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Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleash a Revolution in Your Life In Christ

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Peter Scazzero learned the hard way: you can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature. Even though he was pastor of a growing church, he did what most people do:
Avoid conflict in the name of Christianity
Ignore his anger, sadness, and fear
Use God to run from God
Live without boundaries

Eventually God awakened him to a biblical integrat
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published June 29th 2006 by Thomas Nelson (first published 2006)
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Cindy Rollins
Jun 14, 2017 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2017
My sister sent me this book. She knows my TBR list is long so she is often patient with me on these things, and I do so hate to feel pressure to read a book NOW. But I picked this up one morning and spent the next few weeks reading little bits at a time. I found it refreshingly helpful. Nothing really profound here, but encouragement for areas I was already beginning to pursue such as adding The Book of Common Prayer readings to my life. I think the next thing I want to do is add more intentiona ...more
Julie - Book Hooked Blog
So this is a book that I read for therapy, because, just in case you are unaware, I have issues. When my therapist recommended it I was highly skeptical, but also kind of desperate because it was during a particularly difficult bout of depression. So I picked it up and then avoided reading it for several months because anything with the word "spirituality" in the title just makes me leery.

I am not a "spiritual" person. "Spirituality" to me sounds vague and unspecific and trendy and New Age. I l
Alex Stroshine
Aug 19, 2014 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christian-living
I heard Peter Scazzero earlier this year speak at a conference (he co-presented with his wife and I was deeply impressed with how the two worked together and rely on each other as a marital team). His seminar was excellent and so I was looking forward to reading his most famous book. It did not disappoint.

Scazzero wants Christians to be "emotionally healthy." He acknowledges that feelings can be fickle and heedlessly following our emotions is dangerous, but he also wants believers to be true to
Oct 15, 2012 rated it really liked it
The book is fully based on rumors. There are no opinions of the author. Only rumors and rumors again. I’m tired of religion and I pay attention to books without religion more. But Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleashing the Power of Authentic Life in Christ very disappointed me. After this book I’ve expected to understand spirituality deeper than now. Of course the best book is about this topic I’ve read is “a crossing or the drop's history" by Anatoliy Obraztsov “. I hope next books of Pet ...more
Christina Stidham
Sep 19, 2016 rated it did not like it
My general impression of the book was not positive. The author ends with some decent suggestions (such as false peacemaking and viewing others as people and not as objects), but overall his basic premise, that we must know ourselves to know God, is false. Yes, there are some good suggestions for working together with others and in looking at our lives, but it is almost all based on writings of mystics or monks, and not so much on the Bible. Our focus should be on God, and we should find ourselve ...more
Emily Sims
Jul 05, 2018 rated it it was amazing
This is a book that I will re-read and recommend many times. There is such valuable and life-changing information for our intellect-heavy culture.
Sarah Hyatt
May 01, 2014 rated it did not like it
Shelves: giving-up
Well, I got about 20 pages into this one, which I almost didn't.

Despite a promising title, the cover of the book had a few red flags: "Unleash a revolution in your life in Christ!" I don't really know what that means, despite it being the sort of phrase of buzzwords that has surrounded me for years, and the words "unleash" and "revolution" paired with "life in Christ" made my skin crawl. The tagline on the front, "it's impossible to be spiritually mature, while remaining emotionally mature" had
Apr 03, 2013 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are many things to like about this book. The author makes a number of helpful observations for sure. The main thesis that it's impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature seems intuitively obvious. I guess one problem lies in the fact that not many of us understand ourselves as being emotionally immature. I like that the author links spiritual maturity with capacity and action to love. I'm just a little uncomfortable with the proposition that contemplative spir ...more
Jan 12, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Oh my word.

I can't explain how much this book has meant to me. So much about my heart, my soul, and my brain have grown in healing since I began it eight or nine months ago. It was like meeting with a therapist who helped me dig deep into my soul and realize that seemingly small wounds from the past affect the way I live my life now in huge ways. It helped me begin figuring out how to heal.

Reading this book over a long period of time made it so that every chapter pertained to where I was in my
May 16, 2013 rated it it was amazing
I rank this as one of my 'must-reads' for anyone in full-time ministry. Too often the church emphasizes spiritual prowess and maturity in giftings; too often emotional maturity, specifically the ability to healthily express emotions, to be vulnerably ourselves, to communicate well and handle conflict, is overlooked or devalued.

