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You Lost Him at Hello: A Saleswoman's Secrets to Closing the Deal with Any Guy You Want

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Sales tricks that will make men desperate to date you

Whether you've found yourself waiting for him to call or given up everything for a relationship that went nowhere, getting a guy to commit can be like getting him to walk over a bed of hot coals.

Jess McCann has been there. She used to make the same mistakes we've all made with men--until she realized that the winning for
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Paperback, 258 pages
Published July 1st 2008 by Health Communications (first published 2008)
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Hanie
خودمم نميدونم چرا كتابي با اين مضمون رو خوندم! شايد چون تو فيديبو رايگان بود !😅
كل مفهوم كتاب اين بود كه هرچي به مرد ها بي توجهي كنيد علاقه شون نسبت به شما بيشتر ميشه!! 😶
روش هايي كه براي بازاريابي و فروشندگي گفته بود خيلي كارامدتر بود تا روش هاي ازدواج!
Azadeh sharifi
Jan 13, 2015 rated it really liked it
لذت خوندن کتابی قبل نشر و به عنوان ویراستار غیرقابل توصیفه
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احتمال می دادم از ویراستاری این کتاب که به هر حال روان شناسی طوره و اینا خجالت بکشم... ولی با این ذهن خسته کار دیگه ای ازم ساخته نبود
کتاب رو یک زن با تحربیاتی در فروشندگی نوشته و در اون فرایند پیدا کردن فرد مناسب و شکل دادن رابطه رو با فنون بازاریابی توضیح داده
برای من اول ارزشمنده که موج چاپ رمان های زرد و نارنجی داره جاشو میده به روان شناسی های این طوری...
و دیگر این که خوشحالم این کتاب های قانون زندگی و اینا که نمی دونم چه ژانری یه...
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Shima Mahmoudi
Jun 08, 2017 rated it liked it
حقیقتش تنها علتی که سمتش رفتم این بود که از کتابهایی با این مدل عنوان بدم میاد و در کتابهایی مثل نیمه تاریک وجود میگه اگر مساله ای بی دلیل اذیتتون می کنه حتما علتی در درونتون وجود داره.
به کتاب سه ستاره دادم چون اونقدرها که فکر می کردم پرت و پلا نگفته بود. نمیگم حرف جدیدی داشت اما حرفهای کهنه همیشگی هم نبود.
در حد یه مطالعه سبک وقت خستگی خوبه بیشتر انرژی نذارین
NK
May 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Holy shit, like seriously, holy shit. Where has this book been all my life? It took my 3 days to read it since I really couldn't put it down. I can't believe I didn't realize all the things in this book that I should have been aware of. I feel like such an idiot & am so upset at how I have sabatoged most of my relationships. You really need to get this book & I am not saying that it's the only thing that will work but this really just makes alot of sense. I wasn't really expectingmuch bu ...more
الناز ی
Jun 10, 2015 rated it did not like it
استراتژی دقیقا تا کی آخه ؟!
سلطان بانو
کتاب نثر روان و ساده ای داشت. با مثالهای ملموس ارتباط خواننده با مفاهیم حفظ میشد.
از خوندنش لذت بردم. 🙂
Fatemeh
Oct 27, 2017 rated it liked it

نویسنده روابط و کار فروش رو مقایسه کرده و در اون اشتباهات یک فروشنده و یک خانوم رو گفته و یه سری راهکارهم ارایه هم داده.باخوندن این کتاب و ایجادعادتهای جدید در زندگیتون میتونید روابط خوبی رو تجربه کنید.من خوندن این کتاب رو به همه ی خانومهای 17سال به بالا توصیه میکنم.این کتاب برگردان انگلیسیه کتاب you lost him at hello هست که عنوانش برای من خیلی جالب بود و باعث شد کتاب رو بخونم و از خوندنش هم چیزهای زیادی یادگرفتم.
Serena
Dec 15, 2008 rated it really liked it
Jess McCann's You Lost Him at Hello is part of a TLC Book Tour and I want to thank TLC and Jess McCann for sending along the book for my review.

Despite being married myself, this book has some great advice about how to embrace yourself and become confident--know your product and learn how to sell it. In the dating world, confidence is everything, even if you don't feel confident all the time. McCann lays the groundwork for each single woman in this book, seeking to provide practical applications
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Mimma Y
Feb 05, 2012 rated it liked it
buku yg isinya tips2 buat dapetin "a man" buat cewe gitu
uniknya karena jess sendiri adalah seorang saleswoman, jadi menurut dia...trik2 di marketing bisa juga digunain buat dapetin "a man" gitu..produknya ya tidak lain tidak bukan adalah diri kita sendiri...
tips2nya sendiri lucu : mulai dari SEE (smile, eye concact, energy) and KISS (keep it short n simple), mengakhiri ditengah impuls, teori cermin (mirroring), prinsip Jones (hehe), bacanya jadi bermakna ganda...antara belajar menjadi marketing
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Niloofar Haydari
Nov 03, 2017 rated it really liked it
قبل از هرچيز بگم كه ناشر ايراني اين كتاب انقدر بي سليقه بوده با اون طراحي جلدش و اون ترجمه ي عنوان كتاب كه كلهم دگرگون شده كه من كه روي انتخاب اديشن هر كتاب توي گوديدز انقدر حساسم روم نشد اديشن فارسيش رو به جاي ايني كه الان هست انتخاب كنم.
من فكر ميكنم مترجم تاحد زيادي سعي كرده بود كتاب رو قابل چاپ شدن ترجمه كنه و خب ميشه از خيلي ترجمه هاي اسلاميزه شده ي توي متن و بعضا تغيير معاني متن تا حد نبودي صرف نظر كرد ! اما عنوان كتاب رو كه اين همه دستخوش تغيير شده چه تقصير ناشر باشه چه مترجم و يا حتي وير
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Maahee
Jun 11, 2017 added it
Excellent !
Reza
Sep 20, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
شاید میخواست جمله"خودت نباش تا کنارت باشن!" رو بسط بده.
در کل کتاب خوبیه ولی به شرطی که کورکورانه ازش تقلید نشه.
Hamed
Aug 19, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
خط اندیشه ی اصلی نویسنده این است که تا جایی که می توانی احساس خود را به فرد روبرو نشان نده و بسیار سرد برخورد کن . این موضوع می تواند تا اندازه ای درست باشد ولی در فرهنگ ما چندان تاثیرگذار نیست.
Jess Mccann
Oct 10, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: all women
Recommended to Jess by: a girlfriend
What do you call a woman that’s had six marriage proposals, been chased by billionaires, and has been pursued by pro athletes and celebrities? You’d probably call her lucky, but she’d just call herself a great saleswoman.

