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I'm Judging You: The Do-Better Manual

3.68  ·  Rating details ·  10,129 ratings  ·  1,488 reviews
Comedian, activist, and hugely popular culture blogger at, Luvvie Ajayi, serves up necessary advice for the common senseless in this hilarious book of essays. "This truth-riot of a book gives us everything from hilarious lectures on the bad behavior all around us to the razor sharp essays on media and culture" (Shonda Rhimes, New York Times best-selling ...more
Paperback, 241 pages
Published September 13th 2016 by Holt Paperbacks
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Laura Avellaneda-Cruz I would recommend it for teens if the parents of the teens read it along with them. The guidance on social media behavior would be particularly useful…moreI would recommend it for teens if the parents of the teens read it along with them. The guidance on social media behavior would be particularly useful for teens, and the way she explains feminism and racism is a clear introduction to many of these concepts. She does talk about sex (within the context of talking about relationships) in a way that is, I believe, meant for adults, so that's why it would be helpful for a parent and teen to be able to talk about that part together, and discuss values and norms and STIs and all that. (less)

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Kia Kia
Please understand that I pre-ordered this book and wanted to LOVE it!! I shared this book on Social Media and asked others if they wanted to read it together. I even got the audio book to make it feel more like I was having a conversation with my girlfriends.

Throughout the book, I struggled to determine who was the intended audience and who would benefit from reading it the most. There were no new ideas presented here and nothing you wouldn't know about her thoughts if you currently follow her
Jenny Lawson
Jul 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I love Luvvie. The end.
Victoria Schwab
Sep 02, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I really, really enjoyed this one.
May 15, 2017 rated it it was ok
Don't judge me, but I didn't like this book as much as I had hoped. A friend had given me a copy, saying it was hilarious, but I struggled to finish it.

Luvvie Ajayi is described on the back cover as a "hugely popular blogger," but I confess I hadn't heard of her before I was handed this book. (I'm not on Twitter, so I miss all these social media stars.) Luvvie said she was inspired to write this book when she saw a picture on Facebook of someone's dead grandmother being prepared for burial.

Jun 11, 2016 rated it really liked it
I received this book through the librarything Early Reviewers program.

I was not familiar with the author, and the cover copy makes it seem like this is going to be another one of those books written by a blogger or celebrity that try very hard to be funny but don't say anything of substance.

I was a bit surprised by how wrong that assumption was! Luvvie covers social media, bad manners, and other somewhat trivial topics with insight and wit. Where she really shines, however, is in the section of
Jan 27, 2017 rated it it was ok

This was okay. It's not bad; it's just not profound. There's nothing new here, but I didn't really expect there to be.

(Truth be told, I don't really get her draw online or in this book to the extent other people do, but hey...)


Luvvie, who I do follow online to see what people are talking about, is good at providing a space for Black women and others to gather. She excels at creating an online watering hole, water cooler place for the collection of this community's thoughts, jokes, g
4 stars for content + 1 star for Luvvie reading her own book = 5 stars!

When I returned Letter to My Daughter, I saw that this was available on Overdrive. I've had it on my wish list since it was released but it was always checked out so I obviously had to click the BORROW button on this immediately and that's how it became Book Three of my inadvertent themed reading spree.

I've been stalking Luvvie on the interwebs for maybe three years? I like her. She’s a little off the wall and over the top or
Tori (InToriLex)
May 06, 2017 rated it really liked it
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Actual Rating 3.5 Stars

I enjoyed the many topics covered in a relate able and humorous way, challenging me to do better, in this book. Luvvie spoke about hygiene, being late, bad relationships and race relations in a way that I never felt preachy, even though I was learning. Racism, feminism and sexual assault are hard topics to address, because of the many ways they intersect. Luvvie's use of a interpersonal interaction to get your attention on a topic,
destiny ♡⚔♡ [howling libraries]
I really wanted to love this just because I heard so many good things about it, so I set aside the fact that, from following her online, I already knew Luvvie's sense of humor just didn't jive with me. I waited forever for the library to get a copy in for me, and almost just ordered the damn thing, holding back only because I never reread nonfiction and thus rarely am willing to buy copies for my home library.