My spiritual formation background comes from a do-oriented, not a be-oriented culture; consequently, I often find my spiritual maturity stands on wobbly legs because of un
Hunter Beless
Mar 30, 2016 rated it did not like it
I picked up this book per the recommendation of Jess Connolly after hearing her rave about it on "The Happy Hour" podcast with Jamie Ivey. She said that second to the Bible, this is her favorite book of all time. How can anyone resist a recommendation like that? I listened to about 25% of the book before calling Audible an asking for a refund. At best, I found it boring. At worst, I disagreed with some of the ways in which the author utilized Scripture to make his points. This is being tucked aw ...more
Hope Helms
Mar 27, 2017 rated it liked it
Shelves: 2017-books-read
This book highlights the importance of treating our emotions as a discipleship issue. There were many terms I was annoyed with, and that while biblically accurate, the focus was more on "who I am" vs. "who I am in light of who God is". But not an altogether bad book.
Dec 03, 2017 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Out of the 27 non-fiction books I’ve read in 2017, this one was the most personally challenging and rewarding. Countering a lot of the common mistakes made by the Christian church, Peter Scazzero confronts a source of its major weakness: emotional maturity. I was convicted, humbled, and strangely elated by this book. I highly recommend it.
Kacy Robinson
Jul 31, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
While this book is not perfect and there are parts I could do without, it gets five stars from me ⭐ simply because it impacted me so deeply. I will be returning to it! ...more
Christina DeVane
Feb 20, 2018 rated it liked it
I had mixed feelings about this book. I agree with his premise that we should not stuff our emotions down inside to put on this front of spirituality, but rather our emotions are indicators of what’s going on deep in our heart. Yet when so much emphasis is placed on emotions we look at everything through how we feel about it rather than having God’s Word as our lense and focus in life. Being honest about our emotions is important and in my life my husband provides my main outlet for sharing emot ...more
Jun 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book is a needed read for all Christians. He argues that you can't be spiritually healthy without being emotionally healthy, and that makes a whole lot of sense. This book has caused me to think differently about how I handle my emotions and relationships and encouraged me to deepen my daily walk with Christ. So good I feel like I should read over it again.
Dave Courtney
Mar 03, 2012 rated it liked it
There is no question for me that there are some portions of this book that are phenomenal and, practically speaking, incredibly active in helping to pull back the curtain of emotional despair, shed a light on it's root and lead us to an active response. While it does give off a sense of being somewhat dated in parts, the material overall remains rooted in a faithful (and challenging) examination of scripture balanced with reality tested activity that is brought together under the guidance of the ...more
Matt Hartzell
Jan 19, 2016 rated it it was amazing
Emotionally Health Spirituality is a book I would stick up there with Boundaries as a book that just about everyone should read and chew on...and there is a lot to ingest!

Over the years, I've learned that I often don't understand the inclinations, emotions and leanings of my own heart. Often times I will feel any given emotion, and not even be able to identify why I feel the way I feel! I think that is genuinely difficult to know yourself, to see yourself as you truly are, and to know how to re
Rick Mcgarry
Jul 15, 2017 rated it really liked it
When someone comes into the church half-heartedly pursuing a better life for themselves, wanders around for a few weeks kicking the tires, decides it’s not for them and drifts away, that’s difficult and frustrating. When someone settles into a pattern of church attendance but refuses to participate in certain key areas, we expect to see a certain amount of spiritual stagnation as a result. But the ones who really break your heart and make thoughtful church leaders feel like losers are the ones w ...more
Greg Baughman
This is an odd book. I really enjoyed it, and I think it was of great benefit for me, but the theology behind it is problematic at best. There is a sort of pseudo-Gnostic tendency in the book as those who have gone through the "wall" (a vaguely defined spiritual crisis) are able to be healthy spiritually, while those who have not are not. There is the affirmation of Wesleyan perfectionism (which, I suppose, is fine if you are, well, a Wesleyan). Most troubling of all, though, is the lack of atte ...more
Brandon H.
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality is a book that seeks to address the all too common disconnect many Christians seem to have between their spiritual lives and emotional lives.

