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Tell Me Again How a Crush Should Feel

3.86  ·  Rating details ·  7,870 ratings  ·  894 reviews
A 2015 ALA Top Ten Rainbow List Title
A 2015 YALSA Quick Pick for Reluctant Readers 

“Both personal and universal, this is a compelling story about high school, family and owning up to who you really are. Farizan is just the voice YA needs right now. Trust me, you'll be glad you listened.” --Sarah Dessen


Leila has made it most of the way through Armstead Academy without ha
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Paperback, 320 pages
Published October 6th 2015 by Algonquin Young Readers (first published October 7th 2014)
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Sue (Hollywood News Source)
“I also began to notice how white everything was. The students, the students’ teeth, and the fences surrounding the outdoor swimming pools we never used. We all seemed to categorize ourselves without ever explicitly saying anything. Where does that leave students who don’t have a clear category?”

Tell Me Again How a Crush Should Feel is the kind of book that I need in my life.

Don’t be discouraged by the popular subpar reviews because damn. This book is simple, straight to the point, realistic and
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Emily May
Apr 07, 2014 marked it as dnf  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: arc, young-adult
DNF for now.

Everything about this book sounds awesome and I want it to be known that I did not read further than the second chapter - hence the lack of rating and proper review. But... you know when you start to read a book and everything just feels a bit off? Nothing major, but small things that make you raise an eyebrow or pull up Google to check up on info you're already pretty sure you know. That's what happened in the first 23 pages of Tell Me Again How a Crush Should Feel.

This paragraph...
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prag ♻
update post-read: this is turning out to be a Good Plan already THIS WAS ADORABLE AND FUNNY AND THERE WAS A PLOT TWIST I DIDN'T SEE COMING BUT I LOVED IT

update pre-read: i need to make intelligent life choices so new plan i'm only going to read f/f romances for the rest of my life now
lov2laf
The strength of this book is that it's from a unique perspective, that of a lesbian Persian-American girl with immigrant parents, coming to terms with who she is and how she still fits within her family.

I agree with some other reviewers that the book isn't without issues and I see the critiques as valid. That said, I still liked the lead character, Leila. She's struggling and she has a sarcastic and dry sense of humor that's endearing. It's easy to sympathize with her situation and I liked how h
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Wendy Darling
DNF This feels like a very slight middle grade book, and is extremely simplistic in terms of plotting, style, emotion, and characterization. Was it also supposed to be funny? It's kind of sad I couldn't really tell. It's too bad, I'd love to see more f/f relationships in YA.

An advance copy was provided by the publisher for this review.
jasmine
This book was beautiful: refreshing writing, lovable characters, a realistic spectrum of emotions, and everything I've ever wanted out of a F/F YA book. The romance is sweet and genuine, and it's a relief to read a book about two girls in love that doesn't revolve around sex.

The cast was incredible - diverse, easy to relate to, and the kind of people you end up rooting for. The way this book handled sexuality was amazing, too. I'll be writing a full review someday, but for now... Just read this
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Feb 19, 2017 rated it it was ok
“I want to stop living in fear. I want to stop coming up with excuses about why I'm not interested in dating. I want my family to know me. I want to get to learn more about Lisa. I want to stop feeling like everything I am is inadequate or makes me unworthy of love because of something I can't help.”

2☆

This is going to have a lot of spoilers, but here we go:

I'm conflicted about this book. Part of me really, really liked it, I thought that Leila and her love interest were so cute I couldn't ha
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Paula M. of Her Book Thoughts!
MY REVIEW IS ALSO POSTED HERE.

"I want to stop living in fear. I want to stop coming up with excuses about why I'm not interested in dating. I want my family to know me... I want to stop feeling like everything I am is inadequate or makes me unworthy of love because of something  I can't help."


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There goes my feels..

Ever feel like you're too old for the book you're reading even though you're just 2 years older than the protagonist? Or that's just me being weird...

It wasn't THAT great. But it was
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Eli
Jun 25, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I AM SO HAPPY BECAUSE OF THIS BOOK.

