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You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir

4.29  ·  Rating details ·  721 ratings  ·  140 reviews
Melissa Ohden is fourteen when she learns she is the survivor of a botched abortion. In this intimate memoir she details for the first time her search for her biological parents, and her own journey from anger and shame to faith and empowerment.
After a decade-long search Melissa finally locates her birth father and writes to extend forgiveness, only to learn that he has
Hardcover, 160 pages
Published January 9th 2017 by Plough Publishing House
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Feb 15, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2018, autobiography, women
A good friend promised me I would not be able to put this down. She was right. I finished it in a single sitting. It is a relatively slim read at 178 pages, but it is the subject matter and Melissa’s incredible life which make it impossible to put You Carried Me down.

Melissa Ohden was aborted … and yet she lived! She didn’t find out the truth about her ‘botched’ birth until she was 14. Can you imagine discovering as a teen amidst raging hormones, that the woman who conceived you, tried to get ri
C.E. Hart
Dec 29, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart” Jeremiah 1:5 (NIV)

I can’t imagine finding out I was the result of a botched abortion. Especially receiving this news during teenage years, when it’s more difficult to process things due to all the other emotional and physical changes going on.

Melissa Ohden does a spectacular job of conveying her emotions upon this discovery, and the difficulties in her path as she disclosed her innermost feelings and pro-life beli
*thank you to Netgalley, Melissa Ohden and Monarch Books for a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review*

3 stars.

Such a heartfelt true story. This isn't my typical type of book that I read but I found it to be quite good nonetheless. It's a very fast read so I got through it in one sitting. But don't confuse that with it being an easy read because that, it is not. It is also a book that is quite heavy on religion so that's something to keep in mind if it's not exactly your cup of tea. I
Mary Kenyon
Jun 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Excellent and powerful story written by a woman who survived (as the unborn baby) a botched abortion. This is a story of love, redemption, and forgiveness.
Angie Fehl
Jan 13, 2017 rated it really liked it
In this certainly unique memoir, author Melissa Ohden tells the story of how she came to be... the kind of story one just doesn't hear every day! In 1977, Ohden's teenage mother became pregnant with her. An appointment for an abortion procedure is made, the appointment is kept, but the procedure itself doesn't really go as planned. Against all odds, after 5 DAYS worth of being pumped full of toxic saline solution Baby Melissa (or Katie Rose as the nurses called her, Melissa was the name her adop ...more
Dec 27, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I received the You Carried Me – a Daughter’s Memoir from Handlebar to read, and to review on my blog. The story sounded really interesting, and I couldn’t wait to start reading. Hearing a story like this, and how someone who has gone through this type of thing in their life, I wondered if they would make it into a positive or a negative. Melissa decided to focus on the positives in her life, and write about her story, I’m sure to help others.

Her life story, and memoir was amazing. Being able to
Zoe Schoppa
Melissa Ohden’s story is tragic only in the sense that she was intended to be aborted and that she had to struggle through the heartbreak of that intent. In every other way, her story soars as a living testimony to the majesty and glory of the Almighty God. God’s plan so far has included her surviving a saline abortion without any physical effects, He had her taken to the NICU by a sympathetic nurse rather than cast aside as trash, He provided her with an incredibly loving Christian family to ad ...more
Jeanette Morris
Jan 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
Missy Cross always knew she was a beloved, adopted daughter. And she was fine with that. One of her siblings was adopted as well. But at age fourteen, when she learns that her birth was via a botched abortion, her contentment with life takes a radical U-turn.

This poignant and penetrating memoir tackles the realities of abortion and post-abortion syndrome with a provocative yet gentle perspective. Melissa’s telling of her journey to recover her self-worth and learn the truth about her birth moth
Jan 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing

This book made a strong impact on me. It is the autobiographical story of an abortion survivor, who is adopted by a loving family. As the story is told, the horror of abortion is more clear, how it not only kills an unborn child, but the wounds of this violence reach far. Many people just don't realize how devastating abortion is, and how it isn't only about the baby, or the mother.
The author has taken her story, and made it into one of forgiveness and healing. I think Melissa Ohden is courageou
Laura Knoerr
Dec 29, 2016 rated it really liked it
Although it doesn't qualify as great literature, Melissa Ohden's story is an interesting and compelling one. Its message of forgiveness is so important - especially for anyone who has suffered as a result of abortion. Mrs. Ohden's story is unflinchingly honest and heartfelt, and I hope that it helps to both heal hearts and change minds. Her story demonstrates the long-reaching effects of abortion and its violence against families - especially women. It, however, also reaches out with a message o ...more
Jan 10, 2017 rated it liked it
This book is very readable & interesting, but…I found the description of it to be a bit misleading. This is for the most part a lengthy pro-life propaganda book and very heavily laden with scripture. Yes the author did survive a botched abortion and it does discuss her struggles to find her birth family, but it also discusses all of the activity she has done to defund Planned Parenthood, etc. I'm not passing judgment on her feelings or her actions, but very disappointed that the book was markete ...more
Feb 01, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Not an easy read, but incredibly worth it

As someone who has a heart for the pro-life cause, hearing about the premise behind this book garnered my interest immediately. I downloaded it to my kindle as soon as I could. The story of Melissa Ohden's survival after a failed abortion and journey for answers was not an easy read for me. I shed tears reading her story. But it is a book I am so glad I took the time to read. Not only does it solidify my convictions even further, but stresses the importan
Apr 15, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: memoir, nonfiction
I could not put this book down. It is a compelling story of adoption, abortion and redemption.

