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The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition

(5 Love Languages)

4.17  ·  Rating details ·  8,059 ratings  ·  753 reviews
This simple concept can revolutionize all your relationships!

With more than 10 million copies sold, The 5 Love Languages® continues to strengthen relationships worldwide. Although originally crafted for married couples, the love languages have proven themselves to be universal, whether in dating relationships, friendships, the family, or the workplace.

The premise is
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Published January 3rd 2017 by Northfield Publishing (first published July 1st 2001)
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Feb 14, 2010 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I didn't really learn anything in addition to the original "The Five Love Languages". I recommend just sticking with that book. The examples he gave were either people who were currently dating or past tense examples of relationships that have came to an end. This is helpful for identifying what your own or what other's love languages are or have been, but really does nothing to help the single person enter a new relationship. It really did not give a very positive outlook on dating, with dating ...more
Anna Marie
I was recommended this book by co-workers and students because they felt so profoundly that it helped them with building better relationships with friends and loved ones. There were a lot of concepts from this book that I really enjoyed; however, I wish I had been warned about the heavy Christian agenda behind some of the authors ideas. For me, the book would have been more effective if the Christian themes were left out or more generalized in nature.
This book is, essentially, the same as the original The Five Love Languages. Some of the examples are more fitting for unmarried folk and the illustrations also deal with different singles or dating couples he has come across throughout the years. Different chapters deal with how to love friends, roommates, coworkers, family members, siblings, and other relationships outside of romantic ones. Those chapters are mainly what distinguish this book from it's predecessor.

The main issue I had with
Mar 23, 2008 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Great theory--in fact, I think I buy into it in a pretty big way. I plan on applying some of the things I've read. He relates a great way of looking practically at how to relate better to people. That being said... I wouldn't recommend the book to most people for two reasons: 1. it is poorly written with extremely "hokey" examples, which makes it hard to take the theory seriously at points and 2. it's written from a very Christian perspective, which makes it sometimes difficult for many to ...more
Jan 30, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
When I was finished with this book, I felt as if everyone I know should read it or another version of it (not necessarily the "Singles" version.)

This book not only will undoubtedly help me understand future relationships, but it had me stop and examine the love languages of every member of my family, close friend.. I even went through and examined the love languages of colleagues. A total "a ha" moment was when I looked at the love languages of my parents. Prior behavior which I, at times, felt
Lydia Howe
Why I Choose this Book:

I was first introduced to the 5 Love Languages about six or seven years ago when I was in my late teens, and my world was literally changed. Around that time I read one of the 5 Love Languages books, but I'm not sure what edition. I figured it was time to do a refresher course, hence the reason for requesting this book.

What I Thought about this Book:

If I hadn't already known about the 5 Love Languages and a lot of the material in this book, I think I would have had
Amanda Tero
Apr 11, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I picked this up at a thrift store and thought it might would work well for character development for my stories. However, after reading into just the first chapter, I grabbed out a notebook and pencil for me to take notes for myself. The "Five Love Languages" explores five common ways that most people express love: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, physical touch. I have known about the five love languages for several years, but reading the book helped me to analyze ...more
I'm very happy to have finally read this book. I knew I would benefit from and enjoy learning about the love languages, and already agreed with what I had heard of them. What I wanted to gain most was a better understanding of each language and how to apply the knowledge in my life, especially as a single. So the version was perfect! Well-written and informative, the only reason I didn't read it fast enough was because there was much for me to contemplate, analyze, and set goals with. I'm pretty ...more
Ntombezinhle Nzama
I first read this book a few years ago and I found it to be life changing. I started reading it again just to remind myself of the concepts of the book. There are 5 love languages: 1. words of affirmation 2. Receiving gifts 3. Acts of service 4. Physical Touch 5. quality time. My primary love language is quality time followed by receiving gifts. Understanding the 5 love languages actually made me understand people better (as well as myself) and to be able to express love in a way that makes them ...more
So I may or may not have listened to this very quickly, because it was about to expire on OverDrive lol :P I think I definitely would have gotten more out of it had I physically read it haha It still was an interesting "read" though! I haven't had as much spare time lately to read, so that's why I have been doing audiobooks so I can multitask! xD Just makes it harder to retain the info sometimes...
Jun 09, 2009 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Ive had my eye on this one for a while because the authors love language concept resonates with me. Its simple and sensible but not widely applied. He explains that people give and receive love in five different ways (through words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and gifts) and that the best way to love someone is through their language rather than your own. Your well-meant gift might not mean as much as a word of encouragement and a hug to someone whose primary ...more
Jan 06, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
You can translate the fundamental teachings of this book to all relationships in your life - romantic love, friendship, and even professional relationships. I read in high school and am going to read his book, The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace which is specifically focused on professional relationships.

His concept is so simple yet has a profound impact on the way we understand and interpret relationships.
3.5 stars

I thought this had solid, though not groundbreaking, advice. It did make me think how I could improve my relationships with those around me which I'm going to follow through with.

2017 challenge: a book with career advice (this book contained information on how to improve your relationship with co-workers, so I'm counting it)
Jordy Leigh
Sep 26, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Five years ago, in the context of a volunteer team, I was introduced to "the five love languages." It's the concept that every expression of love falls into one of five basic categories. Now, for the first time, I read one of Gary Chapman's books on the subject, The 5 Love Languages: Singles Edition. It explores this concept from the viewpoint of various singles (never married, widowed, divorced). According to the Goodreads rating system, "it was amazing"that's 5/5 stars from me.

