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How You Can Survive When They're Depressed: Living and Coping with Depression Fallout

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Each year more than 17 million Americans suffer from a depressive illness, yet few suffer in solitude. How You Can Survive When They're Depressed explores depression from the perspective of those who are closest to the sufferers of this prevalent disorder--spouses, parents, children, and lovers--and gives the successful coping strategies of many people who live with a clin ...more
Paperback, 320 pages
Published May 18th 1999 by Harmony (first published May 5th 1998)
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Jun 03, 2012 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2012, nonfiction
I've been trying to figure out how to cope/live with a loved one's depression. While this book was great for giving me a 'community' to not feel so alone, I did find myself asking, quite often really, what about those depressed loved ones who choose not to 1) recognize they're depressed and 2) seek any type of assistance? This book was helpful, but not as helpful as I wished it would have been.
Julie wright
Apr 06, 2018 rated it liked it
The title of this book is misleading. It has great info on how to get your depressed loved one to go on meds and get counseling, describes what it's like living with someone who is depressed and gives many relatable scenario's but it doesn't give many suggestions on how to cope.
Ashley Protagonist
Feb 23, 2014 rated it it was amazing
I didn't really need the chapter explaining how depression works, but for completeness' sake it's a very good thing. Not super fond of the phrasing of "your depressive" either, as that feels very depersonalizing to me and if Sheffield wanted us to avoid conflating our loved one with their illness, that seems like questionable wording.

That said, this was the book that made it clear to me it's okay for me to feel unfulfilled, unappreciated, and utterly exhausted by relationships in which I'm reduc
Apr 25, 2013 rated it it was ok
I was hoping for a lot more from this book. As a counsellor and someone dealing with depression fallout, I found this book not very helpful. Its positives included allowing the reader to not feel 'alone' and acknowledging that depression affects those around someone who is dealing with depression, however, there were very few practical tips on how to support someone dealing with depression. I also found the terms used in the book to be quite dated and 'labelled' a LOT. For someone who is not use ...more
Sep 22, 2012 rated it it was amazing
While probably most helpful for those who have non-compliant loved ones/children/parents with depression/manic-depression, this book covers a lot of important ground and is relevant to all readers regardless of their circumstances. The most praiseworthy aspect of the book is its argument that "depression fallout" exists and is a serious threat to both the relationship with the depressed person and the individual happiness of those who live with and love depressed people. While some of the statem ...more
Jan 06, 2013 rated it liked it
Shelves: medical, non-fiction
I could see this book being most helpful for those who are caring for non-compliant patients; however this book did not address my needs as a caregiver. There is a lot of useful information, unfortunately the book did not address my current needs as a caregiver.
Jan 05, 2015 rated it liked it
Illuminating on some finer aspects of depression that you may not be aware of, but not necessarily as helpful as I'd have liked.
Full of anecdotes, but without much core instruction.
Nov 08, 2017 rated it it was amazing
One to revisit over and over.
May 18, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: 2016
Ugggg. I wanted to read this book because I am the depressed one. I have a lot of problems with this book. First, it's easy to tell the author was angry. I understand how difficult it is to live with depression and how it effects those around me but the author puts out as if all people with depression are manipulative, selfish and torments those around them. That is just not true and what she describes as a "depressive" is insulting. I have an illness. Does that mean I have to take on this label ...more
Jan 02, 2011 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Excellent book to keep and refer to again and again.
Mar 21, 2013 rated it really liked it
Solid and very informative. The book would be very helpful to those dealing with depression fallout, as the author terms it.
Katharine Schubert
Apr 03, 2008 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone who wants to better understand the desease
Recommended to Katharine by: Top sellers list
This book helped me to understand how to cope with loved ones depression!
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