Blindsided By His Betrayal: Surviving the Shock of Your Husband's Infidelity

by Caroline Madden

2017 LONDON BOOK FEST -Honorable Mention
2017 BEST BOOK AWARDS FEST-Finalist
Your husband cheated on you, and now you don’t recognize yourself.
You used to be so together, so trusting. Now you’re falling apart and doing things you would have never even considered doing, such
You’re scared. Angry. Obsessive. Devastated.
One minute, you hope your marriage will make it. The next minute, you want to kill him. (And the other woman, too.)
All of this makes you feel like you are losing it. Sometimes you worry that you are going crazy. You wonder if you’ll ever be the same again.
You are NOT crazy! You are having a normal reaction to being blindsided by your husband’s betrayal! Your reactions are completely rational and expected responses to such a painful experience.
This book will help you figure out what to do as you deal with these explosive emotions. It’s important that you understand that your feelings—erratic and unpredictable as they may be—are normal. You need to understand why you feel the things you feel and what to do with those feelings.
Dr. Caroline Madden, infidelity recovery expert and licensed marriage therapist
The suggestions provided here will help you get through this difficult time, whether or not you stay in your marriage. It is geared towards helping you deal with your tumultuous emotions so that you can make sound decisions regarding next steps.
Buy “Blindsided By His Betrayal” and feel better.

90 pages, Paperback

First published April 26, 2016

Reviews

[Maggie61]

For the most part, this book was spot on. It is a trauma that many people don’t understand. Your world has been turned upside down, and you feel so alone. Nobody knows what the betrayed spouse has gone through unless they themselves had the same experience. Friends, family; they all mean well and want to be supportive but their understanding is limited. Every betrayed spouse needs to know that what they are feeling is normal. They need to treat it as a trauma because it is a trauma. They need to grieve and scream and cry and deal with it in a healthy way. I agreed with most of what was in the book except a couple of things towards the end in regards to adult children and the AP’s husband. But that’s just my opinion; others may feel differently. This is a quick read that packs a lot of very relevant and helpful information. I’d give it a 4.5.

[Gretchen Baskerville]

I love this book, and I will recommend it to women who go through the horror, anger, and confusion of discovering their husband’s infidelity. This book helps women deal with the initial shock of discovery day (D-Day), how to handle their anger, deal with their fears, the walk through the shock of discovering their marriage was not what they thought.

With easy-to-understand writing and practical advice, Dr. Carline Madden walks you through the avalanche of feelings. Dr. Madden has focused much of her counseling practice on couples facing adultery and the aftermath; she knows what works and what doesn’t. Her book is short and easy to read. It is packed with tips based on years of experience. She'll help you avoid the common mistakes women make when faced with the reality.

She guides you through the pain of initial discovery and helps you understand what an affair means (and what it does not mean). She helps you determine if this is the type of situation where there’s hope for reconciliation or not.

And she helps calm you down so you can think clearly and have a game plan for the future, for example:
- What should you say to your spouse, and what shouldn’t you say?
- What steps should you take? For example, should you confront the Other Woman or tell the Other Woman’s husband? (No, and she gives you three reasons why you shouldn’t.)
- What questions should you ask your husband about the affair, and what questions should you let go?
- What changes should you expect to see in him in order to determine if it’s safe to reconcile?
- 7 things you be tempted to do, but should really avoid at all costs! (For example, telling all your family and friends about the affair.)
- What to do if you’ve constantly obsessed with checking your husband’s phone and email and tracking his every move?
- How to work through your own trauma. Plus…
- 11 Tips to save your sanity

This book will change you from being stuck in shock, or numbness, or anger, to being a person who makes good decisions with self-respect and clear thinking.

[Sylvia Y. Briones]

The best book

This is a extraordinay book it really help me and if you are in this horrible place after your husband cheats on you, this is a great book!, really helpful

[Anita]

