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For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards

4.09  ·  Rating details ·  25,917 ratings  ·  2,008 reviews
The popular writer, blogger, and television personality reveals with humor and style how Jesus' extravagant grace is the key to dealing with life's biggest challenge: people.

The majority of our joys, struggles, thrills, and heartbreaks relate to people, beginning first with ourselves and then the people we came from, married, birthed, live by, live for, go to church with,
Hardcover, 224 pages
Published August 18th 2015 by Thomas Nelson (first published August 1st 2015)
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Jamie Yes! I am currently reading this book and she makes such great points while talking about her feelings about religion. If you look at pictures of her …moreYes! I am currently reading this book and she makes such great points while talking about her feelings about religion. If you look at pictures of her and her husband, they don't fit the stereotypical goody good church image. (less)
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Aug 21, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: spirituality
This book is worth more than 3 stars, but in light of all the 5-star reviews here and on Amazon (written by young bloggers, probably) I find myself compelled to provide a counterpoint. For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards is a fun stream-of-consciousness roller coaster ride through the rants and raves of a Jesus-loving, preacher's wife and mother-of-5, sprinkled with a little minor celebrity glitz. It is, therefore, not what I expected.

The book is truly funny, easy
Aug 12, 2015 rated it it was ok
Shelves: read-in-2015
It is rare that I actually end up reading a "trendy" book right at the height of it's trendiness - but somehow I heard about Jen Hatmaker's For the Love enough in advance that I am able to give a timely review of the "big book to read", for once! You are welcome, my readers who like book reviews. I will try to work this out more often.

To be honest, I have mixed feelings about this book. Let's start with the positive, shall we?


I have read so many good things about Jen Hatmaker, and know
Jennifer ~ TarHeelReader
Mar 23, 2017 rated it really liked it
I listened to my first Jen Hatmaker book on audio. This was read by the author, which always adds to the audio experience for me. I could instantly tell why Jen's books are so popular; she's funny, sincere, and engaging. Some chapters I could have done without - like why women shouldn't wear certain clothes (I'm not into judging what others are wearing), other chapters were inspiring, and the entire book was entertaining. I plan to listen to more of her books soon. ...more
Aug 12, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I don't read a lot of non-fiction, let alone Christian non-fiction, even though I AM a Christ follower. Why? Because it tends to come across preachy and well---boring. Plus, I have the attention span of a fruit fly. I need fast, funny and filling.

This book is all that and a side of fries! Jen Hatmaker is the Amy Pohler/Tina Fey of Christian fiction.

Whether it be the "Thank-You Notes", the chapters on marriage, social media, toxic friendships, church people (Bless.) or the stories about motherho
Kelsey Smith
Aug 11, 2016 rated it did not like it
This title is very misleading. Jen Hatmaker hardly ever mentions the word grace even though it is part of the title of her book. She spends a lot of time trying to be relevant to world and going on irrelevant rants and not enough time in Scripture. I feel like much of this book should be on a blog where she talks about her life, not in a book that is trying to guide me spiritually. I felt like she was being condescending a lot of the time. I had a hard time reading through this book and taking h ...more
Oct 03, 2019 rated it it was ok
Quick take, not a review…
What started out as advice and encouragement laced with some humor eventually devolved into what felt like rants and I found myself skipping to the next chapter after only a few minutes of listening to each. And for a book with ‘grace’ in the title, I didn’t find a lot of it here.
Aug 14, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015
Here’s what the internet needs to know. Jen Hatmaker is hilarious. And honest. And real. I had the chance to hear her speak at the IF:Gathering and was so encouraged and blessed. It’s no surprise then, that the same happened with her newest book, For the Love: Fighting for Grace in a World of Impossible Standards.

Now where shall I start? I have a few quotes, so maybe I'll start with some of those.

“We are called to this work, and it might not seem like much, but if you play your one note and I pl
Julie Kittredge
Aug 17, 2015 rated it did not like it
Knowing Jen has a loyal following, and thinking it might resonate with my own heart for women to live in freedom, I was eager to read this. It's an easy read, but I didn't find it especially inspiring. I know Jen's heart is in the right place, I'm not sure why I don't resonate with her writing. (I wasn't inspired by "7" either, but I thought it was because I had been through much of what she "experimented" with ... except my experience was real life.) Must just be me because everyone else seems ...more
Ashley Bergman
Sep 19, 2015 rated it it was ok
For the Love. I struggle with where to start. I am the demographic this book was written for. I love grace. It is my word. And yet, this book felt empty to me. There were indeed moments of truth. Of my shouting YES! But it proved to be a blip in chapter. Just that, a moment.

