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Looking for Mr. Straight
As little girls we fantasize about growing up and finding our “Mr. Right." Someone who is good-looking, smart, funny, educated, loyal, family-oriented…the list goes on and on. And yet, who would have thought that one of the most important criteria wasn’t even considered? Mr. Right needs to be straight!
Looking for Mr. Straight: A Guide to Identifying the Closeted Gay Men You May Be Dating is aimed at helping women like you become more aware of an important, yet controversial dating issue: the closeted gay male who doesn’t know or want to know that he’s gay.
This book shares real women’s stories, including my own, about the ongoing struggle to find a heterosexual man. First-hand tips and insights will help you recognize the key factors associated with gay men in the closet such as classic comments, unmanly mannerisms, and unusual bedroom behaviors. In time, you will be able to apply these insights to the real world and learn to just go with your gut!
My hope is that you come to understand the reason for so many unexplained behaviors, dating encounters, and failed relationships. As someone who has been through it, I’m here to reassure you that there IS something behind the feeling you have when “something doesn’t seem quite straight.”
Looking for Mr. Straight: A Guide to Identifying the Closeted Gay Men You May Be Dating is aimed at helping women like you become more aware of an important, yet controversial dating issue: the closeted gay male who doesn’t know or want to know that he’s gay.
This book shares real women’s stories, including my own, about the ongoing struggle to find a heterosexual man. First-hand tips and insights will help you recognize the key factors associated with gay men in the closet such as classic comments, unmanly mannerisms, and unusual bedroom behaviors. In time, you will be able to apply these insights to the real world and learn to just go with your gut!
My hope is that you come to understand the reason for so many unexplained behaviors, dating encounters, and failed relationships. As someone who has been through it, I’m here to reassure you that there IS something behind the feeling you have when “something doesn’t seem quite straight.”
156 pages, Paperback
First published October 24, 2014
About the author
Tarra Helfgott
1 book1 followerTarra Helfgott is a well-accomplished copywriter in the field of advertising and a magna cum laude graduate of Cornell University. Tarra has spent over 10 years gaining dating experience through singles events, dating websites, and set-ups—and inadvertently dated many closeted gay men in the process. In addition, testimonials from other single women as well as the knowledge and insight from her gay best friend have contributed to her expertise on identifying gay men in the closet. She currently lives in Manhattan.
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May 29, 2016
A necessary insightful and important exploration of closeted gay male culture: "Looking For Mr. Straight: A Guide to Identifying the Closeted Gay Man You May Be Dating" Tarra Helfgott has become in tune to her "gaydar" largely through observation and personal experience, and the input of several of her gay friends. There are also brief personal stories where gay men have recalled dating women.
With the rise and popularity of online dating, it is much easier than ever for a closeted man to hide and cover his true intentions. There are many things any woman can learn by both casual and careful observation that are hints and clues to a man's sexual orientation. Helfgott explained how impressed a single friend of hers was so impressed by a 6 hour phone conversation with a perspective suitor, where the instant intimate connection was both gratifying and intriguing, in fact it was similar to the closeness she had with her girlfriends. Helfgott explains what happens in these "instant connections", and why they may not always be in a woman's best interest, what usually happens and why. The "bromance" and "metro-men" are discussed in detail, as well as the average direct uncomplicated straight man.
With the acceptance of LGBT individuals socially and culturally, the legalization of gay marriage, there is still much stigma associated with homosexuality. Many closeted men not only date women, but go on to marry them and have families. It is simply easier to appear straight to gain social and cultural acceptance. Eventually the true nature of a mans orientation may surface, and we hear stories of gay men finally coming to terms with this and leaving their wives. There are also men who will take the true nature of their orientation to their grave. There are stories of these marriages as well. Helfgott explains that marriage to a woman will not change a mans sexual orientation. This is a very notable and a must-read book that will benefit any woman who wonders, these men can be avoided.
Terra Helfgott is an experienced copywriter, educated at Cornell University, she lives in Manhattan. This is her first book.
With the rise and popularity of online dating, it is much easier than ever for a closeted man to hide and cover his true intentions. There are many things any woman can learn by both casual and careful observation that are hints and clues to a man's sexual orientation. Helfgott explained how impressed a single friend of hers was so impressed by a 6 hour phone conversation with a perspective suitor, where the instant intimate connection was both gratifying and intriguing, in fact it was similar to the closeness she had with her girlfriends. Helfgott explains what happens in these "instant connections", and why they may not always be in a woman's best interest, what usually happens and why. The "bromance" and "metro-men" are discussed in detail, as well as the average direct uncomplicated straight man.
With the acceptance of LGBT individuals socially and culturally, the legalization of gay marriage, there is still much stigma associated with homosexuality. Many closeted men not only date women, but go on to marry them and have families. It is simply easier to appear straight to gain social and cultural acceptance. Eventually the true nature of a mans orientation may surface, and we hear stories of gay men finally coming to terms with this and leaving their wives. There are also men who will take the true nature of their orientation to their grave. There are stories of these marriages as well. Helfgott explains that marriage to a woman will not change a mans sexual orientation. This is a very notable and a must-read book that will benefit any woman who wonders, these men can be avoided.
Terra Helfgott is an experienced copywriter, educated at Cornell University, she lives in Manhattan. This is her first book.
October 6, 2019
Excellent book!!!
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