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So Sad Today: Personal Essays

3.86  ·  Rating details ·  6,322 ratings  ·  748 reviews
Melissa Broder always struggled with anxiety. In the fall of 2012, she went through a harrowing cycle of panic attacks and dread that wouldn't abate for months. So she began @sosadtoday, an anonymous Twitter feed that allowed her to express her darkest feelings, and which quickly gained a dedicated following. In So Sad Today, Broder delves deeper into the existential theme ...more
Paperback, 203 pages
Published March 15th 2016 by Grand Central Publishing
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Michelle High School/College level-- due to subject matter. However, an inquisitive bright student could pick it up as early as the 6th grade.

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Jul 26, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: nonfiction, essays, memoir
This book started out with something that’s been on my mind for months now, and I was so relieved to see someone else share the same belief:

“Bringing a child into the world without its consent seems unethical.”

While reading this book I discovered that there's simply no subject that Broder is afraid to write about, and no shortage of readers who can relate.

So sad today? Many are. Melissa Broder is too. How and why did she get to be so sad? And should she stay sad?
She asks herself these questions
I want to have actual sex with this book. I just love it so much. Melissa Broder elevates vulnerability to another level: she writes about her vomit fetish, getting high off of people, her anxiety and depression, and more. This essay collection captures what I appreciate most about creative nonfiction - through exposing her deepest and darkest doubts and dismays with unrelenting self-absorption and style, Broder highlights that it is okay to be human, to be fucked up and to keep on living anyway ...more
Apr 24, 2016 rated it it was ok
I need to review this book so I can stop thinking about it.

Initially I thought the author was very young but the more I read, the more I think she might be closer to my age. Maybe I'm old, a prude, a stuffy New Englander but to me these essays do not "...reveal so much about what it is to live in this world, right now." -Roxane Gay, as printed on the cover. I understand that we live in a world where everything is fair game for publication on social media. I know the younger generation thinks no
من توسط صداقت بیش از حد این کتاب میخکوب شدم. صداقتی که هیچ چیز رو فیلتر نمی کرد و بعضی جاها فقط با بهت سرم رو تکون می دادم که این حجم اطلاعات شخصی رو من چجوری دارم می خونم. تمام مدت این حس رو داشتم که دفترچه خاطرات یک نفر رو دزدیدم و یواشکی دارم می خونمش. نویسنده از ازدواج بازش، بیماری های روانیش، روابطش با آدم های مختلف، فتیش عجیبش و موضوعاتی میگه که اصولا صحبت شخصی هم راجع بهشون سخته، نوشتن و نشر کردن که جای خود دارد

ایده کتاب از یک اکانت توییتر همنام با اسم کتاب شروع شده. نویسنده هر زمان که اح
Jun 13, 2018 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: memoir, non-fiction
I love the way Melissa Broder writes. There is something mesmerizing in the way she structures her sentences and her essays. I read her debut novel The Pisces earlier this year and fell so much in love that I more or less immediately went out and bought this one. And I am so very glad I did.

My favourite essay in this collection is "I want to be a whole person but really thin" - it's repeating sentences and sentence structures hammered home a point so painful and real that all the other essays th
Brandon Forsyth
Nov 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Vain. Self-absorbed. Vulgar. Poetic. Beautiful. Brave.

I was supposed to read other things for work this weekend, but I couldn't stop thinking about (and then picking back up) this little book of essays by Melissa Broder. There is a raw power to her prose, unmatched by anything I've read recently. She will infuriate and disgust you in one sentence and then lift you gracefully into the sky in the next. It's a virtuoso act of stunning confidence, especially given that the book is about her cripplin
Jun 13, 2018 rated it liked it
well, that was…something. as someone who writes personal essays similar to melissa broder’s, i gotta take a quick second to say this woman is an absolute boss. so many of her anecdotes and reflections were so so damn uncomfortable and revealing of her deepest anxieties and coping mechanisms, and i know that i would never have the ability to do the same.

some of the essays i couldn’t care less about, but the ones that personally wrecked me the most were:

How to Never Be Enough
I Want to Be a Whole
Jun 05, 2016 rated it it was ok
Apparently I need to start a new shelf for 'fucking weird books'.

