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Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls: A Handbook for Unapologetic Living

4.06  ·  Rating details ·  3,528 ratings  ·  514 reviews

Among the many Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls that you don't want to miss:
1. It's Possible to Love Your Body (Today. Now.)
2. You Can Train Your Brain to Play Nice
3. Your Weight Is Not a Reflection Of Your Worth
4. Changing Your Tumblr Feed Will Change Your Life
5. Salad Will Not Get You to Heaven
6. Cheesecake Will N
Paperback, 240 pages
Published October 27th 2015 by Seal Press (first published September 9th 2015)
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Jess I actually did both at the same time -- listened to the audio book on my drives and read the book when I was home. I really enjoyed hearing the story …moreI actually did both at the same time -- listened to the audio book on my drives and read the book when I was home. I really enjoyed hearing the story in her voice, but there were so many good points, I found myself going back to the book to highlight them for further thought and reminders. If you want to reference anything later, you'll be much happier with the book.(less)

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Emma Sea
The book is fine, and great if you're new to the body positivity movement. I'm just sad that it's 25 years since Unbearable Weight: Feminism, Western Culture, and the Body and we're still having to say the same things over and over again. ...more
XxTainaxX Curvy and Nerdy
May 13, 2016 rated it really liked it
Empowering and honest look at size culture and body love. I enjoyed and felt motivated by Jess' perspective and appreciate the research and analysis she brought to the table. She made some excellent points and covered a vast number of topics from what we expected to beyond... including mental health, education of children, and gender identification. Thoroughly enjoyable and she did great with the narration ;)
Jenny (Reading Envy)
Aug 14, 2015 rated it really liked it
I received an early review copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. I say early because after I downloaded it I saw the author posting about making another round of edits to it!

I have followed Jes Baker ever since she was "just" a blogger over on the Militant Baker. Back then I think she blogged about baking sometimes, but I soon discovered that she was discovering a different sort of voice. I continue to follow her these days more on her Instagram account, where sh
Abby Johnson
Jan 09, 2016 rated it really liked it
I wish I had this book 10 years ago and I want to hand it to anyone who is having or has had issues with body image, particularly fat girls.

The essays in this book that particularly struck home for me were the essay about fat girls finding love (yes! It happens! All the time!) and about plus-size fashion. 10 years ago, I truly believed that I wasn't worthy of romantic love because of the size of my body. And my path to body acceptance began a number of years ago when I first discovered that som
Sep 20, 2015 rated it liked it
I think I'm just not the fat girl Jes is writing for. Although shelved in the adult non-fiction at my library, I think this more appropriately belongs in our teen section. Most of the advice is advice that I probably could have used in high-school, maybe college. But as an adult, it was all old news. Some of it was more interesting like health becoming our latest beauty trend.

For me, the majority of the book read like a conspiracy theory. As an adult, I have rarely experienced discrimination be
Dec 19, 2016 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: english, non-fiction
Why did I read this book? Because I wanted to challenge my opinions, to see things from a different perspective, who knows, maybe I'll change my mind about obesity. Fortunately, this did not happen. The writer is so full of herself, thinking like she's some kind of a super hero coming to save us from "fatphobia" and "healthism". Then she goes on to compare obesity to race, disability and sexual/gender identity, which is offensive to anyone who falls under these categories. You can't control thos ...more
Dec 02, 2015 rated it liked it
Ooof, I hate Jes Baker's writing. I really hate her tone. I've tried, because I really appreciate her message, but yeah, it's a no-go for me.

That said, the message is great. Her take on the cult of health is right on, and her take on "flattering" and what we wear is pretty much brilliant.

But oh god, the writing. Oh man. So bad. I would say, pick and choose what you read in this book, and ignore the ick factor of the writing. (And read Virgie Tovar's essay. SO GOOD.)
Shelley Pearson
Apr 21, 2016 rated it it was amazing
At first, I thought this book was just ok, and I felt like it was a good intro to body positivity, but I'm so far beyond that. But as I kept going, I started to love it. I had it on audiobook, read by the author, and it was wonderful to have Jes in my ear telling me "You're perfect just the way you are" and listing all the things I deserve in life. I started getting really into it during the chapter about doctors and how you have the right to change doctors if you don't like the way they treat y ...more
Apr 30, 2016 rated it it was amazing
This should be required reading for EVERYONE. Men. Women. Fat. Thin. Whatever. EVERYONE. Reading this book cracked my brain open and let a whole bunch of enlightenment pour in. I am going to buy it immediately and keep it somewhere that I can easily access it whenever I need a shot of real talk. Honestly, I don't think any other book has created such a radical shift in my thinking. I actually felt it happen. I hope you do too.
** I received a copy of this through Netgalley in exchange for an honest review**