𝖲𝗈𝗆𝖾𝗍𝗂𝗆𝖾𝗌 𝗂𝗍 𝗐𝖾𝖺𝗋𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗌𝖺𝗆𝖾 𝗌𝗆𝗂𝗅𝖾, 𝗌𝗉𝖾𝖺𝗄𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗌𝖺𝗆𝖾 𝗐𝗈𝗋𝖽𝗌, 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝖿𝗈𝗅𝗅𝗈𝗐𝗌 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗌𝖺𝗆𝖾 𝗋𝗈𝗎𝗍𝗂𝗇𝖾𝗌, 𝗎𝗇𝗍𝗂𝗅 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝖼𝗋𝖺𝖼𝗄𝗌 𝗌𝗍𝖺𝗋𝗍 𝗍𝗈 𝗌𝗁𝗈𝗐. 𝖥𝗈𝗋 𝗆𝖾, 𝗍𝗁𝗈𝗌𝖾 𝖼𝗋𝖺𝖼𝗄𝗌 𝗐𝖾𝗋𝖾 𝗅𝖺𝗍𝖾-𝗇𝗂𝗀𝗁𝗍 𝗆𝖾𝗌𝗌𝖺𝗀𝖾𝗌, 𝗎𝗇𝖾𝗑𝗉𝗅𝖺𝗂𝗇𝖾𝖽 𝖾𝗋𝗋𝖺𝗇𝖽𝗌, 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝖺 𝗌𝗎𝖽𝖽𝖾𝗇 𝗌𝗁𝗂𝖿𝗍 𝗂𝗇 𝗉𝗋𝗂𝗈𝗋𝗂𝗍𝗂𝖾𝗌.
𝖨 𝖽𝗂𝖽𝗇’𝗍 𝗐𝖺𝗇𝗍 𝗍𝗈 𝖺𝖼𝗍 𝗈𝗇 𝗌𝗎𝗌𝗉𝗂𝖼𝗂𝗈𝗇 𝖺𝗅𝗈𝗇𝖾, 𝗌𝗈 𝖨 𝖺𝗌𝗄𝖾𝖽 𝖿𝗈𝗋 𝗁𝖾𝗅𝗉 𝖿𝗋𝗈𝗆 𝗌𝗈𝗆𝖾𝗈𝗇𝖾 𝗐𝗁𝗈 𝖼𝗈𝗎𝗅𝖽 𝗌𝖾𝖾 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗌𝗂𝗍𝗎𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇 𝗐𝗂𝗍𝗁𝗈𝗎𝗍 𝖾𝗆𝗈𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝖺𝗅 𝖻𝗂𝖺𝗌.
𝖳𝗁𝖾 𝖼𝗅𝖺𝗋𝗂𝗍𝗒 𝖨 𝗀𝖺𝗂𝗇𝖾𝖽 𝗐𝖺𝗌 𝖻𝗈𝗍𝗁 𝗁𝖾𝖺𝗋𝗍𝖻𝗋𝖾𝖺𝗄𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝖿𝗋𝖾𝖾𝗂𝗇𝗀. 𝖨 𝖼𝗈𝗎𝗅𝖽 𝖿𝗂𝗇𝖺𝗅𝗅𝗒 𝗌𝗍𝗈𝗉 𝗌𝖾𝖼𝗈𝗇𝖽-𝗀𝗎𝖾𝗌𝗌𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗆𝗒𝗌𝖾𝗅𝖿 𝖺𝗇𝖽 𝗌𝗍𝖺𝗋𝗍 𝗆𝗈𝗏𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝖿𝗈𝗋𝗐𝖺𝗋𝖽.
𝖨𝖿 𝗒𝗈𝗎’𝗏𝖾 𝖻𝖾𝖾𝗇 𝗅𝗂𝗏𝗂𝗇𝗀 𝗐𝗂𝗍𝗁 𝗊𝗎𝗂𝖾𝗍 𝖽𝗈𝗎𝖻𝗍𝗌, 𝗄𝗇𝗈𝗐 𝗍𝗁𝗂𝗌: 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗍𝗋𝗎𝗍𝗁 𝗆𝗂𝗀𝗁𝗍 𝗁𝗎𝗋𝗍, 𝖻𝗎𝗍 𝗂𝗍 𝗐𝗂𝗅𝗅 𝖺𝗅𝗌𝗈 𝗌𝖾𝗍 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝖿𝗋𝖾𝖾 𝗂𝗇 𝗐𝖺𝗒𝗌 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝖼𝖺𝗇’𝗍 𝗂𝗆𝖺𝗀𝗂𝗇𝖾 𝗎𝗇𝗍𝗂𝗅 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗁𝖺𝗏𝖾 𝗂𝗍.
𝚃𝚑𝚎 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚝𝚑 𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚋𝚞𝚛𝚗 𝚋𝚎𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚒𝚝 𝚋𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚙𝚎𝚊𝚌𝚎.👇

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[Viola]

