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The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed

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"One of the most admired men in the world of seduction" (The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women

For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world's greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationsh
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published February 6th 2007 by St. Martin's Press
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Mikhail Filipas I picked this book up after reading "The Game' by Neil Strauss because of the way Mystery was portrayed in the book. 'Hero-worshipped' can also be…moreI picked this book up after reading "The Game' by Neil Strauss because of the way Mystery was portrayed in the book. 'Hero-worshipped' can also be considered an accurate description. This book is not essential and I believe it will be phased out in a few years. Do yourself a favour and read Models by Mark Manson, Art of Seduction by Robert Green and The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida instead of this one. Fantastic books that transcend the art of seducing women into an art form.(less)

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Mar 11, 2009 rated it really liked it
Fascinating pick up artist social marketing guide. The digital era of Casanova wannabes spawns one Erik von Markovik into fame, as the illustrious Mystery, the teacher and leader of the lady killers. A dating consultant who holds high dollar seminars and real time practice in the field, Mystery has written what is revered in the online community as the seduction bible. It contains explicit descriptions of his techniques, jargon, lines, approaches, and everything under the sun to attract and pick ...more
Kater Cheek
Nov 13, 2012 rated it liked it
I've heard a lot about the "pickup artist" movement, especially on feminist sites, and couldn't contain my curiosity. Alas, these books are frequently checked out of the library, so I had to wait my turn.

The basic theories of the book are soundly grounded in recognized psychological and evolutionary theory. Firstly, women are attracted to men who seem like they'd be good mates and providers. Just as men can't help being attracted to big boobs, even if they're fake, women can't help but be attrac
Jul 08, 2011 rated it liked it
Recommends it for: men who want to meet beautiful women and get them into bed
While reading this book I tried using the techniques Mystery prescribes to get my wife into bed, but it was too late. She already was in bed.

"All right, wife," I said, "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed is the last trashy book I'm reading."

"But, balli," she said, "trashy books are the greatest."

"Yeah, I know, and this one, despite its grossness and weirdness, contains good insights that aren't available from other, more respectable sources. Still, it's no Nicomachean Ethics
Aug 07, 2013 marked it as not-to-read

OMG! Is this the real life prototype for the Tom Cruise character in Magnolia? He sounds scarily similar...
Oct 05, 2007 rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Men
Shelves: relationships
I've just re-read this book and its STILL the best book on picking up women I have ever read.

Going over the material again, it has reminded me of a couple key concepts and reminded me of other things I can use, now that I have mastered some of the others.

Its a great follow-up to the book, How to be Successful with Women. How to be successful with women really does a great job about laying out the fundamentals of dating. The Mystery Method provides advanced tips and guidance.

What makes the boo
David Hooper
Aug 24, 2009 rated it really liked it
Interesting book. If you like psychology, you'll probably be into it. Lots of theories on social development and why we act the way we do. That part was interesting to me.

Last part is a bunch of "pick up lines" and suggested orders to use them, which I didn't find as interesting. It was more for somebody who really buys into this "method" to study and, hopefully, improve on.

Will it work? Probably. But if you approach enough women, which is part of the process, anything will work. There is part
Every single woman should read this. Know your enemy. Also, avoid cornballs doing any of the following for attention: getting chummy with your boyfriend, doing card tricks, wearing a giant fuzzy hat or other such ridiculousness, or anyone who has given themselves a nickname.
Jan 30, 2008 rated it it was amazing
I borrowed this one from the library with the same skepticism as when I borrowed He's Just Not That Into You.

Mystery is right on the money with his social dynamic theories. It killed me to sit there and agree with him, especially since I *am* female! I think this is the first dating book that I've ever read that breaks out "the game" on a psychological basis, and more than standard advice like don't call the day after getting a number.