This is one of the most fantastic books I have ever read, and it is so incredibly important that every single human being picks this up and LEARNS. Because yes, you will learn somethings. You will learn about diet culture, fitness culture, and how they are ruining the universe! And if you're anything like me, you'll learn a little something about yourself along the way.

This witty book is filled with so much love. Yo
Ginny Beck
Jun 22, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015, feminism
What an accessible, fun, easy-to-read overview of body positivity, media, and self-love. A definite to-read for anyone who is interested in these topics, even if you're already familiar with them, I think it's great to have a whole book where it's all in one place. I appreciate the nods to intersectionality throughout, including lots of guest essays throughout the books on topics like colorism and transmasculinity. I also like that she talked lot about the process of re-learning and re-training ...more
Feb 04, 2016 rated it did not like it
My criticism of this book is limited here to its poor workmanship.

- Citations are few and far between. Most glaringly, Chapter 4 is entitled "Fat and Health," wherein Baker argues that obesity is not connected to one's overall health. This is a pretty controversial statement given most medical research and one I have a very hard time swallowing. Yet Baker does not give any citations for this statement - only asks the reader to take her word for it and Google the title of an article to see what s
Coleen (The Book Ramblings)
Nov 18, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls is a must read, regardless of gender, size, or age, because it will touch anyone who reads it, and it is a book that needs to be read. This is a witty novel that is so important to people today, for body love, and accepting who we are as individuals in this world. There are pages of ideas, and tips that everyone will find helpful, but also affirmations, and ways to boost confidence. The title should not fool anyone, because Baker is speaking for and to every per ...more
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Not only is the writing itself all over the place and full of self-aggrandisation, the author literally claims that obesity has nothing to do with health. She also compares obesity to race, disability, and gender.

Yeah, no. This book is just more Fat Acceptance/Health At Every Size nonsense. No matter how many times FA/HAES proponents try to tell you otherwise, obesity absolutely negatively affects your health.
Leigh Anne
Nov 20, 2015 rated it really liked it
The fat-positive, foul-mouthed, intersectional body-love manifesto you've been looking for.

Baker (as in "The Militant) delivers a solid body of research and practices for making peace with your body just the way it is, particularly if it doesn't fit into the narrow range of acceptable you see all over the media. What sets this book apart from others of its kind is its range and inclusivity. Chapters on health at every size, advertising, mental health coping strategies, fashion, and other pertine
Oct 21, 2015 rated it really liked it
Jes has written an excellent 101 guide to fat acceptance. It is chock full of information and perspective that is absolutely revolutionary to anyone who has never entertained the idea that fat bodies are acceptable, including some excellent essays from a diverse group of writers/activists.

Personally I'm at a different place in my fat liberation and am looking for a different conversation, but that doesn't detract from this book being a very useful introduction into a world that many don't know e
Nov 06, 2015 rated it did not like it
I'd give this zero stars if I could. A bunch of HAES crap.
Lea (drumsofautumn)
Jul 22, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: non-fiction
That feel when you don't read the subtitle of the book so you don't really realize that it is a lot of self-help 🙈 but I did think it was an incredibly powerful and helpful read. Definitely a must read for all the fat folks out there, especially if you're new to body positivity, but also something I'd hugely recommend to anyone else!
chantel nouseforaname
Heavy. All the pun intended.

It's funny because it took me sooooo long to read this book. I picked it up and put it down and picked it up and put it down. I think it was because - emotionally, I wasn't ready for what I was reading.

There's so much skepticism that lives in my heart for white women telling other women, at diverse intersections, how to live. It's hard for me to get behind. I shouldn't think like that, but I do.

When it comes to white women giving advice about how to navigate the sim
Mar 11, 2016 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: anyone with a body
Recommended to Mel by: Lily
This book exceeded my expectations. I'm not going to lie, initially the title of the book put me off, well, the "Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls" part - maybe the 'fat girls'? Is it only for young females? Was it going to be exclusionary?? Thankfully I read it anyhow!