I had the opportunity to meet the author on a plane ride from Kansas City to Sacramento. We had a nice conversation about adoption (the author is adopted). As I grew to learn more of her story I asked whether she was a writer. She mentioned this book and I added it to my "to-read" list, but didn't expect too much. This story blew me away. I'm so glad she had the courage to write it.
Feb 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
One of the best books I have read that gets to the heart of why fighting for life is so important. I dare anyone to read this and still justify why abortion should be legal.
Dec 26, 2016 rated it really liked it
Melissa Ohden’s story is more than remarkable; it is both heart-wrenching and heart-lifting. Not only knowing that she will be persecuted for both her story and her stand, but also already having experienced that persecution for speaking the truth of her life in the past, she lays her heart boldly on the page. The writing may not be Austen-esque, but that does not in any way detract from the power of her story.

But this is more than just a memoir of Melissa’s survival. It is a model of triumph an
Linda Zagon
Jan 13, 2017 rated it really liked it
I would like to thank LibraryThing and Plough Publishing House for the edition of "You Carried Me" A Daughter's Memoir by Melissa Ohden. Melissa Ohden is a young teenager when she learns that she is the survivor of a botched abortion. It seems that her biological mother was in a later stage of pregnancy than was thought. Using a saline solution to terminate pregnancy in surviors can cause serious abnormalities.Luckily Melissa is healthy and adopted by a loving family.
Melissa's goal is to find o
Jessika Santulli
Jan 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Welcome to the best memoir I've ever read. Whatever your views on abortion, prepare to be changed if you read this book. This is a story of a child who was meant to die. By the grace of God and the heroic acts of nurses who defied orders, Melissa Ohden survived an abortion attempt. Adopted and raised in a loving home, she went on to change lives through her career in social work and her testimony that each child is worthy of life. Her simple, suspenseful writing style will have you on the edge o ...more
Feb 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
An amazing, hard to put down book! Well written and heart wrenching. It's the true story of Melissa Ohden who discovered from her adoptive mother that her birth mother had tried to abort her. Over a period of years Melissa worked thought this mind numbing information while trying to discover who her birth parents were. She has led an amazing life and is actually a very amazing woman. This is a book, once started, is impossible to put down. ...more
Shawna Fox
Feb 01, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Wow what a great and quick read! Melissa's story is heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. Love how she fights for what she believes in and let's the world know about her story and the ugly side of abortions. Thank you for your sharing your story and giving those of us that have never experienced those things in life a first hand look. Highly recommend this book! ...more
Feb 05, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
A wonderful heart wrenching story of love and forgiveness.

I loved this book and the story it told, of despair, then hope, then forgiveness, then love. It has given me more compassion for the young mothers who are often victims themselves.
Jennifer Taylor
Mar 18, 2017 rated it it was amazing
If I could do a 5 + rating I would. I couldn't put this book down once I picked it up. It's.a true story about grace and forgiveness only God can help us with especially when horrible situations have happened. I highly recommend it. ...more
Teresa Christensen
Jan 23, 2017 rated it really liked it
This was a very good read. As a reader it was very obvious how sincerely heartfelt and important that this story was told. I was glad to get the opportunity to read it.
Feb 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
This heart-wrenching story reminds us that there are many facets behind every story in life.
Jan 25, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2017, january-2017
"You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir" is Melissa Ohden's story of her birth and life as a survivor of an abortion. It's a beautiful memoir that every woman should read. ...more
Mar 18, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: abuse, abortion
What a powerful story about a woman who was born as the result of a saline abortion. After the abortion it was noticed that she was still breathing and she was taken to the NiCU and saved. She was adopted by a wonderful family and had a great childhood but didnt know she was the product of an abortion until she was 14. This news sent her on a downward spiral for a while, but ultimately it led her on a road to find her biological family. A faith-based story which had its ups and downs for the aut ...more
Feb 09, 2020 rated it really liked it
Melissa Ohden survived a botched abortion. She searches for her birth parents and finds them. She also deals with her own anger and others' rejection.

Well written but some questions about the details of the abortion were not answered.

4 stars
Jan 11, 2017 rated it liked it
Melissa Ohden's You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir explores Odhen's feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and anger when she learned, at age 14, that she was the survivor of a botched abortion procedure. "Many people think abortion is a discrete act that has no lasting effect ... They are so wrong! Abortion can't be compartmentalized and is never forgotten. And its effects ripple through generations".

Weighing less than 3 pounds at birth and suffering from respiratory distress, she was barel
Mar 21, 2018 rated it it was amazing
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Carissa Norris
Feb 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This is a well-written, compelling autobiography. It stirred many emotions and thoughts in me, especially because I was born in the same year as the author and several of our life events tracked together. There were three main thoughts/feelings that arose within me as I read Melissa's story:

1. Absolute revulsion for abortion. I do not know how anyone could see a baby burned, dismembered, or scissors stuck in its brain stem and still support the practice. I was reminded why I am so strongly pro-l
Jan 30, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: for-reviews
This is just an incredible story of God's grace, love, and faith. It is so moving. As I read Melissa's story of her birth, her adoptive parents, their love for her and finding her birth mother, I am overwhelmed. Melissa's journey is emotionally difficult to follow. Knowing all she experienced and the condition of our country today with the readily available abortions breaks my heart. Thankfully, God has been able to use Melissa to help in the lives of many women and influence their decision maki ...more
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Melissa Ohden was fourteen when she learned that she was an abortion survivor. In her memoir, "You Carried Me", she describes her decade-long search to find and forgive her biological parents.

Her personal story of love and redemption cuts through the debates surrounding a divisive issue to touch our common humanity. It highlights the complexity of the abortion issue and invites more understanding

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