The book is separated into 4 sections. Half the chapters within each section are humor. Literally, there is no substance found in them and they are instead a "break" in the book. Personally, when I sit down to read, I want t
Apr 02, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015
Jen Hatmaker just gets it. She is hilarious and witty and doesn't sugar coat. This book is fantastic in all the right places. ...more
Apr 11, 2015 rated it liked it
You guys, I’m not even sure what to say about For the Love. I read listened to 7: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess several months ago and loved it. Everything from the message to the voice to the audio narrator was inviting. When I saw that Jen Hatmaker had a new book coming out, I jumped on it. I hesitate when requesting religious books for review because while I do read these type of books regularly, I don’t read them frequently enough or fast enough to really feel good about being able t ...more
Apr 20, 2018 rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Nothing really inspirational to be found here. Just ramblings of her espousing her own idea of what biblical grace is rather than delving into what the Word says. In fact, there is very little scripture used. If you're going to write a book about a biblical idea then you better use plenty of scripture to back you up. I don't even recall any form of a Gospel presentation. This was all around a trainwreck. Over the last few years, I've seen Jen Hatmaker pursuing relevancy to the world. But trying ...more
Aug 30, 2015 rated it did not like it

To put it gently, I find some of the hot names in inspirational writing both overexposed and of exaggerated importance. Among them, Jen Hatmaker might be queen. This book has been recommended to me, and although I even find the title off-putting, I agreed to try it.
What unifies this book? A catch phrase that can be applied to anything.
Is there any research, any new information, any 'inspiration'? No. It is a little like scrolling through a Facebook feed.
I tried to be open minded, but this is wha
Hope Ortego
Sep 17, 2015 rated it really liked it
This book started off with a lot of enthusiasm, love, and encouragement. That all three of those transitioned into humor and was relatable. I immediately recommended the book to my mom and cousin before finishing chapter 3.

Jen has a fresh take on standards, real life, growing up, and just LIFE in general. I loved this book, the thank you notes, the nods to pop culture, and of course the humor. OH and I freaking need a supper club in my life, like yesterday.
Jan 28, 2016 marked it as to-read
Working through this one for a Bible Study group.
Nov 27, 2016 rated it really liked it
I enjoyed this book much more than I had thought I would. I had never heard of Jen Hatmaker and I have never really read many, if any, books in the genre. I did find it inspiring and I liked the fact that it was not too preachy. It spoke to me at a level in which I felt very comfortable. It probably did help that I am the same age as Jen when she was writing this, so I could easily relate her message to my own life. It is a bit harder for me to open up than it is for her and cooking is not my pa ...more
Julie Presley
Aug 18, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Do you ever feel like you're the odd woman out? That no one else gets you, thinks like you do, prays like you do or hurts like you do? It's simply not true. In For the Love, Hatmaker addresses a number of cultural, relational and spiritual issues that will resonate so deeply in your heart, and at first you'll just whisper, "Me too," but the next one will get louder, and soon you'll be crying real tears and shouting, "ME TOO!" all the while laughing at the blurbs called "Thank you notes" (and so ...more
Dec 17, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Having four children and a busy (like everyone else) life, this book hit home for me numerous times. At times, it was almost as if Jen had been to my house and watched us live our lives. This book made me laugh out loud, smile, and also had me in tears. Jen has a way of speaking clear and to the heart, making me realize what truly is important and what is not. I would recommend this book to anyone who is in need of something uplifting and humorous-all my Mom friends would absolutely LOVE this bo ...more
Gillian Marchenko
Sep 23, 2015 rated it really liked it
Jen Hatmaker can make you laugh like no one else. For the Love is a book for every woman. It helps us not to feel alone. It helps us to forgive ourselves, to like who we are, and nonetheless, pushes us to grow more into who God made us to be. Great read!

