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We Are Okay

3.97  ·  Rating details ·  28,397 ratings  ·  5,238 reviews
You go through life thinking there’s so much you need…

Until you leave with only your phone, your wallet, and a picture of your mother.

Marin hasn’t spoken to anyone from her old life since the day she left everything behind. No one knows the truth about those final weeks. Not even her best friend, Mabel. But even thousands of miles away from the California coast, at college
Hardcover, 236 pages
Published February 14th 2017 by Dutton Books for Young Readers
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Nicole No. It's a full novel. But I can see why you ask this question, with the cover looking much like a graphic novel would.

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Feb 13, 2017 rated it really liked it
This is the kind of book I want to write. Which is a pretty big thing to say, I suppose.

What I really appreciated was that Nina LaCour abandoned the idea that a novel has to be entirely plot driven. This is a book about relationships and emotions and I liked being caught up in Marin's brain. I loved that it took place in winter, on an abandoned university campus, where everything amplified Marin's feelings of emptiness and isolation. I like that things like being coloured or queer were present b
شيماء ✨
Do you ever think about a book and then wonder what the last person who also read it and related to it was doing or if they were okay?

Because right now I want to write something but I honestly don't know what to say. My thoughts are lying face down on the floor with passion and I just wish someone could put a blanket over them and tell them they're fine. And I swear it's like every book makes me sad in a different way but’s all the same. So yeah. I guess I'm just going to keep arrang
Melissa ♥ Dog/Wolf Lover ♥ Martin

This book was everything to me.

"'Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can."'


You go through life thinking there's so much you need. Your favorite jeans and sweater. The jacket with the faux-fur lining to keep you warm. Your phone and your music and your favorite books. Mascara. Irish Breakfast tea and cappuccinos from Trouble Coffee. You need your yearbooks, every stiffly posed
Mar 17, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: lgbt
This is possibly the prettiest book I’ve held in my hands. As pretty as the picture looks, the hardcover is twice as lovely.

So I’m definitely glad I enjoyed the story, because otherwise I would have felt morally obliged to donate the book.

Nina LaCour doesn’t write; she paints. Delicately and purposefully. Her words are colors that blend into one another to create a magnificent landscape.

This is a book about family, first love, grief and solitude. Before she began college, Marin lived with her
Feb 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
“The trouble with denial is that when the truth comes, you aren’t ready.”

Marin hasn’t spoken to anyone from her old life since the day she left everything behind. No one knows the truth about those final weeks. Not even her best friend, Mabel. But even thousands of miles away from the California coast, at college in New York, Marin still feels the pull of the life and tragedy she’s tried to outrun. Now, months later, alone in an emptied dorm for winter break, Marin waits. Mabel is coming to visi
Elise (TheBookishActress)
“If only I had something to take the edge off the loneliness. If only lonely were a more accurate word. It should sound much less pretty.”

This book is a quiet heartbreak. It is not an action-packed story, it’s crafted with immense subtlety, it’s not going to make you scream at One Specific Significant line. It is a book to feel, a book to hurt, and a book to heal.

The thing I keep coming back to about this book is the character development. This is a book about the regret of Marin; Marin a
lets talk about grief. and how it affects everyone in different ways. its can slowly creep up on you. it can hit you suddenly and with great intensity. and sometimes its always present, making itself comfortable in your loneliness. its one of those emotions that is difficult to express and, because of that, i applaud this story. grief and loneliness are not pretty feelings, but this novel handles them will care and authenticity. and while the writing in this story is beautiful, grief can be a ve ...more
The person who will like this book is a very particular one.

If you don’t like character-driven stuff, STAY FAR AWAY FROM THIS BOOK. No, seriously. Leave this review right now, even. There is not even a question of you possibly liking this book. SO GET OUT OF HERE, OKAY?

Just kidding. You can stay if you want. But only if it’s for my charming personality and not for a potential recommendation.

Okay. Now I am going to try to make A Point that is perched on a very thin line. And I will almost certain
Apr 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
[4.5 stars] I'm crying buckets. I haven't cried this much over a book since I finished reading A Court of Wings and Ruin. This book was stunning. Absolutely stunning. I felt every single word. Some of them were just outright painful, but I was connected, grieving alongside Marin.

