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Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder

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Borderline personality disorder accounts for almost 25 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations in this country. "Lost in the Mirror" takes readers behind the erratic behavior of this puzzling disorder, examining its underlying causes and revealing the unimaginable pain and fear beneath its surface.
Paperback, Second Edition, 224 pages
Published March 1st 2001 by Taylor Trade Publishing (first published 1996)
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Julie Corbett
Feb 26, 2013 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: bpd, books-i-own
As a reader who has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder for nearly 26 years now, BPD has played a huge part in my life.
If only this book was around when I was in my 20's. Emergency room doctors had no idea what to say or do and neither did psychiatrists or therapists. I was treated horribly because everyone ASSUMED things about me. For example, yes I have self-harmed literally hundreds of times but I NEVER intentionally tried to commit suicide.
My family and friends need to read t
Arnav Sinha
Aug 22, 2015 rated it really liked it
Though I found the book a little too simplistic, particularly with the examples cited, and despite my reservations with Freudian explanations for human behavior, I think this is a very helpful, sensitive and compassionate guide for both patients of BPD as well as people who live with, and love, these patients.

Particularly in a society where a visit to a psychiatrist is meant to be kept under wraps and where many view even depression as a way to garner attention, it would be very helpful to under
Author Richard Moskovitz is a psychiatrist, and he portrays the intense suffering people with borderline personality disorder experience and explains how the condition is often the result of some really nasty childhood traumas. It helped me have more empathy towards those who have some of the common characteristics, which include extreme emotionality as well as the tendency to fall into a pattern of idealizing people, then turning around and villainizing them. Although this book is a little date ...more
Elizabeth Merchant
Apr 01, 2014 rated it liked it
Shelves: our-library
Well-known books on BPD are aimed more at the loved ones, advocating for them and providing information and coping techniques. This one advocates for the patient, speaking from inside the disorder with understanding and compassion.
Aug 24, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: non-fiction
I cannot say enough about this book. I own a copy and have read it a number of times. It is a wonderful resource and account of this devastating disorder. I highly recommend this to anyone who has been diagnosed with BPD and for anyone who happens to relate to someone with BPD on any level.
I would highly recommend this book to someone that suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder, as it helped me to understand the many facets of what can cause a person to have and/or develop this disorder, as well as methods for treating it and learning to live with and deal with it.
Aug 06, 2013 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Taught me things I needed to know. Expanded my horizons.
Apr 16, 2015 rated it really liked it
This book was very well thought out and easy for the average person to understand. I really enjoyed the story of Sara woven through the book at the end of each chapter. Also, towards the end the suggestions for how to deal with the different areas in someone's life that BPD effects seem really helpful. Not just for the person with BPD either, but also the people who love them. Understanding behaviors is hard enough, but sometimes dealing with them for everyone involved can be a real challenge. F ...more
Aug 18, 2012 rated it it was ok
A heavy emphasis on the link between sexual abuse and Borderline which isn't currently a key concept. This book was originally written in 1996 and the second edition in 2000 which leads me to suspect that the theories are a little out of date. Other than that it was a very easy read, but not a book I will bother with again. There are much better books out there eg "Overcoming Borderline personality Disorder" by Valerie Porr, "Out of the Fog" by Gary Walters, "The essential family guide to Border ...more
Jan 02, 2017 rated it really liked it
A very good book written by an extremely compassionate and giving psychiatrist on many aspects of being and treating a person with BPD.

I must say however in all my years dealing with this and seeing more professionals than I can count and taking more pills than is even reasonable, that I have never had anyone like this author. He claims to worry a great deal about his patients, so much so that his sleep is sometimes disturbed, he takes calls at 3 am, makes room in his schedule for someone in cri
Dec 06, 2012 rated it it was ok
Meh....nothing new here and the case study of the patient "Sara" was absurd and very un-BPD IMHO
The woman disappears 12 hours on her way to work or home and drives 200 miles with absolutely no recollection of the events - come on now....this book was another far fetched extreme portrayal of the crazy b*tch label that so often gets slapped on people diagnosed with BPD - another irritant was the proclamation by the author that if you have BPD you can pretty much count on multiple involuntary psych
Kristine (fezabel)
Oct 19, 2008 rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: persons with BPD
Shelves: self-help
I read this book after being 'officially' diagnosed with BPD. I found it extremely easy to read with short chapters and good examples of real people. I didn't like the rather simplistic approach to medications and treatment options and the assumption that recovery without a professional is impossible. I think a bit more about how to help oneself in recovery would have been very nice.

