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Finding Their Balance

(Neighborly Affection #5)

4.25  ·  Rating details ·  372 ratings  ·  67 reviews
Three’s the naughtiest kind of crowd.

Getting to the one-year mark is hard enough in a relationship between two lovers. For three, just getting through the day can be half the battle. Between Alice’s headstrong insistence on pushing her sexual limits and Jay’s need to confront an abusive former lover, Henry has his hands full keeping both his partners safe and happy. B
Kindle Edition, 304 pages
Published March 1st 2016 by Lyrical Press
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Nov 03, 2015 rated it really liked it

I've been a big fan of this series ever since I read it a good year ago. After I read book #3, I wrongly assumed that it was the last one in the series, leaving me a little disappointed with the ending. Needless to say, I was elated when I found out that there was at least one more to come, and even more ecstatic when I read M.Q. Barber's blog post saying that this book was going to be available via NetGalley.

This series is basically pure erotica (not smut, though). There isn't a lot going on ou
Lisa ~ Books Are My Drugs ~
A copy was provided by NetGalley in return for an honest review

I've been reading this series from the beginning and I've been a fan all along. This has been the best yet. There was so much growth in Jay and Alice both as submissives and as people. Jay is learning how speak up for himself & redefine his limits (although he still has work to do when it comes to his birth family). And Alice is learning how to grow as a switch & she's learning that her men have great capacity to love and not just ro
♂♀♂ Mary's Menage Reviews ♂♂♀
Must read this saga. I was hooked from beginning book 1 to book 4.
Miranda Whore
Review for Finding Their Balance by M.Q. Barber

Henry, Jay, and Alice are back in Finding Their Balance book number five in M.Q. Barber’s Neighborly Affections series. In order to fully enjoy this book, I suggest you read the series in order.

Barber has a lyrical quality to her writing. Each detail perfectly executed to create a world in which the reader can get lost. Every step of the way you feel the forward motion of the characters. Not only do you see growth of the individual, but also within
Diane Dannenfeldt
Another great installment in this series. Henry is amazing he always knows what they exactly need and gives it to them. I loved Henry letting Alice be Mistress over Jay at the club that was really hot. I'm glad that Alice finally comes to terms with Em and it looks as if they will actually become friends. I wish that Em would find someone as she is so lonely, I know no one will ever take Victors' place but she shouldn't be so alone. I don't really like Jay's family, even though we really haven't ...more
Sarah Beth
Jan 16, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: menage, bdsm
Ahhh.... how I love this series. It is best read in order, and this book is not a stand-alone. One of the things I appreciate the most about these books is that M.Q. Barber has created people and circumstances that are realistic. These characters are flawed, can't read eachother's minds, and have daily lives and struggles. They become real. Re-connecting with them in this book was like getting a long phone call from a cherished friend.

In this book we see a Jay, Henry, and Alice's relationship g
Jan 05, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Another fantastic book by M. Q. Barber. I don't think I'll ever get enough of Henry, Jay, and Alice. This book was really about growth. You know the characters, you love them, and now you can see them all grow and become more comfortable with themselves and their relationships. I really did not care for Emma, however, this book changed my mind. We get insight into why she does things the way she does and I'm so glad for that because she is important to both Henry and Jay.

I absolutely LOVED Find
Sheri Bishop
Mar 06, 2016 rated it it was amazing
I wish I was better at writing reviews and I could do this book justice!!

M.Q. is an interesting author who has made me feel and connect with each of her characters. I don't know how she does it but it is an unique talent. Henry, Jay, and Alice are and will always be my favorite book "couple". I identify with each of them and their personalities. To see them settle into their love and their lives together brought me such joy and warmth, I was moved to tears several times. But the best part of the
Jan 30, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I haven't read the other 4 YET. I highly recommend this as a stand alone but definitely could feel where I was missing the inside story. The author does a great job of filling in necessary information without oversharing.

Lyrical writing. When Henry speaks it is poetry. It adds to the magic in their complicated relationship. This story is not about punishment. Safety, trust and love form the foundations that each partner builds on to serve one another. Jay defines himself as servant but not a sl
MariaLisa deMora
Mar 02, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
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I did not pen a review after reading Finding Their Balance the first time because I didn't love it. Not like I had M.Q. Barber’s other books. I liked it well enough, but there was no quivering-belly love for the characters and the story. I wanted to love it because Barber’s use of language is lyrical and evokes sentiments that flood my mind with pleasure. I wanted to love it because the characters of this series are so well drawn I feel as if I could meet them on the street and strike up a conve ...more
Mar 01, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Read the full review on Bookaholics Not-So-Anonymous.

Note: This ARC was provided by Lyrical Press in exchange for an honest review.

It's been nearly a year since Henry, Jay, and Alice entered a three-sided relationship and while it's had it's ups, it's certainly had its downs as well. After all, these are three very different personalities who have their distinct ways of thinking and feeling. Alice being the new member in the relationship is used to dealing with problems and stressful situations
Jammie Bebout
M.Q. Barber has really outdone herself. She has done some absolutely superb work here. This unconventional love story touches your heart, tickles your funny bone, and revs your engine. Finding Their Balance observes our three lovers around the one year point in their relationship as they work to become a more seamlessly blended unit both from an outward and an inward point of view. Alice endeavors to accept her new role as part-time mistress to Jay, and Jay is doing his best to deal with the tra ...more
This is not a series that you can skim read - every word, sentence and paragraph is a finely twined piece of the story - blink and you will miss a subtle change or breath of direction. This threesome of Henry, Jay & Alice really is beautiful and almost has an old world feel to it. Respect, patience, loyalty, trust & love... I could go on. It's a great BDSM series - different on many levels, very clever ...more
Mar 07, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I've adored this series from the start, and it just keeps getting better. This isn't my go-to genre by any means, which makes the depths of emotion and exploration of the psychology behind the games Dom Henry and co-subs Alice and Jay play even more appealing. Steam and boundary-pushing with heart and a deep, abiding respect and love? Always a winning combination in romance! ...more
Jeannie Zelos
Finding Their Balance,  M.Q. Barber

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Genre:   Romance, Erotica

 I’ve adored this series from the start, thought I’d love this book, and was kind of puzzled, disappointed at it not working well for me.

