Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read.
Start by marking “The Argonauts” as Want to Read:
The Argonauts
Enlarge cover
Rate this book
Clear rating
Open Preview

The Argonauts

4.03  ·  Rating details ·  22,057 ratings  ·  2,351 reviews
An intrepid voyage out to the frontiers of the latest thinking about love, language, and family

Maggie Nelson s "The Argonauts "is a genre-bending memoir, a work of autotheory offering fresh, fierce, and timely thinking about desire, identity, and the limitations and possibilities of love and language. At its center is a romance: the story of the author s relationship with
Audio CD
Published August 4th 2015 by Blackstone Audiobooks (first published May 5th 2015)
More Details... edit details

Friend Reviews

To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up.
This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Add this book to your favorite list »

Community Reviews

Showing 1-30
4.03  · 
Rating details
 ·  22,057 ratings  ·  2,351 reviews

More filters
Sort order
this is the opening paragraph of the book:

October, 2007. The Santa Ana winds are shredding the bark off the eucalyptus trees in long white stripes. A friend and I risk the widowmakers by having lunch outside, during which she suggests I tattoo the words HARD TO GET across my knuckles, as a reminder of this pose’s possible fruits. Instead the words I love you come tumbling out of my mouth in an incantation the first time you fuck me in the ass, my face smashed against the cement floor of your dan
Julie Ehlers
When I was in my early twenties and just out of school, I was lucky enough to get a job as a production/copy editor for a smallish academic press. My women's studies minor was enough to get me put in charge of the women's studies and LGBT studies offerings, and over the years I copyedited probably thousands of journal articles and book manuscripts on these topics. It was a wonderful education in many ways. At the time, marriage for same-sex couples was a distant dream, and I was a witness, in th ...more
May 05, 2015 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir
Here's what I liked: I liked the way Nelson writes about motherhood. Honest, unashamed, full of a joy with a hugeness to it. I've read some great writing on motherhood published recently (see: Eula Biss' On Immunity) and I deeply appreciate this work, as someone for whom the desire to birth and parent a child is very alien. I have been at times a little bratty in my attitudes towards those who chose to parent, so work that is critical of that attitude and helps demystify parenting feels invaluab ...more
Amalia Gavea
Jul 06, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Amalia by: Rachel
‘’You’ve punctured my solitude, I told you.’’

I feel as if I’m treading on thin ice with this one, because in all honesty, this is a book that one has to read in order to understand. I feel that Nelson has exposed her soul to us, sharing thoughts and experiences that many of us would find unlikely to confess even to ourselves. How can we, as simple readers who haven’t even experienced 10% of what she has been through, write a text saying ‘’this is good’’ or ‘’this is bad’’? Speaking for myself,
Lucy Langford
Jul 03, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition

“You pass as a guy; I, as pregnant. Our waiter cheerfully tells us about his family, expresses delight in ours. On the surface, it may have seemed as though your body was becoming more and more “male,” mine, more and more “female.” But that’s not how it felt on the inside. On the inside, we were two human animals undergoing transformations beside each other, bearing each other loose witness. In other words, we were aging.”

This book explores Maggie Nelson's relationship with Harry Dodge, who is f
Feb 23, 2018 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2018
My full review, as well as my other thoughts on reading, can be found on my blog.

Mixing memoir and cultural history, Nelson uproots conventional notions of genre and form in The Argonauts, supplanting them with her radical interest in creating art without a center. The short book quickly branches off from the writer's initial focus on her romance with her life partner, trans artist Harry Dodge, and it sprawls in many different directions. Nelson touches upon the ethics of feminist art; the diffi
Adam Dalva
Jun 07, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Really sharp, lovely synthesis of emotional memoir and critical theory, reminiscent of a more outrageous version of Barthes and formatted in a canny way that allows your eyes to fly down the page even as you're taking in some relatively heavy-hitting quotations. The overall theme of the Argo as a metaphor for a relationship (parts keep on changing, but the boat's identity remains the same) is brilliant and her self-described queer relationship with Harry Dodge is depicted movingly. There's one s ...more
aPriL does feral sometimes

'The Argonauts' is about gender, pregnancy, and other things. The name 'Argonaut' is borrowed from a book passage in Roland Barthes by Roland Barthes. It refers to a boat, and the answer is if you replace every particle of the boat, it is still the same boat called Argonaut, and how that compares to saying "I love you" to a person, renewing the meaning by each use, "the very task of love and of language is to give to one and the same phrase inflections which will be forever new." The author
(4.5) The opening paragraph is so sexually explicit that I nearly dropped the book (this is something I’ve struggled with in Nelson’s other books too). Thank goodness I kept going, as this is an exquisite interrogation of gender identity and an invaluable reminder that the supposed complications of making a queer family just boil down to your basic human experiences of birth, love and death.

