a life of luxury. She no longer works, gets her hair colored every 6 weeks, lunches with high society, and wears the latest fashions. One small problem: she isn’t herself. Also, her husband, Joe, is a womanizing cad, cheating on Alice every chance he can. When an affair with a co-worker goes awry, Alice and Joe move to the U.S., where Alice buys a cottage in the country. She begins to find herself through a love of gardening, and when her best fr ...more
After reading i was like WTF,making mockery of vows and friendship

the wife Alice was blind to all the signs which keeps nagging the wife that something is fishy,she keeps herself busy by socializing and in their country house,the hubby Joe just can't seem to have control on his lust ,seemed to be any woman who walked by he wanted to have sex with her,he is addicted to sex and seemed to me he might have missed out some therapy sessions in teens that is why now at age 38 he needed counseling and t
To Have and to Hold is a standalone, chick-lit novel written by author Jane Green. This story follows Alice and her seemingly "dream come true" life with her high school crush-now-husband Joe. How do you know if a relationship is healthy for you? Well I guess you would start off by not completely losing who you are in the process. Alice slowly comes to this realization as Joe's significant faults are discovered. However, Alice is not without her own faults, and her relationships with old and new ...more
May 05, 2012 rated it did not like it
Can you say love is blind? This book really drove me up the wall. It seemed so far fetched my head was spinning. Not only did it make a mockery out of friendships and loyalty, it made one out of the vows and love people are given. The heroine was a total dumb ass, she seemed oblivious to everything, I swear if a tornado went straight through her home, she wouldn't blink and eye or notice. The heroines husband was a arrogant gross pig which had me turning green sometimes. How the heck can you mar ...more
Just a bit of light reading for a change. Chic Lit.
Wife of a serial adulterer who has changed her into someone she is not wises up when they move to the USA. She finds a house in the country, finds a mind of her own and dumps him.
Miriam Moore
Apr 09, 2020 rated it liked it
Not a bad book but a book that was definitely written 15 years ago. I’m so glad that romance/fiction has moved away from the classic story line of man marries woman, man changes everything about woman, man cheats on woman and woman finally figures out that she has a backbone in the last 20 pages of the book and becomes happy. I like Jane Green and I liked this book but it didn’t have much substance
May 03, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book has been sitting in my tbr book pile for so long that I can't actually remember how I acquired it. I had never heard of Jane Green before I picked this up so I didn't know what to expect but I actually really enjoyed the book.

This book reminded me of one of those entertaining lower-budget films about love. The films that have sort-of famous actors; the movies that are so cheesy and clichéd but you enjoy them all the same because they just work. They're a little far-fetched and predict
Jun 20, 2012 rated it really liked it
Shelves: het
As frustrating as it was, I liked it. As many times as a screamed at the book, I couldn’t put it down. By clicking the link above, you find that the book is about Alice who wasted 6 years of her life married to an insecure man-child, Joe, who cheats on her repeatedly in the book with various (usually younger) women. She leads an unhappy life being someone her husbands wants to be in London, but finds herself in a small town suburb in Connecticut.

I’m not even going to try to be unbiased. I hate
Ange H
Jun 12, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Alice had a schoolgirl crush on Joe. When she runs into him years later he's still gorgeous, rich, charming. And he's ready to settle down - with Alice! She can hardly believe her luck. And starting with the wedding, she changes every single thing about herself to be what Joe wants.

This was an excellent read; intelligent chick-lit. The characters were real and believable. Even the lying, philandering husband and the women willing to cheat with a married man are portrayed with a degree of sympat
Oct 08, 2007 rated it did not like it
Recommends it for: die-hard chickliteers
Oh the hilarity.

I have been known to love Jane Green. Jemima J is great, and several others have excellent characters and moments.

But this was too much. Wish I could remember the specific horrors right now, but needless to say it was far more caricature-y than usual and everyone in it was stupid and unsympathetic.

I guess I learned don't marry for money and try to be someone you're not? haha.

Reading this back to back with Erica Jong's mid-life account of Connecticut divorced life (Parachutes and
Dec 22, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2020, audio-books
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Helena Wildsmith
There's something so moreish about Jane Green's books and this one was no different! In fact, I'd have quite happily devoured all this in one sitting. If you love to be totally immersed in lovely thick dreamy books that are beautifully written - this is the one for you. ...more
Rea Cobb
May 30, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I am a huge fan of Jane Green books, with bookends being my favourite. When I was in the library I saw Spellbound which is a book of Jane Green which I have yet to read and obviously I couldn't walk over it.

The main character in Spellbound is Alice who you instantly warm to in Green's clever way of introducing you to her characters. Alice is married to Joe who I instantly disliked he moulds Alice into his ideal trophy wife encouraging her to dye her hair blonde and lose weight and wear designer
Jun 28, 2008 rated it it was amazing
My absolute favorite of Jane Green's books. The plot isn't so much what makes me love this book, but the scenery is so descriptive, so lovely...this is a book that you read just to luxuriate in the setting. You can almost smell the cool country air, and become immersed in the small town buzz. It made me want to paint, to draw, to lock myself away in the country, and bake homemade pastries, while enjoying a women's group book club, followed by antiquing and a great cup of coffee!

