Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity” as Want to Read:
Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity

4.15  ·  Rating details ·  570 ratings  ·  113 reviews
In a Culture of Distortions, Discover God-Defined Womanhood and Beauty

In a culture where airbrushed models and career-driven women define beauty and success, it's no wonder we have a distorted view of femininity. Our impossible standards place an incredible burden of stress on the backs of women and girls of all ages, resulting in anxiety, eating disorders, and
Paperback, 240 pages
Published May 17th 2016 by Baker Books (first published May 2016)
More Details... Edit Details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.

Reader Q&A

To ask other readers questions about Girl Defined, please sign up.

Be the first to ask a question about Girl Defined

Community Reviews

Showing 1-30
Average rating 4.15  · 
Rating details
 ·  570 ratings  ·  113 reviews

More filters
Sort order
Start your review of Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity
Heidi Stauff
Jul 25, 2017 rated it did not like it
Patriarchy with a 2016 facelift to oppress a whole new generation of women. Sad.
Joana Felício
Feb 19, 2019 rated it did not like it
This is problematic, toxic, judgmental, hypocritical, dangerous, preach-y and overall a painful read.
It was kinda like a car crash: it’s disturbing and horrible but you just can’t stop looking.
I get I’m not the target audience for this book, but I was curious, so leave me alone.

As an actual book, it was okay, but the format could use some work. The first person and subsequent clarifications were annoying at best.
Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity by Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird is a book I think every woman (teen+) can benefit from reading! For one, it's very easy and enjoyable to read - I continually wanted to return to its pages. And it truly speaks to the heart! Girl Defined explores issues we as women are facing everyday, and gives Biblical advice, eye-opening truths, and encouraging/challenging stories.

It speaks to younger girls (around teen years) as well as
Leah Good
I started this book at 9:30PM, took a 45 minute break around 10:30PM, and finished the last page around 1AM. It's an easy to read, engaging format well worth the un-intimidating time investment. I'm hoping to gift my copy to a young woman who will be able to benefit from the inspiration and practical advice.

One of my favorite things about Girl Defined is that it steers clear of the romance advice that fills most non-fiction for young, Christian women. The sister authors want to present an
Jul 30, 2017 rated it did not like it
read this in my personal study of fundamentalist Christianity pretty problematic and ridiculous
Amanda Beguerie
May 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Girl Defined answered questions such as, “What does it mean to be a woman? How should a career fit into our lives? Is one gender more valuable than the other? Is my sole purpose just to grow up, get married, and have kids?”

While the book was written conservatively, it wasn’t wacky or old-fashioned. It challenged the thinking of girls at any stage of life, and stood up to cultural norms to see what the Bible really says.

One of my favorite chapters was chapter 3. In this chapter was one of my
Jan 30, 2019 rated it did not like it
This was a crack read, I just had morbid curiosity about what they were saying in their books after watching so many YouTube videos on them. But I do have a legit complaint outside of their problematic and harmful views for society. They constantly use their names in parenthesis because they write in the first person. It’s really bad form. I would have preferred a header like Bethany in bold before her segment instead of “I (Bethany) was going to the store” sometimes it wasn’t even necessary ...more
May 12, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Very good. It really explains what it means to be a woman, and from a complementarian viewpoint, not a patriarchal viewpoint, which I really appreciate. Kristen and Bethany go back to the Bible for their information and draw on their own personal experiences to explain what it all means. It's geared towards older girls, so I would recommend it for every female on the planet age 15 and up. Excellent book. I also recommend doing the study guides. I didn't write in the book, but in a notebook, but ...more
Apr 23, 2017 added it
I have no idea how I feel about this book.
Jun 10, 2019 rated it did not like it
This book wanted to change me as a woman and it has succeeded: I am now a woman who writes reviews and this book is awful! There is so much wrong with this book and the message it spreads - this is not to say I believe everybody should renounce their faith and religion, but they should renounce whatever crap these two are spewing. This book is misogynistic, toxic and tone deaf. I would say that some of its content was laughable, but honestly, it's more frightening to think that individuals can ...more
Apr 19, 2016 rated it it was amazing
When I requested to be a part of the Girl Defined launch team, and be sent their debut book, Girl Defined-God's Radical Design For Beauty, Femininity and Identity, what I never imagined was that I was going to be deeply convicted. This book was going to transform my false way of thinking, into something beautifully orchestrated by God.