𝖠𝗍 𝖿𝗂𝗋𝗌𝗍, 𝖨 𝖻𝗋𝗎𝗌𝗁𝖾𝖽 𝗈𝖿𝖿 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗅𝗂𝗍𝗍𝗅𝖾 𝖼𝗁𝖺𝗇𝗀𝖾𝗌 𝖨 𝗇𝗈𝗍𝗂𝖼𝖾𝖽, 𝗅𝖺𝗍𝖾-𝗇𝗂𝗀𝗁𝗍 𝗆𝖾𝗌𝗌𝖺𝗀𝖾𝗌, 𝗎𝗇𝖾𝗑𝗉𝗅𝖺𝗂𝗇𝖾𝖽 𝖺𝖻𝗌𝖾𝗇𝖼𝖾𝗌, 𝖺 𝗌𝗎𝖽𝖽𝖾𝗇 𝗇𝖾𝖾𝖽 𝗍𝗈 𝗄𝖾𝖾𝗉 𝗍𝗁𝖾𝗂𝗋 𝗉𝗁𝗈𝗇𝖾 𝖼𝗅𝗈𝗌𝖾. 𝖡𝗎𝗍 𝗍𝗁𝗈𝗌𝖾 “𝗌𝗆𝖺𝗅𝗅” 𝗍𝗁𝗂𝗇𝗀𝗌 𝖻𝖾𝗀𝖺𝗇 𝗍𝗈 𝖺𝖽𝖽 𝗎𝗉.
𝖨 𝖽𝗂𝖽𝗇’𝗍 𝗐𝖺𝗇𝗍 𝗍𝗈 𝗋𝗂𝗌𝗄 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗋𝖾𝗅𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝗌𝗁𝗂𝗉 𝗐𝗂𝗍𝗁 𝖺𝖼𝖼𝗎𝗌𝖺𝗍𝗂𝗈𝗇𝗌, 𝗌𝗈 𝖨 𝖽𝖾𝖼𝗂𝖽𝖾𝖽 𝗍𝗈 𝖿𝗂𝗇𝖽 𝗈𝗎𝗍 𝖿𝗈𝗋 𝗌𝗎𝗋𝖾. 𝖶𝗂𝗍𝗁 𝖽𝗂𝗌𝖼𝗋𝖾𝖾𝗍 𝗁𝖾𝗅𝗉, 𝖨 𝗀𝗈𝗍 𝖺𝗇𝗌𝗐𝖾𝗋𝗌 𝖨 𝖼𝗈𝗎𝗅𝖽𝗇’𝗍 𝗂𝗀𝗇𝗈𝗋𝖾.
𝖨𝗍 𝗁𝗎𝗋𝗍, 𝖻𝗎𝗍 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗍𝗋𝗎𝗍𝗁 𝖺𝗅𝗌𝗈 𝗀𝖺𝗏𝖾 𝗆𝖾 𝖻𝖺𝖼𝗄 𝖼𝗈𝗇𝗍𝗋𝗈𝗅 𝗈𝗏𝖾𝗋 𝗆𝗒 𝗅𝗂𝖿𝖾.
𝖨𝖿 𝗒𝗈𝗎’𝗋𝖾 𝗌𝗍𝗎𝖼𝗄 𝗂𝗇 𝗍𝗁𝖺𝗍 𝗅𝗂𝗆𝖻𝗈 𝗈𝖿 𝗇𝗈𝗍 𝗄𝗇𝗈𝗐𝗂𝗇𝗀, 𝗋𝖾𝗆𝖾𝗆𝖻𝖾𝗋: 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝖺𝗇𝗌𝗐𝖾𝗋𝗌 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝖿𝖾𝖺𝗋 𝗆𝗂𝗀𝗁𝗍 𝖻𝖾 𝖾𝗑𝖺𝖼𝗍𝗅𝗒 𝗍𝗁𝖾 𝗈𝗇𝖾𝗌 𝗒𝗈𝗎 𝗇𝖾𝖾𝖽.
𝚃𝚑𝚎 𝚝𝚛𝚞𝚝𝚑 𝚒𝚜𝚗'𝚝 𝚊𝚕𝚠𝚊𝚢𝚜 𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚎, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚒𝚝 𝚐𝚞𝚒𝚍𝚎𝚜 𝚞𝚜 𝚝𝚘𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚍 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐. Find out the truth

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[Gertrud]

Short and concise

Dr. madden really knows her stuff. Her writing is precise and to the point.
She talks about the feelings you are probably experiencing, how you can best help your self move on.

[Debora Hadeen]

A quick but invaluable read if you are in this situation. To the point steps to take when this information becomes known, and more importantly, what not to do. How to make decisions at your own pace.

[Lacey Bachman]

This book was spot on. Easy read and helped to provide some insight from a professional.