Like Bluets, this is often composed of disparate paragraphs and quotations from cultural theorists. I defi
Lark Benobi
this book cracked me open like a walnut. One of those messy walnuts where the nut ends up shattered to pieces in your hand. While reading I was frequently on a vertiginous edge close to weeping, not really from any feeling with a name, just from all the feeling that was going on as I read. Part of it was a feeling of recognition. A feeling that comes from having a very long conversation with someone who expresses what you thought were your most private thoughts, who puts into words what didn't h ...more
The Argonauts opens with Maggie Nelson getting fucked in the ass and thinking about Wittgenstein, and I was like, whoa whoa whoa – you can't write about this stuff in a world where The Surrender by Toni Bentley already exists. Trying to write another book about anal sex and its implications for European philosophy would be futile – like trying to write another novel about a day in the life of Dublin.

This isn't that kind of book, it turns out. Opening paragraph aside – and despite the surprisingl
Rae Meadows
Feb 22, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Many GR friends have written incredibly thoughtful reviews of this book. I wanted to love it. I liked it a lot. (I love that it was a bestseller and that many people have read it. Progress!) Nelson is a beautiful writer. The Argonauts is a mosaic of theory, self-examination, and an investigation on the limits of language, the possibilities of love, and the uncompromising belief in fluidity in identity, gender, family. "An endless becoming" is a repeated motif, and the overarching metaphor of the ...more
3.5 stars

Serious props to Maggie Nelson for breaking free from the binaries that plague contemporary life. Female vs. male, gay vs. straight, assimiliationist vs. revolutionary - Nelson deconstructs all of these restrictive categories and argues for a richer, more nuanced way of being. My favorite part of The Argonauts centers on how Nelson describes love as an evolving process, one that we must renew and revitalize every single day. In addition to discussing theory, she incorporates details fro
Jenny (Reading Envy)
I picked this book up because Carrie Brownstein mentioned reading and loving it in the Q&A to her most recent audiobook, Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl. It is hard to explain what this book is but I will try - it is simultaneously an academic exploration of current (and seminal) works on gender, identity, love, dependence; written in a way where sources are listed by author names along the margins of the pages and the direct quotations are only indicated with italics (although sometimes she u ...more
David Schaafsma
This is my fourth book by Maggie Nelson, and she is a good and entertaining and provocative writer. I read her books about the murder of her aunt in Ann Arbor because I recalled that serial killer story from that time when I lived in Michigan, and "enjoyed' her take on the scene. She's unpredictable, "genre-bending," as her publisher says, and is never boring, though she is by now predictably unpredictable. The first paragraph either invites or repels, as she discusses anal sex with her partner, ...more
Vincent Scarpa
Nov 05, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
To absolutely no one's surprise, Maggie Nelson has delivered yet another exceptional and essential book. It's a middle finger to identity politics, a desperate call to re-evaluate that which we understand as "radical," and an incredibly moving memoir about motherhood, navigating queerness, and partnership. Of course, it's also a million other things, too.
Will Walton
Dec 26, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
It's hard to come up with anything to say about this book that doesn't diminish it in some way. Suffice it to say, The Argonauts mimics its very subject, which is love, in its boundlessness.

Also, I can't stop crying.
Apr 23, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
My review that ran in the Chicago Tribune:

"The Argonauts" is Maggie Nelson's ninth book, and it's a crowded field, but it may be her best yet. Her faculty page at CalArts — where she is a professor who lists her teaching interests as "poetics; non-fiction" — identifies these nine as "five books of nonfiction and four books of poetry." But one of the most appealing qualities of Nelson's body of work is how it consistently defies straightforward categorization, blending genres and approaches to
I'm not going to lie, I really struggled to get into The Argonauts. The topics that Maggie Nelson covers in this book - gender fluidity, transitioning, motherhood, sexuality, feminism, etc. - are all fascinating to me, and topics that I desperately wanted to read more about, particularly in the form of a memoir of Nelson's own life, pregnancy, and relationship with Harry Dodge. However, her writing style was unlike anything I'd ever read in a memoir-style book, and it threw me a fair bit.

Reread. Essential.
Viv JM
I am not sure I can articulate how much I loved this short book. A cross between a memoir and an extended essay, Maggie Nelson tackles themes of identity, gender, love, death, birth and more. Nelson is engaging, funny and has a wonderfully poetic way with words. Her writing is brave and uncompromising and really quite beautiful.