Right from the start Kristen and Bethany set the stage for the deep meaningful things that need to be discussed, with hilarious and embarrassing (but relatable)
Haley Long
May 04, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I joined the launch team for this book and received a free copy in the mail. I love Bible studies in general, but when it centers around a topic I am passionate about all the better!

Ladies, single and married, this book is a must read for each and every one of you! I thought I was solid in my thinking about beauty, femininity, identity, but God used this book to help point out errors in my thinking. If you come to this book with an open mind, and answer with an honest heart (the honest part is
Abigayle Claire
Aug 09, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This had some very helpful insights and fun illustrative true stories. While not many of the concepts were new to me, Kristen and Bethany's ability to state things as they are and ground their points in truth is incredible. It was great to have things I knew backed up with Scripture and to be challenged on the areas that are more in my head than my heart.

I recommend this to people who wonder if they're living out biblical feminity; people who want to be encouraged that they're not alone in the
Jul 08, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This book was outstanding! It taught me so much on the topic of God-defined womanhood and His purpose for women on earth. It is easy and enjoyable to read! I definitely recommend this book to every woman out there!
Cara Lombardo
Jun 06, 2019 rated it did not like it
My take-away: "We're uncomfortable with our culture's impossible checklist for women, so we want everyone to confirm to God's impossible checklist instead!"

I'm no longer a Christian, but I like to think even if I had remained in faith I wouldn't heed this book's skewed view of femininity. It would sadden me to raise a daughter who grew up believing she needed to put her own dreams to the side because God uniformly calls women to be wives (or wifelike to the men in their lives) and mothers (or
Electric Bubbles
Jun 14, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, reviewed
Most of the principles that sisters Kristen and Bethany share in "Girl Defined" are not new or novel to a lot of Christian girls I know, but compiled in this easy-to-read (and pretty) little book, it is certainly ideal for young girls who seek to discover their purpose as a girl. Along with the same themes that run in other solid Christian books, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories that drive home different points, and leave journal space to write your own similar experiences or ...more
Jun 25, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2016
I came across Girl Defined Ministries on Twitter recently, and I loved reading about their stand for biblical femininity. Then I saw that they had written a book and requested to review it right away!

In Girl Defined, Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird (who are sisters) discuss God's design for women, and how that often clashes with our cultures expectations. They tell their personal journey in discovering what God expects of us as women and His plan for living out our God-given femininity. They
May 21, 2016 rated it it was amazing
"Girl Defined" written by Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird is a book that you won't be able to put down. Now, there are dozens of books on Biblical womanhood, and I have read many of them, and I imagine you probably have too, but this is one that challenged my thinking several times in a deeper way.
This book is written like you are sitting in Kristen and Bethany's home on the couch listening to them discuss their lives in a transparent way where you saw the souls of their hearts pouring out to
Hannah Joy  S.
Aug 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Amazing book that every woman should read ASAP!
Feb 14, 2019 rated it really liked it
I gave this four stars because it really didn’t blow me away. Like, yeah, it was good, and it had good stuff but, I don’t know, it wasn’t amazing.
For sure, you should read this book, but whatever. I’m not going to rave over it.
Some parts were too ecumenical for me :/ They don’t use the Bible-as in the KJV...I don’t consider any other version the Word of God...DM me if you want books/resources on the subject- so anyway, yeah, wasn’t amazing but I wouldn’t discourage any one from reading it.
Tammy Martin
May 17, 2016 rated it it was amazing
A Woman's Beauty, Succcess, Value & Worth, this book tells it all!
This dynamic duo has partnered together to share their heart and radically better vision for girls of today, in the age of a national gender identity crisis. Through the fourteen chapters, Bethany and Kristen interlace their testimonies along with a few other women in varying stages of life, refuting myths about a woman's role in society, our purpose as a woman and ideas of how to leave a lasting legacy that doesn't fade with
Jan 09, 2019 rated it did not like it
I'm halfway through but already disappointed. I was fully ready to disagree strongly with some of their beliefs, that I don't mind - I believe it's important to challenge ourselves & our beliefs sometimes. I won't include criticisms of their presented beliefs in my review.
But this book is sloppy and poorly edited. Don't choose to write in first person if you're going to need to clarify which author is speaking every single time. When a sub-chapter is titled 'Kristen' is it really necessary
May 17, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: recommended
This book was incredible! There were days I would read three chapters at a time, because I just couldn't put it down. My heart and mind were being challenged in ways I have not been challenged in a long time. The way the book is written was like you were just over to the authors' house having a sleep over with your best friends. They were so real and so transparent that you couldn't help but admire them and listen to everything they were saying and take it to heart.