I think this is a fabulous read for anyone that is interested in accepting their body, other peoples bodies, or just curious what the whole "body love, fat acceptance" thing is about. Though really I would recommend this to anyone
Aug 28, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: review, read-2015
4.5 stars - My review cross-posted from Wit and Sin:

Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls is an interesting, important book on the body love movement that speaks to everyone, not just the titular “fat girls.” Author Jes Baker fearlessly tackles the body positive movement, taking on not just sizeism, but racism, classism, ableism, and more. Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls encourages women and men of all sizes to challenge what has become completely i
Vera Rodrigues
Oct 22, 2016 rated it it was ok
This was actually quite good.

At this point in my life I needed this. I needed a reminder that my body is good enough no matter how it looks. I'm struggling with body confidence and this was a good step to take in order to gain some.

It's not the most amazing book ever though. Actually it reads kind of cheese. The author is a blog writer, and you can tell she writes like in her blog (not saying is a negative thing), just trying to explain that it's not a written master piece or anything.
Also, m
Jan 17, 2017 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: owned
I struggle deeply with self-image and even after tons of weight loss, corrective surgeries, etc. I still felt inferior and was looking for a boost and some help. Damnit, this helped a lot.

There were times when I got teary eyed because Jes just hit so close to home. I realized that I wasn't alone in my feelings and my self doubt and self loathing. But she also taught ways in which one can help boost their physical/emotional/mental well being. I've already started taking to heart some of her steps
Don't let the title fool you. This book is packed full of ideas, tip, affirmations and confidence boosters for everyone. Not just fat people, not just girls. Loving your body is something that everyone needs to learn, a struggle we have all faced at least once in our lives. Jes really lays it out for us, making the book feel like a conversation between best friends.Is it absolutely perfect and the one-and-only book you will ever need to read on the topic? Not at all. But it is a wonderful place ...more
Janis Hill
Oct 13, 2015 rated it really liked it
I would like to thank Perseus Books Group, Seal Press for an ARC of this book in exchange for an open and honest review.

Wow. What a book! To let you know what interested me in reading it: I’m tall (6’2), fat (hovering in the 17 stone range) and - a scary trifecta to some – smart (not Mensa). And, on top of that all I am at peace with my inner self… while not a big fan (actually totally the most horrific enemy) of my outer, physical self. And I am sarcastic, brash and blunt and LOVE reading stuff
I stumbled upon the "body positive" movement on instagram fairly early on, I think. 2010? 2011? Maybe a little earlier. To put things into perspective, I followed Tess Holliday back when she was still Tess Munster and working odd jobs to support herself. I shopped at Torrid back when every fucking article of clothing they sold had a skull and crossbones on it. My fellow fatties will know what I'm talking about.

So a lot of stuff in this book was stuff I have heard before. But that doesn't mean i
Jun 27, 2017 rated it really liked it
This book was really enlightening in a lot of ways. I had heard bits of the body love movement, but wasn't fully versed in it. I am *so* glad I picked it up, because it was great.

(Note, a lot of swearing and narration leans a little too hard on a 'I'm so awesome' vibe - but that goes with the theme of the book, I suppose!) And the chapter on health and weight was misleading.

But I'd recommend this to men and women of all body types. I got a lot of paradigm-shifting on the morality of thinness, w
So this will just be a short review how I felt about the book (or at least that depends on how the words will flow out of me while I am typing).

I spotted this book not that long ago at the ABC book store and couldn't resist bringing it with me (especially not for that price). I am not a big girl myself, however I was still interested in reading this book. And in the end I have to say I really connected with this book, it resonated with me. The book is not only about fat girls and their lives, b
Anna (Unquenchable Reads)
Jul 20, 2017 rated it it was amazing
I finished this audiobook in one day and cried when I finished
Dec 20, 2018 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: own, favorites, kindle
This is the best book of its kind that I have read. Jes is open and honest and gives good, realistic advice on how to love your self more.
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Jes Baker is a positive, progressive, and magnificently irreverent force to be reckoned with in the realm of self-love advocacy and mental health. She believes in the importance of body autonomy, hard conversations, strong coffee, and even stronger language.

After creating satirical versions of Abercrombie & Fitch advertisements in 2013, she appeared on the Today Show and quickly became one of the

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