I'm actually sending off my coworker with this book as a part
sam kim
Aug 24, 2007 rated it liked it
holy crap... this is one of (if not the single) most masoganistic books i've ever read...
Jun 23, 2012 rated it liked it
Shelves: self-improvement
I don't much like 'Mystery' as far as his personality goes. His is a narrow and two-dimensional mindset; tuned into in this one particular pseudo-field but not well-rounded in any other way. Also: I definitely don't like all the imbeciles and losers who comprise his retinue. All these elaborate sagas about living together in mansions. Please, grow up.

Additionally I feel there's some gaping holes in the method he's so proud of. Careful reading reveals far too many 'exceptions'--'differences' betw
Jeff Yoak
This book was something of a disappointment to me. After reading The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists and finding that his mentor, Mystery, had a book I was interested to read it. The Game is extremely well-written and has insights into people and interactions that extend beyond simple interest in picking up women.

Mystery Method begins with what I'll generously call wildly speculative claims about evolution and gender traits. I almost didn't make it through the first couple
Erin  Hopkins Weber
Jan 18, 2011 rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
When I first heard about this book I thought it was an ironic name for some hip novel, not a sincere (if you can even say that) how-to book. Then when reading other people's reviews, and seemingly otherwise intelligent women said the guy had his points, curiosity got the better of me. I wasn't really sure how rate this because it is offensive and disturbing for obvious reasons. But at the same time, so fascinating I actually stayed up late into the night reading it. So while I don't condone play ...more
Jul 14, 2009 rated it did not like it
While searching for a book titled "1001 Ways for a Middle-Aged Father of Five to Keep the Spark in His Marraige Alive, Be Romantic and Make His Wife Swoon Constantly," I found this one. Intrigued, I was amused at how the subject of one-night stands was treated so scientifically and mathematically. The book was written in a tone of complete and utter seriousness, and there were more formulas than some of my engineering texts. So, it was either intended as a totally serious book, or was 100% satir ...more
Nov 11, 2009 rated it really liked it
It was highly educational. Mystery is just pointing out what is quite apparent (if you have any basic social skills or are a woman) in terms of male-female social interactions, but his technique is both highly methodical and sophisticated. If you are a dude, it's probably in your interest to read this book.
Ali Haidar
Jul 24, 2017 rated it it was amazing
never touched a girl until I picked this book up back in 2011. don't think I ever would have without it. a real life changer that truly left it's mark on me. it's like mystery puts his arms around you and tells you the secrets no one wanted you to know about how easy it is to get women. as long as you ignore everything you were taught about women growing up you'll never have to be lonely or suffer from insecurity with the opposite sex. women are fickle beings , just as shallow as men are . this ...more
Mitul Mundra
Mar 14, 2018 rated it really liked it
Mystery spend his life trying to figure out what works in the field and what doesn’t, so clearly this book would give you a good start to practice game but it doesn’t talk about inner game. Models by Mark Manson gives a very good introduction to improving your life and thus, making your inner game strong.
This book was written more than 10 years ago, so its kinda outdated but the core principles still hold and you just need to extrapolate his routines/gambits from back in the day to present worl
Christian Hanson
Nov 06, 2017 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Any book like this that provides a "method" of getting laid is BS. If there was some magical method, every virgin in their mid twenties would be drowning in pussy instead of reposting stale ass memes and jerking it to the transient hentai. First step to getting any girl whatsoever is simply be the kind of person who's attractive to girls, and what's attractive depends on the girl as everyone has different tastes because they're humans not some machine you stick your tiny dick into. I've never se ...more
Andy Groark
Jan 03, 2018 rated it did not like it
I hate that this exists. Powerful in an evil way. Like Voldemort. Read if you want to understand some human behaviour at its worst/know your enemy.
Jesus Cris
Jun 25, 2017 rated it really liked it
I want to read it again. Probably next year.
Feb 07, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: pdf-library
Great book on social dynamics by the guy who made the famous TV series some time ago.
Simon Torffvit
Jun 18, 2017 rated it liked it
Want one-night stands? This might be the book for you. Want love? Then this is not the book for you.
Aug 25, 2017 rated it really liked it
It really has very useful tips for dating, very recomended!
Oct 02, 2014 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
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May 20, 2016 rated it liked it
After learning about "negging" by watching the TV show Silicon Valley, my boyfriend let me know that there is a whole group of pick-up artists who have a whole system for bedding pretty much any woman and that it includes "negs." Once he explained it to me a bit, I started to see it everywhere! And I decided to read a book that would explain this method so that I would not be blind to it.