I recommend it for Borderlines as well as significant others and loved ones of Borderlines.
Mar 31, 2010 rated it really liked it
A lot of women in our sample of depressed mothers also received a BPD diagnosis, which made me really interested in this disorder. Dr. Moskovitz has written a very compassionate and well-researched book concerning the suffering experienced by borderlines. "Am I My Patient's Keeper" was a particularly good chapter.
Jul 23, 2007 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: Anyone interested in psychology.
I started thumbing through this book one night at work when
i was bored and ended up reading the whole thing! It sucks you in because throughout the book is woven in a real-life story about a woman who has borderline personality disorder that is both tragic and insightful.
Michelle Pellin
Apr 04, 2014 rated it really liked it
If u work or live with this disorder, it will help u understand better how to deal with it. Borderline is definitely one of the most challenging disorders in our society.
Alberta Cerino
Sep 25, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition

Highly recommend. Insightful and instructive. Five stars! I've taken the knowledge and am now more receptive to my DBT sessions.
Jun 12, 2011 rated it really liked it
This book was a great help to me because it provided a reference point for what borderline personality disorder looks like in its full-blown state.
Leila Montour
Jan 11, 2018 rated it liked it
It was ok, but I found borderline personality disorder demystified to actually be more informative. This was a bit more dramatic than many BPD folks I know. Had some good info, but more of a story in many ways than anything.
Jennifer S Storer
Nov 25, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Very eye opening. Not all of it applied to me as I only have 5 of the 9 criteria, but it provided a good beginners look into BPD.
May 27, 2009 rated it liked it
This is a good overview of Borderline Personality Disorder as a whole, from criteria for diagnosis to support for friends and family. I'd certainly reccommend it to anyone trying to understand the disorder. At the same time, it's written specifically to the Borderline patient and, while it doesn't exclude others from reading it, I think it reads better with a little first hand experience. Also, one unfortunate aspect of Narcissistic disorders is that the subject is the least likely to recognize ...more
Shelly Nixon
Nov 02, 2013 rated it really liked it
A really good look at BPD, although towards the end it became obvious that the book was being written with the assumption that all BPD sufferers WOULD be in extensive therapy and therefore certain outcomes WOULD be attained. Well. if only. Does gloss over the 'outcomes/cure' in a breazy 2 page chapter that unsurprisingly doesn't address the issue at all. box of tissues at the ready for the whole book really. Good for family/friends to read (I think?) although I found quite a lot of psychoanalyti ...more
Aug 04, 2007 rated it liked it
If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder you may find this useful. I should note that I am highly skeptical of a diagnosis of BPD who is not at least in their mid to late 20's
Sep 02, 2008 rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: People in DBT, recovery, or who have problems maintaining relationships.
I have to say, this book is one of the best 'self-help' books out there.
Jan 13, 2009 rated it really liked it
مترجمين محترم لطفاً اين کتاب رو مطالعه کنند ، به نظر من برای ترجمه خيلی عاليه و هنوز به فارسی ترجمه نشده
Dec 07, 2012 rated it it was amazing
Good book. So many ear tags on it I just have to laugh!
Joanna Bedggood
the more I learn, the more I wish I knew!
Kat Evans
Feb 14, 2014 rated it did not like it
Recommends it for: no one
Recommended to Kat by: no one
Easily triggered episodes, too much info on individuals experiences and to vague on what to do to help yourself. I felt I got nothing from reading it other than spaztic emotions.
Sep 07, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Perfect book for anyone trying to understand BPD.
Sep 07, 2012 rated it liked it
The author seems to be a little too immersed in Freudian perspectives, but a decent overview with interesting vignettes.
The running narrative of the "real patients" was tedious. Book offered some good advice, but it certainly wasn't the best one out there.
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Rick Moskovitz, a Harvard educated psychiatrist and vintage being, had the privilege for more than 35 years of sharing in his patients’ stories while leading his own imperfect life. Author of Lost in the Mirror: an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder and Carousel Music: a novel, based on the controversy around recovered memories in psychotherapy, he left practice to write science fictio ...more
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“If the abuser is a parent or caretaker, the abuse may be the most attention the child has had from that person. To the child, withholding attention can be a powerful form of coercion. Sexual molestation may be accompanied by physical expressions of affection that are sometimes the only affection the child receives.” 4 likes
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