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The Nearness of You

3.52  ·  Rating details ·  900 ratings  ·  208 reviews
In this profound and lyrical novel, acclaimed author Amanda Eyre Ward explores the deeper meanings of motherhood—from the first blissful hello to the heart-wrenching prospect of saying goodbye.

Brilliant heart surgeon Suzette Kendall is stunned when Hyland, her husband of fifteen years, admits his yearning for a child. From the beginning, they’d decided that having
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Published February 14th 2017 by Ballantine Books
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Diane S ☔
Feb 03, 2017 rated it liked it
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3.5 Suzette and Hyland seem to have it all, their marriage is great, they love each other immensely, Suzanne has a fulfilling and prominent career as a heart surgeon. There is only one think lacking, a child, Suzanne refusing to procreate because of the virulent strain of mental illness that runs in her family. So they turn to surrogacy, finding a young woman, willing to have a child, wanting to escape her small town and have money for college, a future.

Things of course do not go as smoothly as
Elyse  Walters
Dec 10, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: netgalley
Amanda Eyre Ward is an author to keep your eyes on. "The Nearness of You", a surrogacy storyline, is written with the same integrity.....[worthy issues to examine] "Under the Same Sky, an illegal immigrant storyline.

Amanda has our attention immediately with the opening Prologue. We are given information to tuck into our back pockets....and just sit with awhile.

Once Chapter 1 begins ...we soon are introduced to a married couple by the names of Suzette and Hyland. Suzette is a surgeon.
Feb 14, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: netgalley
3.5 stars. Last year, I read The Same Sky by Amanda Eyre Ward. I know I liked it, but it didn't leave a huge impression on me. I suspect this will be my long term reaction to The Nearness of You. It's a quick read and I felt engrossed while I read it, but I'm not sure it will stay with me. Suzette is a cardiac surgeon who carries the weight of her sad childhood in her past, and her husband Hyland also lives with the aftermath of a tragic childhood. Suzette and Hyland make a deal to have Dorie ...more
Feb 09, 2017 rated it really liked it
The Nearness of You By Amanda Eyre Ward

Suzette is a surgeon living in Houston with her husband Hyland who is an architect. When Suzette and Hyland got married they both agreed on having no children. Now suddenly Hyland has changed his mind, he now wants a child. Suzette has had a history of mental illness in her family and she is stabilized, regarding her own mental heath. They choose to use a surrogate.

Dorrie is the surrogate chosen by Hyland to be the one to deliver a new baby to Hyland and
Karen Rush
Mar 09, 2017 rated it liked it
Amanda Eyre Ward provides an interesting look into the world of surrogate parenting through 3 different perspectives. The characters have depth and early on, I became sympathetic to their circumstances, but they could be so unlikeable at times.

Reading this book made me more aware and sympathetic to issues that may crop up in surrogacy. Overall, a good story line and well thought out.
Judy Collins
Storyteller, Amanda Eyre Ward returns following (2015) The Same Sky with another thought-provoking and gripping tale of four wounded characters in THE NEARNESS OF YOU. (Beautiful cover ).

What does it take to be a real mother? With highly charged topics, Ward delves deeply into the emotions of the human psyche and what it takes to be a family. A surrogate young girl goes missing, disrupting the lives of all that are near and dear to the unborn child.

Set in Houston, Texas –Hyland and Suzette
Parenthood, family, all-encompassing love and the lengths a mother will go for her child, biological or not. THE NEARNESS OF YOU by Amanda Eyre Ward burrows deep into the lives of two women and the child they both love. Heart surgeon Suzette Kendall has never wanted anything to interfere with the life-saving work she does, including having a child. For Suzette and her upwardly mobile husband, Hyland life was good until Hyland decides he wants to feel the bond of a parent and child. For Suzette, ...more
Elizabeth Hein
Jan 07, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I am now a huge fan of Amanda Eyre Ward. She writes with a level of nuance and grace that is rarely found in such a fast-paced novel.

Surrogacy is a tough subject to cover and Amanda Eyre Ward does it well. Dorrie agrees to carry Suzette and Hyland’s baby without fully understanding what she is getting into which lends another layer to the plot that would not have been there otherwise. I liked the way Amanda Eyre Ward made me care for all the characters even when they are at odds. I empathized
Fluff Smut & Murder
Nov 12, 2016 rated it really liked it

Thank you to for the opportunity to read an Advanced Reader Copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion.

