1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12
The gold standard of parenting books and a 2016 Family Choice Award winner!
"1-2-3 Magic made parenting fun again."
"My three-year-old has become a different little girl, and she is so much happier now."
"All I have to say is that the ideas in this book really WORK! It really is like magic!"
"Our home has become a much more positive place."
The sixth edition of the 1.7 mill...more
I know if I apply this consistently, it will be positive all around. I have started, but I know I need to be more consistent AND get Eric on board.
So here are my notes for me or anyone else who fe ...more
First note: My child is what’s called “2e”: gifted, with ADHD, SPD, and OCD…so we’re solidly in “differently wired” territory. (I’m also very likely a 2e person). This book was recommended to me for addressing some of the really challenging behavior issues we have at home. While I think there is some (maybe even quite a lot of) value in the structure provided by this kind of approach, a few things really, really bug me:
He says something along the lines of “unless you are ...more
In a nutshell, stop talking so much when you discipline your kids! We are very guilty of this transgression. Our curious kid wants to know about everything and is firmly entrenched in the "why?" phase. So it was natural for us to also explain why you can't put your feet on the table/hit someone/whin ...more
This technique only provides children the ...more
"I love my children, now if I could just like them as well."
I have 4 children under age 8. I get it. I love them, I just wish I spent more time playing games and chatting and really teaching and helping my kids rather than lecturing and scolding and correcting and reminding and stopping them all day.
- "But it's our duty to teach our kids responsibility, and to get along, and to be nice, and to play ...more
When I became a parent I had internalized the idea that counting at kids trained them to disobey. This is not true; counting gives them a chance to regulate their own behavior and make good choices. My oldest hates getting counted to 3, so he stops on the first count most of the time. Before we would argue and haggle and pitch fits at each other, now that’s a lot less likely to happen.
The book spends a lot of time talking abo ...more
I appreciated the insights about the necessity of being calm and consistent (following through on what you have said) when it comes to setting standards and consequences for children.
However, I was a bit uncomfortable with the author's view of children. Perhaps the author is attempting levity in order to diffuse parental frustration, but for me, his portrayal of children made me squirm in my chair. In a nutshell, Phelan bases his ...more
Not the case with this super quick read "1-2-3 Magic". It is a quick read and, because they only focus on three things, it's a quick implement. I admit to being skeptical - I have always mocked the parents who count, "1 ...more
This book on the other hand is Excellent. Its a short book that really gives you a framework to:
1) Stop your kids obnoxious behavior,
2) Get your kids to Start doing stuff (chores, getting ready for bed, etc.) and
3) Helping you set aside time to build healthy friendships with your kids.
My wife read the book and was so exc ...more
Second, the book lists reasons to trust this method with the ...more
The counting has worked pretty well for us. I rarely make it to 3, which makes me sound like a great parent, but in reality I ...more
Since then, my very energetic, loud and curious three and four year olds have started driving me crazy. It was a good time to revisit this book since we're living with my in-laws and they find my children to be intolerable.
It definitely helps remind me that kids are ...more