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"You're in the Wrong Bathroom!": And 20 Other Myths and Misconceptions about Transgender and Gender-Nonconforming People

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Debunks the twenty-one most common myths and misperceptions about transgender issues
From Laverne Cox to Caitlyn Jenner to Thomas Beattie ( the pregnant man ) to transgender youth, coverage of transgender lives has been exploding over the last few years. Despite being prolifically covered in the media, much misinformation about the trans community persists. Bringing
Paperback, 200 pages
Published September 1st 2017 by Beacon Press
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Stephie Williams
Dec 13, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I found the book interesting and informative. Unfortunately, I could not find my notes to make my usual comments, and it was a library book that has been returned.

Still, I can testify to my experience involving the myths covered in the book from the Amazon look inside feature set at the table of contents.

[Myth 1] Never met another transgender person is false because I have indeed met at least one, and have seen others in public which appeared trans, but of course, I could be wrong in these
Sep 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book is well-written and broken up into easily digestible chunks, but I found it difficult to read for other reasons.

This book is by trans women who are medical professionals. It's grounded in the history of the movement, research studies, and more recent events. It does incorporate dated terminology in service of describing each myth as people heard it, which I think is effective in terms of reaching the target audience. I'm glad I read it because it's given me a greater understanding of
Jun 09, 2017 rated it liked it
Good info, perhaps too academic As it is now LGBT Pride Month it seemed like this would be a good book to read. In light of the hysteria over transgender people using what bathrooms the title and book seemed quite apt for giving people much needed information. 
The book is basically what it says on the tin: the authors look at 21 myths about transgender people. Some are probably familiar to the reader: that transgender people use the "wrong" bathroom if they don't "look" a certain way, that
Sophie Lynne
Jul 25, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Written in easy to understand language (but maybe too difficult for a Republican congressman) this book discusses popular misconceptions about transgender people.

For cisgender people, especially loved ones and allies, this book is an invaluable source of information.

For transpeople who are learning about themselves, it is a crucial read. The resources section at the end of the book is worth its weight in gold-pressed latinum- for all transpeople and their allies.

I discovered nothing new in the
Ai Miller
First off, I have to say that I received this book through the LibraryThing Early Reviewers program, and I am grateful to the publisher for the copy of this book.

I will say that I did not have super high hopes for this, mostly because I haven't seen a kind of 'introduction to transgender' done well before, but this surprised me with its nuance! The authors do a pretty decent job of painting trans people as more than a monolith, and always leave room for a lot of difference within the community,
Aug 13, 2017 rated it it was amazing
As someone who is transgender, the information in this book really rang true for me; these are really the sentiments/myths I've encountered when talking to cisgender people, well-meaning and otherwise.

The authors did a great job presenting what transwomen experience...although, yes, the experiences of transmen weren't dealt with as well. I don't fault them much for that. It's really hard for one side of the community to explain the experiences of the other. If they write a revised edition later
Sep 07, 2017 rated it liked it
I met my first trans person in 1983. He was the best man at the wedding and all over one of the bridesmaids. He was dark, swarthy, with middle-eastern looks, heavy black eye brows, lots of chest curls climbing out of his shirt top. Later, my friends told me he often dressed in women's clothing and secretly wanted to be a woman. WHAT? I soon saw him again dressed and made up as a woman and we had an uncomfortable dinner with him. He looked like a Halloween idea gone terribly wrong. Since then, ...more
Nov 24, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: queer
Let's say it's not ahead of its times, but it's a useful repository of ideas. And it should reveal helpful and informative as a first foray into transness for complete novices. But be warned that this is a dry, if easy to read, cataloguing of all the different ways one can experience each aspect of transness. This, I assume, is for the sake of nuance, but what it really does is kill all nuance and flow.

More importantly, I was uncomfortable with the tone of the book, without being able to exactly
Nov 26, 2017 rated it really liked it
This book is very well-written. Manageable chapters, broken up by myth, and grounded in historical context. I found it to be a humbling read and uncomfortable in some places. It's troubling to know that I have bought into some of these myths. I'm happy to have had the chance to read this and will continue to keep learning.
Jul 06, 2018 rated it it was ok
most of the myths were things anyone who has access to the internet & actively is trying to educate themselves would know about, so nothing really new. the author's style was very dry & not engaging so it was hard to keep up with the book & to want to read it. i think if you know next to nothing then this book is for you but there were statements i wasn't really fond of & found it insulting the author was acting like the LGB parts are more accepted when that's still not the
Gin Jenny (Reading the End)
Sep 24, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, ownvoices
Such a wonderful 101-level book that debunks important myths about transgender and gender non-conforming folks. I love Beacon Press for doing this series, and "You're in the Wrong Bathroom" is a terrific installment.
Virginia Aguirre
Mar 25, 2020 rated it it was ok
I read this to better understand what my daughter was experiencing and, therefore, support her. What I liked is that it gave us some interesting points of discussion. What I found frustrating is that it purports to explain an experience in one way. It would have been more helpful to have more people discuss their experiences. I found that there were a number of sections that did not reflect her or her friends experiences. It would have helped if the author had either broadened their sources of ...more
Demetria Dolgorukova
Apr 10, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book, which I received through the LibraryThing Early Reviewers program, is an excellent resource for educators. The matter of fact tone is appropriate for both adolescent and adult audiences. Short, tightly focused chapters balance readability with historical and social science references. Referenced works are fully cited in the back matter of the book, providing a strong basis for further inquiry, without impacting the clear nature of the text, or cluttering the body of the book with ...more
Emma T. Clement
May 28, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: feminism
This book not only included fascinating history on transgender and gender nonconforming people, but it also included very informative and helpful information on all aspects of transgender people and the society we all live in. I feel like I am more understanding of the transgender people I have met in my life, and I feel like a stronger LGBTQA+ ally after reading this book.
Published in 2017, this book still offers some great information about opening up one's eyes and ideas of Transgender. It also offers short (several page) explanations of these 20 myths and misconceptions:
They include:
-"you've never met one"
-"trans people want to be barbie or ken"
-"you're not which gender you say if you haven't had anatomical surgery"
-"trans people are secretive or liars"
-"trans people are trapped in the wrong body"
-"trans people are secretly gay"
-"it is rude to ask"
Jul 30, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is a wonderfully written book. I would have liked a glossary of some of the terms as I got a bit confused on some and had to try and find the explanation in past chapters. Other than that bit, I was well pleased with how the book was edited.
Each chapter is a myth that I know causes consternation in the conservative world. The reader may already know quite a bit, or think they do. But this will help explain in clear concise language what might be going through the transgender person's mind
Jul 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Youre in the Wrong Bathroom: And 20 Other Myths and Misconceptions about Transgender and Gender-Nonconforming People by Laura Erickson-Schroth and Laura A. Jacobs is a timely exploration and debunking of many of the myths and fallacies about transgender people. Its written in a very readable style with each question making up an individual chapter. The authors are open and honest about each question and while readers may be familiar with many of the concepts discussed, there is likely to be new ...more
Sep 15, 2018 rated it really liked it
This is a good starter book to demystify Trans and Gender-nonconforming people. The title of the book is so on point, because Gender-nonconforming people, whether trans or not, are always the target of the gender police in public bathrooms. They routinely get harassed, questioned or even removed from the bathroom.

