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3.49  ·  Rating details ·  3,780 ratings  ·  199 reviews
From standup comic Cameron Esposito, a memoir that tackles sexuality, gender and equality--and how her Catholic upbringing prepared her for a career as an outspoken lesbian comedian in ways the Pope never could have imagined.

Cameron Esposito wanted to be a priest and ended up a standup comic. She would like to tell the whole, freaking queer as hell story. Her story. Not th
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published March 24th 2020 by Grand Central Publishing
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Jan 20, 2021 rated it it was amazing
"Lesbians existed but I couldn’t see ’em. Or hear ’em. Or look ’em up because THERE WAS NO INTERNET."

Once upon a time, I thought I was the only lesbian on earth. And before that, I didn't even know what a lesbian was or that there was a name for girls who liked girls instead of boys or that there had ever even existed another girl who did.

In the days before internet and Ellen, it was easy to believe I was the only lesbian on earth. Hell, I didn't even know I was lesbian growing up. All I knew wa
Jan 22, 2020 rated it really liked it
Do you ever feel like you just need something gay in your life? C'mon - it can't just be me. Well, this book is perfect for that feeling. It is hilarious and comforting, while not avoiding the difficult discussions of actually surviving as a queer person, even with privilege and success.

There is nothing apologetic in this book, as there shouldn't be, and it's such a relief to read something by an out queer woman that is about being an out queer woman. I'm not entirely sure what I'm trying to sa
Mar 16, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Save Yourself By Cameron Esposito

Cameron Esposito is as funny as she can get with her memoir. At the time of social distancing and anxiety provoking situations we are all going through currently, listening and reading SAVE YOURSELF was not only timely but may have helped in saving myself through this stressful times - at least for me it did! I found myself squirming, giggling, choking on food and liquids, and cringing to my delight.

Esposito explored issues of gender, sexuality and feminism in a
Apr 27, 2020 rated it liked it
Shelves: lgbtq
A memoir of a lesbian comedian who was raised Catholic? The premise sounded interesting even if I'm not big into stand-up comedy and wasn't familiar with the work of the author. I imagine that people in that world would get more out of this than I did, but even so there were things about this that I found to be very compelling.

Cameron shares about her childhood, clear signs from early on that she was not straight and the very slow journey to her own self-realization in college and eventual comin
This was a wonderful, vulnerable memoir about lesbian comedian Cameron Esposito's life so far. I found learning about her super Catholic upbringing and how she navigated figuring out she was gay in (a super Catholic) college fascinating. She doesn't withhold details that make her look bad (cheating when she didn't knowing how to end her first queer relationship, voting for Goerge W Bush when she was pro-life). Warm, conversational, and laugh out loud funny. Although this book deals with some tou ...more
Lea (drumsofautumn)
I really wanted to read Cameron Esposito's memoir because I love her podcast "Queery" but that one focuses mostly on her guests and I was really interested to find out more about the author and her life.
This memoir is brutally honest. Esposito does not hold back on talking very openly about her experience coming to terms with and truly discovering her sexuality and how that would lead to very questionable behaviour. But I liked that. I liked that she didn't shy away from talking openly about it.
Aug 29, 2019 rated it really liked it
I laughed out loud through this whole book! Cameron writes like she speaks, and if you enjoy her standup you'll enjoy this. Also, I don't think I've read a better explanation of what a first relationship feels like when you're young and queer and not out--it really resonated with me. Thanks, Cameron! ...more
Erin *Help I’m Reading and I Can’t Get Up*
3.5 stars, rounded up because they are my favorite comedian.

This memoir begins as a deliciously funny reflection on a wildly interesting childhood, religion, and sexuality, filled with open, honest questions and wistful but mature memories. In the first half of the book, Cameron is brave and brazen, in her element and doing more than making her reader laugh; she also allows us to think with her about religion and memory and gender.
The book somewhat devolves, however, by the halfway point, to a
Apr 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: autobiography
I loved this book.
It's funny and honest and sometimes painful and I had no idea how much I needed it. There's parts that cut right through me with a feeling of recognition so strong I had to take breaks.

