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Don't Give It Away! : A Workbook of Self-Awareness and Self-Affirmations for Young Women
“The most powerful spiritual healer, fixer, teacher on the planet.” —Oprah Winfrey
From New York Times bestselling author and star of the Oprah Winfrey Network’s hit show Fix My Life , an illustrated workbook of affirmations for self-healing and exercises for personal exploration, perfect for teenagers and young women.
You are special. You are precious. You are it!
Today, Iyanla Vanzant is a bestselling author with her own business and a loving family. But it wasn't so long ago that she was a teenager—a sixteen-year-old mother and high school dropout on welfare. Iyanla knows that a young woman's journey can be lonely and hard. She remembers how difficult it is to put into words the way you feel, how it feels to want to be loved.
In Don't Give It Away!, Iyanla presents a workbook in which you can write your feelings and express your thoughts about the things that matter to you—your family, your friends, your body, and your love life. Problems at home and at school are a natural part of every young woman's life, but understanding what to do with how you feel about your problems is the key to growing up. Iyanla Vanzant shows you that the love you seek is the love that you are.
From New York Times bestselling author and star of the Oprah Winfrey Network’s hit show Fix My Life , an illustrated workbook of affirmations for self-healing and exercises for personal exploration, perfect for teenagers and young women.
You are special. You are precious. You are it!
Today, Iyanla Vanzant is a bestselling author with her own business and a loving family. But it wasn't so long ago that she was a teenager—a sixteen-year-old mother and high school dropout on welfare. Iyanla knows that a young woman's journey can be lonely and hard. She remembers how difficult it is to put into words the way you feel, how it feels to want to be loved.
In Don't Give It Away!, Iyanla presents a workbook in which you can write your feelings and express your thoughts about the things that matter to you—your family, your friends, your body, and your love life. Problems at home and at school are a natural part of every young woman's life, but understanding what to do with how you feel about your problems is the key to growing up. Iyanla Vanzant shows you that the love you seek is the love that you are.
128 pages, Paperback
First published July 6, 1999
About the author
Iyanla Vanzant
148 books1,335 followersIn Peace From Broken Pieces New York Times best-selling author Iyanla Vanzant she recounts the last decade of her life and the spiritual lessons learnedfrom the price of success during her meteoric rise as a TV celebrity on Oprah, the Iyanla TV show (produced by Barbara Walters), to the dissolution of her marriage and her daughters 15 months of illness and death on Christmas day. Like a phoenix rising from the ashes, Iyanla shares why everything we need to learn is reflected in our relationships and the strength and wisdom she has gained by supporting others in their journeys to make sense out of the puzzle pieces of their lives.
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May 7, 2017
I got interested in the book after a brief and torrid romance with a barmaid (female!) who was reading it that the time we met. The book was an introduction and opening to a brief and torrid romance. Most men would be appalled by the books contents, but like it or not, I had to agree with the author in about 75% of the book, liking to or not. The book is geared to young women. Although I had to agree with a lot said by Vanzant, but I must admit my then partner should have took the book more to heart....Draw your own conclusions. I would recommend the book to younger inexperienced women.
September 28, 2013
This is a charming little workbook for girls of any age. It is feminine and cute and allows plenty of room for self-discovery and tips to get through THOSE days. Wish I would have had this when I was a teen.
January 18, 2010
If you have young girls- get them this fantastic book and read it with them, too.!!!!! If you are a young girl at heart- read this book.
June 23, 2019
had some religious references which i didn't expect...
This is a good book to write down your thoughts and feelings and to work through some things and how to achieve your goals.
This is a good book to write down your thoughts and feelings and to work through some things and how to achieve your goals.
October 3, 2008
I gave this book to my daughter as she turned 13 as a coming of age ceremony book....a must...for young girls that need to believe in themselves first...
June 23, 2009
I learned alot about myself. This is a good tool for young women trying to find, believe in themselves, and trust themselves.
September 28, 2011
Went through this and gave it to my daughter recommended for young lady's help them to know true love is self love
January 2, 2013
I love Iyanla. While it was more devoted to teenagers, I still found it useable information for myself at 35!
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January 13, 2013Great for teens.
February 23, 2008
I bought this and gave it to several Young Women.
I loved that she was trying to target this market that is bombarded with comparisons to impractical and often unattainable goals. This gave some stability, hope and reassurance that each of us is unique and lovable!
I loved that she was trying to target this market that is bombarded with comparisons to impractical and often unattainable goals. This gave some stability, hope and reassurance that each of us is unique and lovable!
October 25, 2012
This is a book I often use in therapy session with young girls, teens and adult women. I love how it empowers women to love themselves for who they are and it guides them through a journey of self-discovery.