However, there are definitely a lot of myths around Trans and Non-conforming people, and the narrative of so many out there just helps to perpetuate some people's ignorance. So, if you
Aug 11, 2019 rated it really liked it
An informative and important read, that discusses the overt, and subtle, myths surrounding transgender people. Written by a trans woman and a medical professional, the statistics and anecdotes are equal parts experience and research.

"Fears of trans women as sexual predators stems from myths about trans women transitioning for sexual gratification. Trans men, on the other hand, are often assumed to transition in order to obtain the privileges of male status in a patriarchal society. This
Aug 29, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, lgbtqi, 2017
"You're in the Wrong Bathroom" contains a bunch of short essays each confronting different commonly-held myths about transgender and gender-nonconforming folks. It is a very quick read, and quite informative. If you've heard a lot about "bathroom bills" and don't know what the fuss is about, or maybe you've heard about the recent Trump ban on trans folks serving in the military, and you're interested in finding out more about transgender and gender-nonconforming lives, this would be a great ...more
Andy Oram
Oct 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: gender
This is a very useful book. I learned quite a bit, even though I talk to transgender people and their family members a lot and have read other books on these topics. It will probably need frequent revision, given the evolution in legal and political trends, sociological knowledge about gender non-binary people, and terminology. One virtue of the book is consiseness. Along with that goes comprehensiveness: you get a lot of ideas and statistics in a small space, the authors making each point ...more
Jan 05, 2020 rated it really liked it
This book was assigned for a class and I thought it was really well written! It challenged my core knowledge base behind many of these myths and really helped me develop ways to challenge these myths in real life in an educated, calm and collected way.

I definitely recommend this to people who have a trans or gender non-conforming person in their lives and want to learn more about the trans community. I also recommend this to people who wish to learn how to have cohesive thoughts when discussing
Jun 26, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I think the book was a informative and timely book. It discussed the attitudes and misconceptions many people have over the transgender that live amoung us. I believe this book will help people who think somehow transgendered are to be feared and see they are no different than you or me. They just dream and right to be of living to be who they are. I was impressed so I donated it to the head of psychology at my local mental health center for use by clinicians and clients.
Jun 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: history, sociology
A brisk read, this book examines various myths about transgender and gender nonconforming people. The book is organized by examination of various myths and ideas. For example, Myth 14 (and thus, chapter 14) explores the myth that Trans people are mentally ill and therapy can change them. For me, especially intriguing were the sections of the book devoted to history and culture. I also loved the resources found in back of the book including books for further reading.
Mar 25, 2018 rated it liked it
Good intro for cis people and great resource list in the back. Took some odd turns (such as a large amount of real estate allocated to BDSM in one of the chapters) and some gaps (no mention of asexuality as an orientation), but overall likely a good first book for someone who is confused and looking for a place to start.
Jan 19, 2018 rated it it was amazing
If you're not familiar with the contemporary and confusing world of gender this is a great book to get some answers. You probably know someone who is transgendered or gender-nonconforming so this title could be very helpful.
Gold Dust
Nov 16, 2018 rated it really liked it
The title sounds playful, but the text is serious and seems to be aimed at adults who have a college education. It mentions studies to back up its claims as it addresses several common thoughts about transgender people.
Dec 19, 2019 rated it it was amazing
I think everyone (cis/non trans, questioning, etc) should read this book to gain some deeper insight into the trans experience.

Very informative and helpful for those who want to be better allies. Fun and easy to read.
Jul 26, 2018 rated it really liked it
As an ally and friend of trans people, I thought I knew the issues pretty well. This book brought me a broader and deeper knowledge as well as challenging assumptions about the progress made in trans right. A great format for individual and groups.
Jackie Rogers
Jun 18, 2017 rated it it was ok
This book exposes myths of the transgender. Am seeking to understand these transgender folks. This book did not help me with that, but see the need to point out the myths. If you know or love a transgender this book will give insight. Thanks to Goodreads
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