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Taking the Bully by the Horns - Children's Version of the Best Selling Book, "Nasty People"
Children need to learn at an early age that their actions will have consequences. Negative actions having negative consequences. They must learn to take responsibility for these actions. And to know how one "seemingly" little thing you do can affect so many so greatly... They need to learn and experience respect, caring and love both for themselves and others. We all need to work together on solving these problems. Violence is an extreme form of "bullying." A worse case scenario. Most of the time these kids started out being picked on themselves. In my book we call this the "BULLY CYCLE." Bullies creating more bullies. Becoming a bully as a means of protecting yourself (or so you think) ... hoping if you are the one causing the pain, you will never again have to experience it yourself. They feel so bad about themselves and think that controlling someone else will make them feel better or help distract from their own problems. Children today feel numb ... some have been bullied to the point of feeling nothing. They are withdrawn and hopeless. If all kids could understand how to accept themselves and know that they're "OK", there wouldn't have to be any "Bullies" or "Victims". This book helps parents, teachers and children give kids the skills they need to deal with BULLIES and maintain healthy SELF-ESTEEM. It is intended to help both the bullies and the victims feel good about themselves, thereby lessening the recent violence we've experienced in our schools. 1 out of 4 kids will be bullied this month. IT'S TIME TO DO SOMETHING!
80 pages, Paperback
First published December 31, 1998
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About the author
Jay Carter
120 books22 followersDr. Carter has made over 100 appearances on national television and radio in the USA, Canada, Australia, and United Kingdom (BBC-TV in London), including the "Larry King Show", and the "Montel Williams Show". He consulted with Reader's Digest for an article on "Mean People", and has consulted with the Oprah Winfrey Show. He has appeared in Oprah magazine and Cosmopolitan several times. He was a talk show host on Berks Community TV for four years.
Psychologist, Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Film Maker (awards for "Bipolar Light" and the "Bully Caterpillar" pilot film), Dr. Carter is a professional speaker doing seminars and workshops for organizations around the country. He is the author of the best selling book, "Nasty People", which has sold over one million copies in the USA and around the world. His new book is the "Complete Idiots Guide to Bipolar Disorder" via Alpha Books (Penguin Group)
Dr. Carter is a sought after speaker. He is a regular speaker for Cross Country Education (see web site link) where his audience are Social Workers, Counselors, Educators, Medical Doctors, Nurses, Nurse Practitioners, and Psychologists. He has appeared before colleges, universities, and institutions like Loyola University, Temple University, United Way, IBM, the Association of University Women, and Union Carbide. He was on the board of directors for the Sexual Assault Resource Center and Women in Crisis (Battered Women). He was on the PA subcommittee for Government Drug and Alcohol Services. He is past president of the Berks Area Psychological Society. He was an executive manager for IBM Corporation. He is currently working on a full feature animated film, expanding the award-winning "Bully Caterpillar" story.
He does regular workshops on:
- "Bipolar: A New Slant"
- " The Executive Functions, Leadership and Charisma"
- "Bullies"
- "Anger Management"
- "Dealing with Difficult Personalities"
Jay's workshops have made positive changes in thousands of personal and professional lives. His workshops are down to earth and meant for any audience. He is entertaining as well as enlightening, with a great sense of humor.
Publications
- Nasty People (personality and verbal/emotional abuse), self-help, McGraw-Hill, NY, Revised 2003
- Nasty Men (personality and abuse), psychology/self-help, McGraw-Hill, NY, 1993
- Nasty Women (personality) self help, McGraw-Hill, NY, 2003
-Nasty Bosses (self help), McGraw-Hill, NY, 2004
- Taking the Bully by the Horns by Kathy Noll with Jay Carter (How kids can deal with difficult kids), self-help ages 10-15, Unicorn Press, 1998 (see website link to purchase this book and to gather data from a website or do a search on "Taking the Bully", or contact Kathy Noll at www.kathynoll.com .
