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F*ck Feelings: One Shrink's Practical Advice for Managing All Life's Impossible Problems

3.45  ·  Rating details ·  3,379 ratings  ·  493 reviews
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The only self-help book you’ll ever need, from a psychiatrist and his comedy writer daughter, who will help you put aside your unrealistic wishes, stop trying to change things you can’t change, and do the best with what you can control—the first steps to managing all of life’s impossible problems.

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Hardcover, 384 pages
Published September 1st 2015 by Simon Schuster
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Rosa, really
Jan 02, 2016 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: the voices in your head
Recommended to Rosa, really by: the voices in my head
Shelves: nonfic, audio

So, maybe about 2 years ago I was complaining explaining to my pill pusher psychiatrist that the bipolar drugs he had me on made me numb. No, not numb, worse than numb--numb AND depressed. Usually when I'm depressed I can get something done but on these super awesome drugs I just didn't give a shit. I wasn't working. I wasn't talking to actual people. I only read books and chatted on GR. (Which is great, you guys have saved me from insanity many times, but making some $$$ would be nice as well.
This book with the humorous title was actually quite insightful.

Basically F*uck Feelings is a self-help book with a lot of swearing. Psychiatrist Michael Bennett and his daughter, Sarah, collaborated on it, which gives practical advice for dealing with our feelings. This quote in the introduction explains it well:

F*uck Feelings explains that, in most cases, you have not failed and do not need to try harder or wait longer for improvement to begin; instead, you need to accept that life is hard a
Apr 20, 2015 rated it really liked it
I think I chuckled, on almost every page. While this is a serious book it is about not being so serious about everything. We whine, moan, obsess and complain so much in our lives, always looking to blame something or someone even ourselves for not living up to the ideal. Well, just F8ck it! None of us are prefect, none of us are saints, we cary baggage, we snarl and spit, we are truly warped, get over it ! Work with you inner screwed up beast don’t neuter it.
Fun, foul language and realistic
Kayla Perry
Dec 03, 2015 rated it did not like it
Shelves: abandoned
I wanted to like this book so bad because the title resonated with me immediately (not that that's anything profound because a lot of people probably feel that way) and I have had an interest in psychology since a young age. I read the introduction to the book and took a chance purchasing it, which I regretted about a quarter of the way through reading it.

A lot of people who didn't like it have cited similar reasons, such as its redundancy, bleak outlook on life, and unfunny humor. I agree that
I saw this on NetGalley and I had to request it. Because ... "F*ck Feelings". I know, I know, it's a (relatively) new marketing/selling strategy, but it's so up my alley. Mary Mary quite contrary and all that. And I don't know about you, but at times, I found myself thinking "fucking feelings, I wish I didn't have them..." or something like that.

Intriguing introduction: "Buying a self-help book is usually the second-to-last step to surrendering to a crisis of self, the last step being therapy

(I received an ARC of this title from the publisher via NetGalley, in exchange for an honest review.)

Life isn’t fair. I know this, you know this, but we still keep hoping that somehow the universe will work things out. But the universe really couldn’t give fewer fucks.

F*ck Feelings is a book about being realistic, about coming to terms with the fact that life isn’t fair, and realizing that, in the grand scheme of things, your personal feelings matter very little. This sounds pessimistic, and som
The things I loved about this book:

The down-to-earth practical advice.
The willingness to admit that some people are just assholes, and we have to learn to live with them.
The FANTASTIC chart about different therapy options.

Things I didn't like so well:

When I got this from the library, I thought it was more of a "philosophy of life" sort of self-help book. It's really not, though; the main over-arching idea is that you can't solve all the world's problems and neither can therapy, which is great. T
Sep 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
Shelves: favorites
I only wish I had read this book sooner. A must for any overachiever to recognize the limits of what they can achieve in themselves, and more importantly, what they can expect in dealing with others. Especially in a time when you're made to feel that if you don't have everything you want it's a failure on your part of trying, instead of a fundamental disparity of expectation vs reality. Refreshing honesty that would be beneficial to anyone. Certainly better late than never.
Jan 28, 2016 rated it it was ok
DNF at 45%

I really tried to finish this. I wanted to DNF it when I was about 20% but I forced myself to continue. This is as far as I could go though. My time is too precious to read something I'm not feeling.