Sara Farizan really knows how to write a relatable lesbian teenager. I mean, this definitely was not profound in any sense of the word, but it was still great nonetheless. Leila is so funny and so real that it was hard for me to not feel like I could have been best friends with her. Her struggles were also very relatable. Conservative parents, being preyed upon by selfish girls who want to use you, falling in love with your best friend. All of it was very reali
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Liralen
1) I am so happy to see more queer YA lit,
1a) Particularly with female protags,
1b) Particularly with diversity, and
1c) Particularly when the character has already figured out that she's gay, and the entire plot isn't taken up by angsting over this possibility.

2) That said:

Oh.
This bitch is crazy.
(220)

Yes. Yes she is. It really shouldn't have taken Leila 220 pages to figure that out. And it disappoints me—not that Leila let hormones override common sense for so long, but that so much of the plot
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Ava
I don't know what to rate this yet.

It's f/f and some parts are cute...but it's also hurtful, biphobic, and offensive. It's marketed as an adorable f/f romance, and that's not what you get.

I loved we had a lesbian Persian main character, and that Leila's culture was a big part of her life. But other than that? I was disappointed.

Let's have a list.
•stop using the word 'exotic' to describe poc! It's not okay, and I noticed it multiple times.
•biphobic comments were made and not proven to be wro
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Chessa
I really enjoyed this one! Leila is a teenaged Iranian-American and she's gay - and hasn't told anyone. The book deals with her second major crush (which takes place at her private school as opposed to summer camp), navigating friendships and family, and trying to find her place at school - you know, just easy breezy stuff. ;)

Much of the book deals with the crush/friendship with a manipulative girl - it was actually great to see a toxic friendship so accurately portrayed.

I enjoyed getting a lit
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Kat (Lost in Neverland)

Very predictable and not very well written, but hey, positive biracial lesbian YA.
Elise (TheBookishActress)
4 stars. This isn't a particularly quality novel, maybe. But it's funny and it's sweet and that's what you need out of a contemporary, right?

My favorite part of this book is the humor. Leila's narrative voice is absolutely hilarious. Her descriptions of each side character are so funny. Her inner thoughts are hilariously relatable. Even when the book gets sad or dark, Leila's voice brings it back into the realm of enjoyable.

Despite the humor, Tell Me Again How A Crush Should Feel doesn't hesita
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B.A. Wilson
I got a copy of the ARC for this novel from Algonquin YR through a Goodreads Giveaway, and I read it almost straight through. It sucked me in fast with the perfect amounts of humor, angst, and heartfelt moments.

I totally adored this diverse story which is about growing up, being different, and choosing the type of person you want to become, even if others would choose differently for you. It sent me back about 18 years to those trippy feelings of desperate first crush, to unexpected humiliation
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Ceili
God, this was so cute and fun and good until Sara Farizan had to go and slap me in the face with her biphobia. And it comes in every flavor! You've got the lady who only dates men but had a "lesbian phase" in college, the girl who likes multiple genders but hates labels, aaaaand the evil manipulative 'slutty' villain girl who flirts with and uses people of multiple genders while being described as "crazy" and "psycho"- hello ableism! I am so fucking heartsore, honestly. I wasn't even here expect ...more
Sarah
Apr 22, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
It’s amazing the difference between an audiobook and a print book.

Tell Me Again How A Crush Should Feel is a lesbian coming of age/coming out story featuring Leila, who has fallen for the glamorous new transfer student Saskia. Of course she also has to contend with her Persian parents, perfect older sister, guy friend who doesn’t understand why she doesn’t return his feelings, failing science, and a host of other teenage problems.

I was listening along, noting that Leila’s former friend Lisa was
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Michelle Ellis
Jun 12, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was really enjoyable and I devoured it in two sittings. I loved the discussion it brought up about toxic relationships and friendships. The Persian American heritage and cultural exploration excerpts were great as well. The romance was completely swoon worthy. I absolutely loved them together.
The writing was engaging and funny. I laughed and awed out loud many times throughout this book. There were some writing mistakes but I feel that they were things the editor should have caught. I
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Melissa Veras
2.5 stars.
Malanie
“How do people do this? How do people work up the courage to be themselves even if it means facing rejection from people who love them? Why don’t people get medals for this?”

