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Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely

4.20  ·  Rating details ·  31,625 ratings  ·  2,185 reviews
"Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the worst of what's been said to me."

The enemy wants us to feel rejected . . . left out, lonely, and less than.

In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences of rejection—from the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over to the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her fat
Paperback, 275 pages
Published August 9th 2016 by Thomas Nelson
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Karin Reese any of Brene Brown's books, particularly "I Thought It Was Just Me" and "The Gifts of Imperfection." Ms. Brown has extensively researched shame and vu…moreany of Brene Brown's books, particularly "I Thought It Was Just Me" and "The Gifts of Imperfection." Ms. Brown has extensively researched shame and vulnerability. The first book I listed was particularly eye-opening to help me see how much shame I was carrying and help me start figuring out ways to work through it. I have recommended her books often!(less)
Elizabeth Giles It is heavily Christian, but I think you could get a lot from it, even if you're not religious.…moreIt is heavily Christian, but I think you could get a lot from it, even if you're not religious.(less)

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Rachel B
This book was a little unfocused. It seemed to touch on every topic and yet not really say anything. To sum it up, "God loves you, so you should live your life feeling loved. If you don't feel loved, that's a problem. The solution? Know that God loves you." Which isn't wrong - it's just incredibly simplistic and not overly helpful.

TerKeurst also took a few verses out of context and read into Bible stories a bit more than I believe is wise. There were a few good nuggets, but nothing that I haven'
Oct 22, 2016 rated it it was ok
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2/5 stars.

So, I'm just going to go ahead and give you the bottom line right from the start - I was rather disappointed in this book.

I read The Best Yes by Lysa Terkheurst a while ago, and I really found it helpful, so I thought I'd pick up her new book. I generally think that Terkheurst is a good writer, but this book really fell flat for me, I think for a few reasons.

1. This was not a great time in my life to read this book. I was trying to remember my own past rejections as I read, and trying
Sep 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing
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Oh my stars.

I wish I could have had this book a couple years ago. It would have saved me so much hurt. But I didn't, and that's okay. God brought me through and helped me work through it. In her book, Mrs. TerKeurst walks through how to overcome the pain of past or present rejection, and how to in turn live loved. If you've ever tasted that bitter sting of being rejected, I strongly recommend you pick this book up. As she points out, not tending to these wounds just allow a seed of bitterness to
Aug 15, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Just What I needed

This book touched me so personally that I am in tears. It was like the author was speaking directly to me.
Oct 30, 2016 rated it it was ok
This is not a Gospel driven book. Many Christian women authors today seem to want to use our depravity to make sure we know we're not alone and almost make us feel okay about our feelings, however ungodly they may be. This book is no exception to that. While there were a few chapters that spoke to me, by the end, I just wanted so badly for her to use my sinfulness, my depravity, my "lonely, left out feelings" to remind me of why I need Christ and drive me toward self-forgetfulness and gospel cen ...more
Oct 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This is one of those "highlight every other sentence and re-read every month" type books. I think everyone who has ever walked the earth has dealt with rejection in one form or another. Rejection can be devastating and crippling. It is so easy to be consumed by it, to allow it to change who we are and what we think about ourselves. I am a big fan of Lysa's but the way she walks through this book and how to process and grow from rejection is beautiful. I highly recommend this book for everyone. ...more
Dec 17, 2016 rated it really liked it
This book was great. I'd never heard of it but stumbled across it on display at the bookstore. Parts of it were incredibly relatable for me - some very familiar feelings and actions. It gave me a lot to think about. ...more
Oct 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
If you have ever felt rejected, left out, cast aside or even simply feel unloved at times, this book will have something that will help you feel loved and will help your emotional pain heal as you learn to accept God's love for you and his forgiveness. This was an easy read and I loved how organized the book was. I would recommend buying the hardcopy because at the end of the book, Lysa listed all of the important bible verses that were used in each chapter and also made another section that lis ...more
Sep 16, 2016 rated it it was ok
I skipped many paragraphs. Her writing style doesn't captivate me and to be honest, her experience of being rejected didn't compare to the depths of what many of us experience. I appreciate the concept, though. But I was disappointed. This is the third book of hers that I have read and haven't been captivated. I think the cover art was pretty and the title and subject matter is what made we want to read it. ...more
Oct 01, 2016 rated it it was ok
My feelings about Uninvited can best be summed up with a dispassionate "meh, it was alright." Lysa TerKeurst's writing style didn't do much for me and the chapters felt a little disjointed and unfocused. I did like the overall message the book was trying to convey, but the way that message was flushed out was disappointing and, if I'm being totally honest, forgettable. This isn't a book that will stay with me or that I'll refer back to in years to come. Judging from the glowing reviews here on G ...more
Oct 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
If you have ever felt rejected, I would recommend this book. I've been dealing with feeling left out, duped, and, well, uninvited lately. This book was a good reminder that a lot of the feelings we deal with right now are tied to things that happened in the past, and that God never rejects us. I plan on buying my own copy so I can highlight and mark it up good. ...more
Feb 25, 2017 rated it it was ok
The positive reviews had me thinking that this would be an excellent read. I was very excited. This is the first time I've ever read a Lysa Terkeurst book, and I just can't give it anything higher than two stars.