The thing is, this is a self-help book, and I don't think this was a good time for me to read a self-help book. Meaning: I'm pretty okay with my life right now, so everything the book was telling me, I already knew. This is just a "bad timing" case. Maybe someday I'll grab this again, maybe
Sep 19, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Finally a "self-help" book that's realistic and not full of shit. This one accepts that assholes won't change and if you're going to not go bat-shit because of them, you need to accept that and move on. There are great lists throughout of things you WANT to change, things you CAN change, and how to do it. I'm seriously recommending this book left right and centre to people right now. And really, isn't that title perfect??
Sep 02, 2015 rated it liked it
I'm going to pretend I read the whole thing, since I maybe got through about a quarter of it by the time I realized that they were repeating the same thing over and over again. I am totally on board with the message, but the idea of reading about 50 more iterations of that message was too much for me.
Aug 15, 2016 rated it did not like it
Shelves: cynical-garbage
Ok thats enough of this self centered, 'enlightened self interested' piece of fucking garbage. This book, aside from several helpful perspectives on how to avoid being taken advantage of, and how to be more focused in addressing your own needs, is a fucking manifesto of cynicism that feels like it was written by donald trump and his minions. It essentially attacks any altruism or fairness in humans as delusional. If it were possible to give this book a zero i would. As i said some useful perspec ...more
Jessica Jeffers
Apr 17, 2015 rated it it was ok
Shelves: nonfiction, netgalley
I am a huge, huge proponent of therapy. I think 99% of people would benefit from it, though I also tend to agree with Bennett's basic premise that people tend to look at therapy or self-help books as a means to solving every problem and achieving something perfect. Accepting your own limits is a huge step towards making peace with whatever issues you have. But this book is:
-Not funny
-In need of some kind of empirical support
And so I did not find it particularly inspiring or mea
Dec 01, 2017 rated it it was ok
This was a hugely frustrating read. There is some really great stuff in here about doing what needs to be done in spite of how you are feeling, stopping attempts to change other people, and being realistic in your expectations of yourself and others. I thought there were some gems in the chapter about assholes, particularly. And then it has a bunch of sexist stereotyping, terrible advice about seeking help, negative attitudes about life in general, and a sense of hopelessness. It annoyed me beca ...more
P. R.
Oct 10, 2015 rated it it was amazing
Hands down the best self help book out there, and I have read many. (My friends ask me if all the self help books actually help. I guess not if they can't see the new improved me). This book is very different, very funny but rich with insight. Yes, the authors do use bad words, not unexpected given the title. I absolutely love this book. However if you're a fan of "The Secret," better skip this, it definitely not for law of attraction fans.
Life sucks and then you die.

But what you do about it in between those two events will make a difference to how you feel about that statement. Are you ready for straightforward advice about what you can change and what you can’t? If so, pick up F*ck Feelings and start figuring it out.

I expected to enjoy this book far more than I did. It is written by a psychiatrist father and his stand-up comedian daughter and while it definitely has its moments, I found myself skipping large portions of each cha
(No star rating, since a whole lot of skimming was involved after reading the first two chapters.)

I started this book, then was struck by the growing realization that it was not intended for me, at least at this point in my life. While severely introverted, my life is reasonably under control in regard to work, marriage, parenting, etc. I read self-improvement books because I have this incurable desire to be Captain America, and to progress from "reasonably good" to "totally awesome."

This is not
Nov 24, 2016 rated it it was ok
Some basic common sense with a little sexist stereotyping and a revelation of how shrinks really are. I think this book confirms my theory that depressed people sometimes become psychologist or study psychology. And people love to gossip and talk about others. Only thing I agree with is F*ck feelings, and well I say love yourself, treat others how you want to be treated and if others treat you bad f*ck them... Just not literally.
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It is what it is. Don't worry, be happy. Go with the flow. Life sucks and then you die. You can't always get what you want (but if you try sometimes you might get what you need). Go with the flow. Let it go. These might be cliches but they're all truisms about how challenging, unpredictable and unfair life can be and that sometimes we need to just accept the bad to be able to save space to embra
Holly (The Grimdragon)
Remember that there's no such thing as "fair," feelings are stupid, life is hard... and you're going to be relatively okay, even if you won't be happy, because your goals are realistic and your efforts to reach those goals will make you proud. Then, the next time life gives you a shit sandwich, slather that puppy in ketchup and enjoy. They're on everyone's menu. Even at the fine dining halls at Harvard.

