How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use
There are stacks upon stacks of self-help books that will promise you love, happiness, and a fabulous life. But how ...more
This book is excellent. It puts things into perspective and doesn't try to give you false motivation (that in my experience just piles onto the downward spiral of "oh another thing I suck at" when you can't just do the one easy thing that will help you feel/do/be better...). It approaches happiness through showing what ...more
I gave it two stars for the introduction, where the author went to his patients suffering from major depression and said to them, "If I offered you ten million dollars in exchange, what would you do to make your condition worse?" It's an interesting thought experiment.
The actual chapters, though, are all inverted versions of the same old advice we're all familiar with. To be miserable, don't ...more
(view spoiler)[Paterson RJ (2016) (05:00) How to Be Miserable - 40 Strategies You Already Use
Introduction: The Dreams of Another Age
– The Ten-Million-Dollar ...more
Thought about it? Now, when you wake up in the morning and already feel miserable, what do you feel like doing?
Many of the same things. “What feels right when you're miserable is what feeds the misery, ...more
"This book is made for people who are engulfed in flame."
Setting all that aside, though, it really is a helpful book--especially for using the general strategy of thinking about how one might achieve the opposite of their true goal. Overall, I can ...more
It may not sound like a useful exercise at first but make a list of things that you would do and you may be surprised to find something that you do already, regardless of the payout.
Continuing in this spirit, the book gives you advice on how to maximize your misery and ironically points out what you ...more
For a long time I’ve been practicing being depressed and miserable as a hobby. A side thing. I never thought I could professionally despair. But this book showed me all the things I’ve been doing wrong that might lead me astray and towards contentment and happiness. Thankfully I have seen all the little things I was doing wrong. With this book, you too can become professionally miserable. You won’t make any money of course, being miserable is its own reward.
As the name suggests How to be...more
Paterson points out that his tongue-in-cheek-advice is intended for unhappy people, not for those with clinical depression. He begins by sorting the situations of life into two categories: Column A is for circumstances that we ...more
Those in the deepest valley of depression often need other strategies (besides chirpy satire) and another voice.
The modern world was created based on hominid desires, not on a dispassionate analysis of what might work best. Our early surroundings have given us drives and instincts that, today, work against our best interests.
There is an interconnectedness between mood and impulse. As ...more
Hilarious and insightful book that uses irony to get the point across about the behaviours that makes us miserable in our quest for happiness. It is a book about what a lot of us are already doing that makes us miserable. It has even some strategies I didn’t know about and will definitely try not to try…. Very tempting though, just in case. You never know.
The tone of the book and the many examples of behaviour described make the ...more
"But what feels right when you're miserable is what feeds the misery, not what feeds you."
This book was the oh-so-needed kick in the giblets. I worry that people will take offense for this book being sarcastic or flippant about the depths... and I can see that because it's sort of the point. So many things are beyond our control but they all add to the shit that is life. On the other hand, there are also a lot of things we can control ...more
The book is written in a fun style to listen to. It's short, well narrated and entertaining. The content is dense and packs several seemingly obvious advice and a few not very intuitive ones. Inevitably some of those will hit home, either because we identify ourselves or people close to us. The book ending was a little bit out of the mood, and unexpectedly within the usual motivational ...more