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16 Ways to Break A Heart

2.94  ·  Rating details ·  552 ratings  ·  141 reviews
Unfolding through letters, texts, and chats, Lauren Strasnick’s smart, sexy, page-turning new novel is the ultimate he said/she said breakdown of a relationship gone wrong.

Natalie and Dan were electric from the moment they met. Witty banter and sizzling chemistry made falling in love easy—even inevitable. He was in awe of her subversive art and contagious zest for life; sh
Hardcover, 208 pages
Published July 25th 2017 by Katherine Tegen Books
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Sarah Elizabeth
(I received an advance copy of this book for free. Thanks to HarperCollins and Edelweiss.)

“Just don’t come crying to me when she boils your bunny.”

This was a YA contemporary story about a relationship that ended with a bad break up.

The characters in this both seemed a little self-destructive. Dan and Natalie didn’t seem like a good fit right from the start, and they both messed up within the relationship. Dan should have known better than to flirt with other girls over text, and Nat
Jul 22, 2017 rated it did not like it
DNF at 50%

I feel like what I read is not even remotely close to the book described in the synopsis. There is absolutely no love story in this book. It's an odd and toxic relationship between two horrible people. I cannot say anything nice about Natalie or Dan.

I liked the idea in the synopsis and getting Natalie's letters and Dan's current POV. I would have liked the format if it didn't rely so much on the dates and times. However, the slut shaming and casual comments about committing suicide to
May 23, 2017 rated it liked it
Reminding me of Thirteen Reasons Why, this story followed Natalie's many letters to Dan as she retold their story, intercalating with her ex-boyfriend Dan's own interpretation of the happenings. This isn't a romance, this isn't a drama.

Why the comparison? Not only the letters but Natalie's tone also reminisced Hannah's, as a bonus, she tended to visit the places things had happened. Moreover, Dan knew he had played an important part in the breakup even though it isn't immediately clear to us at
Jul 08, 2017 rated it did not like it
I received a copy via Edelweiss in exchange for an honest review

This book is a disaster.

That's probably the best way to describe WTF I just read (okay, speed read because I couldn't, for my sanity, take my time to read the ridiculousness of this book). I even made notes because I was just so confused while reading this that I needed to keep my thoughts straight.

Everything in this book was toxic. I literally asked myself multiple times why I was still reading this book because all of the charac
Hazel (Stay Bookish)
Jun 08, 2017 rated it really liked it
THIS BOOK IS BATSHIT CRAZY AND I LIKE IT. The narratives are so fucking strong and so compelling. I read this book in one sitting and barely even took a breath, except for the times I just had to gasp aloud because of the insanity. The letter and notes format was quickly devourable and I love that aside from getting the he said/she said perspective, we get tiny POVs from minor characters too. I know not everyone will like this but I seriously admired what the author was trying to do with this st ...more
Joshee Kun (조수아)
What the heck just happened? Meh. RTC
Paige (Illegal in 3 Countries)
Aug 23, 2020 rated it did not like it
Shelves: arc
See more of my reviews on The YA Kitten! My copy was an ARC I got from the publisher for review via Edelweiss.

Warnings: ableism

I’m no longer into Taylor Swift’s music like I used to be, but 1989 was the last album of hers I liked and “Blank Space” was an entire THING. I used the “I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream” lyric to jokingly introduce myself to my creative writing class and it was great. The class started on my birthday and I was looking extraordinarily cherubic to celebrate, so it
This was. . .interesting, for lack of a better word. I think they are all crazy and weird and totally over the top about everything. I didn't overly enjoy this book. ...more
Feb 01, 2017 rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2017
First off, I would like to thank the publisher and author for providing me this ARC to review. Please note that the version I read was an advanced copy, and certain events/language may be changed in the published edition.

“Who would’ve thunk it could’ve ended like this? Explosively, devastatingly, calamitously.”

