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Helper by Design: God's Perfect Plan for Women in Marriage

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There are few more contentious and heart-rending topics among women in the church than submission and what it means to be man's helper. Elyse Fitzpatrick believes that understanding this topic can bring about great freedom and a more meaningful relationship with Christ and your husband. In Helper By Design, she takes an in-depth theological look at what it means to be made ...more
Paperback, 224 pages
Published May 1st 2003 by Moody Publishers
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Rachel Schultz
Jul 31, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is a great book on marriage for women, and it made for good discussion in a women's book study group. I had to take a star off because the chapter on sexual intimacy was too narrow and therefore, I think, a bit unhelpful and even hurtful for women in different situations.
Jan 13, 2012 rated it it was amazing
This was wonderful! It was a great reminder that being our husband's helper is a holy calling that we have been designed to fill, all for our joy and most of all God's glory. Also, being submissive with a gentle and quiet spirit is precious in the sight of God. Definitely recommend!
Aug 11, 2011 rated it it was amazing
This is one of those books that I know I'm going to want to go back and re-read over the years -- so densely full of wisdom and common sense and excellent questions to be asked over and over again. The best part about Helper By Design, though, is how Fitzpatrick starts it - by showing her readers how they are imaging the Trinity and their Holy God through being helpers to their husband. There can be nothing undignified in that. Completely changed my thinking about the role God has called me to!
Beth Anne
Mar 22, 2011 rated it liked it
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This was a good book with a lot of practical marriage application. Ive read several other marriage books that I prefer and that I would re-read before picking this one up again. Nothing wrong with it, just not my favorite.
Cindi McMenamin
Jul 28, 2011 rated it it was amazing
I know Elyse Fitpatrick personally and have heard her speak several times. She has amazing insights and this book is one of the best I've read about how a wife is to be a 'helpmate' to her husband. I quoted her in my newest book "When a Woman Inspires Her Husband."
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Author of 20+ books on the Christian life and the gospel's impact on everyday living, Elyse is a frequent speaker at women's conferences nationally and internationally.

Elyse's ministry is summed up in these simple words: No fluff, No bricks, just the good news of a crucified and risen Christ.

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