After being dumped, stood up, and left in relationship limbo, Jess McCann figured out how to make every man want her. She applied the same techniques used in professional sales calls to the dating arena. “My friends were always complaining about not meeting anyone.” McCann says
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Monica
Feb 28, 2011 rated it liked it
If you are single and tired of dating the wrong guy this book is for you. I enjoyed the book even though I am not single and looking for a man. The reason I enjoyed the book is because it made me think about the way I act around people whether men or women. I also started to pay attention to the way I act around people. There are parts of the book that I can see also helping you out if you are married.

This book is written by a sales woman, Jess McCann. She has taken the rules for making a sale a
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Mai
I have read lots of dating and relationship book but by far this is the best book I've ever read about dating ,it puts everything in perspective
From a saleswoman perspective ,jess offers some practical techniques that will help any single woman transform her love life

Update
Well, when I thought about it all the rules mentioned in this book ,it turned out to be just another book about following Rules that makes you try hard and pretend to be someone you are not. Simply you would be calculating e
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Kass
Jan 25, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I loved it , clinical but so true. I'm looking back on wins and losses that I and my friends experienced and now I can articulate where we went right or wrong. A must read for all single women who just don't know where they are going wrong or that they are doing it all wrong. I'm taking it all on board, my first step is to work on the way I dress, the easiest one. It is sad to see all my daggy tracksuits in the bag for the local op-shop, but the up-side is I feel no guilt about shopping for new ...more
Unwisely
Jun 05, 2010 rated it really liked it
OK, I'm embarrassed to give a book of this sort four stars, but it's easily the best of the genre that I've read. Which, ok, I haven't read all that many, but I've read a few. Not necessarily by effectiveness (I admit I haven't tried it out, particularly), but by not being so patronizing I gagged. Also, she has stuff for pretty much every phase of a relationship, including getting one. So, comprehensive.

Some of it is familiar territory, but it's a fun read and well done.

Negar
Nov 18, 2016 rated it really liked it
کتاب با متن کاملا روان نوشته شده و یک نگرش ساده و عامه ای رو به رابطه ی بین دختر ها و پسرها داره.نکات خوبی رو هم گفته که فکر می کنم یک بار خوندنش برای هر نفر خالی از لطف نباشه .
قطعا جز اون دسته از کتاب هایی قرار گرفته برام که به دیگران هم پیشنهادش کنم و به اطرافیانم هدیه اش بدم.
یک ستاره کم دادم چون مثال هایی که نویسنده ازش استفاده کرده انگار واقعی نیستند و فقط در جهت تایید حرف نویسنده اومدن...در کل کتاب مثال های زیادی هم آورده شده.البته شاید هم واقعا واقعی بوده باشند اا این حس به من دست داد
Heidi
Dec 17, 2008 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2008
Great book in theory, but i feel like the author over does it in trying to make herself a "dating expert." She does a great job at making sure women know that the most stereotypical women's actions are going to drive men away with lots of examples from her friends and colleagues. I'm not much of a "self help" book reader but i was asked to do a review for my blog which will be up 12/18.
Kristen
May 03, 2012 rated it liked it
embarrassed to admit that I read this. My mom gave it to me so I could use the sales technique in the workplace, not with men. It puts some things in perspective and allows me to voice a 3rd party opinion when telling some of my girlfriends that they are indeed idiots when it comes to men.
Andi
Nov 29, 2008 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: daters
Shelves: review-books
This book applies sales strategies to dating: things like creating urgency, filling one's funnel (stop laughing) and creating fear of loss. While I was tempted to scoff at first, now I'm pretty well sold. Imagine! There's nothing wrong with having a strategy, I say!
Nikki
Jun 09, 2015 rated it really liked it
I can solve all my friends' relationships problems now. I feel as if this writer put all my thoughts into a book. Now I can tell people to read it instead of pining.
Sandy Nguyen
Jul 27, 2014 rated it really liked it
Some fun and realistic dating tricks for young ladies ;)
Farnaz
May 16, 2011 rated it it was amazing
this book changed my life <3
Quarterlifelady
Feb 16, 2010 rated it liked it
Not the best-written book, but hilarious in theory. Theorizing dating always makes me laugh and intrigues me.
Felicia
Apr 07, 2016 rated it really liked it
Interesting book, involves both sales tactic and dating tactic!
Kristen Lowman
Feb 25, 2011 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Kristen Lowman by: Ashlea Crouse
This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here.
Leeann Hart
Jul 05, 2013 rated it really liked it
Wish I'd read this book in my early 20s, it would have saved me a lot of time and effort.
Zohreh
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