I've known about Cameron Esposito for years, ever since Jezebel featured a video of her in an article about period jokes. I didn't immediately start following her work then cause stand-up isn't a genre that really works for me, or, so I thought. Until I found stand-up comedians whose sets absol
Cynthia Corral
Dec 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: netgalley
Yes, this book is laugh out loud funny, but it is also incredibly sad in parts. You won't laugh through this entire book, you will feel pain and heart break and disappointment and frustration. And then you turn the page and laugh again. Just like real life.

I am a big fan of Cameron Esposito, and because her career is centered around talking about her (often amazing) life, I was already familiar with many of the stories. In this book she fleshes the stories out and gives more of her emotions, and
Mar 07, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I finished my first audiobook, y’all!

3.5⭐️’s, to be exact. This book is written & narrated by Cameron Esposito. I love that the author read the audiobook herself because she gets to put all the emphasis & inflection where she wrote it in & because this is a memoir & it makes it feel more personal!

Cameron talks about growing up catholic and republican (relatable), growing out of both of those things (relatable), how her upbringing affected her queerness (wow, one more time, relatable), and all ab
Aug 31, 2020 rated it really liked it
As a big fan of Cameron Esposito's comedy, I'm a bit biased, and I think without that fanfare this review would be different. I found myself giggling at this book A LOT. And what I do think she did an excellent job at was writing in her voice. I could hear her saying most of the book, which I think would make this a fun one to listen to as an audiobook. Otherwise, I could kinda tell this was her first book? The chapters felt a little stilted at times and I think I would have called this a memoir ...more
Mar 18, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: giveaways-arcs
This was a fun and in some parts, insightful book to listen too. There are some reviews, I noticed, that looked down on her version of coming into her own (or her coming out) and how she portrayed it in her writing style. To me, our stories are our own and how you choose to provide that to the world is your choice. I can't imagine this being easy nor can I imagine having an opinion on how a person chooses to do so.

Overall, I enjoyed her delivery of her memories and feelings. For me it wasn't th
Samantha Allen
Mar 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Beautiful, honest, and very, very queer.
Apr 16, 2020 rated it really liked it
Second queer memoir read of 2020! It's very good.

Long time fans of Esposito will have already heard many of the stories contained in this book, but you should still read it. It's that good.

Esposito does a fantastic job of talking about some real shit - the relationship mistakes she made when she was younger, how awful it must feel to be queer at a school where they could kick you out for being queer, her conflicted and utterly complicated relationship with Catholicism, and my personal favorite
Susie Dumond
Jan 21, 2020 rated it it was amazing
In this memoir, comedian Cameron Esposito explores her coming out process and writes the queer coming of age story she wishes she'd heard as a young person. This was even more laugh-out-loud funny than I expected, and I had high expectations as a fan of Esposito. But beyond the laughs, this memoir has so much heart. Growing up in a devout Catholic family and attending a conservative Catholic university meant Esposito's journey of self-exploration wasn't always easy. She doesn't shy away from the ...more
Rosey Waters
Oh wow.

So okay. This book was so so good. It was like someone was looking into my soul and giving me a hug, and telling me that things were going to be okay.

There were so many lines that I just felt deep down that meant so much to me.

Comedy is important, but vulnerability? It's essential!
This book made me so sad because I, too, want to be off in my twenties doing messy gay shit and instead I’m spending my youth holed up during a pandemic.... *pours another glass of wine*

I’m not starring this because it seems strangely rude to leave a starred review of someone else’s life?? I honestly only am familiar with Cameron Esposito’s work in passing; I’ve seen clips of her comedy and her acting, but not enough that I could even call myself a fan. I genuinely saw the book on sale, went, “o
Elana Brochin
May 22, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Wow. This book felt truly therapeutic for me. I'm not sure the extent to which I loved this story because it was familiar, but I think part of Cameron's gift is being able to make her story relatable. She really captures what it was like to be a queer kid in the 80s and 90s. I also loved the inspiring way that she spoke about getting into standup. I listened to the audio version read by Cameron which I loved. I barreled through the book in just a couple of days and kept wanting more. The one pie ...more
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Mar 19, 2020 rated it really liked it
Shelves: memoir
Save Yourself is a hilarious and honest memoir by Cameron Esposito. She writes about growing up, coming out, and learning to feel comfortable in her own skin.

