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It's Not Me, It's You

3.72  ·  Rating details ·  1,702 ratings  ·  420 reviews
One high school girl's comedic examination of her dating past as told by the friends, family, and boys who were involved!

Avery Dennis is a high school senior and one of the most popular girls in her class. But a majorly public breakup with the guy she's been dating causes some disastrous waves. It is right before prom and Avery no longer has the perfect date. She runs the
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published October 25th 2016 by Point
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Fafa's Book Corner
Nov 05, 2016 rated it really liked it
Mini review:

This was so much fun! At first the format bothered me but I continued reading I got used to it. Loved the characters and their interactions with one-another! The romance was really cute!

Highly recommend.
Aug 24, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The format of this was so much fun and I absolutely loved the friendship between Avery and Coco. I feel like I don't read about popular /nice/ girls them EVER, so this was a nice change! Funny, cute and all around entertaining, I'd definitely recommend! ...more
Megha Patel
May 19, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobooks
Such a fun read!

I haven't read a book with this kind of format and honestly it was so good. I listened to the audiobook and it's a full cast audiobook with amazing narration. It made the story standout more and made it so enjoyable.

Avery is a very sensible character. She is trying to figure out why any of her relationships have not succeeded and interviews all her ex-boyfirends as a project. Throughout the book we see Avery grow and learn things as she processes her past. We see her come to som
Aj the Ravenous Reader
A surprisingly fun read. I think this is really cute even though after reading through the first few pages, I was already about 90% sure where the story was headed. And yet, I was still 100% engaged. The format is quite creative because it’s written as an Oral History project submitted by Avery Dennis to her teacher, Ms. Segerson. It’s kind of like the actual transcript of the interview conducted by Avery and her lab partner, Hutch, of all of Avery’s ex-boyfriends to track down why all Avery’s p ...more
Aug 13, 2017 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Any book that references Mary-Kate and Ashley movies is a yes in my books!
Yna the Mood Reader
Apr 02, 2020 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: audiobook
"Even if something had just happened, it can still be history."

📚 Series? No.
📚 Genre? YA Romance.
📚 Cliffhanger? No.

⚠ Content Warnings: None, safe and very G-rated.
⚠ Book Tags :  Highschool. Oral History. Exes. Unique Format.
⚠ This Book In Emojis: ❤💔💖💕🤔😂👨‍🔬👩‍🔬🕵️‍♀️

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It's Not Me, It's You tells the story of high school popular girl Avery in the format of her Oral History project. She recently broke up with this guy a few weeks before prom and she has never ever been
Jasmine from How Useful It Is
I started reading It’s Not Me, It’s You on 8/25/18 and finished it on 8/30/18. Most adorable read! Love the layout. There’s hardly any narrative at all so the read flow easily and quickly! I like the humor and the variety of characters and their backgrounds. I like the unique plot! This book is definitely a fun read, a nice break from reading slumps. Liam’s and Erza’s story are hilarious and Hutch is my favorite commentator. That first boyfriend and Tripp’s story were unexpected, but cute. Coco’ ...more
This book. Was fucking. Hilarious.

Highly, highly rec to fellow fans of Tell Me Three Things. I laughed out loud an obnoxious number of times, totally adored Avery, and shipped it so hard. ETA: I see in another review a mention of this having been comped to Clueless, and that's actually a pretty excellent comp. It's been almost a month since I read this book and I can't stop thinking about how much I adored it, so, 5 stars it gets!
Reread thoughts:

Oh my gosh, I forgot how much fun and delightful this book is. If you are ever looking for something so full of heart and light, this book is it. I made a quick impulsive decision to do a reread in an audiobook version, and one of the best reading decisions I’ve ever made.