For the first few chapters, I was very drawn in to this read. After a while, though, it seemed like something was missing. I had quite a few issues with this book, but I'll list only my main concerns. 1) It's jumpy, going from one topic to the next and doesn't seem to carry a common thr
Rather fluffy and cliche in the beginning, but it did get better, as my friend said it would. I must admit that there are thought-provoking pieces of advice in here, despite the book's weak structure and lackluster writing style. I can see how it would be of great help to some. But it just didn't strike a chord with me. The whole thing was wrapped in too many layers of cheesiness. ...more
Kara Neal
Skip it

There were some good things in this book. There really were. But my overall takeaway is that this writer seems awfully petty and fixated on herself much of the time. Another sticking point for me is that she seems to believe God speaks to her personally. Scripture doesn't support that. Looking into her church, pastor, and theology, I'd suggest to proceed with discernment. Test the spirits.
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4.5 stars


Lysa TerKeurst delivers such a heartfelt address on rejection, chatting with the reader and sharing hilarious anecdotes as if she's basically your bestie. Uninvited delivers the eye-opening message that it's perfectly natural to feel the sharp ache of rejection... but also gently presents advice on how we can rest in God's eternal embrace throughout it. <3
Christina Claypool
Apr 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
When a book comes along at just the right time, it can be a double blessing. Lysa TerKeurst's "Uninvited..." came along at the perfect moment for me.

If we're honest, there are times when we all feel rejected, and less than. Many of us, like Lysa so adeptly writes about, have childhood issues which we can hold onto, if we're not careful. As an author and role model, she is transparent in a sensitive and challenging way, using herself as an example that there is a wonderful freedom God can give us
Sher❤ The Fabulous BookLover
Have you ever looked through someone else’s prescription glasses and even though it’s perfect for them it’s a blurry mess for you? That’s how I feel when I read Lysa’s books.

For the life of me I couldn’t connect with this book! Perhaps it’s because I’m not feeling rejected or uninvited. Or it could be because, like most of this authors books, her books are very unfocused.

I’m always about learning and keeping a solid foundation in my relationship with Jesus. And even though I may not be feeling
Jul 31, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I always enjoy Lysa's writing. It is so honest. This book did not disappoint.

Lysa lets the reader look into her own insecurities to teach the reader lessons when we feel rejected. She gives lots of personal stories and plenty of scripture for the reader to hide in her heart. "Live from the abundant pace that you are loved, and you won't find yourself begging others for scraps of love" is one of the author's quotes that I feel sums up the point of the book. Highly recommend.
Sep 27, 2016 rated it liked it
I debated between giving this 2 or 3 stars. I was drawn in by the title and subject matter, but didn't feel the book delivered on its promises. I wasn't captivated by the writing and actually skimmed some parts. This was the first book I've read by this author. I was hoping for more- more depth, more personal stories, more connection... just more. ...more
Amie Walker
Oct 14, 2016 rated it it was ok
This was the first book I have read by Lysa. Unfortunately, I wasn't impressed. I felt like her chapters were unfocused and really didn't get very deep into the topic of rejection. It was very "fluffy" and I was looking for more biblical truths than what she presented. Plus, if I had to hear about her thighs or body image issues one more time I would've simply put the book down. ...more
Brooke — brooklynnnnereads
3.5 stars

I think the lower rating of this book is mainly attributed to my experience and the pacing of my reading, compared to the content. 3.5 stars is in by no means a bad rating, but I think I would have given this book a higher rating if I meditated and digested on the content more.