I am not a self-help book reader. However, this caught my eye at the library. It could have be
Sally Drake
Sep 21, 2015 rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Hilarious, smart and compassionate with excellent, concrete advice on how to be a decent person--or at least try--when faced with impossible problems.
Edward Sullivan
Jun 03, 2015 rated it really liked it
An anti self-help full of good, practical advice delivered with cheeky humor.
Wendy Bunnell
Jan 20, 2017 rated it liked it
ok, so I picked up this from Audible when they had one of their "two books for one credit" deals, and it sounded interesting. I almost didn't get it because I don't really like swearing, and swearing in the title, well, I won't be typing that in my review. I'm not a complete prude, but I am in the camp that people swear because they don't have a strong enough vocabulary to say something creative. That is why I love Shakespearean insults and other such creative ways to express your negative feeli ...more
Ashkin Ayub
Jul 10, 2016 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, humor
- Do you really have to resolve all of your childhood issues, examine all of your feelings and continue to face all of your demons in order to have a happy, meaningful life?
- No way!!!

F*ck Feelings is a practical self-help guide and the brainchild of Michael I. Bennett, M.D. (a certified psychiatrist) and his daughter, Sarah Bennett (Yes! a comedy writer). In it, Duo suggests that the modern techniques for dealing with life’s so-called impossible problems place unrealistic significance on resolv
Shawn  Stone
Apr 11, 2016 rated it it was amazing
There’s a certain irony to life that the better off we have it, the more bitchy and whiny we tend to be. One of the most common traits of first world problems is the righteous feeling of indignation we feel entitled to experience and give voice to via every medium possible.

It doesn’t help when we live in a culture oriented around the encouraged expression and protective-nurturing of people’s “feelings”; often to the exclusion of the growth related benefits of experiencing a little bit of life’s
Jan 17, 2016 rated it really liked it
Despite its obscene title, this book does actually contain some solid advice. Bennett encourages readers to abandon unrealistic wishes or expectations and replace them with more sensible goals and understanding. For example, the book contains a chart as follows:

Bad Wish: Never drink again, ever!
Good Goal: Never stop working hard to resist delicious alcohol.

The above quote, taken from the book's introduction is representative both of the advice contained within the book, as well as the humor empl
Sep 21, 2015 rated it really liked it
In F*ck Feelings, father Michael Bennet, a psychiatrist for over 40 years, and daughter Sarah Bennet, a comedian, team up to write an "anti-self-help book" that may actually be more useful than a whole shelf of self-help bestsellers. The basic gist of the book is that life sometimes stinks and reality isn't going to adapt to meet your wishes, wants, or needs. Therefore, you'd better figure out how you're going to cope and get on with things. While this may seem harsh to those accustomed to the t ...more
Jun 11, 2015 rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction

I have a complicated relationship with self-help books. I get reeled in by a catchy title, then spend most of my reading time mocking the concepts. Imperfection is the natural state of humanity, and given the infinite variety and magnitude of those imperfections, who in the world thinks that 300 pages of text are going to change anything significantly?

This book sort of takes that as a given—not just about self-help books, but about actual therapy. By all means, go if it helps, it says, but it’s
Jun 03, 2016 rated it really liked it
I liked this and thought it was a useful, accessible read. The format is nice in that it's easy to skip around to different chapters depending on your interests. I liked how it kind of trains you in a specific way of thinking about emotional problems and suffering through the format of each section discussing different types of problems that typically bring people to see a therapist. The authors present a problem situation, then they list what you typically might wish could happen to solve the p ...more
Mason Frierson
Apr 07, 2018 rated it it was ok
While there are a few good points here and there about not yielding to expectations of permanent happiness and healing, this book is otherwise an unsuccessful, hit-and-miss affair, in which the use of profanity is apparently supposed to make us feel more at ease, but can more often become tedious in its impotence and inexpressive repetition, and is used too often when the authors have no more articulate way of saying something. Also tedious is the formulaic construction, where all sorts of "case ...more
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Dr. Michael I. Bennett, educated at both Harvard College and Harvard Medical School, is a board-certified psychiatrist, Canadian, and Red Sox fan. While he’s worked in every aspect of his field, from hospital administration to managed care, his major interest is his private practice that he’s been running for almost thirty years. The author of F*ck Feelings, with his daughter Sarah Bennett, he liv ...more
“You should never hold yourself accountable for results you don’t control, but always for the strength of trying.” 17 likes
“That’s why your primary goal is not to get rid of negative feelings and feel better, but to block them from controlling your behavior while you continue to act like a decent person.” 16 likes
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