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Tú no eres como otras madres

4.01  ·  Rating details ·  1,089 ratings  ·  164 reviews
La narración de Angelika Schrobsdorff reconstruye la vida real e inconformista de su madre, una mujer nacida en una familia de la burguesía judía de Berlín, liberada de los prejuicios de su tiempo y deseosa de casarse con un artista (y no con el «excelente partido» que le han buscado, un comerciante opulento y maduro). Así, Else vivirá de lleno el nacimiento de un nuevo ...more
Paperback, 592 pages
Published March 14th 2016 by Periférica & Errata Naturae (first published January 1st 1994)
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May 28, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: german, 1975-1999
Impressive! It is really strange this book isn't more popular. I found it gripping to read about what I consider the worst event in human history from a very "inner" perspective and to follow the journey of the heroine from ultimate happiness and freedom to total destruction. What made it even more intriguing to me personally, was the fact that the events all take place in cities I've lived in for years or visited many times, including my hometown of Sofia. There are multiple accurate ...more
Cynthia Mcarthur
You Are Not Like Other Mothers is a simple title for a book that is neither simple fiction nor dry enough to be called non-fiction. Instead it is a narrative vacuum into which the reader is sucked along with the author’s thoughtful (if belated) understanding of her flighty, pleasure-seeking mother, Else, and those who lived in Else’s world.

A middle-class Jewish girl in pre-WWI Berlin, Else, to her parents’ horror, loved Christmas trees; as a new wife and mother, she elopes with the moody,
Jul 23, 2013 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
a family saga of german jews revolving around Else 1909-1949, who as a young woman decided to break all conventions, and if it became so, to have a baby with all her different lovers. she had 3 children from 3 different "husbands", and reveled in the world of art, dance , and music. her third man, goody, and their daughter, angeli, was mom's jackpot of sorts, herr dr schrobsdorff was very very rich, which allowed else to live the life she wanted. then a certain insane dictator took over. she and ...more
Dec 02, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2012-books-read
Much of the criticism of this book is valid. It jumps from third to first person and back again. There are no chapters, and the story seems to ramble, tediously for some readers. So, yes, the story could have been edited and presented in a more effective fashion.

The story itself is fascinating. Although the book is categorized as fiction, it appears to loosely follow the author's mother's life. I'm guessing that much of it is true and accurate, and it was designated as fiction for those parts
Jun 14, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nazis-n-jews
This book had a slow start, and I probably wouldn't have finished it if I hadn't been stuck without another option for a few days.

That being said, I'm really glad I stayed the course. The book, which was filed in the fiction section of the library, reads more like a biography (I believe this is a fictionalized account of the author's mother's life, drawn from the mother's written correspondence and the author's memories). I felt really drawn in by this woman's life, and got a very different
Peter Jakobs
Dec 15, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book covers the life of a Jewish German woman from the years 1900 to 1949, written-up by her daughter. Her life can be split into 3 phases:
1: growing-up in a non-orthodox middle-class family in Berlin eager to escape from this milieu and entering the more modern Christian way of life
2: enjoying a luxurary life with Christian men, having 3 kids from 3 different fathers
3: experiencing the political pressure against her and her family in Nazi-Germany, emigration to Bulgaria, German army in
May 08, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: europa-editions
Angelika Schrobsdorff’s “You Are Not Like Other Mothers” is not like any book I have read in some time. Telling the story of the author’s mother as she lived in the first half of the twentieth century in Germany, Schrobsdorff equally combines memoir, fiction and letters between Angelika’s mother and her friends and family. Note: by fiction, I mean reconstruction of events the author was either too young to remember or not alive or present for. Others have found the blending of narrative styles ...more
Ferrante met a little life when plans with sebald fell through
Jul 15, 2019 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
2.5 stars for a book that should have been better. Fascinating period in history however the problems with the story are as follows
1) Swinging from 1st person to 3rd person that severed no purpose other than to have the annoying Angelika repeat everything twice...could have cut 200 pages out of this wind bag of a novel if she just stuck to one or the other.
2) Most of the characters started out interesting but became tedious by page 250.
3) It should have been either a true account of the authors
I thought I'd enjoy the writing more than I did, though I'll blame partly the translation for this (spotted quite a few mistakes that, hopefully, will be corrected in future editions) and the pace, marked by the real-life events and History, was clumsy at times, but it is precisely this, the reality the author and her family lived, which gives heart and energy to this book.

Am I the only one who can't fully enjoy a story when you know the tragic outcome? It happens to me with every Plath or
Sep 15, 2012 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Fascinating and heartbreaking novel that spans German-Jewish history from the 1920s to the present. The mother in question is a free spirit whose quest for love eclipses all other concerns. With three children by three different men, she finds herself without protection during the rise of Hitler. The most striking thing about the novel to me is the author's effective depiction of how well-off Jews failed to recognize the danger posed by Nazism until they became prisoners within their country. ...more
Jim Leckband
Nov 09, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
The blurb that says this is the German Gone with the Wind is a good analogy, though it is probably a bit better written.