- Butterflies Don't Land on Manure (A fictionalized book. New age. Romance, adventure, enlightenment) Unicorn Press, 1998
- The Bully Caterpillar (A story book for the Inner Child) Unicorn Press, 2002
- Bipolar: "The Elements of Bipolar Disorder" A Practical Guide, 2010
- Self Analysis: A Bootcamp Kickbutt Approach, Unicorn Press, (1979, 2006) Available on LuLu.com
- The Executive Function: Unlock Your Potential, Unicorn Press, 2006 Available on LuLu.com
-Complete Idiots Guide to Understanding Bipolar Disorder (self help), Alpha Books, NY, 2009
Diplomate Status
- Diplomate fellow candidate in Pharmacology sponsored by the Prescribing Psychologists Register
- Certification in Psychoactive Substance Abuse Disorders by the APA Board of Governors
- Retired Diplomate in Forensic Psychology by the American College of Forensic Examiners (ACFE)
Psychologist, Best Selling Author, Speaker, and Film Maker (awards for "Bipolar Light" and the "Bully Caterpillar" pilot film), Dr. Carter is a professional speaker doing seminars and workshops for organizations around the country. He is the author of the best selling book, "Nasty People", which has sold over one million copies in the USA and around the world. His new book is the "Complete Idiots Guide to Bipolar Disorder" via Alpha Books (Penguin Group)
Dr. Carter is a sought after speaker. He is a regular speaker for Cross Country Education (see web site link) where his audience are Social Workers, Counselors, Educators, Medical Doctors, Nurses, Nurse Practitioners, and Psychologists. He has appeared before colleges, universities, and institutions like Loyola University, Temple University, United Way, IBM, the Association of University Women, and Union Carbide. He was on the board of directors for the Sexual Assault Resource Center and Women in Crisis (Battered Women). He was on the PA subcommittee for Government Drug and Alcohol Services. He is past president of the Berks Area Psychological Society. He was an executive manager for IBM Corporation. He is currently working on a full feature animated film, expanding the award-winning "Bully Caterpillar" story.
He does regular workshops on:
- "Bipolar: A New Slant"
- " The Executive Functions, Leadership and Charisma"
- "Bullies"
- "Anger Management"
- "Dealing with Difficult Personalities"
Jay's workshops have made positive changes in thousands of personal and professional lives. His workshops are down to earth and meant for any audience. He is entertaining as well as enlightening, with a great sense of humor.
Publications
- Nasty People (personality and verbal/emotional abuse), self-help, McGraw-Hill, NY, Revised 2003
- Nasty Men (personality and abuse), psychology/self-help, McGraw-Hill, NY, 1993
- Nasty Women (personality) self help, McGraw-Hill, NY, 2003
-Nasty Bosses (self help), McGraw-Hill, NY, 2004
- Taking the Bully by the Horns by Kathy Noll with Jay Carter (How kids can deal with difficult kids), self-help ages 10-15, Unicorn Press, 1998 (see website link to purchase this book and to gather data from a website or do a search on "Taking the Bully", or contact Kathy Noll at www.kathynoll.com .
- Butterflies Don't Land on Manure (A fictionalized book. New age. Romance, adventure, enlightenment) Unicorn Press, 1998
- The Bully Caterpillar (A story book for the Inner Child) Unicorn Press, 2002
- Bipolar: "The Elements of Bipolar Disorder" A Practical Guide, 2010
- Self Analysis: A Bootcamp Kickbutt Approach, Unicorn Press, (1979, 2006) Available on LuLu.com
- The Executive Function: Unlock Your Potential, Unicorn Press, 2006 Available on LuLu.com
-Complete Idiots Guide to Understanding Bipolar Disorder (self help), Alpha Books, NY, 2009
Diplomate Status
- Diplomate fellow candidate in Pharmacology sponsored by the Prescribing Psychologists Register
- Certification in Psychoactive Substance Abuse Disorders by the APA Board of Governors
- Retired Diplomate in Forensic Psychology by the American College of Forensic Examiners (ACFE)
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November 15, 2008
"Taking the Bully by the Horns" by Kathy Noll with Dr. Jay Carter has won National Awards for "Saving Children's Lives, Making the World a Better Place, and Empowering Those in Need." This book covers the serious issues of bullying, school violence and low self-esteem. It is the children's version of Dr. Jay Carter's best-selling book, "Nasty People." For Educators, Parents & Kids --"Taking the Bully by the Horns" bolsters the self-respect of both the victims & the bullies, offering smart, empowering, proactive "BULLY" solutions.
Order NEW, autographed copies directly from the author's website: http://www.kathynoll.com
Break out of the Bully Cycle!
Abstract: In a children's version of Dr. Jay Carter's best-selling book, Nasty People, Kathy Noll helps her young readers examine, identify and solve bullying problems. Easily broken down into digestible chapters, this book addresses the seriousness of the issue and offers proactive, often humorous, alternatives to the "bully cycle."
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Bullying can be a serious issue for children, with potentially devastating consequences. Taking The Bully By The Horns teaches children to effectively deal with bullying and helps them diffuse potentially explosive situations. Kathy Noll uses kid-friendly language to shed light on how cowardly bullies really are, and offers smart, empowering solutions for their victims.
Chapter I begins with descriptions of the kinds of bullies children typically encounter (mean, meaner and meanest), and quickly leads into Chapter II, which describes the types of games these bullies will play. Noll breaks down the reasons why bullies become mean, frequently reminding the reader not to let anyone take advantage of him or her.