I listened to the audiobook narrated by the author herself. Normally I steer clear of author-narrated audiobooks but in this case it was perfect. I loved Nelson's voice
I don't know why it's taken me this long to read Maggie Nelson, but I was starting to worry that The Argonauts couldn't possibly live up to its extensive hype. I was also skeptical when this memoir quite literally opened with a paragraph about anal sex - I think I sighed and thought 'oh, this is going to be one of those books.' I feel like this is a category of book that both novels and memoirs can fall into: the ones that think sex is this shocking, scandalous thing, that want to prove to their ...more
Michael Meeuwis
All kinds of people that I know--people who I can unfeignedly say are smarter than I am--really liked this. And it's going to be one of the most-taught novels of these next ten years; I didn't really like it, and *I* want to use it in the classroom. But for my purposes, I found this pretty tepid. The writer sort of takes usual-suspect theorists off the shelf--Winnicott via Bechdel, Judith Butler, Eve Sedgwick--and name-checks their theories; these bits felt oddly uncerebral. A lot of the energy ...more
Apr 25, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2015
If you mix together one part theory, one part memoir, and a hearty dose of love story, you’ll end up with something like Maggie Nelson’s new book The Argonauts. Nelson’s story follows both the birth of her relationship with Harry Dodge, who is fluidly gendered, and the birth of their son. Between the narrative of their meeting, marriage and family-building, Nelson digs deep into questions of gender, sexuality, motherhood, and the individual. Though she turns to various thinkers as a base for man ...more
This is the first book by Maggie Nelson I've read. In fact, I don't know that I'd heard of her before everyone started waving their arms about the incredibleness of this book, so I didn't really know what to expect when I went into this.

There's so much to enjoy about this slim, tidy book. I liked the format, though also felt it was a bit too forced, too intentional, too purposefully different. Nelson wrote beautifully from time to time, but I didn't find it consistent throughout. She also discus
Apr 29, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Interesting memoir about love, motherhood and modern forms of families among other things.

The writing style is crisp and fresh, though laden with various philosophers and theorists; that's where Maggie lost me.

Her relationship with her partner and how it's was an intrusive peak into their life and home.

The book felt very now and happening, modern and raw. I would recommend it to anyone who is interested in feminism, sexuality , psychology, and love.
Oct 25, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: book-club
I didn't find this to be the most accessible book right off the bat, but even so, it kept me coming back. I loved how it didn't read like a conventional book, but instead was like free-form writing, yet with a very clear structure and purpose. The prose was beautiful and raw, and though I couldn't relate to the topic of a queer partnership and what that entailed, Nelson's descriptions of pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting were all so vivid and visceral and honest. This book is an important wor ...more
Feb 21, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
i am definitely going to need to read this again, maybe immediately.
Goodreads' summary of Maggie Nelson's memoir/meditation The Argonauts seems about as good as anything I could come up with. The book is a combination of theorizing about gender and the story of Nelson's love affair with artist Harry Dodge and her son with him. Nelson's account of her pregnancy and birth both resonated with and moved me deeply.

Altogether the book is fascinating and satisfying on many levels. Nelson is a smart, talented writer. Her prose incites speculation and pushes both the mi
Rebecca Renner
Jul 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction
Nelson is clearly brilliant. I give it five stars for that. But I have a deep, abiding dispassion for critical theory and all its jargon. If I was rating this book on that dislike alone, I give it three stars. Stubbornly, I read the whole thing. So I'll give it four stars for keeping me going until the end.
« previous 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 next »

Readers also enjoyed

  • Man Alive: A True Story of Violence, Forgiveness and Becoming a Man
  • Ongoingness: The End of a Diary
  • Little Labors
  • The Narrow Door: A Memoir of Friendship
  • Tender Points
  • How Poetry Saved My Life: A Hustler's Memoir
  • Close to the Knives: A Memoir of Disintegration
  • Notes from No Man's Land: American Essays
  • Dirty River: A Queer Femme of Color Dreaming Her Way Home
  • The Gentrification of the Mind: Witness to a Lost Imagination
  • The Chronology of Water
  • Sempre Susan: A Memoir of Susan Sontag
  • Madness, Rack, and Honey: Collected Lectures
  • Abandon Me: Memoirs
  • The Odd Woman and the City: A Memoir
  • The Cancer Journals
  • Black Wave
  • I'm Very into You: Correspondence 1995--1996 (Semiotext(e))
See similar books…
Maggie Nelson is the author of nine books of poetry and prose, many of which have become cult classics defying categorization. Her nonfiction titles include the National Book Critics Circle Award winner and New York Times bestseller The Argonauts (Graywolf Press, 2015), The Art of Cruelty: A Reckoning (Norton, 2011; a New York Times Notable Book of the Year), Bluets (Wave Books, 2009; named by Boo ...more
No trivia or quizzes yet. Add some now »
“Empirically speaking, we are made of star stuff. Why aren’t we talking more about that?” 154 likes
“A day or two after my love pronouncement, now feral with vulnerability, I sent you the passage from Roland Barthes by Roland Barthes in which Barthes describes how the subject who utters the phrase “I love you” is like “the Argonaut renewing his ship during its voyage without changing its name.” Just as the Argo’s parts may be replaced over time but the boat is still called the Argo, whenever the lover utters the phrase “I love you,” its meaning must be renewed by each use, as “the very task of love and of language is to give to one and the same phrase inflections which will be forever new.” 83 likes
More quotes…