Its difficult to explain, but this time I felt it was very Club heavy, Henry’s words which I usually love seemed a bit ponderous, extraneous at times. Usually his voice makes me shiver almost, but this time, I just wanted to say “ c’mon, get to the point”. I can s
Jan 26, 2016 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc, 2016
ARC kindly provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
2.5 Stars

This was the fifth book in this series and I have not read the other four. However, I read some very positive reviews on this one and most of them said that reading the other four is not necessary. So I gave it a try. And I am sad to say this one wasn't for me.

Now the connection/chemistry between the love interests was pretty intense at times and their time at the club very entertaining. I felt that the character develo
Amy Barber
Jan 29, 2016 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is 5th in a series but you absolutely do NOT need to have read the other books to thoroughly enjoy this. There were past events mentioned and it made me wonder if there were previous books but I did not feel like I was missing anything. I felt like this story was pretty unique, Henry, the Dom, was an odd duck to me, but a gorgeous, sexy, smart and talented duck. I loved Jay, he is adorable, sexy, quirky, funny and so much more. As I'm thinking about him now, I'm certain there is going ...more
I waited so long for this book! I loved the first two books in this series and liked the third. This, however, proved to be somewhat of a disappointment. All the things that bugged me about the third book (mainly the excessive lovey dovey stuff and Henry's paternalistic nature being turned up to the max in a way that is almost creepy) was even more in evidence here. The language also gets somewhat fruity and metaphor heavy rather than just being straight up [read: explicit] which, frankly, is wh ...more
Carolina Godinho
Feb 17, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc-netgalley, awful
I was given an ARC in exchange of an honest review.

What a mess! Finding their balance was a awful reading, I felt like DNFing but being a ARC I put myself through it. But it was painful to read it. Confusing and lacking I felt like I was reading a different book from the other readers who gave 5 stars.
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Jun 25, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2016
Very emotional bdsm read. I personally would have liked to see a bit more about their professional and social lives. I felt it was mostly about their sex lives only.
Otherwise I would have given it 5 stars.
May 19, 2017 rated it it was amazing
5 stars

There isn't a thing about this book I didn't like; it was fabulous! There's gunna be more Henry, Jay and Alice right? I'm not ready to let them go.
Angie Hall
I loved it!!

I thoroughly enjoyed reading your series. Although I think there needs to be another book!! I read tons of these and I'm looking for an epilogue at least. I'm dying to know if Jay and Alice go back with Henry to the club and play out some fantasies for others to watch. I want to know if Alice ever gets her fantasy of being knotted up? Does Will help? Does Will ever find his happily ever after after his boy graduates? Does Emma find another dominant and ever find happiness again? How
Sam Domangue
Nov 13, 2018 rated it liked it
2 stars

I was a bit lost for a little at first. I'm not sure if this was supposed to be a stand alone or not. It seemed like I was missing pieces of the story, like the whole beginning. After reading for a while I finally understood the plot a little better, but for the type of book it was supposed to be, I wasn't impressed. I was expecting more in depth steamy scenes but it stays rather vague and seemed hurried through. The concept and story line were pretty good and the characters are all lovea
Jan 07, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Finding Their Balance is part of a series so I would recommend reading that prior to diving into this book.

This book is pure erotica at its best! It's about a triad finding their way once the reality of what they are doing has set in.

For some reason, this book didn't flow as smoothly as the previous ones. It felt stunted at times and a bit confusing as to who was saying what. I still love this triad though, and I liked the secondary characters as well! I enjoyed seeing their love grow and move
May 15, 2019 rated it really liked it

This was the final installment of Henry, Alice and Jay’s journey. They are still learning how to adjust to life together as a triad and they also face the past demons that plague their harmony. The jealousy and trauma. Like I said about the other installments is that it wasn’t overdramatic, it was still an interesting story and I’m glad I read the series. Jay is so cute that I want to eat him up and Alice finally grows up and matured into the woman that she is meant to be under Henry’s gu
Lee Parker
Jun 17, 2017 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: first-reads
I received a copy of this for free through Goodreads First Reads

This was not my normal type of book at all. However I found myself fascinated. I really don't understand the lifestyle at all, but I find myself amazed at how it is navigated by the people who partake in it. Overall it is very informative if you don't know much about that kind of lifestyle. This book was very good at drawing you into a subject that you may be disgusted with because you don't understand it.
Bollinger Lynn
Aug 12, 2019 rated it really liked it
Compelling read

I usually get my ebooks from a public library, but this one drew me in through the entire series. It's literate, fun, emotional, compassionate. The chronology gets confusing but eventually the story is told. So compelling, I spent money on each new volume (abnormal in my universe)- also thoughtful and informative re BDSM culture.
Carole Ann
DNF @70%. I just couldn’t get into this book. It was decently written, but I just got bored and felt the characters weren’t that interesting. I tried several times to continue reading, but finally gave up.
May 29, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I love this series!
Jul 21, 2019 rated it liked it
My least favorite of the series. I found myself skipping ahead several times.
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Sharing those stories is a new thing for me. I hope readers will love the characters as much as I do.

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