However, a book about a society going mad and electing a madman their leader while the sane people are destroyed is not the book I should have read before Nov. 8 2016 in the Ununited States of America.
Elizabeth Lind

It was interesting that one of the reviewers compared it to Gone With the Wind. This woman was a little bit Scarlett O'Hara like. I didn't like her at all...she was incredibly self-absorbed. It was interesting the way the author allowed the final section of the book to speak for itself. She lets the reader make up her own
Mind about her and about her mother.
This midsection of this book could have used some editing. It rambles on and on. But the story on the whole was interesting.
Shannon Stevens
Jun 13, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: can-t-finish
I just can't bring myself to finish this book. Dont' care about the characters at all.
Aaron Mcquiston
I always start reading a long novel with some hesitation. I don't want to get into the middle of a long story and not feel connected to the characters or interested in the plot or just plain bored. In the case of "You Are Not Like Other Mothers" a small amount of all three of these things are present. Angelika Schrobsdorff has written a novel/memoir about her family, growing up with a mother that had three children by the three loves of her life and eventually living through World War Two as a ...more
One of those books that is very intimidating to pick up, with its long length, German translation, and no chapters. And you know if it starts in 1920s Berlin nothing is going to end well. Like other reviewers, I’m curious what is fiction and what is non-fiction. I really delighted in the wildness of the beginning, the art and culture, lovers and babies. But then of course the world got so broken it would take decades to put back together. It made the ending so bleak for me. I didn’t feel great ...more
Jul 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Very moving, especially towards the end. Very interesting book that takes you from the early 30's effervescence to the aftermath of the WWII. This book is compared it with Suite Francaise but I have found Angelika Schrobsdorff's more engaging and better. Perhaps it turns out to be too long.

Muy emotivo, especialmente hacia el final. Muy interesante ver la evolución en la vida de la protagonista y en el destino del mundo desde principios de los años 30 hasta la posguerra de la segunda guerra
Jan 14, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
A story about love, friendship, family and war. Finally slogged through.
May 24, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting biography
Jeannette Rijks
Oct 17, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Impressive. I read it in Dutch, which I probably should not have done. An enriching story.
Else's unconventional life in 1920s Berlin probably ends up saving her during the war. This is more family memoir than fiction (my library filed it under fiction). The author/narrator is the youngest of Else's three children. An interesting and memorable story, told in an odd, raggedy way.

The best parts of the book were the years of exile in Sofia, Bulgaria. Both in character development and writing, I was most engaged when Else and her family were most uprooted. It was also very interesting to
You Are Not Like Other Mothers was lauded as the German Gone with the Wind in the front flap description, so I was a bit unsure (I do not like Gone With the Wind). This fictionalized memoir (or novel based on the author's life depending on the interpretation) focuses on the early 20th century in Germany, and the life of Else, who wants to experience the most different elements of German society from her own Jewish upbringing. She continually frustrates convention, choosing to live her life ...more
Anna Griffith
Jul 31, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: World War II and Gone with the Wind fans
Check out my blog for more extensive reviews and more!

PROS: This story was very interesting. The author is a contemporary and reading a World War II story from the perspective of German Jews was very interesting. The writing was very well done and the attitudes were, I imagine, very similar to those of people in those days.

CONS: The characters were not very relatable, I thought. I didn't particularly enjoy the first third of the book and I found the mother in the story very spoiled and annoying.
Mar 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: germany
This is a fascinating book - sometimes described as fiction - though it is factually the story of the author's life, and that of her mother. Elsa was the daughter of a Jewish middle class family in Berlin who "ran away" socially to the Christian/Aryan. Though she never became estranged from her Jewish parents she raised three children, two of whom (including the author) did not understand that they were Jewish until long after the Nazis were in power. The degree to which Schrobsdorff's parents ...more
I didn't realize that this was a fictionalized account of the author's family, focusing on her mother. I was expecting a novel, so I was a little disappointed with the book as a result.

The initial part of the book, maybe the first 150 pages or so, went along well enough. I actually liked the jumping between past and present, mainly because it was better done than in other books that have attempted it.

Unfortunately, my interest in the people and what happened to them petered out, around the time
Nov 01, 2013 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I know this says that I read it, but honestly, I couldn't finish it. I read about half of it and called it quits. And I was reading it for a book club and everything! I tried to keep an open mind about it, but the writing style made it very inaccessible for me. It was told through a narrator's perspective, never hearing the inner thoughts of any of the character and had very little dialogue. As a character/dialogue junkie, I couldn't do it. I'm sorry to give up on you, book!
Aug 16, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition

Again, there was more to learn about WW Ii. While this memoir, which read like fiction, takes us from Berlin to Bulgaria, and back again, it mostly chronicals the life of a self indulgent German Jewish woman and her family. I think the writer was trying to understand and get closer to her mother through writing this book. It was a compelling read though, all 535 pages.
Apr 17, 2012 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I thought this novel might give me a flavor of life in Germany during the Weimar period (I've read lots about the Holocaust but not much about this earlier period), but I'm 100 pages in, and the social/cultural/political setting is glossed over, while the main characters are tedious, so I'm bailing out, rather than invest the time to read another 415 pages of this.
i won't rate this b/c I only got half way through. I liked what I read - interesting woman, interesting story, good writing - but it was just too much. Halfway through I felt like I was being hit over the head with the same story over and over. It just wasn't that interesting to make a book that long....
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Angelika Schrobsdorff (born December 24, 1927, Freiburg im Breisgau) is a German writer and actress.

Her mother Else, whose first marriage was to the author Fritz Schwiefert, was an assimilated Jew; her father was a member of the wealthy Berlin bourgeoisie. She grew up in Berlin and in 1938 fled, with her mother and sister, to Sofia, Bulgaria, where she remained until the end of the war. Her
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