I have always enjoyed Cameron as the funny and likable comedian who seems so down to earth. I love that we get to see how she got to be the person she is today.

There are great moments in the book. I like how she is vulnerable and so open with readers. We all have our struggles, but this book can help so many learn to embrace themselves.

I g
Apr 08, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
Damn, I loved this book so much. I felt SO SEEN, and I love the way Cameron talks about her experiences in church and comedy, but more so within the queer community. I listened to the audiobook in a single day because I just kept wanting to hear her words. Funny as ever, and so compassionate around so many things.

One note: in a few specific moments her internalized fatphobia jumps out a bit (when talking about herself). She talks about how her body image is something she's struggled with almost
Kaylin Creason
Jul 30, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2020, audio
Where my recovering Catholics at? There are a lot of reasons to read this book, but if you are struggling to come to terms with the faith background you grew up in (and it was a very involved faith background) then you NEED to read Esposito's memoir. It's healing, and puts into words feelings and experiences I didn't know there were words for. Esposito writes about the importance in her life of people who modeled lives she didn't know were possible--thanks for modeling a recovering Catholic for ...more
Apr 08, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: lgbtqia
It was so good, I don't even know why I expected it not to be.
Cameron Esposito is a great stand-up comedian and an even greater human, who can write a book like she does stand-up: ALWAYS DELIVERING!
I really felt connected to all of this, even though I was not raised Catholic, am not a comedian and I only know about American life through books, series and movies (so I know a lot).
I am happy that I could get this book before the global lockdown, and also that I could attend a book tour event onlin
Genesee Rickel
3.5 stars. I’m so glad this book is in the world! The first half was very familiar, many of her jokes reflect these stories. The second chapter was about disordered eating and was extra hard for me to get through right now. I want ALL the queer memoirs to exist! I think this book will have more of an impact on folks not familiar with her comedy (simply because it’s a bit repetitive). I love that she reads it, audio is definitely the way to go with this one.
Lacey Byrne
Jun 04, 2020 rated it really liked it
Oh Cameron! My new best friend. This was great. I love memoirs about people’s lives that explore different themes, challenges, resolutions. As an ex rugby player, modern dancer and current improviser, I identified with her on many levels. Oh and how I sported those Multiples in 6th grade. I’m turned on to her podcast too which is really good. She’s just a smart, funny, loving, introspective person. But seriously, CAN she be my new best friend?
Aug 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction, lgbtq
Cameron Esposito's writing style has the same manic energy that her standup does. The narrative is also crafted similarly to standup--there are leadups to ideas that she circles back around to only when you've forgotten that's where the story started--and it really works.

This book was relatable, funny, and moving. She captures what it was like growing up queer and coming of age in the 90s perfectly.
Mar 06, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I really loved this book. Esposito is very funny, but here she's also very earnest, which really worked for me. She recounts quite a few stories about growing up and into queerness, and reckons with the religious doctrine that had a hand in shaping who she is. There's also a lot of great sister-relationship stuff going on. I just enjoyed the heck out of it and was quite moved too. Definitely recommend! ...more
Mar 31, 2020 rated it it was amazing
I loved every minute of this book (I listened to it). I went to Cameron Esposito's high school (a lowly freshmen when she was a senior) and I found myself nodding along when she was describing those days. But aside from our brief shared history, I found the book incredibly compelling. She's an excellent storyteller and extremely relatable. ...more
Katrina Ayala
Jul 28, 2020 rated it it was amazing
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Sep 20, 2020 rated it it was amazing
Loved it. Vulnerable, honest, and funny, I tore through this and at so many points did I think I FEEL YOU CAMMY! I really appreciate that she doesn’t paint over times she’s messed up, proving to all of us how you can grow and learn going forward. You’re a Queero of mine. 💙
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