It is an incredible story about a girl who's coming to terms with the death of her grandfather and her losses in life, which she's experienced so much of so young. Such a short book, but so beautifully impactful.
Elyse Walters
Jun 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Update -- This is $2.99 today as a kindle download -- (read other reviews) -- its not for everyone -- but it was for me. I haven't given away my hard copy -I love how it feels in my hand -- its funny how my mind works - If this were a $1.99 today --(instead of $2.99) -- I might buy it --then finally give my physical copy away. Gotta clear out books once in awhile!

Point is -- if you THINK this book is for YOU -- it probably is!!!! I saw 'low' reviews 'before' I read it --yet I still knew I wante
Expectation: A new favorite.
Reality: A new favorite.

*throws five stars at the book from the floor, where he is a sobbing mess*
(Bern) Mom to 2 Posh Lil Divas
"Life is paper thin and fragile. Any sudden change could rip it wide-open."

A short, easy read (I read it in a few hours in 1 sitting) about loneliness, heartbreak & eventual healing. It's slow paced - there isn't any real action in the plot. It's really centered around emotion - Marin's feelings which become clearer to us as we read, allowing us to learn her truths.

I enjoyed the story for what it was but I personally wasn't blown away by it. There were parts that dragged a bit for me an
Lily ☁️
Jun 11, 2018 rated it liked it
Recommended to Lily ☁️ by: Leona Carstairs
My full review is now up on my blog!

3 1/2 starsI am not okay.


This book’s title sounds like something I tell people when in reality it’s the exact opposite of what I am.
Claudia Ramírez
Jun 21, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2018, cover-love
3,5 stars
Chelsea (chelseadolling reads)
Oct 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: queer
Whyyyyyyy did I put off reading this for so long? I adored it.
Raeleen Lemay
Feb 10, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: lgbtqia, young-adult
I'll start out by saying that I never originally intended to read this book, but I received a copy in the mail a few days ago from Penguin and it's super short, so I decided to give it a go.

(I sort of wish I hadn't)

This book was way too over the top on the melodrama for me... It was a very forgettable read, and it's just not the type of book I enjoy to read anymore. If you want to read a great Nina LaCour book, I highly HIGHLY recommend Everything Leads to You because it has a strong plot and gr
Oct 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: glbt, owned, 2018, favorites
“If only lonely were a more accurate word. It should sound much less pretty.”

There are books that roar and scream and radiate power. This is not one of those books. It is a book that shows ultimate strength in its tranquillity. We Are Okay may be a quiet book, but its force will tear you apart and put you back together again. It will give room to your grief, then stroke your hair, hug you tightly and warm your heart piece by piece.

By the first page, I was already lost between the pages of this b
- ̗̀  jaelyn ̖́-
May 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: anyone who has ever felt loneliness
“I was okay just a moment ago. I will learn how to be okay again.”

this book feels like a journal to me. i felt like Nina LaCour just ransacked my bedroom and found my nonexistent journal and was like "hmm well she's sad and gay so let's make a book about that" and the rest is history.

i feel like 2018 is the year i finally read books by the authors i've been wanting to read for years. Maggie, Adam, Schwab, Becky, et cetera. and now, it's nina!! i've been interested in her books ever since Everyth

Cait • A Page with a View
3.5 stars. This is a really fast read and focuses on forgiveness, hope, and coming to terms with the past. Marin is alone in her NYC dorm over the winter because she has nowhere else to go... and then Mabel comes to visit her. It's clear that they used to be more than friends but something happened to drive a wedge between Marin and her past. The reader slowly finds out everything as the story goes (it's split between Marin's current life and her past in California).

The isolated setting of the d
destiny ♡⚔♡ [howling libraries]
“The trouble with denial is that when the truth comes, you aren't ready.”

Winter break has come, and while everyone else has gone home to see families and significant others for a few weeks, Marin would be perfectly content to stay in her dorm room, alone with her grief, pretending that her life from before doesn't exist anymore. Life is never quite that simple, though, and Mabel is coming to visit, shoving her way into Marin's after. Marin has a lot of skeletons in her closet that need to be fac
Ahmed  Ejaz
Sep 21, 2018 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2018, full-lengths
Life is paper-thin and fragile. Any sudden change could rip it wide-open.
Seems like I'm getting books based on loneliness in this month. Anyway, this book was fine. Having no certain plot but still not a bad book.