-Gillian Marchenko, author of Still Life, a memoir of living fully with depression, and Sun Shine Down, a memoir.
Barbara Skalberg
Aug 05, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015, nonfiction
4.5 (Do I ever do 5 stars??) Fantastic. I love how she reminds us over and over that God looks at the heart... Did we love Him and did we love others? That is really all it is about. Well, that and Leggings are NOT pants.
Aug 08, 2015 rated it really liked it
Really, really liked this. I laughed and followed my people around the house reading paragraphs aloud to them. Such a great book. I'm eager to read it again in bits and pieces and give it more thought and time. ...more
Oct 31, 2015 rated it really liked it
Laughed so hard I cried...and then cried for real cause this book was so much fun, so heart tender and so delightful to read.

Review Coming soon....
Lovely Day
May 21, 2021 rated it liked it

Hmmmm.....I'm debating giving this a 2.75 or a 3

The good parts of this book...the humour made me chuckle at certain points and there were a few really good nuggets of truth!

I couldn't really see a cohesive theme, as it felt a bit here and there with thoughts.

There was a LOT of parenting content, and at times she talked about females/women with the assumption that we were or would some day be wives and mothers, which just isn't the case for many women.

I didn't agree with a few of her statements
May 01, 2015 rated it it was amazing
I'm not the type of person who follows celebrities. I really don't care if your famous or not, because quite frankly we're all people. But there are two people I would like to meet in real life. One of them is John Cena. Yes, the wrestler who wears colorful T-shirts and shouts "you can't see me" and "hustle, loyalty, and respect". He's the Hulk Hogan of our time, people!

The other is Jen Hatmaker. Congrats, Jen! You have reached John Cena status.

I love this book. I mean, I really truly loved rea
Jan 21, 2016 rated it really liked it
So first off, I haven't been on the Jen Hatmaker bandwagon previously. I didn't really even know much about her, other than having read a blog or two in the past when they came up on a friend's Facebook feed. I've found what I've read before interesting, somewhat relevant, and amusing, but I'm just not a big follower. Of anyone to be honest. (Other than Jesus.)

I picked this up on Audible because I've seen friends talking about it and it's prayer and fasting week at our church. This year I decide
May 10, 2017 rated it it was ok
Yeah, I am a nightmare reader for an author of a self-help book. They lose steam for me. I did enjoy the parenting stuff, some accuracy to my parenting abilities or lack of. Self-help books should be 50 pages or less for me to really stay focused.
Sep 25, 2018 rated it liked it
I think she said some things that really needed to be said, but I just felt like this book was all over the place. It was hard for me to get through it because nothing was terribly coherent or made me want to keep coming back to it.
We “love” people the we way we “love” ourselves, and if we are not good enough, then no one is.

Jen Hatmaker has a wit and a gift of writing. She makes no apologies for her theology or lack of theology. There were some parts I loved about this book and then not so much. She is funny and if you pick this read out, you will laugh and feel like you are with a good friend that enjoys life. I loved how she addressed about over committing ourselves and it is ok to say no. I also loved and I mean loved
Sep 28, 2016 rated it it was ok
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I had never heard of Jen Hatmaker until two friends raved about For the Love in the same week. I looked it up and it sounded interesting, so I eventually bought it. She is on a popular HGTV show, has written a couple of books, has five children, and a pastor’s wife (and daughter).

I expected a different book based off the title than what I read. I did not feel I got much out of the book. Part of it could be that she talks a lot about
Sydney Young
So. This was an accident. I had planned on reading this book over Christmas. I read one chapter that I loved, and somehow never picked it back up. Then today while looking for lighter fare for the #readathon, my kindle froze. At that point, I had pretty much decided I was using my time over this 24 hours to read my "backlist." Somehow, I grabbed this one and it was exactly the right thing at the right time. That's why I didn't read it back then. I needed it now. I thought I was picking it up bec ...more
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JEN HATMAKER is the author of the New York Times bestseller "Of Mess and Moxie" and the highly anticipated new book, "Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire: The Guide to Being Glorious You" (released April 21, 2020), along with eleven other books, the happy host of the award-winning For the Love Podcast, delighted curator of the Jen Hatmaker Book Club, and a sought-after speaker who tours the country eve ...more

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