What epic things do you get with the audiobook? You get a fantastic full cast of characters/voices with just amazing voices. There were certain voices that my ears just lovedddddd. Hutch, Coco, Cressida, and Ale
Apr 05, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: ya
Things I did while reading IT'S NOT ME, IT'S YOU: made a second lunch so I could justify reading a little longer. Pretended to be folding laundry, when I was really reading. Brought it with me to a doctor's appointment, and then, because I had it with me, read it in the car, and get honked at because I didn't see the light had turned green.

Mostly I had a big goofy smile on my face the whole time I was reading.

Oh boy, did I ever love this book. It was pitched to me as CLUELESS meets HIGH FIDELITY
Danielle (Life of a Literary Nerd)
"Because I was realizing that maybe what mattered wasn't whether you were in a relationship or not. What mattered was that you could still be yourself in that relationship."

What a fun book. It's Not Me, It's You is one of the funniest books I’ve read in awhile. The characters are bubbly and the high school drama is entertaining. It’s really a perfect summer book.

Things I Liked :
I really loved the narration style in this story. It’s written as an oral history report, and reads as very convers
This book had a lot of potential and I liked the story. The synopsis sounded super cute and I was definitely intrigued.

This book wasn’t totally for me unfortunately. I liked some parts and the characters, but there are definitely some things I would change.

The characters started out great and I liked them all. I really liked Avery’s attitude and how she was in general. However, throughout the book, there were just wayyy too many characters for me to understand and I really started to not like a
Oct 05, 2016 rated it really liked it
A solid 4.5

A young woman revisits her many ex-boyfriends through interviews with her friends and acquaintances in this comedic romance.
After she’s dumped by her current boyfriend just days before prom, 17-year-old blonde, white Avery subverts an assignment at San Anselmo Prep on oral histories in order to retrace the map of her love life from middle school on. Told entirely in the form of interviews with others and including editorial interjections by Avery, this novel details each of her previ
Lauren AKA randomreader
Here I was, at bookcon looking through the different booths, then I stumbled on this beautiful book. It was an ARC,and it was contemporary, and I was craving a contemporary. This book guys, it is so good! Even better than I expected!
We basically follow one girl's dating history over the years, and she is trying to figure out why the relationships didn't work. This results in hilarious interviews and stories, and they all have tons of charm.
Avery's character may seem super stereotypical, but
Paige (Illegal in 3 Countries)
Because I'm a bit of a journalism nerd and know how oral histories work, It's Not Me, It's You is 10000% not for me.

Oral histories typically have one-on-one interviews that are about the person or event being remembered but also reveal what kind of person the interviewee is/was. There isn't a lot of input from the narrator, nor does the interviewer do much more than draw as much of the story as they can from the interviewee. For instance, a college friend of mine joined a group dedicated to the
It's Not Me, It's You was kind of a cute book to dive into. It's a pretty common saying and for some reason the title alone made me think of the movie, "He's just not that into you." Not sure why but I went with it and hoped that I would end up liking this book.

It worked. I liked it and I have zero regrets about it all.

In it, you will meet Avery Dennis. She was a pretty popular person until someone happened. At this moment, I thought it was going to be very cliché for me and beyond predictable..
Dani (Dani Reviews Things & Love in a time of Feminism)
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book in exchange for an unbiased review.

I have two words for this book: So. Cute.

I’ll admit, I wasn’t so sure when it started. It was funny right from the beginning, but I didn’t know if I’d be able to enjoy the interview format all the way through. It genuinely is just one long transcript of interviews and commentary. However, after a chapter or two, I was able to relax into it, and it ended up being a lot of fun. The comments here and there from Avery
Dec 30, 2017 rated it really liked it
Wow! Was this ever CUTE!

At first I wasn’t really a fan of the writing style, but it grew on me very quickly. The entire book is told with dialogue - there’s no exposition or descriptive writing other than how the characters describe the setting.