Marin (the main character & orphan & raised by her grandfather).
Mabel (her best friend).
The book mostly revolves arround them.

This book is about Marin living in dorms even though it's winter break. She doesn't go back to her home because she doesn't wanna res
Kayla Dawn
Jul 01, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: owned-books
This was good! I liked the characters and their relationships a lot. The writing style was very nice as well.

*very minor spoiler ahead I guess??*

The ending was a little too good to be true in my opinion but other than that I really enjoyed it.

(Well, I don't know what else to say. I'm much better at writing reviews about books I didn't like lol)
Saania Zee Jamal ϟ
If I were to ever marry a book cover, it would be this one.
Cece (ProblemsOfaBookNerd)
*3.5 stars

This is such a hard rating, because the last quarter was incredible, but the middle was definitely a solid 3. I loved the exploration of grief itself. It was done beautifully and I cried multiple times throughout reading this. Nina LaCour has such beautiful writing, I just get frustrated sometimes by her more... tropey moments? She has these plot elements that happen that are so unrealistic and I find myself get frustrated because her writing is incredible and I want the plot to live u
prag ♻
This is a book about sadness.

I wonder if we will become okay again. I hope for it.

This is a book about sadness. It's a book about pain and loss and love and death. It's about the death of a grandfather. It's about the death of a spirit. It's a book about family - and about Marin's dead mother. It's about Jones and Birdie and Ben and Laney and Hannah and Mabel.

I wonder if there’s a secret current that connects people who have lost something. Not in the way that everyone loses something, but in
Jun 04, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: lgbtqia
16/11/17- Revising my rating to 5 stars instead of 4 because the more I think about this book the more I realise it's one of my favourites of the year (and also I can't stop thinking about it).

“I was okay just a moment ago. I will learn how to be okay again.”

I'D seen a few reviews of this book which called it 'boring' and I almost let them deter me from reading this. I'm so glad I didn't because honestly this book was lovely and melancholic and strangely beautiful and I genuinely enjoyed readin
Carlos Peguer
Sep 27, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2017
Me cuesta la vida darle cinco estrellas a un libro, pero es que este se las merece. Es increíble que un libro te haga sentir tantas cosas en apenas 250 páginas. Y no sé, me ha encantado.

Esta es una de las historias más especiales y duras que he leído en mi vida. A pesar de ser tan corto es un libro lento, de los que te van descubriendo cosas poco a poco. De los que te dejan con las ganas, y no descubren toda la verdad hasta el final. O sea, my kind of shit.

Me he enamorado de la prota y de su fo
Oct 22, 2018 marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
Sounds awesome. Will read it soon.
OMG, já jsem přeložila knihu!

Tolik jsem se těšila, až budu mít konečně hotovo, ale teď mám za sebou i poděkování a nějak si neumím představit, co dál. Strávila jsem s Marin a Mabel a ostatními postavami tolik času, že si neumím představit, že mi už nebudou dělat společnost.

Když nějakou knihu čtete z pohledu redaktora/korektora, je to trochu jiné počtení, než když ji čtete jako „obyčejní“ čtenáři. Čtete podrobněji a všímáte si věcí, které byste jinak jen přelétli očima. Čtete pomaleji. A když s n
Jun 17, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: people who are dealing with the death of a loved one
An intimate and honest book about grief, We Are Okay tells us about Marin who suffers from the loss of her grandfather four months ago. In silence and in loneliness she keeps the tragedy to herself, but now her childhood friend Mabel comes to visit, Marin finally has to face her past and her emotions.

“The trouble with denial is that when the truth comes, you aren't ready.”

This is a book about grief, loss, and solitude, but if I had to describe this story in one word, I would say “quiet”. “Mela
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Nina LaCour grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area. Her first job was at fourteen in an independent bookstore, and she has since worked in two others. She has tutored and taught in various places, from a juvenile hall to a private college. She now teaches English at an independent high school.

Of Hold Still, Nina says:

“This book is about loss, and it’s also about art. The loss part comes from a clas
“I was okay just a moment ago. I will learn how to be okay again.” 189 likes
“We were nostalgic for a time that wasn't yet over.” 111 likes
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