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Parenting From the Inside Out

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How many parents have found themselves thinking: I can't believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me! Am I just destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents? In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actu ...more
Paperback, 272 pages
Published April 26th 2004 by TarcherPerigee (first published January 1st 2003)
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Jun 29, 2009 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Parents who have difficulty applying parenting tips; therapists working with parents
Shelves: professionallit
I didn't enjoy this book the entire time I was reading it, but when I found myself summarizing the parts I found relevant and photocopying the exercises, I knew I needed to give it at least four stars.

Many of my clients come in with difficulties around childraising, and it's always a struggle for me between giving them childraising "tips" versus helping them uncover the deeper issues that are making it difficult for them to parent effectively. Parents who come in often request these tips and fee
Mar 01, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Another excellent book. Read it starting with chapter 7, then going to the beginning. Read it when you find yourself dealing with your child in a very unideal way, knowing it at the time, and still not being able to do otherwise. This book will explain to you why. And explain what is going on in your brain (fight or flight) that makes you unable to be the warm creative loving or patient at that moment...and what to do about it.
Wisdom: when your brain gets stressed in certain ways it gets "vaporl
Marcia Call
Dec 26, 2012 rated it really liked it
My friend, Wendi, recommended this book and I'm glad that I read it. I had thought that parenting was all about unrecoverable mistakes that would be permanent dings against you and your child, however, Siegel talks a lot about recovery - immediate actions that can be taken to mitigate words said in anger, etc. as well as strategies for recovering years later. This is a very encouraging read for parents like me who don't have it always together in the moment.
Linda Vituma
Dec 08, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Starp nostādnēm -
(1) Mēs varam otram iedot tikai to, kas ir mums pašiem
(2) Mēs mēdzam citiem dot to, ko visvairāk vajag mums pašiem
- es pirms krietna laika izdarīju izvēli, ka manā pasaulē patiess būs otrais. Es varu būt tāda mamma, kādu es būtu gribējusi sev. Man ne vienmēr tas izdodas, bet es nezaudēju drosmi.

Šī gramata ir izglītojoša un praktiska. Tā iedrošina un iedvesmo iepazīt un izprast sevi, lai mainītu attiecības ar sevi, citiem pieaugušiem cilvēkiem un saviem bērniem. Lai mainīt
Feb 13, 2013 rated it liked it
How your parents treated you, and how you internalized that, affects how you treat your kids. Hmm, not really a surprising statement there, is it? A lot of psychological mumbo-jumbo thrown about, complete with cross-sections of the brain. At one point in my life (fresh out of college) I would probably have found it fascinating and read each word, but now I just felt thickheaded so I skimmed and tried to pick out the key concepts. I feel like I didn't really need all that theory, I just needed to ...more
Sep 04, 2012 rated it liked it
I consider myself very lucky to have been raised in a way that made me feel heard, supported, and valued -- an upbringing that I believe led me to be conscious and conscientious of other people's desires and emotions as an adult. I'm about to become a parent myself, and as a former psych major, I was interested to learn more about the practical side of attachment theory, and how parents who had more difficult childhoods could develop the skills to have secure relationships with their own kids.

Jul 27, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenthood
A lovely book. As I began reading I felt like there wasn't going to be anything new for me in this book after already reading so many attachment oriented books. However, I learned a lot and uncovered a lot of forgotten childhood history that was playing a role in my frustration and difficult motherhood moments. I feel inspired to keep improving myself and my relationships and growing from the reflections I made because of this book.
Erin Henry
Sep 16, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Great book for learning how to connect with your child. Scientifically rigorous with great descriptions of the brain and its functions. At times a little dense but well worth it. Great for anyone who was left wanting by Shepherding a Child's Heart.
Nimitha TR
Oct 14, 2017 rated it it was amazing
This was an amazingly helpful read, with an emphasis on neuroscientific research on how various parts of brain coordinates and how the connections depend on our communication with outside world. It is perhaps one of the most helpful of all parenting books I have ever read. It extensively explains neuroscience behind our behaviour patterns and provides practical suggestions about what to do when ruptures occur and our lower brain takes over. I loved to connect my experiences with scientific resea ...more
Maurizio Codogno
Una delle maggiori fregature del diventare genitore è che prima della nascita del pupo si giura a sé stessi che non ci si comporterà certo come i nostri genitori hanno fatto con noi... salvo poi accorgersi che ricadiamo esattamente negli stessi errori. La cosa non è poi così strana, se uno ci pensa su un attimo: in fin dei conti conosciamo fin troppo bene quel modo di comportarci. In questo libro gli autori mostrano come è possibile accorgerci dei nostri comportamenti e applicare delle strategie ...more
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Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., is an internationally acclaimed author, award-winning educator, and child psychiatrist. Dr. Siegel received his medical degree from Harvard University and completed his postgraduate medical education at UCLA with training in pediatrics and child, adolescent and adult psychiatry. He is currently a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, where he also ...more
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“When parents don’t take responsibility for their own unfinished business, they miss an opportunity not only to become better parents but also to continue their own development. People who remain in the dark about the origins of their behaviors and intense emotional responses are unaware of their unresolved issues and the parental ambivalence they create.” 2 likes
“Taking time to reflect opens the door to conscious awareness, which brings with it the possibility of change.” 0 likes
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