Joe is such a wom
Kelly 💜☕️
I picked up this older paperback at my local library... By some random coincidence, I keep reading books about cheating in marriages! It's not saying anything about my own relationship and actually makes me feel a bit more secure in my own marriage. This was a light read and interesting to see how the dynamics of marriage can change as the people change. It also shows that you should be upfront about yourself before marriage and also shouldn't try to change people from their natural tendencies. ...more
Jocelyn (foxonbooks)
Enjoyable, predictable and perfectly readable, this was good chick-lit and perfect for plane trips
Jan 11, 2020 rated it did not like it
Shelves: abandoned
The story about a trophy wife did not hold my interest. Perhaps I am no longer interested in reading chick- lit of this theme; however, I will select another book by the author.
Hannah Polley
3.5 stars would be more accurate but I am feeling generous.

I have read this book so many times as I was first given it as a teenager and I have always enjoyed it.

Lovely Alice has married her teenage crush, the handsome Joe. After Joe’s indiscretions at work force them to make a fresh start in America, Alice finally finds herself and leaves her cheating husband.

It is an easy read and has a nice happy ending, however, I do feel that both Alice and Joe need more depth to them as characters. From th
Mar 29, 2020 rated it liked it
Exactly the kind of escapist read I needed
Dec 18, 2013 rated it liked it
1) To Have and To Hold
2) Jane Green
3) This book is about a very unhappily married trophy wife named Alice. She is married to a very sucessful bussiness man Joe and they live in London. Joe is having affairs with other women,his work finds out and he is then relocated to the United States.At first when they arrive in the United States their relatioship is better than ever, but then Alice finds e-mails from Joise whom Joe was seeing in London who has now moved to the United States.
4) One theme f
For chick lit, it wasn't bad. It kept me entertained when I listened to it on the way to and from work. I enjoyed the fact that the main character lost her identity in her marriage but regained it again when she realized her marriage wasn't working. I appreciated how she grew as a person. There was one bit that bothered me about the book and that was the feeble attempt to tell parts of the story from the husband's point of view. The guy was a major philanderer and if the story were truly told th ...more
Dec 13, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
2.25 stars
I... Don't know how to review such books. I mean it wasn't bad, but I didn't enjoy it either.
Neither did I want to put it down. Like what do I even say about such books?
We know before getting into the story that guy is unfaithful. But you don't exactly get mad at him... You just don't care about him one way or the other.
The girl. Woman, I mean. You can say that this is the story of her finding out her true happiness lies in making herself happy, but we already knew that. She already
Feb 03, 2014 rated it really liked it
I think a lot of readers would think of this as chick lit. I saw beyond that as a sign of the culture of greed we live in. Joe is one of the most despicable characters I've encountered in fiction. I don't think he had a sex addiction. I think he had a Joe addiction. He was never satisfied with what he had. He couldn't understand Alice's enjoyment in gardening and the simple things in life like walking for the sake of walking and appreciating nature. He couldn't appreciate the cottage; he wanted ...more
Dec 22, 2011 rated it liked it
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Feb 17, 2013 rated it did not like it
Dear Elise,
Do you love characters who tie themselves into knots sublimating their thoughts and feelings to satisfy others? Are you interested in a protagonist who abdicates all responsibility for her life by letting her husband dictate the minutiae of her existence? What if I said, there is absolutely no textual evidence that would suggest this husband is remotely worth the extraordinary efforts of said protagonist. Hmm? Somehow, I did not think so.
If you were very cold and on the point of hypot
Jul 10, 2009 rated it it was ok
Shelves: adult-fiction
I read one book by Jane Green that I loved, but everyone since then has been just okay and this is a "just okay" book. It was somewhat entertaining, but pretty predictable. And the Joe character is such a slimeball, you just want to ask Alice why she would even be interested in the first place. Though the book does end happily for Alice, I really wanted something awful to happen to Joe, but no, he just moves on to wreck havoc on other women's lives. I think I may have to give up on Jane Green, e ...more
Oct 24, 2011 rated it liked it
Not one of my favorite Jane Green books. I hated the husband--how can you have any respect for someone like him? And I felt like I should've had sympathy for the wife, but I didn't. I felt like she was weak--not just for overlooking his BS, but also for completly molding herself into what he wanted her to be. I wish there had been at least one character that I felt a little sympathetic to other than the dog!

Overall I felt like this book was a good example of how not to live your life--in more wa
Mar 27, 2008 rated it really liked it
I read a ton of mixed reviews on this book, so I was a little leary about it, but I must say I really enjoyed. I love how the main character was able to find the happiness she deserved and be herself!
Apr 12, 2016 rated it liked it
The basic story of a woman loosing her marriage, by finding herself.

Enjoyable enough, but wanted more. Not more pages (there were plenty of those), a more explainable love. I didn't feel the connection between relationships, any of them.

Jess (The Lives of A Reader)
*Actual Rating: 3.5*

Addicting and compelling. This one knew just how to evoke certain emotions from me, particularly anger. Also, the narrator was quite enjoyable to listen to.
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Jane Green's eighteenth novel, Falling, is soon to be released with Berkley/Penguin; she is the author of sixteen previous New York Times Bestselling novels, and known as one of the world's leading authors in women's fiction, with over ten million books in print, and translations in over 25 languages.

Previous novels have included The Beach House, Second Chance, Jemima J, and Tempting Fate.

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