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You'll Grow Out of It

3.80  ·  Rating details ·  20,007 ratings  ·  1,999 reviews
INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND USA TODAY BESTSELLER! YOU'LL GROW OUT OF IT hilariously, and candidly, explores the journey of the twenty-first century woman.

As both a tomboy and a late bloomer, comedian Jessi Klein grew up feeling more like an outsider than a participant in the rites of modern femininity.

In YOU'LL GROW OUT OF IT, Klein offers - through an incisive collection o
Hardcover, 291 pages
Published July 12th 2016 by Grand Central Publishing (first published June 7th 2016)
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Anne Libera I think that I would very much have enjoyed this when I was an intelligent bookish sixteen but I don't know that I would have wanted my mother to buy …moreI think that I would very much have enjoyed this when I was an intelligent bookish sixteen but I don't know that I would have wanted my mother to buy it for me/or know I was reading it. This is not so much due to the motherhood elements (they are a fairly small percentage of the book and dealt with in a smart way) but there's a significant amount of "sex and relationships and drinking during your twenties and thirties." Klein is honest and self aware in the manner of a friend's much older sister who tells you about her young adult years in a no holds barred fashion. (less)

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This was okay. I feel like this is only funny to a certain type-upper middle-class, educated white women from NYC. She lives a very luxe life and doesn't seem to be aware that it's not normal. She said several times throughout that she grew up poor, but didn't provide a context for that. Her lack of self-awareness bugged me. This has gotten some really good reviews so I'm disappointed I didn't enjoy it. ...more
Aug 09, 2016 rated it it was ok
Yes, only 2 stars (2.5 really). First, let me say that Klein is a good writer. I liked her "voice" and her many jokes. She's smart and funny. This book is a fast read and it's enjoyable too. But I've held back a little on a glowing review only because I can't shake my feeling of slight perturb over a few things. Let the pettiness begin...

First off, she starts off the first chapter or two - and continues here and there throughout the book - heavily emphasizing her dorkiness, her loser-ness, her s
Sep 29, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, essays
“I do not intend this in any way to be an advice book, but if there happen to be any young women reading this who have an iota of desire to glean anything from my experience, let it be this: When you encounter a man wearing loafers with no socks, run. I once heard that the late Tim Russert also believed that a sockless man is not to be trusted, which means it is definitely true.”—Jessi Klein

I openly admit that I had no idea who Jessi Klein was when I dutifully put myself on the library list to b
May 31, 2016 rated it liked it
I had no idea who Jessi Klein was before picking up this book. Still don't, really. What attracted me to this memoir was book blurb-- a woman who feels like she's on the outside of femininity, looking in. Even though I was hardly a tom boy (or tom man, to use the author's phrase), I also had/have no interested in typical girly things-- and my mother has been in the fits of anxiety about it for the last three decades. I thought I would find Klein's writing relateable and funny. And sometimes I di ...more
Dec 21, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: audiobook
Read by the author, this compilation of essays is an often hilarious, sometimes poignant, look into her life as a tomboy who never “grew out of it”. Underlying the snarky, smart humor there were insightful messages on ageism, sexism, and femininity.

I enjoyed her voice, and found her self-deprecating humor relatable. I often found myself nodding my head as I was laughing. As with most memoirs, some chapters are more successful than others, and is best read (or listened to) in short segments. The
Aug 25, 2016 rated it it was ok
Imagine a supermodel coming over to commiserate about how fat she feels because she once ate a piece of celery four years ago. That's how this book reads. While there are some very relatable things, by and large the author has had a VERY GOOD LIFE. Nevertheless, she manages to complain about things like going to the Emmys and winning or getting a job offer on The David Letterman Show. Even very expensive vacations are subject to self-pity. Mostly, this whole thing feels like a humble brag. ...more
Mar 08, 2017 rated it did not like it
While I found two of the chapters amusing (barre and Anthropologie) overall I found Jessi Klein to be tone deaf and unrelatable. She starts off the book calling herself a tomboy and then most of the rest of the book is her obsessing about her appearance and men. She drops dollar amounts for things that seem outrageous but in such a casual way that she must not realize that it's not normal. Her very theatrical self deprecation come across as disingenuous, and the incessant discussion of her neuro ...more
Nov 30, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: audio
I’m not sure how I feel about this. It was kind of all over the place. I’m not even sure what this was supposed to be. It was a non-linear collection of essays (or possibly expanded comedy routines) that were somewhat unrelated. A few were laugh out loud funny. In some, she made fierce, important points about aging, sexism, “how women are expected to be” and insecurities. In others, she discussed wanting to be a princess, relationship issues, and issuing ultimatums. In between, there were some m ...more
Sep 26, 2016 rated it liked it
Shelves: audio, 2016-release
Some women keep a collection of shoes under their desks at work so they can quickly change from heels to flats. I am not one of those women. Keeping my shoes under my desk would result in a Pigpen-like hovering stink cloud stretching clear to the copy machine. Now that I'm in my thirties I've had to accept some hard realities about myself, and the fact that my feet stink like cheese left out on a sun porch is one of them.