I'm kind of sad because this wasn't the soft sapphic love story I was hoping for!!! I'm pleased with the personal journey aspect, into accepting that you're attracted to girls, accepting your body (fat rep!) and accepting your heritage (POC rep!). But this story really lacked that deeply romantic aesthetic I was longing
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Angie
I think that anyone who has ever had a crush, no matter what you're sexual orientation, and has felt like they don't fit in for whatever reason will be able to relate to Leila. Tell Me Again How a Crush Should Feel is all about Leila figuring herself out. She knows she's gay, but isn't out yet. She already feels like she sticks out at her mostly white high school, and her parents are traditional Persians who want her to be a doctor even though Leila is failing science, so there's no way she can ...more
Jamie
Oct 26, 2014 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 14-16, lbgt, multiculti
Like a Persian lesbian Sarah Dessen book. And I mean this in the BEST way possible.
Basma
Apr 23, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is cute. It’s been a while since I’ve read YA and I’ve been giving it more of a shot nowadays because I realize how much this category has changed since I’ve started reading it and the amount of diverse voices and representation is quite different than before.

This tells a story about Leila, a Persian-American living in the US and her story about coming to terms with her Persian heritage and customs, understanding her sexuality and the way she feels about dating men, and how she can fit
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Marie the Librarian
I loved this book. Leila is so easy to relate to and the humor is amazing. This is a beautiful book about important and difficult themes such as finding out who you are, bullying and being yourself.
Mel González
“I also began to notice how white everything was. The students, the students’ teeth, and the fences surrounding the outdoor swimming pools we never used. We all seemed to categorize ourselves without ever explicitly saying anything. Where does that leave students who don’t have a clear category?”

This was wonderful, probably not a five stars book because it was a little too cheesy at times but all the amazing things it had made up for that. It touched so many important subjects not only homosex
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Claire
After hearing so much about Sara Farizan, this book deeply disappointed me. Uneven prose, shallow characterization, and a predictable plot landed it firmly in the realm of mediocre; rampant biphobia dragged it down into the realm of bad.

I found the antagonist to be unrealistically, one-dimensionally evil; of course, that antagonist was the only (probably) bisexual girl in the book. (Another potentially bisexual character did the whole lovely erasure dance of, "Are you bi?"/"I don't believe in l
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Pixie
May 12, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: lgbtqiap
i had things to do but i accidentally read this in one sitting instead? i didn't even pee? it was just so cute and fun yet real, i'm always into a whimsical tone while touching on more serious issues. my only complaint would be that a potentially bi character is ~not into labels. look, i get that it's realistic for a high school kid to be unsure about labels, and obviously irl it's fine if people don't like labels, but in fiction avoiding specifically the bi label has been done to absolute death ...more
Kelly
While the characters were underdeveloped and very little actually happened, I appreciated this story of a girl accepting and opening up about her sexuality. What I liked most, aside from the fact her Iranian background plays a role in the story, was that this wasn't straightforward. There's actually a toxic first relationship, and I felt Farizan did a great job showcasing a girl who took advantage of another person who was in the midst of figuring herself out, knowing damn well that Leila didn't ...more
Tegan
Feb 17, 2015 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
agh v cute (warning for some homophobia/slurs and stuff) the main character is so so likeable and relatable and such a cool person + the romance was SO CUTE
Janine
3.5/5 stars. A sweet coming of age story filled with love, realistic angst, and acceptance. Very relatable and witty.
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Sara Farizan was born on August 2, 1984 in Massachusetts. Her parents immigrated from Iran in the seventies, her father a surgeon and her mother a homemaker. Sara grew up feeling different in her private high school not only because of her ethnicity but also because of her liking girls romantically, her lack of excitement in science and math, and her love of writing plays and short stories. So she ...more
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I want to stop living in fear. I want to stop coming up with excuses about why I'm not interested in dating. I want my family to know me. I want to get to learn more about Lisa. I want to stop feeling like everything I am is inadequate or makes me unworthy of love because of something I can't help.”
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“How do people do this? How do people work up the courage to be themselves even if it means facing rejection from people who love them? Why don’t people get medals for this?” 8 likes
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