The Game Changer: A Memoir of Disruptive Love
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While this may be a good memoir of the early days of middle- ...more
The discrepancies between their and Franklin's version of the story cannot be explained by just different versions of the same experience. All three women report lasting harm from their relationships, including trauma.
Still, I give it two stars, because as a work of fiction it's still an entertaining and moving read. ...more
To a reader of More Than Two, most of the people who appear in this book will be familiar. I felt like I knew most of the story in outline already from the descriptions given in the other book. However, T ...more
However,many of the key women in this book have recently (2019) come out with a very different perspective that has totally changed my view. I would encourage anyone who reads this book to also read their perspective and decide for yourself.
I'm so lucky in so many ways. That I am born in a progressive developed country. That I've been able to have children I wanted. That my life is abundant. And lucky, that others like Franklin Veaux have paved the way for my plural Franklin Veauxrelationship choices on 'new trails through a trackless wilderness.'
I haven't escaped pain in my life, nor would I want to, because pain I've discovered presents a hidden path for growth, to a land where you discover new horizons and limitless possibilitie...more
I'm not sure this book was necessary. More Than Two was beautiful and noble, and I thought it stood on its own. Now I feel like part of it has been eroded. ...more
The Short Version
“More than anything, I craved being understood.” (Page 134)
I finished reading the book less than 24 hours after I received it. It is a compelling story about a fascinating individual. So at its core, it fulfills the requirements of a good auto-biography. Beyond that, it is well-written and structured in a way that gives the reader a great sense of the passage of time and the growth of the individuals across the years. The author successfully ...more
I'll try to keep this without spoilers. This is a pretty short story of the beautiful and terrible things that happened throughout the author's first marriage, which led to the fairly radical idea that, when in a romantic relationship, one person does not own another and is not responsible for setting limits on their behaviour.
The s ...more
I was partly right. There was a relationship that changed them all for him, but there ...more
The takeaway from The Game Changer shouldn't be that polyamory is bad, or good. It shouldn't be that everyone needs to go and find three boyfriends or girlfriends right now, or that we need to go give up all hope of ever finding a perfect romance. The takeaway should be that whatever type of relationship is right for you, know that it is going to be challenging. It will require work. It will require you to be aware of people around you, be ...more
On the other hand, sometimes the author tend to assume what his partners were feeling or thinking, which let me with this idea that I need to read the other side of the story, the one told by his partners.
Overall I think it's a good book. ...more
His wife Celeste, was a classic example of someone who had a lot of insecurities about herself. Later on in the boo ...more
Since it is a biography of the author himself, I expected it to be subjective. However, I didn’t expect it to be this one sided and lacking of any other perspective than of the author himself.
The author does a poorly job of self reflection, and I don’t remember him taking any responsibility, for any of his former experiences.
Read it if you want a perspective of Polygami. But be aware that “me too ...more
I didn't know what to expect when I started this book. After the first chapter, I was captivated. Franklin Veaux's coming of age story of how a socially awkward boy became a man who finally said goodbye to fear in his romantic relationships is as compelling as it is quirky. ...more
I am very open to a lot of things, and firmly believe, to each his own. What makes one person happy isn’t what will make another. I enjoyed reading this book. I find it interestin ...more
“Sexual intimacy can be a gateway to emotional intimacy. Even when it’s confined to text over a computer screen.”
We started talk about sex but also about our hopes and dreams, our past loves, the millions of little details that make up our lives.
"Life rewards people who move in t ...more