Thus, the best gift Jessi Klein gave me in her memoir You'll Grow Out of It
Aug 14, 2016 rated it really liked it
This was the first moment I started to realize that some larger problem was boiling to the surface, that this wasn't just about the dress, but rather a deep cauldron of self-doubt in my own taste-and not just my own taste, but my entire self.

Never heard of Jessi Klein before I heard a podcast interview(writer for SNL, and Inside Amy Schumer). She seemed smart, funny and it seemed as though there was some snark hiding behind the veneer she put on for the New York Times podcast, so I decided to gi
May 14, 2016 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction, memoir, humor
Considering that this memoir was written by a comedy writer, I was quite disappointed that I never laughed while reading it.
Julie Ehlers
You'll Grow Out of It started off so promisingly. In the first essay, "Tom Man," Klein (a writer for Inside Amy Schumer, among other shows) discusses the dilemma of being an undeniably straight, cis woman with no gender dysphoria, who nevertheless just doesn't fit into the expected constraints of being a straight, cis woman in U.S. society. I'd never seen gender expectations discussed quite so bluntly (and humorously) before—most white, straight, cis feminist writers who rail against conventiona ...more
Jul 13, 2016 rated it liked it
Very fun and entertaining, but as I have complained w other white lady essay books, I wish the author would have more awareness of her wealthy white lady-specific world view. The book would be so much better, and ring truer for a broader readership, if Klein wouldn't act like everyone reading is like her, and gets where she's coming from. Just a simple aknowledgement or two would really work wonders in terms of relatability. Still, really great audiobook reading by the wry and funny author. Kind ...more
Melissa Stacy
Stand-up comedian Jessi Klein is a GREAT writer. The first half of this collection of memoir-essays is sooooo funny. I really loved the first 40% of this book.

But since the book opens with an essay about the author being a "Tom Man," I must state that there is a giant disconnect in this book. I consider myself kind of feminine, but I can seriously out-tomboy/out-tom-man Jessi Klein ANY day. And since she's only a few years older than me, this isn't millennial whinging on my part. I belong to the
Lauren Danton
Apr 20, 2016 rated it really liked it
I thoroughly enjoyed this memoir/collection of comedic essays from Jessi Klien. Klien talks about what it's like growing up a Tom-boy, following your dreams, spending countless hours shopping for a wedding dress and hating yourself for being 'that person' and feeling like dogshit at the Emmys.
While we don't agree on baths (whole chapter on hating baths that I read while in the tub), we do agree on being called Ma'am. And Jessi if you ever read this, I did get the Miss Jackson reference and thou
Rachel Kramer Bussel
Jul 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I used to see Jessi Klein perform and host comedy at Rififi in NYC back in the day. She's now the Emmy-winning head writer on Inside Amy Schumer. So while I expected her memoir in essays to be funny, which it is, I did not expect to close it with tears streaming down my face, but that's exactly what happened.

I loved these essays, even when I couldn't relate (she hates baths, I love them), because they are so specific and manage to cover things like epically bad dating choices and feeling like "
Dec 31, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I loved this memoir! It's hilarious, touching and well written. I hadn't heard of Jessi Klein before but I had read good reviews of her book and it truly did not disappoint! I recommend it highly!

I forgot to mention that I loved Jessi's comment about the acronym FOMO which stands for Fear Of Missing Out. This means that you think other people are having more fun than you and you wish you were doing what they did. But when get there you realize it's not that great after all (see page 249). I hope
I was unfamiliar with comedy writer and stand up comedian Jessi Klein prior to this, but I grabbed it on a friend’s recommendation. Humorous personal stories are an audio dream. Klein amuses with essays about female expectations (both general and specific), her comedy career, and fertility struggles. My favorite essay was “Get the Epidural.” I wish I hadn’t waited until hour 11 for mine. This collection was just what I needed.