Avery was a great character. I liked that she wasn’t just stereotypically “popular” with no depth - she’s also really smart and wants to be liked for more than her looks. She also gets extra points in my book for liking Roman Holiday which is one of my
Dec 25, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Was this perfect? No, but it was so unexpectedly funny and just what I didn't know I needed. Such a quick and cute read! ...more
chloe ♡
my first read of 2020 - the format's quite different from what i usually read and took a bit of getting used to but i loved it so much! ...more
Michelle (Pink Polka Dot Books)
You know what this book was? Cute, cute, and more cute. It was silly, fun, adorable, and happy. It was 288 pages of lightness.

The Format: This book was written in an interview format, so basically the book was Avery's final history paper. I love reading books in unique formats. It's fun to mix it up. Also, I loved all the sarcastic comments and Editor's Notes that came along with each person's perspective.

The Cuteness: So Avery is a mega-popular girl who gets dumped right before prom. To me, tha
Jamie (Books and Ladders)
I literally could not put this one down. I loved every second of it. Another home run from Stephanie Kate Strohm.
Genesis Sheli (Whispering Chapters)
This review was originally posted on Latte Nights Reviews.

As the synopsis states, this story is about a girl who has never been single. NEVER! She's always dating someone, but prom is near and she just got dumped. A class assignment is handed out and Avery decides to do it on her past relationships and why they didn't work out.

Avery's story was slightly comedic and at times, fun. I enjoyed her story and all of her thoughts and footnotes added to the research. I also loved the format of the story
Ahh so shippy and hilarious!!! I'm just going to be over here smiling from the adorbs!!

This was absolutely hilarious and adorable! I was hesitant with the formatting of this one at first but once I got into a groove, I flew through it. I loved all the pop culture references (Mean Girls within the first 5 pages!), how smart all the characters are without being pretentious and the great cast of characters. I wasn't expecting to love Avery as much as I did, what a fantastic main character. Plus I t
Jen (The Starry-Eyed Revue)
I wasn't expecting the interview format, but it worked really well for this story and because there was a full cast audio, which is always a plus. This story was very fluffy and light-hearted as main character Avery strives to see where every one of her relationships went wrong by way of interviewing each of her exes. I couldn't imagine doing that myself, and this could have gone really, really wrong, but all in all it was cute and the perfect way to start off the Monday after Spring Break. It's ...more
Very funny and clever with a kind of epistolary format that I love. The audio of this has a full cast and was very amusing, if a little light and fluffy on content. I'll be looking out for more of this author's work as I love her humour. ...more
Jan 18, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Super cute, quick, fun read! The format made it hard to listen to the audio so I switch to the physical book and really enjoyed.
Jan 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I absolutely loved this book! It was very interesting and was very surprising at parts but I loved it. Plus the ending was my favorite. I will have to say that this is probably my favorite books.
Emily Nicholas | Emily The Book Nerd

This book captivated me from the very beginning. I knew nothing about the story prior to picking it up. Please, do yourself a favor and read the audiobook. The audiobook added so much more to the story. There is a full cast with multiple narrators! It really brought the plot to a whole new level.

The whole book is basically told in interview form. Avery, the main character decides to interview multiple people to figure out an oral his
Kelli Spear
Dec 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book made me laugh so hard a few times that I had tears rolling down my cheeks. It's super adorable! I loved the format in which it was written; it definitely made the story flow even quicker.

Avery Dennis has just been dumped for the first time in her life. And to make matters worse, it's by the school's Golden Boy. They are seemingly the perfect couple, so what went wrong? Why did Luke break up with her? This is the question Avery wants answered. So, she uses her final history project in
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Stephanie Kate Strohm is the author of Love a la Mode; Prince in Disguise; It's Not Me, It's You; That's Not What I Heard; The Date to Save; and Katy Keene: Restless Hearts. She grew up in Connecticut and attended Middlebury College in Vermont, where she was voted Winter Carnival Queen. Currently she lives in Los Angeles with her husband and son. Her middle-grade debut, Once Upon a Tide: A Mermaid ...more

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