Surrogacy – that’s a tough one whether is a traditional or gestational surrogacy. Personally, I think anyone who does it is an amazing person – whether it be for completely altruistic or financial reasons. This book takes it one step deeper – what makes a mother? Nature vs. nurture and all that but this book approaches it in a whole new way.

What I loved: By having each
Jan 18, 2017 rated it it was amazing
The Nearness Of You
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What it's all about...

This book is about a family. Suzette, Hyland and Eloise are this family but in order to be this family lots of complicated things had to happen. Hyland needed to be a father much more than Suzette needed to be a mother. Dysfunctional characters, family issues, secrets and lies plus incredible storytelling made this book so amazingly readable. These characters were happy at times, frustrating at times and incredibly heartbreaking at
Jan 26, 2017 rated it it was ok
I received this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review

I have read many books by Ward and have always enjoyed them. However, The Nearness of You just didn't do it for me. It is very disjointed and a large time jump that just doesn't seem to gel.

The idea of the story is very intriguing, I just would have liked to see it executed better. I do not have an issue with MPV and past/present novels, but there just didn't seem to be a rhyme or reason to this and large chunks of time were
Dec 09, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
4/5 stars.

This book is a whirlwind of emotions that takes you on a roller coaster ride with an abrupt ending, which oddly fits the style of the book.

I'm not sure why I thought this book would be a romance based off of the title. It was the opposite of romantic, and I think did a great job exploring a real marriage. A marriage between two people with flaws, and who have a long lasting love that wasn't made for the movies.
At first I disliked Suzette as she seemed to desperately not want a kid,
Karlita | Tale Out Loud
Feb 27, 2017 rated it really liked it
Actual rating: 3.5 out of 5 stars

The Nearness of You is a story about a couple, Hyland and Suzette who was married for fifteen happy years. But Hyland, longing for a child suggested an alternative way for him and Suzette to have a child until their normal lives suddenly had a twist of its own. She told him early on their relationship that she didn't have plans of having one because of fear that she'll pass the genes of her mother to her own children. Suzette firmly told Hyland that she wanted
Jan 01, 2017 rated it really liked it
The story is complex. It deals with the delicate modern issue of surrogacy and the fact that it is definitely not for everyone (though most people go into it not taking emotional factors into consideration). The overwhelming need of wanting a child, someone with your genes takes over common sense and basic human fears and then the snowballing situation of which of course one does not have control over takes over several people's lives.

Our husband and wife duo are quite placid or rather the wife
Debbi DuBose
I would like to thank Goodreads and Ballantine Books for giving me an ARC of: The Nearness of You, a novel, written by Amanda Eyre Ward.
I started reading this book last night and finished it today! It's the kind of story that grabs you from the very first page. The four main characters tell this story in alternating chapters. I enjoyed this different writing style because it allowed me to really understand each person's thoughts and motives. The novel is about an older couple who find a young
Dec 17, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: library, first-reads
I received a copy for my honest review.
Suzette has always wanted a child, but there is a history of bad mental illness in her family, that she doesn't want to pass on to anyone else. Her husband Hyland wants a child really bad & they decide surrogacy is the way to go for them.

They go through the disappointments of finding a surrogate who changes her mind. They find a young woman named Dorrie who wants to have a surrogate child for them. She wants to have the money from the event to pay for
I really enjoy the work of this author. This book was much deeper than I expected, unsure of where a book about surrogacy would lead. Motherhood is of course a complicated journey, and of course Suzanne's mother had tainted her images for all her life. Everything we experience becomes part of how we grow and become adults and spouses and perhaps parents. Full review to come, but I enjoyed this book very much.
Nov 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Oh my gosh one of the best books I have read all year to be honest . I never expected the twists and turns this book took . Gosh everyone needs to read this , it reminds us what is important in life ...I don't want to give too much of the book away and I loved the major players in this book . Thank you to goodreads as I won this through a giveaway on here .
Jan 10, 2017 rated it really liked it
I thought this novel had the makings of a great story. The story itself was fascinating, there was enough drama to draw the reader in and keep them engaged as the story was captivating but I think it lacked on delivery. Suzette and Hyland decided to find a surrogate as Suzette was worried about her family’s health issues being passed down. Dorrie didn’t quite fit within the guidelines of what they should be looking for but they liked her, so Dorrie became their surrogate. When she doesn’t show ...more
Mar 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Amanda Eyre Ward is one of my favorite all-time authors and she never disappoints. Another gem of a novel from this writer. Somehow she tackles big topics with deftness and grace and nothing ever feels gimmicky.
Christina (Ensconced in Lit)
The Nearness of You by Amanda Ward is populated by a variety of characters and their perspectives. At the center of the story is Suzette, a cardiothoracic surgeon, and her husband, Harland who have decided not to have children, but then Harland finally reveals that he wants a child. For a variety of reasons, Suzette does not want to use her eggs, so they hire a surrogate and use her eggs as well, Dorrie, a 21 year old. These characters continue to revolve around each other through the years.