November 20, 2008
Give this to any teenager. It is a cute little book, quick, but thought provoking.
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June 19, 2010to appreciate myself. to be thankful on what i have and to love myself more.
September 10, 2011
This is for your daughters! Such a wonderful book
December 10, 2012
EH this book was just a self-help, answer questions, essay kinda notebookish book. I did get a few good quotes from it and that is okay.
February 18, 2013
perfect self help book for pre teens to teenage girls battling low self esteem.
June 17, 2013
In 1999 I used this workbook, 14 years later I re-read.
Great book for young women!
Great book for young women!
July 8, 2013
Used when I was teaching Women's Issues, good foundation for girls.
April 14, 2016
Some helpful tools but seemed more appropriate for my adolescent daughter. I gave it to her.
July 11, 2016
This is a great book for any young people to learn about their self-awareness and self-affirmations.
November 5, 2017
Too Christian and Bible-centric for me, but not bad.
June 7, 2019
Meh. This is basic psychotherapy...I don't remember what another commenter could possibly have found "Christian and Bible-centric," the author being known for an inclusive kind of generally theistic spirituality, but I'd say it's too therapy-centric for the teenagers whose company I enjoy. When all teenagers want to do is sit around staring into space or at TV, cut themselves, etc., workbooks of self-awareness may be indicated. When they want to learn and do more in the real world, books about the things that interest them are a better choice. So there's a market for this book, but I wouldn't give it to my own niece, or to young women like most or all of the students I used to teach.
It's important for adults not to be deceived by the cheerful look of this book and others in its genre. Adults see all those bright flower-color graphics with messages like "I'm wonderful, I'm lovable," while the questions recommended for the teenybopper's reflection include a much higher proportion of "What are the things I don't like about myself?" The overall effects on teenagers who weren't originally depressed can be extremely depressing. Nobody in Maryland ever described Iyanla Vanzant as a depressing person to know...but as I read this book I tried to picture an ordinary 14-year-old working through it, and my impression was that using this workbook is a way a girl who was simply bored, frustrated, not understanding ninth grade algebra, etc., would be likely to become depressed.
On the other hand a reader who is already convinced that she's a repulsive little mess might well begin to feel a little better, at least enough to get out of bed, by listing some things she does like about herself along with all the many things she doesn't like. I don't believe that a lot of teenagers are living at that level of discouragement. The ones I've known best may have felt discouraged when their sex/growth hormones ebbed while the less interesting ones surged, but basically they were or are comfortable with themselves. But the ones who really do feel chronically bummed-out might benefit from psychotherapy a la Vanzant. So, in conclusion: know your student.
(About all these books "recommended by another bookseller"...no, most of the ones currently in my stockpile did not come from a failed bookseller! She had to downsize her collection because the building is being remodelled. She picked some good books, and will probably be back on the scene in a year or so.)
It's important for adults not to be deceived by the cheerful look of this book and others in its genre. Adults see all those bright flower-color graphics with messages like "I'm wonderful, I'm lovable," while the questions recommended for the teenybopper's reflection include a much higher proportion of "What are the things I don't like about myself?" The overall effects on teenagers who weren't originally depressed can be extremely depressing. Nobody in Maryland ever described Iyanla Vanzant as a depressing person to know...but as I read this book I tried to picture an ordinary 14-year-old working through it, and my impression was that using this workbook is a way a girl who was simply bored, frustrated, not understanding ninth grade algebra, etc., would be likely to become depressed.
On the other hand a reader who is already convinced that she's a repulsive little mess might well begin to feel a little better, at least enough to get out of bed, by listing some things she does like about herself along with all the many things she doesn't like. I don't believe that a lot of teenagers are living at that level of discouragement. The ones I've known best may have felt discouraged when their sex/growth hormones ebbed while the less interesting ones surged, but basically they were or are comfortable with themselves. But the ones who really do feel chronically bummed-out might benefit from psychotherapy a la Vanzant. So, in conclusion: know your student.
(About all these books "recommended by another bookseller"...no, most of the ones currently in my stockpile did not come from a failed bookseller! She had to downsize her collection because the building is being remodelled. She picked some good books, and will probably be back on the scene in a year or so.)
November 15, 2017
It was a very inspirational book that helped me get through my own hard times when I had no self confidence or self affirmation.
November 8, 2018
Very uplifting and gave me some great tools to apply to my life. It put a lot on my mind and those questions made me realize some things I should of seen a long time ago...
January 23, 2022
Just ok. I’m a fan of her work overall but this was not her best.
July 21, 2023
Like all Vanzant's works, this hit home. I feel like I should gift copies to all the young women in my life.
December 17, 2017
great for teens, preteens and tweens
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