Important topics touched on throughout the rest of the book include:
A quiz to see if you are a victim of bullying. How to identify if you are a bully. What to do when the bully is a family member. What to do when the bully is a "friend." Proactive ideas to stop bullies in their tracks. Solutions to solving the bully problem in your life. Peer pressure bullying (drinking, smoking, drugs).
Noll defines a bully as anyone who "does something against your will that causes you to feel bad," and cites a study that found 76.8 percent of students say they have been bullied. This book is a down-to-earth and humorous way to broach this often hurtful and embarrassing subject. The situations are true-to-life, and Noll does a wonderful job bolstering the self-respect of the victims. Children will certainly learn a lot from her positive writing and upbeat approaches to difficult situations, including specific tips on how to handle the many different types of bullying.
As a former teacher who recognized and struggled with the effects of bullying in the classroom, I saw firsthand that there is most definitely a need for Taking The Bully By The Horns. In addition to being a terrific tool for children, this book is a great parent resource for helping kids navigate their way through the often rocky waters of adolescent relationships, and teachers can use the lessons learned in it to maintain safe environments in their classrooms. The bullying examples in each chapter can easily be used in classroom role play, and teachers can use the information to teach and model specific appropriate behaviors.
Perhaps the best words Kathy Noll has to offer are, "Be good to each other." This simple advice, along with the mantra, "I'm special and proud of who I am," truly sum up the message she impresses upon her readers throughout the book. Follow her hints and suggestions, and you will gain the power to eliminate the bully worries in your life!
Additional reviews of this book at the author's website: http://kathynoll.com/editorial-reviews/
Order NEW, autographed copies directly from the author's website: http://www.kathynoll.com
Break out of the Bully Cycle!
Abstract: In a children's version of Dr. Jay Carter's best-selling book, Nasty People, Kathy Noll helps her young readers examine, identify and solve bullying problems. Easily broken down into digestible chapters, this book addresses the seriousness of the issue and offers proactive, often humorous, alternatives to the "bully cycle."
————————————————————————
Bullying can be a serious issue for children, with potentially devastating consequences. Taking The Bully By The Horns teaches children to effectively deal with bullying and helps them diffuse potentially explosive situations. Kathy Noll uses kid-friendly language to shed light on how cowardly bullies really are, and offers smart, empowering solutions for their victims.
Chapter I begins with descriptions of the kinds of bullies children typically encounter (mean, meaner and meanest), and quickly leads into Chapter II, which describes the types of games these bullies will play. Noll breaks down the reasons why bullies become mean, frequently reminding the reader not to let anyone take advantage of him or her.
Important topics touched on throughout the rest of the book include:
A quiz to see if you are a victim of bullying. How to identify if you are a bully. What to do when the bully is a family member. What to do when the bully is a "friend." Proactive ideas to stop bullies in their tracks. Solutions to solving the bully problem in your life. Peer pressure bullying (drinking, smoking, drugs).
Noll defines a bully as anyone who "does something against your will that causes you to feel bad," and cites a study that found 76.8 percent of students say they have been bullied. This book is a down-to-earth and humorous way to broach this often hurtful and embarrassing subject. The situations are true-to-life, and Noll does a wonderful job bolstering the self-respect of the victims. Children will certainly learn a lot from her positive writing and upbeat approaches to difficult situations, including specific tips on how to handle the many different types of bullying.
As a former teacher who recognized and struggled with the effects of bullying in the classroom, I saw firsthand that there is most definitely a need for Taking The Bully By The Horns. In addition to being a terrific tool for children, this book is a great parent resource for helping kids navigate their way through the often rocky waters of adolescent relationships, and teachers can use the lessons learned in it to maintain safe environments in their classrooms. The bullying examples in each chapter can easily be used in classroom role play, and teachers can use the information to teach and model specific appropriate behaviors.
Perhaps the best words Kathy Noll has to offer are, "Be good to each other." This simple advice, along with the mantra, "I'm special and proud of who I am," truly sum up the message she impresses upon her readers throughout the book. Follow her hints and suggestions, and you will gain the power to eliminate the bully worries in your life!
Additional reviews of this book at the author's website: http://kathynoll.com/editorial-reviews/
November 25, 2017
An essential, easily readable how-to book for anyone of any age who is beset by bullies, online or in the real world, psychological or physical. With the growth of Internet, and the ease it gives to cowardly bullies, intimidating and harassing people requires nothing more than a smart phone or a tablet. This book provides a handy guide for recognizing bullies, and what to do about them. Whether you're a child, a parent, a teacher, or just a concerned citizen, Taking the Bully by Horns should be read at least once. As I point out in New New Media, there is a dark side to our proliferation in communication. Taking the Bully by the Horns is a good preventative medicine and antidote.
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