When I picked this book up, I thought it was at the perfect time as I was struggling with a lot of the issues that it discusses. However, I was in more of a mood to just ‘read’ and because of that I didn’t work t
Hope Joyce
Aug 14, 2018 rated it liked it
I read this book 3 years ago and did not enjoy it the first time around. I just didn’t relate to the main topic and I got bored quickly. When I read it the second time, my perspective completely changed. I read it with a new attitude, ready to glean whatever wisdom I could from the book. With new experiences of rejection under my belt, I was able to relate to the author’s words and find solace in the scriptures she cites. This isn’t my new favorite book all of the sudden, but it can be a helpful ...more
Kimberly Dawn
Feb 20, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
The messages in this book for women by a Christian writer are beautiful and healing. Really though, you don’t have to be especially beaten, battered or rejected to relate to this book. Life is difficult, as M. Scott Peck wisely said, and the sooner we accept that the less difficult it becomes.
At best, life is a beautiful struggle.
Jan 04, 2017 rated it liked it
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I've been hurt by rejection and started believing lies about my God and who I am in Him-I deny myself the protection of His truth. And my search for love and acceptance outside of God's presence then leads to dangerous places.

Rating 3.5

TerKeurst is a wonderful writer who expresses herself with vulnerability and rawness. The pain of rejection can spill out in our lives in many different ways and the damage it does can leave us spiritual immature and lacking. Does this only apply to select few? N
4.5 stars

I read Uninvited with my ladies' Bible study group. It was really good, and so much of it extremely relevant for me! I found some awesome and inspiring quotes, and a lot of thought-provoking concepts in this book. Though some parts were kind of glum-feeling, truly Uninvited continually pointed back to Christ. And finding love and security in Him. It was beautiful.

I certainly recommend to any woman who has struggled with insecurity, rejection, or the like.

"It's not about you becoming any
Mar 30, 2019 rated it it was amazing
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Uninvited was such a powerful read. I felt like so much of it was written for me and I wrote down a lot of quotes. I liked how the book was written in a friendly way and yet didn't shy away from saying difficult things.

All in all, Uninvited was a great book and I recommend it. I'm looking forward to reading more of this author's books.

*Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention/review it on my b
Mar 23, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book was so good because everyone can relate to the feeling of being left out, unwanted, rejected, or unloved at some point in their lives by others, even those close to us. Many of us know we are loved by Jesus, but how many of us live like we are loved by him every second of our lives? This book has practical tips for how to "live loved" through every season and every aspect of our lives. It has wonderful scripture references as well to keep us focused on the truth. We are loved by Jesus, ...more
Renae | Redhair_and_Books
Nov 26, 2022 rated it really liked it
This book was encouraging and reminded me of key truths about who God says I am. It highlighted the fact that no matter how much rejection I face in real life, God does not reject me. And Lysa has a great way of weaving real life stories into important (and often entertaining and relatable) lessons!

That being said… it wasn’t as deep as I hoped for. It mainly just reinforced a bunch of stuff I already knew. It is full of beautiful quotes and phrases I’d honestly hang on my wall for encouragement,
Jan 21, 2019 rated it liked it
This book is good for a bit of self discovery - thinking about why you feel uninvited or rejected in certain situations. It gives suggestions of how you should change your mindset with scriptural references. However, it didn’t give anything in the way of practical advice. I also felt the title was a little misleading as only one or two small sections related to the feeling of being left out in social situations, and that’s what I was interested in. Most of the book was dealing more with one on o ...more
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Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the New York Times best-selling author of Univited, The Best Yes, Unglued, Made to Crave, and 18 other books. Her newest book, It’s Not Supposed to be This Way, is scheduled for release in November of 2018. Lysa was recently awarded the Champions of Faith Author Award and has been published in multiple publications such as CNN and Fox News ...more

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