Now I'm going to be brutally
Jun 25, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I don't think there has been a more confusing time to be a woman. For all our women's rights advancement, society is struggling with the key concepts of what femininity means...or doesn't mean! The authors have done a marvellous job of presenting fresh perspective and friendly encouragement as they tackle worldly concepts vs biblical ones.

While marketed for teens and young women, I think Girl Defined reaches a broader audience. No matter what our age it's hard to keep from becoming entrenched
Jun 28, 2019 rated it did not like it
as a Christian, I feel very confused about this book. I represent a more liberal view of the Christian faith (you know, not sending people to an eternity of hell for having premarital sex or banning abortion in cases of rape or incest). I will also most likely end up marrying a woman, so that made me even more reserved knowing Girl Defined's opinion on homosexuality.
I don't think Kristen and Bethany are bad people. In fact, I believe they are good people trying to spread a message that they
Heather Hart
Apr 19, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This book by Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird really struck a cord with me. They wrote about making what God values what you value, and that is really counter cultural. I experienced a wide range of emotions while reading this book, but the predominant one was hope. We may not live in a world where God's design for womanhood is lived out, but there is hope. We can know what God's plan is, and He can help us live for Him. Culture may be pulling us in one direction, the wrong direction, but God is ...more
May 17, 2016 rated it it was amazing
If you are to only read one book this year ladies this is the one. I have to say I read a lot and I have read some amazing books this year, but this one talks about the foundation of being a woman and having a relationship with God and that needs to be understood before you move on to talking about the pain, God’s will for your life, or anything else. I enjoy reading Kristen and Bethany's blog post on their website Girl Defined, and when I heard they were releasing a book I was ecstatic! The ...more
Eliza Noel
Jul 03, 2018 rated it it was amazing
||girldefined by kristen clark and bethany baird||

a book about God's design for us girls and how we can strive for Biblical womanhood instead of giving into culture's lies. i'd definitely recommend this to Christian teen girls! it mostly covered things i'd already learned from reading the Bible or stuff my mom had taught me, but it was a great reminder and it's nice to know there are others out there who value homemaking and motherhood.
Sunny Houk
Feb 12, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Sin today has broken both womanhood and manhood. Feminism has lost its meaning by society. Throughout this book, Bethany and Kristen teach us the pillars of biblical womanhood. Society shouldn't define us for who we are. Most importantly God should be the main purpose of how we live our daily lives.
Dina Sleiman
Nov 01, 2016 rated it liked it
The writing style in this book was really engaging. I truly appreciated their sincere hearts and good attitudes, but I also felt that in some areas they put unnecessary restrictions on what it means to be a godly woman. Overall my impression was positive. The book was thought provoking, and I enjoyed it.
« previous 1 3 4 next »
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Be the first to start one »

Readers also enjoyed

  • When God Writes Your Love Story
  • Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth that Sets Them Free
  • Let Me be a Woman
  • Growing Up Duggar: It's All About Relationships
  • Choosing Gratitude: Your Journey to Joy
  • Live Fearless: A Call to Power, Passion, and Purpose
  • Jesus Freaks: Stories of Those Who Stood for Jesus, the Ultimate Jesus Freaks (Jesus Freaks, #1)
  • Gay Girl, Good God: The Story of Who I Was and Who God Has Always Been
  • I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A New Attitude Toward Relationships and Romance
  • The Other Side of Beauty: Embracing God's Vision for Love and True Worth
  • Cupid Doesn't Flip Hamburgers (The Adventures of the Bailey School Kids, #12)
  • Without Rival: Embrace Your Identity and Purpose in an Age of Confusion and Comparison
  • Not Yet Married: The Pursuit of Joy in Singleness and Dating
  • Dracula Doesn't Drink Lemonade (The Adventures of the Bailey School Kids, #16)
  • Tortured for Christ
  • The Test (Bluford High, #17)
  • Homeroom Diaries
  • Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married
See similar books…
Kristen Clark is married to her high school sweetheart, Zack, and has a background in Biblical counseling, young women's ministry, teen mentoring, online blogging, and is the co-founder of GirlDefined Ministries. She and her sister, Bethany, are passionate about fighting feminism, embracing gender distinctions, and empowering young women to live out their God defined purpose. You can read her ...more
“Satan knows that God's Word is the foundation for all truth. If he can get us to question what God says, then he can deceive us into believing a lie.” 0 likes
“For the first time in history, God said something wasn't good. Something was missing. God then pointed out the problem: "It is not good that the man should be alone".” 0 likes
More quotes…