Stars (Out of 10): 3/10

Overall Thoughts: I wasn’t the biggest fan of this book. I often like someone to cheer for, or at least some semblance of goodness in the characters, but in this cas
Jan 01, 2018 rated it really liked it
Reason why I read this book:
1. The title intrigued me.
2. The cute cover.
3. Boredom.

When I got this book I thought it would be something akin to the book Why We Broke Up (which was just meh for me). I immediately liked the style of writing the author used --- the two versions of reality between Natalie Fierro and Dan Jacobson; the emails and the texts between various spectators to their romantic drama. Natalie's letters were reflective, emotional, and borderline at times but they were truthfully
Feb 19, 2019 rated it it was ok
1.5-2 stars
The thing is this could’ve been a very good book BUT it fell short
however, this story makes me realise the exact reason why I’m not ready to commit lmao
Madi ~☆TheBookNerdDiaries☆~

I enjoyed this but the ending was kinda dumb.

Anabella  Shay
Aug 03, 2019 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: teen
I loved this, it had a smart female in it. You'd be surprised if you read it, especially considering people seem to think she's not what she is.
It was great to see a girl stand up and do the right thing. It also had other female characters that did end up doing the right things as well.
I'd love to read another book by this same author someday.
Veronica Sanchez
Not entirely how I expected it to end but it kept me interested up until the last page.
“I loved you so much.”
“We destroyed each other.”

Well, that perfectly echoes the beginning and end of most relationships.

I love how the author told Dan and Nat’s love story. The book alternates between witty letters written by Nat, and Dan’s present-day thoughts on the letters and their overall relationship. There were also some text/chat conversations which shed more light on their inevitable destruction.

When I first read about their earliest memories, I kinda wished they’d get back
Aug 23, 2017 rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Schadenfreude. It's truly a fitting word to describe the messy, ugly, and distasteful love story of Nat and Dan. Yet I didn't fall for Nat or Dan as they fell for each other. I didn't fall for their giddy, intoxicating yet toxic love. And thus I did not watch wide-eyed, heart flayed as they broke apart and broke each other—their breakups and rage sex, spectacular implosion and self-sabotage. Theirs was a cocktail romance: short, pretty, fireworks in your eyes—and? The hangover hits. And it hits ...more
Sep 17, 2020 rated it it was ok
2.5 What a roller coaster that was. It was definitely ambitious subject material to break down a break up, but it was just lacking in any real closure for me and the very last page was wacky and seemed too far removed from the rest of the narrative. I did like the formatting of the book tho, the letters and texts were a good way to keep the flashbacks clear.
Nov 07, 2020 rated it really liked it
This book is fucked ... and I loved every page.
Jack Reynolds
May 06, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: arc-s
When I read the premise for 16 Ways to Break A Heart, it immediately appealed to me. Though I had never head of Strasnick prior to this (my high school's library has her first book despite that), it caught my eyes scrolling through Harper's teen releases for the summer. Though there was no cover for it (that would come later), I was instantly curious to see what would happen in a complete breakdown of a relationship that started off so well.

So when I was able to receive an ARC, I definitely want
Jan 16, 2020 rated it it was ok
Points for original narrative structure and the two leads being so well balanced in hateability.
Aug 07, 2017 rated it really liked it
In a bid to clear my Kindle of its many, many books (that’s an understatement) I am going through my Kindle in alphabetical order (there’s no other way – if I think too hard about what I want to read, then I end up not reading a thing) and culling any book that doesn’t immediately grab my attention. I culled the first book I tried, but 16 Ways To Break A Heart grabbed me immediately – it was such a quick read, but I loved the he says/she says nature of the book and the fact that Nat’s entire POV ...more
Samantha (WLABB)
This is not a love story. It's an unlove story. What started out with so much passion, quickly turned toxic, and now one is left broken, and takes the opportunity to tell the other how he broke her.
I never let anyone buy me anything but our eyes locked and the angels sang and I instantly knew I could love you.