Honestly, I expected this book to be a lot more offensive than it was. I never saw Mystery's show and the onl
Feb 20, 2017 rated it really liked it
Simply put, this book works! I remember trying out some of the tips in this book on women that I would normally never talk to. They were really hot women, just not my typical cup of tea, so I had no reservations on using it on them. If I failed, I didn't care, but if I succeeded, I became favorable to this hot woman, who I sort of didn't really care to entertain much. As a loner, I just wanted to test the waters and see if it actually worked, and it does! Now, I will assure you, that no women we ...more
Benny Bastard
Oct 21, 2014 rated it liked it
I think this book is worth reading because it was groundbreaking for its time, and parts of it (ie. the psychological principles, the general principles of social dynamics) are quite solid. I think the main thing I got out of this book was the idea of status (ie. "value"), which can come from either reproductive value or survival value (and women mostly look for survival value in men). What I don`t like about the book, or I should say about the method, is that it`s so damn clinical and detail-or ...more
Jan 27, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is an honest and honestly presented account of a dishonest game.

It eschews the plotting of Neil Strauss's The Game and presents Erik Von Markovik's ingenious system for picking-up women. The man who calls himself Mystery really is, as Strauss described him two years before this book was published, "a big, blubbering genius." His book comes from a more vulnerable place than Strauss's book; Von Markovik prizes sociability above all things - in the tradition of Bill Clinton, he is energized, n
Armando Espinoza
Oct 17, 2014 rated it it was amazing
This was one of the first books I read about "the art of pick-up." At the time, it was one of the only options you had for learning how to pick-up women. Nowadays, there's so many other better options. Not to say that you can't learn stuff from this book. Even though a lot of information is "antiquated," it's still a very good book for someone who's just starting to really want to break into the art of meeting and successfully courting girls (yes, there is an actual process you can do). Learning ...more
Karen Chung
Aug 14, 2016 rated it it was ok
I read this after I saw it mentioned in another book I'm now reading, The Tw0-Second Advantage.

While Mystery is right about many of the dynamics of dating, I found it increasingly disturbing to imagine someone devoting a lifetime to an unending stream of short-term sexual conquests. Are women something to be "conquered", rather than people with whom to seek connection and companionship?

He mentions that he actually had a relationship with someone that lasted 3-1/2 years - as if that were a major
Ben Love
Dec 29, 2012 rated it it was amazing
A couple of things collided to make me want to read this…
Over the past winter I watched a movie called Crazy, Stupid Love. In the movie, Ryan Gosling’s character sweet talks the ladies with very little effort and great success. Yeh yeh I know – it’s a movie. One of the many reviews on this (actually pretty good) movie mentioned the Mystery Method for pick up artists.
My “pick up chicks” days are far, far behind me. If, indeed, they ever happened – girls don’t have keyboards attached or disk drive
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“Subtle cues in your behavior will set the frame that you are a selective, high-value guy. She will pick up on this and gain interest. She expects that a guy with potential will be selective. Here are some standards worth considering:
An attractive woman who takes care of herself
A woman who is sociable and has friends
A woman who has a real thirst for life
A woman who has a great energy and a positive outlook
A woman who is not a flake”
“People are likely to act based on their emotions and then backward-rationalize. Because women have highly developed emotional circuits, they are especially susceptible to this.” 2 likes
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