I digress.

I really, really can't get into Luvvie's writing style. The made up words a
Jessica Woodbury
We still don't quite have the definitive book on manners for the digital age, but Luvvie is moving us an awful lot closer to it. While her book is useful for anyone, it's best for people who spend a lot of time online. It's an unusual mix of topics for an advice book, but hey, why not discuss proper hygiene and how not to be a racist in this day and age?

The audiobook is a good way to go. Luvvie is a fun and friendly reader.
MrsJoseph *grouchy*
For all my friends thinking of attempting this book:

-You should go check out the blog first. You may not jive with her humor and/or her topics.
- There are a lot of Pop Culture terms that WILL be used. Also slang. EX: BAE (which equals something like "baby" but is in fact an abbreviation.
EX: THOT/Thot = That Hoe Over There
- This book will probably skew younger than 35 and above. If you are over 30, please go check out the blog before reading.

UPDATE: Shonda Rhimes (of Scandal/Grey's Anatomy Fam
I will write a full review closer to the publication date. I'm happy to say, Luuvie has inspired me in different aspects to keep doing better, and confirmed some of my "lessons learned" regarding social media. I'll expound in detail later. I'll say this---I have already made a gift list of all my friends who I'll be buying copies for--I'm going to be that friend that will be sending all their friends this book and Year of Yes as a complimentary pairing. ...more
Steven Walle
Oct 07, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: self-help
This is a great book. It is writtenAmericans act. She gives us whatfore on many different aspects of life in a delightful and funny manner.
Enjoy and Be Blessed.
Mar 11, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: arc
There are 2 things I should mention up front:
1. I won this ARC from a giveaway in order for me to give a fair and honest review
2. I have never read Luvvie Ajayi's blog. I didn't even know who she was until Goodreads recommended her book since I liked Furiously Happy and this book sounded funny and interesting so I decided to read it.

First off I feel like this was marketed as being witty and amusing, but it's not. All of the topics she writes about are topics that have been thoroughly covered all
I had never heard of Luvvie, to be honest, but my husband was reading her book and he thought I might like it. Its an interesting book and I did enjoy it. She has a lot of interesting topics here and a funny take on things.
da AL
Sep 29, 2017 rated it it was amazing
who knew being judged could be so clever & fun? ...more
Helen Power
Feb 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
What a fabulous book! I haven’t been this captivated by an audiobook in a long time. Luvvie is equally hilarious and insightful as she talks about her thoughts on everything – from what makes a good friend to rape culture in America. I listened to the audiobook, which Luvvie read herself, and I must say that she brings a unique flavour to topics she discusses, and I’m glad that she didn’t have some monotonous narrator read her words.

Luvvie Ajayi’s book is aptly titled “I’m Judging You”. She dem
Mahoghani 23
Funny but real. Sarcastic but on point. Opinionated and judgmental. This book covers all spectrums in our lives that we either overlook or refuse to say anything about. Luvvie decided it was time to bring us back into focus regarding our little worlds we live in and things we accept as the norm. It's pulsating with confrontational subjects and her thoughts about them. You don't have to agree but you must admit she makes some very valid points.

You start out in humor and midway through the book,
Clumsy Storyteller
This book felt like a scattered notes patched together in a weird way. The jokes were funny and clever but the transition from one topic to another wasn't smooth. one minute she's talking about taking selfies in funeral and sharing them on Instagram; the next she's talking about anal bleaching (Apparently it's a THING) and body types. It was honestly a roller coaster.
So, here's the deal. I really liked the first part of this book wherein Ajayi talks about her friends and her self (bc she's late for everything). I laughed out loud at the story of Carlos the bicycle-riding deadbeat. I also loved the essay about her experiences with people mispronouncing her name--so much so that she goes by a nickname.