How often have you gone to church feeling like you had to put on a happy face in order to be a "good Christian" or lie about your feelings? How often have you ignored your anger, grief, hurt, loneliness, etc. thinking by doing so you'll be more spiritual if you close the door on those unwanted emotions? How often have you b
Apr 09, 2013 rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian-books
I found this book very helpful. Prepare to take a lot of notes, because there's a lot to it. Some of the topics/chapters don't really seem to be connected, but in the end, Scazzero wraps it all together pretty nicely. I do think that this book has the potential to be more helpful for some people than others, mostly those who didn't grow up in a Christian home/grew up in a dysfunctional home and are in the process of re-learning things in accordance with faith. The testimonial stories, Scripture ...more
Oct 21, 2007 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: everyone
To be spiritually mature, we must also be emotionally mature.


We cannot be emotionally immature and be spiritually mature.

This is the premise of this book. That we can not divide ourselves well enough to think that we can strive for spiritual maturity if we don't have the ability to develop, sustain relationships in a healthy way.

It's a good book that manages to mostly break free from the typical 'Christian pop psychology self help' genre. The greatest thing I took away from it was his direct
Jan 07, 2009 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
good book with some interesting points. I think that very often in Christian communities we amputate emotion from our lives because it is not 'Christian'. Peter Scazzero addressed that point which I really appreciated. He also didn't make it seem like he had it all together and had plenty of anecdotes (stories from his life mostly) about how we all mess up. I like when things are told through stories, but if you're a 'list' sort of person he had those too.
Really it was great to have someone stan
Mar 09, 2011 rated it really liked it
Cheesy title, but a thorough and instructive book. He talks about how we as Christians want to mature spiritually, but our past and family of origin deeply affect how we interact with others and manage our lives. He talks about how as Christians we feel like any negative emotion is a sin, so we don't know how to handle them and end up burying them. "Our fear of bringing secrets and sin into the light, however, drives many people to prefer the illusion that if they don't think about it, it someho ...more
I got this book as a result of a study offered through our church. I loved the study & I got a great deal of value from it. The book itself, however, wasn't as valuable to me on its own. I think part of the reason I didn't connect with it is that I didn't like Scazzero's writing style. The other thing that kept me from being as engaged as I would have liked is that I found much of what he discussed - The Wall , the influence of one's family of origin, etc, was material I had covered elsewher ...more
Bob Mendelsohn
May 28, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This is not a quick read. Of course, I could have skimmed this book and found some interesting tidbits, but that's not the way to read a transformational book like this. His citations from the Church Fathers, and his own perspective in changing from a typical large church pastor in a major metropolitan area to a personal, personable man make this a must-read.

I grew up with "real men don't cry" and "real men don't eat quiche" as tags for the macho hero type person I imagined I was to be. I dumpe
Dec 29, 2016 rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian-life
I enjoyed this book in inverse proportion to my enjoyment of the title. The subtitle really nails the essence of the work: "it's impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature." My experience growing up in the church was that emotions were minimized, resulting in a great deal of emotionally unavailable or unsafe (a friend calls them toddlers with machetes) people. This book talks about how vital emotions are to the human experience and how rightly understanding and wiel ...more
Stephenie Van Wagenen
May 23, 2018 rated it it was amazing
Hunter and I embarked upon reading and discussing this book for Lent 2018. It took us a little longer than 40 days to get through! A great resource and really helpful for us as we examine our individual emotional health and strive to grow together emotionally and spiritually. I’d recommend every Christian read this one!
Oct 13, 2012 rated it really liked it
This is an eminently practical book for people who need to learn how to find a sustainable pace in ministry and/or are looking for Christian discipleship to change their hearts, minds, and emotional life.
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“When we deny our pain, losses, and feelings year after year, we become less and less human. We transform slowly into empty shells with smiley faces painted on them. Sad to say, that is the fruit of much of our discipleship in our churches. But when I began to allow myself to feel a wider range of emotions, including sadness, depression, fear, and anger, a revolution in my spirituality was unleashed. I soon realized that a failure to appreciate the biblical place of feelings within our larger Christian lives has done extensive damage, keeping free people in Christ in slavery.” 6 likes
“Ignoring our emotions is turning our back on reality. Listening to our emotions ushers us into reality. And reality is where we meet God. . . . Emotions are the language of the soul. They are the cry that gives the heart a voice. . .” 5 likes
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