Christine Moore
Jan 20, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: netgalley
Suzette and Hyland have decided years ago not to have children. After living their lives for years, Hyland decides he does want a child. They interview surrogates and finally find a surrogate named Dorrie. She ends up pregnant and runs away as she decides she wants to keep the baby. Will Dorrie keep the baby? Will Suzette and Hyland ever meet and raise their daughter? There are so many twists and turns to this wonderful book. It is told by Suzette, Hyland, Dorrie, and the child Eloise. It is a ...more
Peg (Marianna) DeMott
Sep 25, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Yep. Great story, just enough tension, loveable and believable characters. Mental illness and the decisions forced upon the main characters by this illness makes this title especially dear to my heart. On top of all that a beautiful way with words on the author's part. She lives up to her very literary middle name. I'm sure I've found a new favorite author
Nov 20, 2016 rated it liked it
2.5 Stars - OMG, this truly was the making of a great book. I felt that it fail flat with lack of details in many of the in between years and gave more details of people and situations in areas where it just wasn't necessary. The overall plot twist was amazing but then I didn't care for the ending.
Nov 06, 2016 rated it liked it
I read The Same Sky and loved it, so I was eager to read The Nearness of You. Although I enjoyed The Nearness of You, I have to admit I finished it feeling disappointed and incomplete. The story built and built and then just stopped. For me the ending leaves the reader hanging and wondering why it ended here.

I received an ARC from the publisher through NetGalley.
Jan 21, 2017 rated it it was amazing
A heartfelt story of an unconventional family and how past hurts can form who we become in such profound ways. I enjoyed all the unique characters and the unexpected turns the story took at times.
Sam Sattler
Dec 15, 2016 rated it liked it
The Nearness of You, Amanda Eyre Ward's sixth novel, tells the story of Hyland and Suzette Kendall, a young couple that agreed before marriage that they would remain childless. Because of her mother's mental illness (and her own instability during her college years), Suzette fears that any child of hers will be genetically inclined toward the same problem. If Hyland had not agreed with her decision not to have children, she would never have agreed to marry him. But now, despite the comfortable ...more
Suzette and Hyland have a happy marriage and a busy life when Hyland surprises his wife with the news that he really wants a child. Married fifteen years, children had always been off the table, as Suzette did not want to pass on the genes of her mother, a woman who gave Suzette a horrifying and unstable childhood and eventually wound up in a mental institution. But Hyland proposes a new solution: what if they use a surrogate, with his sperm and a surrogate's egg? Suzette, a busy and successful ...more
Feb 01, 2017 rated it it was ok
So here’s the deal. I almost didn’t make it past the first chapter. I even tweeted that I was fully prepared for this book to piss me off all the way through.

The premise of this book is that Suzette doesn’t want children. Her mother has a mental illness so bad that she is hospitalized (we never meet her), and Suzette also suffers from “issues.” Those issues are vague, but referred to throughout the book, and she’s deathly afraid of anyone close to her getting sick too. She was very clear on the
Dec 12, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2016
It's fun when a book appears mysteriously on your doorstep and you have no memory of it even being a thing in the universe. So I went in with no real idea of what the story was, other than the assumption that a past version of me must've thought it sounded interesting.

And it is. The Nearness of You deals with mothers and daughters, and what happens when daughters want desperately to avoid turning into their mothers when they become mothers themselves.
Suzette Kendall, a brilliant heart
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Amanda Eyre Ward was born in New York City in 1972. Her family moved to Rye, New York when she was four. Amanda attended Kent School in Kent, CT, where she wrote for the Kent News.

Amanda majored in English and American Studies at Williams College in Williamstown, Massachusetts. She studied fiction writing with Jim Shepard and spent her junior fall in coastal Kenya. She worked part-time at the
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