"I had this weird intuition that if I could just make it to my Bat Mitzvah I could both prevent the Holocaust from happening again and also get all my friends back.
Strangely, my intuition was right."

*Long dramatic sigh* Where do I start? At the part where I bought this book because I see it at The Strand everyday? Or the part where I fell asleep 70% of the way in?

So Sad Today is book of short stories about Melissa's life. WEIRD
Michael Seidlinger
Mar 19, 2016 rated it it was amazing
"So Sad Today" is one big erudite tome packed full and brimming with so much insight, you could essentially cut it down, sentence-for-sentence, and use each as its own tweet and they'd all trend.

Every single one would trend. Not even one would be lost to the void.
Sep 25, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This is a dazzling example of how to get DEEP into your personal muck while writing an essay in today's social media-saturated world. It's simply shocking at times how nakedly honest Broder is. A couple of essays in particular (Love Like You Are Trying to Fill an Insatiable Spiritual Hole... & I Told You Not to Get the Knish) are almost painful to read for all their beauty, truth, and candor. If you just flipped through the book and felt turned off by all the Twitter and text message mention ...more
Wendy Ortiz
Aug 23, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
1000 stars. I love Melissa Broder's brain even if/when she doesn't.
Aug 11, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
UPDATE after re-read: I kept thinking about this book so I had to re-read a couple of essays from it. I went into this especially for the one about open marriage.
I have to say I really, really loved her writing and Melissa Broder as a human being in general, and knowing what I was getting into made it 10 times more enjoyable this time around.

- 3.5 stars -

It's been a week after I've finished this book and I still don't have something meaningful to say.

When I was read
Vincent Scarpa
Sep 29, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I think I went into this book with sized-to-scale expectations. I'd read a collection of Broder's poetry—Meat Heart—and didn't really care for it, but I found her tweets from the So Sad Today account wickedly funny. And so I thought, what the hell, why not give this essay collection a go. And I'm so, so glad I did, as it far exceeded my expectations and made me rethink why I'd set the bar where I had in the first place.

Because the thing is that Melissa Broder is a terrific writer and a terrific
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Aug 23, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2015
A tribute to honesty and struggle wrapped in a tortilla of raw.
Found a lot of 'me toos' in this
Feb 24, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: regret-reading
I was given this book through a GoodReads giveaway.

I never knew of the twitter feed, but the book of essays sounded interesting. The back was about Melissa and how she struggles with panic attacks and used twitter to express her dark feelings that she probably could not share with anyone. Themes she explores are death, addiction, love, and many others, but mostly sex. Sex seemed to be more prevalent than the other themes. I felt bad for not liking this collection, it sounded like a collection th
Sylwia (Wish Fulfillment)
Aug 13, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
Why I Recommend Bumping This UP On Your TBR: My review is #ownvoices. I know what it's like to have disordered thinking and to have substance use and mental health disorders. The best thing about this book isn't just that Broder shows what having these diagnoses is like, the best thing about these essays is that Broder is able to take a step back and describe completely disordered thoughts with a lot of insight, without perpetuating harmful ideas. She's able to say the thoughts that we neuroatyp ...more
Madalyn (Novel Ink)
Sep 06, 2018 rated it really liked it
I really appreciate how candidly Broder speaks on things like mental illness and substance abuse. At times I felt like she was in my brain. Did I need that much explicit detail about her sex life? No, but everything else about these essays made up for that. I love that she speaks both as someone struggling with MIs AND as someone who’s actively trying to get better.
May 18, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: meh, mental-illness
Sofia Banzhaf
Mar 25, 2016 rated it it was amazing
read this yesterday in one sitting under a blanket fort with my iphone flashlight during a particularly bad 24 hours of borderline nervous breakdown and it was nice to have company. i cried my way through most of the book. melissa broder is the saviour she's been looking for.
Jessica Sullivan
Jul 24, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 5-stars, nonfiction
I’m so grateful that women like Melissa Broder exist. This deeply personal and often uncomfortable essay collection is raw and fearless, unafraid to probe the most primal depths of being human: from anxiety and depression and addiction to polyamory and vomit fetishes and the unhealthiest of coping mechanisms.