As an avid
Dec 06, 2011 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
This was a pretty easy read. Chapman uses good flow and all his arguments are smooth and organized. I found this book insightful in that I dont think I ever fully realized that people love and receive love in different ways. It is a bit difficult to see myself before learning what was in the book, but I think I tended to believe that some of the love languages were good and some were just superficial. This book changed my views on that and has helped me realize that people do actually receive ...more
Brent Soderstrum
Being a single who has had his struggles with the female gender I found this book very enlightening. This book isn't geared solely towards dating it also deals with friendships, work relationships, parents and your kids. Basically there are five types of love languages that we all speak and we each have one that is predominate. If you figure out what the person's love language is you can "speak" it to them and fill their love tank. The five love languages are 1) words of affirmation, 2) gifts, ...more
Oct 17, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
This book was unnecessarily long by about 100 pages. The example stories were boundless, banal and repetitive. I felt like I was reading a "Read 'The 5 Love Languages' book if you want your life to change forever!" manifesto from candidate Gary Chapman and I was an undecided voter. Every story culminated in the fact that it all worked out thanks to the book. I kept saying out loud "Alright already! You've got my vote!", in the hopes that it would magically take me to the conclusion of yet ...more
Jul 10, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Sometimes with this sort of book, the advice seems "airy-fairy" or unrealistic to me. However the love languages concept resonated with me,. I was able to see myself reflected. Even more significantly, I had a potentially difficult conversation coming up and this caused me to stop and rethink my approach and think that is the true mark of success. The book was able to apply to my life, and in a positive way.
Jul 13, 2009 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I think that the five love languages part was really good. The rest of the book was a lot of repeating etc...Like what I used to do when I needed to extend my college paper. Also not to fond of all the Christianity references OVER and OVER.

Overall helpful info, but could have done the same good if written in an article and not a book.
Mar 07, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This is an awesome book to help people not only have more meaningful and loving romantic relationships, but relationships in all areas (friends, family, children, etc). This is a MUST read for everyone. And it's less than 250 pages, so why not?
Feb 26, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I'm not usually that into self help / psychology books, but our book club read this and I found it well written, well thought out, and useful. Not just in terms of my marriage, but in terms of how I interact with my children, other family members, and even friends.
Sep 03, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Amazing how spot on this is...I am a believer!
Emma Haddock
Jan 19, 2020 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book should be renamed: The Five Love Languages for Cishet Christian Singles Whose Only Goal in Life Is to Get Married for the Purpose of Glorifying God (and if You Have Pre-Marital Sex or are in a Co-Habitating Relationship You are a Sinner and Will Likely Get Cheated on).

Do not recommend unless you want a relationship reminiscent of the 1950s.
Amanda Butler
Mar 11, 2014 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: No one who is truly single
I appreciate what Mr. Chapman discusses within his book. Having heard about the "Love Language" books, I had never read them, as they were mainly directed towards married couples or parents. Why should I - as a single woman - want to wade through yet another book dedicated to people who are in a stage of life that I was not, but desired to obtain and yet could not?
That being said, I was very excited that Mr. Chapman decided to address Christian Singles. However, I was severely disappointed with
This book has clarified some of my thinking and led me to consider new ideas. The section in chapter 11 entitled, "The Nature of Marital Unity" and the chapter for single parents were especially helpful.
Love can mature and grow as we work at it. It's the most worthy pursuit in life, whether single or married.
Jun 06, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recently out of a seven year relationship, I chose to pick up this book Ive heard so much about to re-evaluate how I show love to others and to question my own love language. I didnt know what to expect when I started The Five Love Languages, I just felt at this particular time in my life it would be a good read. There is much truth in the value of a book based on the seasons in ones life.

As stated above there are five love languages and these are not only how we prefer to be loved but also how
Um, too bad this book was primarily focused on nudging singles towards marriage.

Maybe my experience of 5 Love Languages for Singles was less charming because I listened to it via a generic audiobook male reader, versus Chapman's cheerful drawl. Perhaps because the gray morality that crops up in the initial book was made more apparent to me in this edition as the author instructs conventionally oriented straight people to respect their parents regardless of how the parent is treating them, avoid
Apr 16, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I had always heard people referencing this book as if everybody else was already aware or in tune with it's content and I just missed the meeting the day it was discussed. So I finally took the time and sought out the edition that suited my lifestyle the best. Ahem... the Single's edition. Being a night reader I tend to read only a couple chapters a night, pass out, then pick up where I left off the next night or even a couple nights later if I'm not really into the book. However, the five love ...more
Jane Arney
Jan 06, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: psychology
This made a lot of sense to me, though I do think our needs change, sometimes from day to day. Mine are words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch. None of these are a big surprise.
Mar 21, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2014
This book serves as a compliment to the original Five Love Languages which is geared toward married couples. Chapman does an excellent job at breaking things down simply without losing depth. It's a fast read and overall, I really enjoyed it. I picked it up because as someone who is single and dating it seemed like something that would be helpful.

I did have some issues with it though, which is why I gave it four stars not five. At times the author makes this book seem like the end all to be all
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Married more than 45 years to Karolyn, Dr. Gary Chapman is just the man to turn to for help on improving or healing our most important relationships. His own life experiences, plus over forty years of pastoring and marriage counseling, led him to publish his first book in the Love Language series, The 5 Love Languages®: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Millions of readers credit ...more

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