While I enjoyed the Carlos story, I have a real problem with anyone shaming women who stay in bad relationships by saying the women should be too embarrassed/hor
Jun 10, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Have you ever read a book and wondered if it was possible to edit it down enough to put on some thick cardboard with colorful illustrations because small children should read it before they are allowed access to the internet or even other people? Me neither, until I read Luvvie Ajayi's "I'm Judging You."

Luvvie's course of social critiques with a side order of wit had me saying "good to know" and "Amen!" throughout. It's unfortunate that our society needs a book like this, but thankfully it was w
Aqsa (On Hiatus)
Feb 20, 2019 marked it as june-tbr
Just watched this:

Excited to read this!
Nov 12, 2016 rated it it was ok
The author, Luvvie Ajayi, has provided several laughs for me via her Twitter and blog. As such, I added this to my "want to read" list pretty quickly after hearing about it. Despite my initial excitement, expectations for the book dwindled with time as I heard from others who had read it. The main reason I decided to pick the book up again was because of the Shonda Rhimes series that's coming.

I was told prior to reading the book that it didn't feel like it offered anything new to their understan
Feb 18, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: aa-literature
What piqued my interest about this book is so many people to include celebrities were posting pictures of themselves posing with it on Instagram. Naturally, when I see such hype, my curiosity is aroused.

Luvvie Ajayi has written a book that covers some of the many social issues we have faced, are currently confronting or even reading about. No topic is off limits here. She addresses the issue of reality tv and the consumers' indulgence in it; she addresses the issue of race and why other races ma
Feb 20, 2017 rated it liked it
I love Luvvie Ajayi's writing on her blog, on facebook, and on twitter. She's hilarious, she's on-point, and she's insightful. I listened to the audiobook for this one, which she narrates, and I definitely think that's the best format for this book because it captures her 'voice' (figuratively and literally) the best. But I think this book strays too much from a key element that makes her such a success on social media platforms - discussing topics of the moment, like the news or celebrities or ...more
Sep 17, 2016 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Have to say I'm disappointed. I'm a big fan of Luvvie on social media, and I've gained a lot of insight from reading her posts the last few years. (LOL at one of the reviews that said the book is for people under 35. I'm 40.)

My favorite parts of the book were where she gave us snippets of her own autobiography. For example, why she doesn't use her given name. I understand she likes to keep her private life private, but many of the other topics in the book have been covered so often, they felt a
Kassandra Morris
Feb 05, 2017 rated it did not like it
I thought I could but I can't! This book is such foolishness, with made up vocabulary and not-so-funny commentary. I tried to get into it but I felt like I lowered my IQ. Phases such as "when baehood goes bad" or words like "Uglass" to refer to Ugly ass just does not sit well with me. I only got to page 29 and said to myself "you know what? I will not waste any more of my life on this book. I think a lot of reviews were positive because she's an up and coming Nigerian blogger. They wanted to pro ...more
Dov Zeller
Jan 12, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: not-for-moi, essays
Got this from the library after seeing folks give it a rave review on GR. I appreciate the conversational tone and the topics discussed, but not much felt new or super engaging in terms of content or approach to content.

Glad to know about Ajayi, and that GR keeps me exploring new voices (as well as older classics. I recently read a rave review of Catch-22, which I still haven't read. 2017 just might be the year for soul-crushing satire.) I love the concept of the book--a "do better" manual offe
Reviews May Vary
Read as an audiobook, which probably helped a bit. Ajayi reads the book herself, making it more conversational. Social topics were interesting and varied and I laughed a few times at her turns of phase and word smithery. Of course, it’s generally easy to listen to someone’s opinions when you largely agree. So, #reviewsMayVary.

Read Harder 2018: Essays, or one sitting book
I don't like hate speech disguised as humor. Had to bail on this one.
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Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a New York Times bestselling author and sought after speaker who thrives at the intersection of comedy, justice and professional troublemaking.

Her debut book (I’M JUDGING YOU: The Do-Better Manual) was released to critical acclaim, hitting the New York Times bestselling list at #5. She is currently working on her second book: The Fear-Fighter Manual, slated to be released in

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