Even in the times when I couldn’t relate directly to what Broder was writing about, her presence still made me feel less alone. We’re all fucked up in our own way and sometimes it’s liberati
Apr 18, 2016 added it
Shelves: could-not-finish
I gave up half way through, since I'm clearly missing the joke here. It reminds me of my feelings about The Toast, which I know so many people love, but I really don't get. It's like being on the edge of some inside stories and not being able to appreciate or enjoy them because you don't know any of the references/back stories/tone/anything.

Don't go in expecting thoughtful feminist pieces. It's different than that, which is okay, but it's not going to do anything you'd expect out of the latter.
Jun 27, 2016 rated it liked it there were definitely aspects of this essay collection that I liked. I liked that Broder was willing to show us the worst of herself. She admits to horrible things she has done and thought, to sexual fetishes that are way outside of the box, and is open about the fact that she can sometimes be a really horrible shallow individual. Even when I found myself annoyed or even disgusted by her, I often was able to let that go because I admired her bravery in being willing to present herself ...more
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I've been suffering from depressive episodes for a couple of years now, I'm better now and life is easier but I still have them from time to time. I wanted to learn from other people's experiences with depression and sever sadness and I thought this book would be a good start. However, I was deceived by the title. There is no sadness in it.

This's a collection of the author's badly written sexual anecdotes with a dash of anxiety mention. From the last essay's title I believe depression was mentio
Nov 28, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2015
I've re-written this one line review a few times. I honestly don't know how I feel about this book. But most of what I felt is wonderfully described in my friend Brandon's review here :
Wrenchingly honest in a way I only wish I could be. I found this collection extremely relatable (her anorexia was exactly like my anorexia! we feel guilt and shame about so many of the same things!) and that's always an incredibly comforting thing to discover: you are not alone.
Julia Petrich
Aug 08, 2016 rated it it was amazing
For me, this book was a minefield of exploding truths. I guess it's the sort of thing I'd write one day, if I had more focus and less fear. Quite honestly, I didn't even know you were allowed to write this kind of book.
Nov 21, 2017 rated it did not like it
I had actually been looking forward to reading this book. And I really wanted to like it - I tried SO HARD to like it.

The opening was great. It was funny and I was optimistic.

But it just went downhill from there.

I was actively searching for the depression aspect (outside of the whole "woe is me," spiel), but I never found it. Instead, it just sounded like some desperate-for-attention floozy, who wanted to make sure that everyone knew that she does indeed have sex... and lots of it!

Well, good
Sep 19, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Definitely not a self-help book, more of a self-acceptance book -- if by self-acceptance one means exposing the darkest weirdest parts of one's self to light and being able to look at them and say "lol wtf". Recommended if you: Fall in love as a coping mechanism, try to cure despair by scrolling when scrolling was what triggered the despair, feel bad about feeling bad because what do you even have to feel bad about and then feel bad for wasting time thinking about the guilt, talk about your ment ...more
Probably one of the most uncomfortable reading experiences of my life, but there's something to be said for the way Broder is able to tap into certain truths. A must-read if you have an inclination towards emotional voyeurism, and a high tolerance (maybe preference?) for weird, graphic sex.
this was so so so so good. i love essays — it's a recent discovery and one that took too long to come to light, but i love being able to identify aspects of myself in other people's experiences and sufferings. it's oddly cathartic to be so intrusive, to realise you truly aren't alone sometimes (which is something i can get SO caught up on: like everybody feels in the same way i do; they have hopes and dreams and qualms and worries and dark thoughts and they're not just unmindful beings here to f ...more
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“There aren’t many ways to find comfort in this world. We must take it where we can get it, even in the darkest, most disgusting places. Nobody asks to be born. No one signs a form that says, You have my permission to make me exist. Babies are born, because parents feel that they themselves are not enough. So, parents, never condemn us for trying to fill our existential holes, when we are but the fruit of your own vain attempts to fill yours. It’s your fault we’re here to deal with the void in the first place.” 40 likes
“I wake up scared and I'm scared all day. I'm scared of being scared. Scared of "losing it". Scared of not being able to function. Scared of being hospitalized. Scared that I am not okay. Scared of what life is and if I am wasting mine. Scared that I have no home - that even the place I call home has no bottom to it and I will just keep falling under and under and under.” 33 likes
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