By the way: I’m so over reviews stating that an author is oblivious t
Sep 04, 2016 rated it it was ok
hmm, I was disappointed with this book. And, in the spirit of being constructive let me tell you why:
1. I should note I'm a big reader of female essay collections, in particular, female comedian essay collections. I love them and read then a lot -- particularly from women who I am familiar with.
I am not intimately familiar with Jessi Klein.
I'm aware this could have shaped my feelings on the book.
I tried to imagine that is say Mindy Kaling had written this book, would I feel differently?
The answ
Cindy Burnett
Jun 30, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: giveaway
Jessi Klein’s new compilation of essays is a great addition to the growing collection of books by famous female comedians. From beginning to end, she writes about her life and her ever present need/struggle to fit in. Her internal battle about her life and dreams versus her family’s dreams for her occupied a substantial part of her life until she finally decided to throw off the strictures of her upbringing and follow her own path.

Some of the stories deal with this internal battle. I didn’t enj
Nerdette Podcast
Jul 08, 2016 rated it really liked it
A must-have for your feminist bookshelf!
Grace {Rebel Mommy Book Blog}
Jun 07, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: arc
You may be wondering who is Jessi Klein and why should you read her memoir - or maybe not. Either way, I am going to help you out with the answers.
Jessi Klein is a stand-up comedian was well as a writer for various things and was once a director of development for Comedy Central. She currently is a writer and executive producer on Inside Amy Schumer.

So unless you are new to the blog you know I prefer to listen to my memoirs. Somet
Sarah Obsesses over Books & Cookies
comedians writing books about their life in their own funny way are a dime a dozen. I've read a bunch but skip another bunch because they can be so self promoting and dishonest in the form of exaggeration in that they make themselves look a certain way (I get that memoirs can be the same but.. still) However when one is done in a way - even when I can't relate to the rich or famous lifestyle- that is open and vulnerable yet funny and unique to their own style I DIG IT. This was one of those. The ...more
Jul 22, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: gave-up-on
Depressing. How can a book written by a comedian be depressing?
Meg - A Bookish Affair
Jun 16, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, humor
The best kinds of funny books are those that make you laugh out loud no matter where you are. There are books that are funny but don't necessarily make to laugh with abandon. There are other books, like "You'll Grow Out of It" that will make you make a scene in public. If you want to laugh, this book is for you.

The book almost feels like a collection of short stories with Klein musing about different periods of her life and making observations about life in general in a very entertaining way. On
Aug 22, 2016 rated it really liked it
Speaking as a true tom-man (a hardcore tomboy as a kid who is still not girly at 58, who didn't wear any makeup at all until after 40, who's straight and happily married to a man and would happily drop all external trappings of femininity if I wouldn't feel like a freak), I loved Jessi's accounting of herself as one. But she exaggerates, because despite the typical comedienne self-mocking (I'm looking at you, gorgeous Tina Fey), she is stunningly attractive and appears to be quite feminine. True ...more
Rachel León
Dec 13, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2016
(3.5 stars, rounded up because it made me laugh out loud, which is rare)

I really enjoyed this memoir. Jessi Klein is very funny and quite likable. I grew bored with the chapter about the Emmys, but overall the book is engaging and a lot of fun.
Tyler Goodson
Jul 06, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: library
So funny, sharp, and honest there is literally no way you will not love this book. Unless you are awful and then you should stay away from me.
Feb 14, 2019 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
So hilarious, so relatable. Bonus: this was an audiobook and she narrates, which I think makes it all the better. She is so self-effacing and unafraid. She'd say something like "oh, and there was this one asshole who was [doing asshole-ish thing]" and "that asshole was me." And it was absolutely something I would do/have done. Many times I desperately wished I had a friend beside me I could grab onto and say, "OMG! listen to this!" ...more
May 03, 2016 rated it liked it
I received an advance copy of this book from the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

In the last 5-10 years, there has been a real comedy memoir boom. I myself have probably read at least two dozen, if not more. A lot of these were written by women. Off the top of my head, here are some female comedians who have written memoirs: Amy Poehler, Tina Fey, Mindy Kaling, Samantha Bee, Tig Notaro, Julie Klausner, Sarah Thyre, Merrill Markoe, Jen Kirkman, Sarah Silverman, Aisha Tyle
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Jessi Klein is an American comedy writer and stand-up comic based out of New York City. Klein has regularly appeared on shows such as The Showbiz Show with David Spade and VH1's Best Week Ever and has performed stand-up on Comedy Central's Premium Blend. She provided commentary for CNN in the debates of the 2004 presidential election. A self-proclaimed "geek", Klein has appeared on the television ...more

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