It's a well known fact, that I like light, fluffy romances with an HEA. This was the opposite of that. This was sad, and showed that dark side of love. That unhealthy side. These two were
anne⁷ | BUTTER 21 May 2021
Nat and Dan are super flawed characters and their relationship is toxic but their story had me soooo absorbed! I really liked this book a lot. ❤ The only thing I didn't like about it is how the problem in the 16th letter got somehow downplayed which led the story to an abrupt ending. I wouldn't be surprised if there's gonna be a sequel, but a spin-off, maybe?

I'll post a longer review on my blog close to the release date.

Disclaimer: I received a review copy from the publisher in exchange for an
Mar 19, 2017 rated it it was ok
wow this book I thought was going to be breakup and getting over someone .So not the book I read. This book was like a train wreck and I wanted to finish this book to see what happened. Wow dan was dating 2 girls and they didn't like each other. He also is working on a big project for school. Wow I felt that that the girl was crazy at times or stalker like . I didn't like the ending either. ...more
Sabrina Kaye Fox
Jun 05, 2017 rated it really liked it
Quick read. I love Natalie because she reminds me of myself as crazy as she is. Dan was a super-douche, glad he got what he deserved.
Would have finished sooner had people left me alone to read in peace. I need MORE from Strasnick.
May 05, 2020 rated it it was ok
"I dont think we have the kind of control that we think we do."

what to say.

well, I didnt hate the book, I didn't dislike it and im not mad I read it.
I was actually super into it but then I had to go to sleep cus work and I think if you're going to give this one a go, it's better as a 1 sitting read. (super short, 190 page read.) Just easier to get it all out of the way.

the synopsis is a biiiiit of a lie.

maybe the point of the story was never to see them in love but only
Paperback Paris
Jan 27, 2018 rated it really liked it
In 16 Ways to Break a Heart , Lauren Strasnick does a wonderful job describing exactly what it feels like to have your heart broken in high school. However, the difference in this tale is that Strasnick gives her character, Natalie, the strength to process and confess the ways her ex-boyfriend, Dan, damaged their relationship, and the many events that led to their falling out.

Natalie and Dan were good together at the beginning of their relationship. They both liked things in each other li
Paulina Maurovich
May 10, 2020 rated it liked it
"You may have moved on, but Pigtails, she hasn’t—she’s stuck still, frozen in place; killing herself trying to sort out what she did wrong to make you stop loving her."

Name: 16 Ways to Break a Heart
Author: Lauren Strasnick
Type: Standalone
Genre: Young Adult, Romance, Family, Toxic Love

16 Ways to Break a Heart was a tough read. It was super easy to read in one sitting as it keeps you on your toes wondering what will occur to the two characters that shape the story. The dynamic is very interesting
Oct 07, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Reviewed for YA Books Central

An intensely real story about two people whose love turned to destruction.

The story:
Natalie and Dan had a connection from the moment they met. She had a flair for life and an incredible artistic talent. He had a good-boy reputation and dreams of his own. They were opposites in every way, but they fell in love.
The story picks up after their breakup. Natalie has written her side to their story in letters that she leaves for Dan, giving him a glimpse into the girl he l
Jun 13, 2018 rated it it was ok
This book's synopsis really enticed me. However, in the end, I feel as though it's synopsis was the problem.
The way the plot was described on the blurb noted that the female protagonist was left broken hearted after an exhilaring relationship with the male protagonist and has left her version of their "love story" in places "only he will find".

Firstly, referencing their relationship as a "love story" indicates a feeling of passion which only appeared in a toxic way when it came to Dan and Natal
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Lauren Strasnick’s debut novel, NOTHING LIKE YOU (Simon & Schuster, 2009), was an RWA RITA award finalist in two categories, Best First Book and YA Romance. Her second novel, HER AND ME AND YOU (Simon & Schuster, 2010), was a 2012 ALA Quick Pick for Reluctant Young Adult Readers. Her work has been translated into French, German, and Portuguese. In addition to writing, Lauren teaches fiction in the ...more

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